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The Teen Girl's Survival Guide: Ten Tips for Making Friends, Avoiding Drama, and Coping with Social Stress
As a teen girl, you are likely feeling pressure and stress from every direction. Having good, healthy relationships with friends you can count on makes all the difference. In this guide, psychologist and teen expert Lucie Hemmen offers ten tips to guide you toward creating and maintaining the social life you want. Even better, the real experts that make this guide special are older teen girls who have recently been where you are now—and have plenty to say about it.
As you move through this fun and engaging guide, you will get a sense of who you are as a friend, appreciate authentic qualities you can share with others, and get moving toward expanding the quality and quantity of your social connections. Before you know it, small steps will lead to big changes and you will find yourself more confident, connected, and happy.
Grounded in evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), the ten tips guide you in developing yourself in both simple and significant ways. You will engage in thought-provoking exercises and take fun quizzes spaced between tips to get you thinking more deeply about yourself and others. If you’re ready to get going on your social life, this book will show you the way.
As you move through this fun and engaging guide, you will get a sense of who you are as a friend, appreciate authentic qualities you can share with others, and get moving toward expanding the quality and quantity of your social connections. Before you know it, small steps will lead to big changes and you will find yourself more confident, connected, and happy.
Grounded in evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), the ten tips guide you in developing yourself in both simple and significant ways. You will engage in thought-provoking exercises and take fun quizzes spaced between tips to get you thinking more deeply about yourself and others. If you’re ready to get going on your social life, this book will show you the way.
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Lucie Hemmen
9 books25 followersLucie Hemmen, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist with a private practice in Santa Cruz, California.
For over 20 years, Lucie has worked with individuals of all ages as well as couples and families. In addition to working with issues such as depression, stress, anxiety, trauma, and grief, Lucie is committed to promoting healthy teen development by working with teens, their parents, and their communities.
For over 20 years, Lucie has worked with individuals of all ages as well as couples and families. In addition to working with issues such as depression, stress, anxiety, trauma, and grief, Lucie is committed to promoting healthy teen development by working with teens, their parents, and their communities.
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March 3, 2022
I was really excited to read this book, but I was a little let down. To be honest, I don't really know what I was expecting, but this book came to me highly recommended and, as I'm a teen girl myself, I thought this could be an enlightening read. I wasn't proved wrong, but I wasn't exactly proved right either.
This book is split into ten different sections, each highlighting a different "tip" including friendship, gossiping, and social media, and they varied in usefulness and relate-ability. I felt like half of the book didn't apply to me and it was sorta like a therapy session that was meant for someone else. They were a couple things I resonated with like the communication and over-thinking chapters. I don't think it's possible to write a book with tips that apply to everyone, but this one had a disappointing amount that were applicable for me.
I have a really outgoing personality. I communicate well and spend little to no time on social media. I don't think I was the target audience for this one, which definitely wasn't the author's fault. It definitely felt like a therapy session for a girl who has a toxic social life, is shy, gossips a lot, over-thinks, is insecure, and doesn't spend her time wisely, which is definitely not me. I felt like I spent a lot of this book reading about other people's life experiences and not learning anything from them.
One thing I did love about this book was how interactive it was. It had a lot of really fun quizzes and even a meditation exercise in one. It helped me see the things I maybe need to improve but also some of the things I consider myself good at. It was a nice touch because I think if it wasn't there, it would feel like one long lecture from an adult, which we already get on the daily.
The writing style annoyed me a bit in the beginning, but I eventually got used to it and I did like that there were experiences and advice from other teen girls. I did love the chapters about self worth because while I have a good image of myself, there were definitely elements that inspired me.
Overall, this book was a classic example of "it's me, not you." I really have nothing against this book and it's not their fault I wasn't the target audience for this one. I don't regret it, but it's not one I would readily recommend to my friends. I would, however, recommend it to someone who has no confidence and low-self esteem, because that is definitely who this book would be applicable for.
This book is split into ten different sections, each highlighting a different "tip" including friendship, gossiping, and social media, and they varied in usefulness and relate-ability. I felt like half of the book didn't apply to me and it was sorta like a therapy session that was meant for someone else. They were a couple things I resonated with like the communication and over-thinking chapters. I don't think it's possible to write a book with tips that apply to everyone, but this one had a disappointing amount that were applicable for me.
