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The Askers and The Offerers
In this one chapter book, different perspectives are considered within the realm of asking and offering. People may be one type as a result of how they were raised, or may change to a type sometime during their lifetime. Understanding different perspectives can improve relationships with people who think differently than you, and can help to find compassion for those who seem to be selfish or over emotional.
18 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 23, 2013
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August 6, 2015
INSIGHT INTO "GIVERS & TAKERS"
Wouldn't it be great if we were perfectly balanced and never had to wonder if we were giving too much (and setting ourselves up to be taken advantage of) or giving to little and perhaps sending a message of coolness and uncaring in nature. It's unfortunate that perfect balance is unattainable as our lives are changing with this or that.
Doe Zantamata, has written a "one chapter" book giving us insight into an area of opposite human behaviors. However, she states that we are all the same inside. Fundamentally, I'm not sure that is completely accurate although I do think that we would like to be. Picking up on the example of the over-indulged child who assumes that their adult world will be the same and wants and needs will be met as before , may be headed for a lonely life.
I agree with the author that 'the askers' are simple unaware that their basic concern is for themselves. They have not been taught the art of caring for others. Sharing of deep emotional feelings or a genuine concern for the everyday man is not something they would think of, although they get along quite well in the world (if a bit pompous.)
The 'over offerer' , although usually less harmful than the 'asker, is their own worst enemy. Wanting to please, planning little things for loved ones, doing, doing, doing for everyone is their joy. The can't give enough. It is not surprising that after all this giving they end up feeling hurt and confused when the giving becomes the 'norm.' Like 'the asker' they can't understand what happened and without some sort of awakening ( such as the great 'chapters' that are out there) - side note to the author: best chapter I've ever read - unfortunately, they are bond to repeat it.
I've given you a fairly healthy synopsis of the problematic issues of asking and offering too much. I will not, however, give you solutions the author has offered. You can simply go to Amazon.com to order this very insightful chapter. I will be following up on Miss Zantamata. In the meantime, I have just purchased "Simple Reminders" and I love it. Thanks to both authors for adding balance to my life.
Wouldn't it be great if we were perfectly balanced and never had to wonder if we were giving too much (and setting ourselves up to be taken advantage of) or giving to little and perhaps sending a message of coolness and uncaring in nature. It's unfortunate that perfect balance is unattainable as our lives are changing with this or that.
Doe Zantamata, has written a "one chapter" book giving us insight into an area of opposite human behaviors. However, she states that we are all the same inside. Fundamentally, I'm not sure that is completely accurate although I do think that we would like to be. Picking up on the example of the over-indulged child who assumes that their adult world will be the same and wants and needs will be met as before , may be headed for a lonely life.
I agree with the author that 'the askers' are simple unaware that their basic concern is for themselves. They have not been taught the art of caring for others. Sharing of deep emotional feelings or a genuine concern for the everyday man is not something they would think of, although they get along quite well in the world (if a bit pompous.)
The 'over offerer' , although usually less harmful than the 'asker, is their own worst enemy. Wanting to please, planning little things for loved ones, doing, doing, doing for everyone is their joy. The can't give enough. It is not surprising that after all this giving they end up feeling hurt and confused when the giving becomes the 'norm.' Like 'the asker' they can't understand what happened and without some sort of awakening ( such as the great 'chapters' that are out there) - side note to the author: best chapter I've ever read - unfortunately, they are bond to repeat it.
I've given you a fairly healthy synopsis of the problematic issues of asking and offering too much. I will not, however, give you solutions the author has offered. You can simply go to Amazon.com to order this very insightful chapter. I will be following up on Miss Zantamata. In the meantime, I have just purchased "Simple Reminders" and I love it. Thanks to both authors for adding balance to my life.
September 6, 2014
A simple book which helps you understand, how and why are you not balanced. If you are too much of an offerer (if you give much more than that is required of you) or too much of an asker(you ask for more than you are ready to give) and the problems with each of it.
I would call this a simple self awareness book that helped me understand where i fall in this balancing act and also helped me understand when i need to stop asking or giving.
its a small book that takes hardly anytime to read, pick this one up, it is a simple solution to understanding some of our complex problems.
I would call this a simple self awareness book that helped me understand where i fall in this balancing act and also helped me understand when i need to stop asking or giving.
its a small book that takes hardly anytime to read, pick this one up, it is a simple solution to understanding some of our complex problems.
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