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Screwing the Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love
Change your dating game to a winning strategy to find the partner you need with no games, no gambits, and no hiding of who you really are, and what you really want from a mate.
Laurel House believes that "The Rules" of yester-decades don't apply to today's evolved, headstrong, multifaceted women, who are taking longer to wed, often putting careers first and focusing on love and kids later. Screwing the Rules will challenge women to examine their expectations, hopes and dreams, dating strategy, relationship goals-and themselves-in a revised way. Screwing the Rules is about being honest about who you are and what makes you happy, then making smart decisions about potential compatibility.
Laurel speaks not only from the perspective of a professional relationship coach who has helped countless people, but from firsthand experience. She's admittedly made a lot of mistakes in her past relationships and discusses them candidly. In Screwing the Rules Laurel shares the lessons she's learned along the way.
Through seven distinct sections, the book takes the reader full circle. First working on yourself and figuring out what you want in a guy, how to find him, get him, and keep him. It advises when/if/how to let him go, heal, and get out there again. Screwing the Rules is all about helping women bring out their best, most confident, empowered self, and from that point of strength, provide the insight, tools, and direction needed to find their ideal match.
Laurel House believes that "The Rules" of yester-decades don't apply to today's evolved, headstrong, multifaceted women, who are taking longer to wed, often putting careers first and focusing on love and kids later. Screwing the Rules will challenge women to examine their expectations, hopes and dreams, dating strategy, relationship goals-and themselves-in a revised way. Screwing the Rules is about being honest about who you are and what makes you happy, then making smart decisions about potential compatibility.
Laurel speaks not only from the perspective of a professional relationship coach who has helped countless people, but from firsthand experience. She's admittedly made a lot of mistakes in her past relationships and discusses them candidly. In Screwing the Rules Laurel shares the lessons she's learned along the way.
Through seven distinct sections, the book takes the reader full circle. First working on yourself and figuring out what you want in a guy, how to find him, get him, and keep him. It advises when/if/how to let him go, heal, and get out there again. Screwing the Rules is all about helping women bring out their best, most confident, empowered self, and from that point of strength, provide the insight, tools, and direction needed to find their ideal match.
- GenresSelf Help
224 pages, Paperback
First published December 23, 2014
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About the author
Laurel House
8 books23 followers"Screwing The Rules: The No-Game Guide to Love" (Running Press), is my newest book!
I am an International Dating Coach, Flirting and Femininity Expert, 5x Published Author, MTV Made "It Girl" Mentor, and TV Host.
I have been there and done all of it.
I followed the “rules” and got what I thought I wanted, disappointed myself and my family, acted carelessly and recklessly- with myself and others, fell for bad boys who hurt me in an array of ways, failed my expectations, had my heart shredded, been a rigid bitch out of fear of opening up again, analyzed and broke down my breakups as I extracted the lessons, excavated and aired my baggage, endured then learned from countless hours of therapy, got the 3rd degree from myself- my biggest and harshest critic, and experienced experienced experienced to the tune of 2 marriages, 3 engagements, and 9 proposals… and finally something clicked. All I had to do was love me first, learn how to embody my best most authentic self, allow myself to be vulnerable, dedicate the time and put in the effort, and I will be able to attract and keep the right guy for me.
In the process of experiencing and learning, I developed a formula to attract great guys, make them want to commit, and get them to fall in love… quickly, but deeply and truly. Some of my advice is unconventional. It may even be uncomfortable at first. But it works.
If you’re ready for something real, you’ve got to be smart, get raw, and have a strategy- the No-Games Strategy.
I am an International Dating Coach, Flirting and Femininity Expert, 5x Published Author, MTV Made "It Girl" Mentor, and TV Host.
I have been there and done all of it.
I followed the “rules” and got what I thought I wanted, disappointed myself and my family, acted carelessly and recklessly- with myself and others, fell for bad boys who hurt me in an array of ways, failed my expectations, had my heart shredded, been a rigid bitch out of fear of opening up again, analyzed and broke down my breakups as I extracted the lessons, excavated and aired my baggage, endured then learned from countless hours of therapy, got the 3rd degree from myself- my biggest and harshest critic, and experienced experienced experienced to the tune of 2 marriages, 3 engagements, and 9 proposals… and finally something clicked. All I had to do was love me first, learn how to embody my best most authentic self, allow myself to be vulnerable, dedicate the time and put in the effort, and I will be able to attract and keep the right guy for me.
In the process of experiencing and learning, I developed a formula to attract great guys, make them want to commit, and get them to fall in love… quickly, but deeply and truly. Some of my advice is unconventional. It may even be uncomfortable at first. But it works.
If you’re ready for something real, you’ve got to be smart, get raw, and have a strategy- the No-Games Strategy.