I have a really outgoing personality. I communicate well and spend little to no time on social media. I don't think I was the target audience for this one, which definitely wasn't the author's fault. It definitely felt like a therapy session for a girl who has a toxic social life, is shy, gossips a lot, over-thinks, is insecure, and doesn't spend her time wisely, which is definitely not me. I felt like I spent a lot of this book reading about other people's life experiences and not learning anything from them.
One thing I did love about this book was how interactive it was. It had a lot of really fun quizzes and even a meditation exercise in one. It helped me see the things I maybe need to improve but also some of the things I consider myself good at. It was a nice touch because I think if it wasn't there, it would feel like one long lecture from an adult, which we already get on the daily.
The writing style annoyed me a bit in the beginning, but I eventually got used to it and I did like that there were experiences and advice from other teen girls. I did love the chapters about self worth because while I have a good image of myself, there were definitely elements that inspired me.
Overall, this book was a classic example of "it's me, not you." I really have nothing against this book and it's not their fault I wasn't the target audience for this one. I don't regret it, but it's not one I would readily recommend to my friends. I would, however, recommend it to someone who has no confidence and low-self esteem, because that is definitely who this book would be applicable for.
December 9, 2015
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Rather than attempting to be a comprehensive, overbearing, 'cover to cover fix' for all teen problems, author Lucie Hemmen has chosen to focus in on 10 key problems teen girls face. The use of young adults to recount the things that did and didn't work for them paired with 'exercises' at the back work together to make a friendly tone that doesn't talk down to teens. As a parent, I found the book to be quite good. For my 12 year old, who is about transition into middle school from 6th grade, she found it useful to identify areas/issues that could become very problematic in coming years. The results of doing the CBT-themed exercises were surprising.The book breaks down into 10 'tips': Know what you bring to the party, Leave your comfort zone, Increase contact, Nurture connections, Weed out negative social habits, Communicte through conflict, Communicate for closeness, Be your best self in social media and texting, Be more and think less, Practice balance.
All topics are rooted in CBT (cognitive behavior therapy): being mindful rather than instinctual as well as writing down thoughts/ideas. As such, there is a lot of 'extra' work in each chapter of actually writing things such as "positive thoughts today' or "qualities my friends like in me". Fortunately, they aren't daunting and written well to be interesting.
Overall, the focus is on being confident and true to oneself as well as developing positive interpersonal skills (e.g., being involved and having great friends). This is more for your average teen girl rather than a very troubled one having issues with sex and drugs at a young age. It's more about building than fixing, in that respect.
My daughter and I have read other CBT type books but I feel this one has a great balance of applicability to brevity. It doesn't try to cover too much and isn't so wordy that it talks down to teens. The author cleverly uses examples from older girls to make a lot of the points and then summarizes them to drive the points home. The exercises turn that information into direct applicability to each teen so the concepts are no longer general or nebulous.
In all, both my daughter and I found the book to be very helpful and useful. Reviewed from an advance reader copy provided by the publisher.
October 31, 2015
Before saying all my thoughts about this book, I just want to thank New Harbinger Publications, Inc. for sending me a copy and this book.
When I first saw this book, I immediately want to get a physical copy. But unfortunately, I live in Saudi Arabia.. and in here, they don’t actually put new books in stores so I had to get it online buuut! I didn’t have to get it online because you, the publisher, sent it to me! And I’m really grateful to review this for free. To the readers, just want to tell you that all of my opinions are my own and none of them are suggested by the publisher to be said. Soo yep! Enough of that and let’s get going!
As a teenager, there are lots of drama and issues and stuff. And most of the time, teenagers don’t know what to do. I finished and followed the tips I have read in this book and I can say.. there are lots of improvement in my life. I’m still in high school and just graduated from elementary… and in elementary.. there are lots of dramas and stuff like that. I like that this book helped me a lot from becoming a better person.
I told myself, I wanted to change. I want something to change. I want this year of my high school life to be like the normal kids’. You know? Peaceful. Not with many issues surrounding you.
To be honest, I’m not good at making friends. I do have lots but believe me, I only have one truly friend. And sometimes I confuse myself that I don’t know how to handle our friendship anymore. I’m afraid that we might lose our bond and I don’t want that to happen. Thanks to this book, it gave me hope and courage for our friendship.
