Filling a gaping hole in menopause care, everything a woman needs to know to thrive during her hormonal transition and beyond, as well as the tools to help her take charge of her health at this pivotal life stage--by the bestselling author of The Galveston Diet.
Menopause is inevitable, but suffering through it is not! This is the empowering approach to self-advocacy that pioneering women’s health advocate Dr. Mary Claire Haver takes for women in the midst of hormonal change in The New Menopause. A comprehensive, authoritative book of science-backed information and lived experience, it covers every woman's needs:
From changes in your appearance and sleep patterns to neurological, musculoskeletal, psychological, and sexual issues, a comprehensive A to Z toolkit of science-backed options for coping with symptoms.
What to do to mediate the risks associated with your body's natural drop in estrogen production, including for diabetes, dementia, Alzheimer's, osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, and weight gain.
How to advocate and prepare for annual midlife wellness visits, including questions for your doctor and how to insist on whole life care.
The very latest research on the benefits and side effects of hormone replacement therapy.
Arming women with the power to secure vibrant health and well-being for the rest of their lives, The New Menopause is sure to become the bible of midlife wellness for present and future generations.
This was not the menopause book for me. Though she had some good reputable advice, I had issues with a lot of this one.
First she's definitely promoting her previous book “The Galveston Diet” and additional "helpers". Over and over. And over.
The flow of the book is also very choppy. Often telling me go back to this section for more details or wait for more details in a future section. This was confusing and the information felt disjointed.
This is the third book on perimenopause/menopause that I've read and definitely the least helpful. I suggest trying Dr Gunter's "The Menopause Manifesto" or Janice Dunn's "Hot & Bothered" for books that seem to have better editors, more fluid access to evidence based advice, and less advertising.
I recently told my doctor I was experiencing night sweats (among other perimenopause symptoms). She replied with, “do you sleep with a down comforter?” 😒
I wouldn’t necessarily call this book the NEW menopause, because menopause isn’t new, the only thing that’s different is that the medical community (thanks to more women physicians, perhaps?) is finally recognizing that it’s WAY more than hot flashes. Yet it was frustrating to read that so much is “not fully understood” and Dr. Haver herself admits that it’s going to take a generation or two before a decent standard of care is implemented for this all important phase in a woman’s life.
Dr. Haver is clearly a proponent of hormone replacement therapy and, though she does suggest alternatives to relieve the multitude of symptoms, what I took away is that there are no silver bullets. Here’s hoping actual NEW advancements come sooner rather than later (though in the meantime I am trying a lighter blanket).
I've been following Dr. Haver on Instagram for a while, and I had learned a lot from her just from that. I can call myself a fan, and when I saw her book, I knew I wanted to read it, especially since I was in menopause and finally able to say it without feeling weird about it (like, when did I get old enough to say that about myself???).
The book was due back at the library within a matter of hours tonight, so I read it faster than I normally would, faster than I would've liked. I need to reread it at a more normal pace. It was information overload.
I found the book informative, of course, but also more technical than expected. I generally assume books by medical professionals will be written in more lay terms than this one was. On the one hand, I was glad that Dr. Haver treated her readers as intelligent enough to figure it out. On the other hand, part of the reason I felt overwhelmed was that I didn't have the time to look up everything.
One thing that really struck me was the definition of menopause and post-menopause. I probably started menopause a year or two ago (or so I thought). I had an hysterectomy in my 30s, so I actually have no idea when I hit menopause, but I started expressing some classic symptoms about a year or so ago. All this time, I've been saying that I'm in menopause, and I thought that it was something that lasted about a decade, after which post-menopause began. I was wrong. According to Dr. Haver (and Google), menopause is a single point in time - that point when a woman hasn't had a period in twelve consecutive months. After that point in time, we are immediately in post-menopause. I now had to wrap my head around this new identity. It took me all this time to accept menopause as my life, but now I have to reframe that as post-menopause and that post-menopause isn't what I thought it was, that it wasn't something to experience in my 60s, but now. I felt slapped upside-down. My identity has to make a pivot, and I have to give myself a new, more accurate label. Sure, I'm the same person I was yesterday, but that label is so UGH.
