I Am More Than Enough: Helping Women Silence Their Inner Critic and Celebrate Their Inner Voice

by Robert Jones

Stop your inner critic dead in her tracks and tell the lies to get lost because you are enough. Every day, women are inundated with images, expectations, and internal voices that try to tear them down and compare them to others, but it’s time to fight back and win the self-esteem war. This book deconstructs some common negative thought patterns among women by teaching them to

- Use the mind’s eye to focus on positive outcomes
- Expose the excuses that limit achievement
- Perform regular “self scans” to confront emotional triggers

No matter what size you wear, how messy your house is, or where you are in life, the principles in this book teach you to leave doubt at the door and lead a content, comparison-free life.

189 pages, Kindle Edition

First published December 9, 2013

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Reviews

[Kelsey Kacher · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is life-changing. I have always thought of myself as a confident woman, but this book has shown that the ways I compare myself to others and criticize myself aren't healthy—and that most women deal with such problems. My favorite part was the workbook aspect of it, receiving specific assignments to stop the self-criticism and start loving oneself and others, with specific and measurable steps. I would recommend this book anyone because I've seen its effects on myself and others.

[Sally · Rating 2 out of 5]

Somehow I missed, or forgot, that this book about empowering women's mental and physical health was written by two men. There were legit observations and helpful suggestions, but I felt a subtle mansplaining, as well as some unhelpful advice. (Eating whole grains and fruit for breakfast is just as damaging as eating sugar - even complex carbs will trigger an insulin, aka "fat hormone", response. ugh)

((I tagged theology because the authors wrote the book on their medical /secular laurels, but it was published by an LDS imprint, so it will be taken as close to gospel by some readers.))

[Cassie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I do think many of the ideas in this book are sound, and very helpful. The author describes 'men's weakness' and 'women's weakness' I take issue with the diagnosis of 'women's weakness'. This is a phrase describing a woman's problem of constantly comparing herself to others, thus creating her own unhappiness. I have experienced this and know it's a problem, with not only women, but also men. I also felt, like another reviewer, that there was an abundance of 'mansplaining' going on.

I did like the concepts of stopping a thought from becoming an emotion, as well as some other very helpful ideas. But the authors over simplified the real temptations facing men vs. women. (Men's weakness/temptation being sexual urges, essentially). I liked the suggestions to have your hormones checked and to journal to sort through thoughts and emotions.

[Terri Fangman · Rating 4 out of 5]

I am struggling to figure out how to rate this book. It is truly packed full of amazing life lessons and encouragement. It addresses many of the feelings that women who struggle with self worth deal with. It gives practical advice and provides many worthwhile tools. The tone and some of the wording in the messages can be a little off putting. Not sure if this is just me being a little politically correct or overly sensitive? Bottom line, if you sometimes struggle to see your value, sell yourself short, or just fail to see how worthy you are of love and respect consider reading this book. Be prepared to look beyond the writing style and see the richness of the messages.

[Stacey · Rating 1 out of 5]

DNF. What absolute garbage.

[Shauna · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is one of the BEST self-help books I have ever read on "helping women silence their inner critic and celebrate their inner voice."

I need it 'spelled out' for me.
I need specific steps-to-take, and things-to-do.

This book gives it!
And oh what wonderful things it gives!

Here are a few of the "tools" you will learn in this book:

*You will learn why women have an inner critic voice. (We all do :)

*You will learn how to 'confront, scan, and go. (WOW!)

*You will learn how to discredit the "icy (IC, inner critic) voice" (Can you hear her?)

*You will learn how to put a shield around yourself. (An AMAZING tool!)

*You will learn how to Imagine it-Image it-Experience it (POWERFUL!)

*You will learn what it means to be draggin', saggin' and naggin' and why those three things really get us down. (MUST check this out!)

*You will learn how helpful a Pen-Purge will be to your overall mental and emotional and physical health. (SO GOOD!)

Each chapter gives an "I DARE YOU" to help us go from just trying to actual training.


Get this book for yourself!
Get copies for ALL your women friends!
Especially get copies for your daughters!
Let's break the cycle of being 'self-critical.'

[McKell · Rating 4 out of 5]

I probably would not have picked this book up on my own. I feel like I am a pretty emotionally stable person. But on my mom's recommendation (she gave me the book), I read it. I found, that I have plenty of room to grow. This book is packed full of insights and helps. I like that it is research backed, and not just written about one woman's experience (it is written by two men).
This book contains lessons all women need to learn and re-learn a time or two throughout our lives. Surely not everyone struggles with all these things to the same extent. But these temptations (our inner critic; women's weakness) get at each of us.

I've quoted and used examples from this book several times with my friends. Though I don't relate 100% to them all, it does fit into my life and I do appreciate what the authors convey. This book is meant to get in your head, to help to change and control your thoughts. It's made a difference in me.

Because it's not free from grammatical errors, I gave it only 4 stars. But the ideas are gold.
I'd recommend this book to women of every age.

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful book with practical ideas of how to overcome a tendency to put yourself down and compare yourself to others. I would imagine just about all women can relate in some way to the examples provided in this book. Seems like nowadays women are bombarded with images from the media about how they cannot possibly measure up to a certain ideal. This book really cuts through the misperceptions in our everyday thinking without being too preachy or condescending. If you struggle with issues of low self-esteem or just want to learn a few easy ways to cope with the modern world, I would highly recommend this book.

[Jessica Johns · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book isn't particularly well-written but the principles it taught really resonated with me. The authors discuss tools such as self-talk, confronting and evaluating the constant flow of negative and demeaning things we (women) tell ourselves about ourselves and ultimately changing our default setting (inner voice) from negative to positive.

[Betty Kaye · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very helpful and practical. I read this at just the right time in my life to put it in to practice.