Alongside that fact, this book also helped me from coping with stress. As a teenager, I experience a lot of discouragements and judgments from others. I would like to give my very best to say to you that this book.. helped me to have confidence. I’m a quiet type of girl and I can hardly prove myself to others. If you’re like me.. I think it would be best for you to read this book.
This is not just a book, my friend. It can help you, A LOT. So why not grab a copy? (: It’ll be worth it, I promise! I think that’s all I can say. (I’m not good at reviewing books, you know! But I hope this one helped you)
When I first saw this book, I immediately want to get a physical copy. But unfortunately, I live in Saudi Arabia.. and in here, they don’t actually put new books in stores so I had to get it online buuut! I didn’t have to get it online because you, the publisher, sent it to me! And I’m really grateful to review this for free. To the readers, just want to tell you that all of my opinions are my own and none of them are suggested by the publisher to be said. Soo yep! Enough of that and let’s get going!
As a teenager, there are lots of drama and issues and stuff. And most of the time, teenagers don’t know what to do. I finished and followed the tips I have read in this book and I can say.. there are lots of improvement in my life. I’m still in high school and just graduated from elementary… and in elementary.. there are lots of dramas and stuff like that. I like that this book helped me a lot from becoming a better person.
I told myself, I wanted to change. I want something to change. I want this year of my high school life to be like the normal kids’. You know? Peaceful. Not with many issues surrounding you.
To be honest, I’m not good at making friends. I do have lots but believe me, I only have one truly friend. And sometimes I confuse myself that I don’t know how to handle our friendship anymore. I’m afraid that we might lose our bond and I don’t want that to happen. Thanks to this book, it gave me hope and courage for our friendship.
Alongside that fact, this book also helped me from coping with stress. As a teenager, I experience a lot of discouragements and judgments from others. I would like to give my very best to say to you that this book.. helped me to have confidence. I’m a quiet type of girl and I can hardly prove myself to others. If you’re like me.. I think it would be best for you to read this book.
This is not just a book, my friend. It can help you, A LOT. So why not grab a copy? (: It’ll be worth it, I promise! I think that’s all I can say. (I’m not good at reviewing books, you know! But I hope this one helped you)
August 31, 2015
I reviewed this as an ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
I have to admit, I was a little skeptical when I signed up to review this book on Netgalley, but I thought it would be useful seeing as a) I'm a teen girl myself, and b) I'm starting a new school soon. It didn't really prove me wrong, but it didn't exactly prove me right either.
This book is split into ten chapters, each based on a topic that are considered important to most teen girls, such as friendships, priorities and a particularly interesting one on social media. I found that they tended to vary in usefulness, as while some of them were interesting and quite helpful, some felt like the book version of a therapy session I really didn't need. However, this might've been a case of 'it's not you, it's me' syndrome, as I might have simply been the wrong type of girl to read them. While I'm not exactly amazing at socialising, I'm a confident person with pretty good self-esteem, so some parts of this didn't really apply to me.
One element of this I did like though is that the book is quite interactive. There are fun little quizzes to do at the end of each chapter and other thinking exercises to do along the way - there was even a meditation exercise in one chapter! These were a really nice touch and ensured the book didn't feel like one huge lecture from an adult, as that would've made it no different from what a lot of teen girls are used to.
The writing style in the book really got on my nerves in the first couple of chapters as it did really sound like a therapist talking to you, but later on in the book it grew on me. Lucie Hemmen uses her experience in cognitive behavioural therapy really well and a couple of chapters made for pretty interesting reads. It's easy to understand, but ever so slightly on the formal side.
In conclusion, while this book was quite good and somewhat helpful, I don't really think it was my kind of thing. I'd recommend this more for girls who are more introverted or with low self-confidence, as it would probably benefit them a bit more.
I have to admit, I was a little skeptical when I signed up to review this book on Netgalley, but I thought it would be useful seeing as a) I'm a teen girl myself, and b) I'm starting a new school soon. It didn't really prove me wrong, but it didn't exactly prove me right either.
This book is split into ten chapters, each based on a topic that are considered important to most teen girls, such as friendships, priorities and a particularly interesting one on social media. I found that they tended to vary in usefulness, as while some of them were interesting and quite helpful, some felt like the book version of a therapy session I really didn't need. However, this might've been a case of 'it's not you, it's me' syndrome, as I might have simply been the wrong type of girl to read them. While I'm not exactly amazing at socialising, I'm a confident person with pretty good self-esteem, so some parts of this didn't really apply to me.