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November 2, 2019
Pretty much all dating advice for women consists of three bullet points:
1. Force yourself to settle for a man you're not physically attracted to (advice that is NEVER given to single men, by the way; only women should be forced to have sex they don't really want to have with guys they don't really want, apparently. "Hey ladies, here's a tip: try to trick yourself into having feelings you don't have for a guy you think you should be with, but don't want." Very healthy.)
2. Submit to traditional gender roles (but pretend your sexism is very empowering.)
3. Coddle his ego, you're in charge of his self-image and your own.
There, I saved you the trouble of reading this or any other dating book for women.
Honestly though, the author is deeply sexist and says a lot of misogynist things in this book. She also contradicts herself a lot. "Don't be passive but be more feminine, make the first move but make him chase you, stop being polite stop being abrasive, you're a prize, stop being a bitch, be sexy, don't be slutty," etc. It's kind of awful how misogynist dating advice typically is. Maybe that's why more and more millennial women are electing to stay single. It's not worth it.
1. Force yourself to settle for a man you're not physically attracted to (advice that is NEVER given to single men, by the way; only women should be forced to have sex they don't really want to have with guys they don't really want, apparently. "Hey ladies, here's a tip: try to trick yourself into having feelings you don't have for a guy you think you should be with, but don't want." Very healthy.)
2. Submit to traditional gender roles (but pretend your sexism is very empowering.)
3. Coddle his ego, you're in charge of his self-image and your own.
There, I saved you the trouble of reading this or any other dating book for women.
Honestly though, the author is deeply sexist and says a lot of misogynist things in this book. She also contradicts herself a lot. "Don't be passive but be more feminine, make the first move but make him chase you, stop being polite stop being abrasive, you're a prize, stop being a bitch, be sexy, don't be slutty," etc. It's kind of awful how misogynist dating advice typically is. Maybe that's why more and more millennial women are electing to stay single. It's not worth it.
January 22, 2015
I think it’s fitting this book came out right before the New Year as most people are going to resolve themselves to find love and fresh starts. Naturally we might turn to the ever present, and often surprisingly helpful, dating advice book.
Right off the bat I want to say how much I like the way this book is written. Laurel writes in her own voice as if she is sitting across the table from you having a girlfriend-to-girlfriend chat about dating. She’s honest, earnest, and really puts herself out there in her book by putting her mistakes on display for examination then sharing her personal solution.
As far as dating advice goes, Laurel has essentially repackaged the same basic advice you’ve always heard: Be your authentic self. Be affirmative. Give men a fair chance; don’t write them off too quickly. Lead a good life so you have something to bring to the table. Learn how to carry a good conversation. Don’t rely on your (or his) looks, be smart and alluring. It sounds simple, but what I like about Laurel is she breaks it down for you. It’s one thing to understand a concept, it’s another to actually apply it. She teaches you how to draw people in with good conversation using her U-Method, she offers real life examples and even a few cute lines you can try out. As you read her book you might realize that some of her methods are strategies you’re already using, but when consciously aware of them you might try to magnify them in real life. Additionally she supplements the book with her youtube channel Screwing the Rules (of Dating)- a visually engaging way to go into further depths or details about points she makes in her book.
However, like most advice, you do have to take it with a grain of salt as it is advice based on personal experience. What works for her, may not work for you. There were certainly a few things that I didn’t agree with. But overall, I sincerely enjoyed reading what she had to say and drawing from her experience. Laurel has written a good, easy to read book that provides a much needed reset when you’re in a dating slump.
Happy Reading and Good Luck!
Right off the bat I want to say how much I like the way this book is written. Laurel writes in her own voice as if she is sitting across the table from you having a girlfriend-to-girlfriend chat about dating. She’s honest, earnest, and really puts herself out there in her book by putting her mistakes on display for examination then sharing her personal solution.
As far as dating advice goes, Laurel has essentially repackaged the same basic advice you’ve always heard: Be your authentic self. Be affirmative. Give men a fair chance; don’t write them off too quickly. Lead a good life so you have something to bring to the table. Learn how to carry a good conversation. Don’t rely on your (or his) looks, be smart and alluring. It sounds simple, but what I like about Laurel is she breaks it down for you. It’s one thing to understand a concept, it’s another to actually apply it. She teaches you how to draw people in with good conversation using her U-Method, she offers real life examples and even a few cute lines you can try out. As you read her book you might realize that some of her methods are strategies you’re already using, but when consciously aware of them you might try to magnify them in real life. Additionally she supplements the book with her youtube channel Screwing the Rules (of Dating)- a visually engaging way to go into further depths or details about points she makes in her book.
However, like most advice, you do have to take it with a grain of salt as it is advice based on personal experience. What works for her, may not work for you. There were certainly a few things that I didn’t agree with. But overall, I sincerely enjoyed reading what she had to say and drawing from her experience. Laurel has written a good, easy to read book that provides a much needed reset when you’re in a dating slump.
Happy Reading and Good Luck!
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