“I encourage you to empower us, not limit us. If someone has a spinal cord injury, if someone has lost a limb or has a functional disability from a stroke, families and professionals work hard to rehabilitate that person, to find ways to cope and manage despite these losses. Work with us. Help us develop tools to function around our losses in memory, language, and cognition. Encourage involvement in support groups. We can help each other, both people with dementia and their caregivers, navigate through this Dr. Seuss land of neither here nor there.”
It is not unheard of for people in their 20s and 30s to be diagnosed with early on-set Alzehimer’s disease, and that terrifies me. Life is highly taken for granted.
I don’t think I can say anything new for this novel that hasn’t been said before. It’s not a new novel, and it’s not super old either, but it’s popular and was adapted to a film for a reason.
Lisa’s writing is outstanding. The medical research and real facts make this read all the more brilliant, adding a very realistic approach to this fictional tale that was inspired by her grandmother’s Alzheimer’s disease. The author does a fantastic job of pulling the reader in, captivating our full attention with every detail related to the main character, Alice. You can tell the author is in the medical field herself and did a fantastic job at researching the correct material to pull this off. Alice’s emotions are vivid and heartfelt. I think the author was a genius for blending in the writing with the emotions the main character was experiencing, such as repeating verses or dialogue, which allows the reader to interpret the feelings of Alice in greater detail. There’s a lot of emotion in this, not only because of what Alice is dealing with but because of the theme overall. It makes you think about how we take the smallest things for granted, and when we’re on the verge of losing it all, we think about it and reflect on how much we missed out on. Alzheimer’s and dementia are cruel, vicious diseases, and it’s heartbreaking to think about how this is something we or anyone close to us can develop without it hope for a cure.
Alice’s journey is a difficult one. Lisa’s emotions are palpable in her descriptive writing, especially from the visuals of what she is painting at the novel's core. I found myself glued to every page from the moment I began, reading 50 pages in one sitting at 3 AM, another 170 at the library, and the rest at home. I did cheat a little, since I watched the film before, but luckily I didn’t remember it all so it didn’t affect my overall reading enjoyment. We experience Alice’s emotions alongside her, which is my favorite kind of storytelling. I loved being able to envision Alice and what she was experiencing, and it wasn’t because I had seen the film before reading this but because the author blends in fiction and reality incredibly well.
“You’re so beautiful,” said Alice. “I’m so afraid of looking at you and not knowing who you are.”
“I think that even if you don’t know who I am someday, you’ll still know that I love you.”
“What if I see you, and I don’t know that you’re my daughter, and I don’t know that you love me?”
“Then, I’ll tell you that I do, and you’ll believe me.”
I think Alice’s characterization is strong. Lisa Genova doesn’t hide the brutal reality of how Alzheimer’s disease slowly kills you, but she doesn’t make Alice an unlikable narrator. The life Alice continues slowly getting through and by is one of pity but out of concern. Her journey from 2003 to 2005 is heartbreakingly real, evoking lots of emotions due to her need and want to remember but inability to do so. She never victimizes herself and doesn’t even want to try, wishing she didn’t need to tell people what she is now officially diagnosed with. I found her to be courageous and strong, as she was someone who wanted to continue doing her best to remember as much as she could and not let the disease take over her. Instead of letting it pull her in, she tried her best to pull out. She didn’t take life for granted anymore and did her best to show that with the people around her. I have to give props to the author for also managing the story well in terms of the timeline. We see how Alice slowly starts losing herself, her memory, her life, and it slowly rips her apart more and more to the point where she doesn’t remember who she is, who her husband is, and the names of her children, which were all the things she remembered the most.
I don’t know much about Alzheimer’s disease and dementia overall. There’s a lot of medical research put into this, and it’s obvious, which makes the reading more compelling, but it did make it difficult to understand. However, it was necessary, and most of the medical relations are things I wouldn’t be able to remember just because it’s not my field of knowledge. My knowledge on dementia diseases goes only to surface level, not ranging widely but stopping only at memory loss. Still, Lisa’s writing is highly emotive, never bordering on boredom and unnecessary divisions. Every fragment of this story was necessary to add to the story.
Truly, my only issue with this was Alice’s family. Sometimes Alice’s children, mostly Anna but also Lydia, also felt a little too selfish for my liking. The way they treated Alice, as if she was dead, talking about her as if she wasn’t there just because she didn’t remember, felt so rude and off-putting. Tom was the more likable family member, as he was usually supportive of Alice and tended to have her back. For me, personally, Alice’s family wasn’t the best support system. There were moments of doubt and concern and other moments of support, making my feelings on them weird and unsure. I just wish they could’ve been there for her more, understanding her more and not making her feel like it was her fault this was all happening. But most important, John was a big issue for me. He never really tried reasoning with Alice and understanding where she was coming from. He victimized himself a lot, as if it was him losing his memory and mind and not Alice, not putting her first. You know how in marriage vows you say “till death do us part?” Yeah, I feel like John was not someone who would be there to support and help Alice till death parted them. He would put his work and lab meetings first, as if his work was more important, claiming it was a way for him to distract himself of what Alice was dealing with. As if Alice wasn’t the one with the disease. As if Alice wasn’t the one slowly dying. Overall, not a fan and I don’t think he was a very good husband.
The fact that she had Alzheimer’s didn’t mean that she was no longer capable of thinking analytically. The fact that she had Alzheimer’s didn’t mean that she didn’t deserve to sit in that room among them. The fact that she had Alzheimer’s didn’t mean that she no longer deserved to be heard.
Lisa’s message is evident. There’s a lot of stigma against patients and victims of Alzheimer's, and sadly many people (me included) don’t know the full ugliness about it. It isn’t until we experience this ourselves or see it for ourselves that we are able to fully relate and understand. But Lisa doesn’t need us to relate to understand; she wants us to sympathize, and I can confidently say I did sympathize 100% with Alice. Thank you Lisa for teaching me something new and letting me experience the life of Alice Howland.