One element of this I did like though is that the book is quite interactive. There are fun little quizzes to do at the end of each chapter and other thinking exercises to do along the way - there was even a meditation exercise in one chapter! These were a really nice touch and ensured the book didn't feel like one huge lecture from an adult, as that would've made it no different from what a lot of teen girls are used to.
The writing style in the book really got on my nerves in the first couple of chapters as it did really sound like a therapist talking to you, but later on in the book it grew on me. Lucie Hemmen uses her experience in cognitive behavioural therapy really well and a couple of chapters made for pretty interesting reads. It's easy to understand, but ever so slightly on the formal side.
In conclusion, while this book was quite good and somewhat helpful, I don't really think it was my kind of thing. I'd recommend this more for girls who are more introverted or with low self-confidence, as it would probably benefit them a bit more.
April 5, 2022
As a teen girl, The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide will indeed help you survive. Throughout examining this book I found many great parts with a few lousy. You feel connected to the book through the teen girls who share their past stories. This book was made to guide teen girls into a successful path along with acknowledging “ It is never helpful to hold negative thoughts and feelings toward yourself.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 14). This book truly did evolve my thinking in ways to help me survive as a teen girl. Lousy and greats will be presented to you along with what the authors' intentions were when creating The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide.
Being a teen girl it’s going to be hard. Lucie Hemmen knows this and decided to write The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide “ to increase self-awareness, and concrete skills to help improve self-esteem, and reduce the chaos and drama teen girl often encounters.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 1). While reading this book I came across many great things. The book expresses how “You absolutely can be the girl who moves toward social opportunities with a blend of self-confidence and optimistic expectation.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 6) which I fully agree with! Lucie acknowledges that it’s okay to have ups and downs (you're going to as a teen girl). You will have the opportunity to hear Carrie’s a 19-year-old teen girl who (like all teen girls) felt “ a sense that there was anything special about me.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 7). Throughout the book, many teen girls such as Claire, Laurel, Tessa, etc. admit some of their past struggles that many of us can relate to.
Along with the many greats came a few lousy. There were a few things I didn't agree with fully. When reading a book I feel there are always a few parts that you don’t agree with or don’t like. The author insisted “It’s often the outgoing people who make things happen.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 62) I fully disagree. You must always stay true to yourself and do things that make you happy. Don’t waste time trying to be “outgoing” when you can simply be yourself doing things that make you happy. In the authors' mind, she thinks you must “Keep an open mind towards everyone” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 65). I believe it’s okay to be cautious when meeting someone new. It’s never okay to judge someone based on their appearance, but it’s okay to be nervous, and have your suspicions. People get hurt and sometimes harmed when letting people in easily.
If it isn’t obvious… I’d recommend this book to every single teen girl in the world. This book will only make progress and help you excel in your life. You will learn tips on knowing yourself, leaving your comfort zone, strengthening connections, getting rid of negative habits, and being the best you can be on social media. All teens girls need guidance in their lives, and this book is a great way to help. Lucie Hemmen has two teen girls herself making this book even better. The author has more experience having teen girls and was able to fully portray the struggles and ways to fix the struggles teens girls face.
In general, The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide is a great resource for teen girls. It provides great advice to get you through your teens years which many teens need, but are nervous to ask. This book will help you with making friends, avoiding drama, and coping with social stress. All teens want to learn or get better at these things. At the end of the day remember “It is the love and intention you put into your life that creates the life you love” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 187).
Being a teen girl it’s going to be hard. Lucie Hemmen knows this and decided to write The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide “ to increase self-awareness, and concrete skills to help improve self-esteem, and reduce the chaos and drama teen girl often encounters.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 1). While reading this book I came across many great things. The book expresses how “You absolutely can be the girl who moves toward social opportunities with a blend of self-confidence and optimistic expectation.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 6) which I fully agree with! Lucie acknowledges that it’s okay to have ups and downs (you're going to as a teen girl). You will have the opportunity to hear Carrie’s a 19-year-old teen girl who (like all teen girls) felt “ a sense that there was anything special about me.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 7). Throughout the book, many teen girls such as Claire, Laurel, Tessa, etc. admit some of their past struggles that many of us can relate to.