On top of that, I'm now sitting here trying to talk myself down. Who cares about a label. Labels are social constructs (just like gender and racism). Labels don't make me who I am. Labels are just easy ways to classify people for the sake of social existence. I guess it's like my friends who got pregnant in their 30s and told they were geriatric pregnancies. People, can we please use nicer labels for women if we have to use labels at all? Why do we have to label them as geriatric when they are in their 30s, and why does geriatric have to come with imagery of people barely able to make it across the street on their canes, and why does post-menopause have to conjure up visions of withered women? Because of patriarchy. It's the patriarchy that came up with all these labels. In fact, did you know that practically every single part of a woman's reproductive system is named after a man? Yup, fallopian tubes, Bartholin's glands (aka, the clitoris), Skene's glands, Graafian follicles, etc. My body is the map of men who've basically planted a flag here and there for the honor of the this and that being named after them.
Ok, I'm jumping off this soap box. But this is where reading this book has led my head. I'm half laughing, half crying, and all around shaking my head.
Ok. Most of what she says I agree with as a gynecologist (minor mistakes about where the egg is fertilized and minutiae like that, but that’s just me being compulsive. Her goal seems to be to get everyone on hormone therapy. Hormone therapy can help with a LOT, but it is not a cure-all, and if I were not a gynecologist I would probably believe it WAS a cure-all after reading this. When she doesn’t have good answers for tough questions (that gynecologists are asked all the time), she quickly brushes past the lack of research or answers on the topic and goes on to the next problem she believes will be helped by hormone therapy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m actually pro-MHT! This book comes on with an agenda and is a bit heavy-handed in its approach to that agenda.
I would also be wary of additional bias in any author trying to encourage you to follow THEIR diet plan or who recommends THEIR supplements which are conveniently for sale at THEIR website.
It still amazes me how much false information and superstitions surround menopause and HRTs.
At the end of last year, I made the mistake of asking a question on social media about getting HRTs and it felt like the equivalent of getting stoned in the town square.
Women spewed so much vitriol. From telling me menopause is a mental condition, to saying I should just detox with vegetables and finally the most loving comment of all, assuring me I WILL get breast cancer from using hormone replacement therapy.
Sho, my ears literally burned from all the "virtual chatter" It saddens me that so many women just don’t have access to facts around menopause.
HRT may not be the best path for every woman, but we all need to know what the risks of using and not using HRTs are so we can make the best decisions for ourselves.
Whether you go through medical menopause like I did due to chemo and radiation, or if menopause is just due to the natural progression of time, none of us (women) are going to escape this.
This author is very knowledgeable as she tries to cover an impressive amount of information and anyone, no matter their level of medical knowledge, will understand the content.
I follow the author on social media, so I was familiar with much of the information she shared. The great thing about the book is that it consolidates everything in one place, saving you from having to sift through numerous posts to find what you need.
The author includes comments from her followers about their experiences and provides her medical expertise on these situations.
I'm glad she made it her mission to help women through their menopause journey. By the time my daughters reach this stage in their lives, I’m sure there will be even more knowledge and support available.
Audiobook source: Libby Narrator: Mary Claire Haver Length: 9h 45m
There is some good information in here, but it mostly pushes HRT as the solution to all your problems. It also intimates that if you forgo taking HRT you will die earlier than those who take it at the optimal time. How is that for encouraging? I’m not sure what I’m looking for in a menopause book, but this isn’t it.
For someone like me who is just learning about this phase of life, this was a very informative and thoroughly researched book. I’m glad there are people like Dr. Mary Haver who are devoting their careers to menopause, which has and still is not a focus for OB/GYN or primary care doctors. This is a phase of a woman’s life that has often been overlooked as “It’s something you just have to live with or get through” without any knowledge of how to alleviate the symptoms. “Just deal with it” is what so many doctors tell us. Now with more research, we know there are treatments – yes, Dr. Haver is a huge proponent of Hormone Replacement Therapy – and she provides a plethora of information on which symptoms the HRT will help. Her toolbox at the end of the book is quite useful and easy to find solutions by looking up symptoms to find what you are looking for. I highly recommend this for anyone who is just getting started on learning about menopause.
A very informative and interesting listen. When it's time to go and see my doctor about HRT's, I will read the book instead of listening, so I can highlight and make notes to prepare for the appointment.
I must admit that I never knew that this subject is so controversial; or that there's so many possible symptoms you can experience when going into pre-menopause; or that there's so many HRT options available. Definitely glad that I have this book to guide me through this phase of my life when I get there. Thanks for the recommendation Sonja!
Thank you, NetGalley and Rodale Inc for the advanced reader’s copy. As a woman of a any age, I greatly enjoyed reading this very informative book. This book has chapters that describes the different symptoms associated with menopause, helpful patient stories, and then provides an alphabetical toolkit where you can look up a specific symptom and it will give you information about that particular symptom. I found this book very nice as there are just SO many symptoms that can be related to decreasing estrogen levels and menopause. Thank you for providing this up to date research that focuses on about half of a woman’s life that there are not many studies done on and many doctors tend to say is “just a part of life”.
Fantastic book with so much information for pre-menopausal and menopausal women. I wish I would have had this to guide me during my appointment's when I went into menopause early. It would have been so helpful to help me feel like I had some knowledge rather than just flailing in the wind and doing what why OB-Gyn told me to do. 17 years later I really wish I would have had Dr. Haver by my side so I would feel better now. This book is laid out nicely making it very easy to read.
If you are interested in how Menopause is going to affect you this is a must read.
Thanks to NetGalley and the Pulisher for allowing me to read this advanced reader copy of The New Menopause.
I am almost 44 and not currently going through any signs of perimenopause, knock on wood. :) I read this book because it was recommended by a girl in my book club and we as a club have talked about how little we know about menopause besides hot flashes.
This book was hugely informative. I feel so much more educated about all the possible symptoms I could have that commonly get misdiagnosed as other things when they’re actually related to menopause.
I also feel so informed on all of the different hormonal/nutrition/lifestyle things I can do to make my menopause experience better when I get there.
It is somewhat shocking to realize how little attention the medical community has historically paid to menopause and its symptoms and treatment. According to this book, OB/GYN‘s are not required to do any training on menopause to renew their board certification every year. In the past, they have learned very little about menopause in medical school either, although I think that is getting better with the newest generation of medical providers.
Super fascinating and informative overall. Would recommend to any woman in her early 40s as preparation for what could come.
Lots of good information, but I found there was too much self-promotion (of books, program, website, diet plan, etc.) for my personal taste. Listened to this via audiobook, and given that the last half or so is a symptoms + potential treatments format, having the hands-on book would have been more useful. Hard to take in the information in that format (like an encyclopedia) in an audio way. Better to have the book itself, and to be able to read sections + refer back to specific symptoms as needed.
I found this to be a very important book, jam-packed with lots of information, suitable for returning to and reflecting upon when future issues may arise. Haver also provided lots of resources for further research, which I appreciated instead of her claiming to have the best advice herself. She did not claim anything without a study or facts to back it up. The text could be a little clinical at times, but again, if I was experiencing a certain symptom or situation, I would simply refer back to that section and it might mean a lot more to me at a different time. I appreciate a reference where all of this is in one convenient place. I do feel that having the actual text in front of the reader, rather than just listening, will be more beneficial with this resource, but she did read her own material. I follow Haver on social media and feel that she is candid and realistic, and perhaps more importantly is going through this right along with many of us. Highly recommend! Thanks to NetGalley and Rodale Books for this ARC. All opinions are mine.
As a womens health Nurse Practitioner for 20 years finally a great reference book for patients. Her suggestions are evidence based and easy to understand. Great chapter that explains the 1998 Women’s Health Initiative study and in layman’s terms why this is outdated. She follows the gold standard of NAMS better known Menopause society now. Great read.
Nu intentionam sa citesc o carte despre menopauza pentru ca imi iau informatiile din articole si clipuri. Insa am primit-o si am incercat-o si bine am facut pentru ca am aflat o multime de lucruri interesante si importante, cum ar fi importanta estrogenului pentru corpul femeii. Si nu doar al lui, ci si a altor hormoni, ceea ce imi confirma ca am avut dreptate cand i-am spus fetei mele ca acestia sunt stapanii corpului din pubertate si pana dupa menopauza. Starea noastra fizica si psihica e la cheremul lor si daca nu suntem atente la valorile lor in timpul vietii si la suplimentarea lor inainte de a fi prea tarziu exista riscuri foarte mari pentru sanatatea noastra. Insa nici suplimentarea nu e mereu o optiune, dar dr. Haver explica toate posibilele situatii si ce e de facut in orice scenariu. Are liste si recomandari pentru fiecare simptom, ceea ce a dus la foarte multe pasaje subliniate pentru a ma putea intoarce la ele din cand in cand. Iar pe mine ma intereseaza in mod special cum afecteaza hormonii creierul si am fost foarte atenta la acele pasaje. Imi voi structura informatia, mai ales cea despre alimentatie, in asa fel incat sa acopar nutrientii de care avem nevoie pentru a ajunge la menopauza si a o depasi cu cat mai putine neplaceri.
100% recommend this read to anyone who starts to “feel weird” as you approach 40 and beyond.
Going in, I was anti-HRT. But after reading the book? I will most definitely use HRT as needed. She gives just the right information to back up her recommendations, citing all the studies available.
I no longer feel like navigating perimenopause will be a hamster wheel - I feel like now I can actually get help. Hope changes things. 🩷
If you’re not a fan of HRT? You’ll still find the book very helpful as she gives other options for treatment.
I love love love the back of the book where she tackles individual menopause symptoms. So helpful and definitely a resource I will keep on hand.
Just have started deep diving in this complex world I am entering. lol
I like to describe this book as a "sit down talk with your favorite doctor."Written by a doctor herself it is full of science and the why of what is happening. She does not mince any words in her prognosis and diagnosis.
I listened to it on audio but will have the physical book as a backup. Topics included but were not relegated too: estrogen, insulin/diabetes, visceral fat, sarcopenia (muscle loss), cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis, inflammation, cortisol, blood tests, IF diet and exercise, hormone therapy and methods. Along with these topics was the material to back up how it’s affecting your body and what can be done to help the process!!
Knowledge is power. And to know what is causing so much body change is power! There is help!
In The New Menopause, Dr. Haver is passionate about explaining all aspects of this significant life transition. She is thorough in her discussion of the history of menopause care. Dr. Haver also clarifies the current effective treatment of symptoms and dispels much of the confusion and misinformation surrounding menopause. The book is very upbeat in nature, encouraging readers to educate themselves in preparation for productive healthcare visits. The author also includes a helpful “Tool Kit,” which contains an alphabetical list of symptoms and possible treatments.
The New Menopause is packed with useful information, and I learned quite a bit while reading it. I plan to recommend it to friends and family.
Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the advanced copy.
I listened to the audio version of this book and, while it was narrated well, I think this is a book best consumed in print. The narrator frequently referenced charts and indexes and then they were read. Kind of tedious listening.
BUT...
AS a 49 year old woman who isn't even sure if I'm in menopause, I found the advocacy and defense of Hormone Replacement Therapy or Menopause Hormone Therapy to be interesting and helpful. I'm so glad that I have this tool in my tool bag should I start to experience the kind of nightmare scenarios lived and dismissed by so many. Women deserve to have relief if suffering from menopausal symptoms and definitely deserve access to anything that will protect their cognitive, bone, heart, muscle, digestive and endocrine health. I now feel a deep curiosity and desire to take charge of my own health as I graduate from the fertility years and begin a new phase of life. feel better informed to talk to my own health care provider about my own questions and health. Although, I'll probably get a physical copy of the book so that I can actually remember all this info.
I will start by saying that I am pretty knowledgeable about menopause and the effects of hormones on the body. This book uncovers a lot of myths and stereotypes about women in menopause and the treatments, or lack thereof, that abound. For many women, the reality of this lack of care can cause major health problems. Thankfully, the education around menopause and perimenopause is increasing by the day. This book is a great start to the conversation.
However, this book is not the end-all, be-all for women's hormone therapy. For example, there are MANY intelligent providers who are not registered with the Menopause Society. I would still recommend this book but within the context of realizing there are other options outside of the treatments & information in this book.
Thank you to Netgalley for the ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review!
A MUST READ for women over 40! Do not discredit your symptoms as “just part of the aging process”. I started my own replacement at age 48 because I’ve been learning from others ahead of me. There’s no need to suffer! We need more research and I’m thankful for this Dr who admits she also dismissed women before she really knew herself. ALWAYS advocate for your own health and in ALL WAYS!
Everybody age 30+ and with female DNA needs to read this book!! I regret I didn’t read it sooner!!! I’ve missed years of help. I’ve been getting it now. Thanks heavens for Haver, Salas-Whalen and more who are speaking out!