Along with the many greats came a few lousy. There were a few things I didn't agree with fully. When reading a book I feel there are always a few parts that you don’t agree with or don’t like. The author insisted “It’s often the outgoing people who make things happen.” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 62) I fully disagree. You must always stay true to yourself and do things that make you happy. Don’t waste time trying to be “outgoing” when you can simply be yourself doing things that make you happy. In the authors' mind, she thinks you must “Keep an open mind towards everyone” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 65). I believe it’s okay to be cautious when meeting someone new. It’s never okay to judge someone based on their appearance, but it’s okay to be nervous, and have your suspicions. People get hurt and sometimes harmed when letting people in easily.
If it isn’t obvious… I’d recommend this book to every single teen girl in the world. This book will only make progress and help you excel in your life. You will learn tips on knowing yourself, leaving your comfort zone, strengthening connections, getting rid of negative habits, and being the best you can be on social media. All teens girls need guidance in their lives, and this book is a great way to help. Lucie Hemmen has two teen girls herself making this book even better. The author has more experience having teen girls and was able to fully portray the struggles and ways to fix the struggles teens girls face.
In general, The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide is a great resource for teen girls. It provides great advice to get you through your teens years which many teens need, but are nervous to ask. This book will help you with making friends, avoiding drama, and coping with social stress. All teens want to learn or get better at these things. At the end of the day remember “It is the love and intention you put into your life that creates the life you love” (Hemmen, 2015, pg. 187).
March 3, 2021
Nothing too special, but not horrible.
I think that this book might actually help me with my bad case of ruminating.
The things that I don't really like about this book are...
1. It's kind of dated. True, I got this book like, 3 years ago, but of course it wasn't published then, but still it's just a tad old.
2. On the back of the book, it says, "Instant Help Books." *snort* HA! *silence* *fails to stifle a laugh* HAH!
3. Not all of the tips really apply to everyone reading it. So some chapters are just mindless reading about other people's issues and how to solve them.
But, overall, I DO think that this book will help most people, and it will help me a little bit in some spots.
I would not recommend this to friends, but DO NOTE that I don't really have any good reasons not to. I just wouldn't. Deal with it.
I think that this book might actually help me with my bad case of ruminating.
The things that I don't really like about this book are...
1. It's kind of dated. True, I got this book like, 3 years ago, but of course it wasn't published then, but still it's just a tad old.
2. On the back of the book, it says, "Instant Help Books." *snort* HA! *silence* *fails to stifle a laugh* HAH!
3. Not all of the tips really apply to everyone reading it. So some chapters are just mindless reading about other people's issues and how to solve them.
But, overall, I DO think that this book will help most people, and it will help me a little bit in some spots.
I would not recommend this to friends, but DO NOTE that I don't really have any good reasons not to. I just wouldn't. Deal with it.
March 9, 2018
I wish I had this book as a teenager. Well written with great advice that I approve of as a parent. I highly recommend.
September 19, 2019
This book was helpful in many ways, I just hoped it said something about toxic relationships.
June 24, 2020
Excellent
May 14, 2022
Great book.for pointers on how to get teens on track with living a more healthy and balanced life.
September 23, 2015
Well.... I didn't think that the book gave bad advice. It just definitely isn't a book I would have ever needed as a teenager or one I would have ever liked to read.
I am a fairly outgoing person and never had issues making friends as a teenager. I joined sports, music and clubs in high school and BAM there were my friends already for me. A few of the tips were about coming out of a persons shell and almost like this person was starting from rock bottom and knew no one and didn't know how to make any friends... The book did talk about moving from schools. etc...
I think that there are other issues and tips that could have been given. More about peer pressure--sex, drugs, smoking, illegal activities, skipping are all things that start coming about for teenagers. How about surviving when that stuff comes along? More detail on those subjects is what I was hoping for. Not "say these words instead of those words...", "talk like this to someone you want to be your friend..." Teens have A LOT more issues, especially in todays society, that I was hoping to see.
I think the idea of quizzes at the end of the tips was great! I would have liked to see pages for the activities to be written on. Instead the book says--now grab a piece of paper. This would have been great to also include these activities in the pages. People who complete the book could look back years from now and see what they wrote. Whereas if they write it on a separate piece of paper, it is probably going in the garbage.
Overall I thought this was a good guide for a teen who is very shy, quiet and really doesn't have any friends. I think adding more issues that most all teens deal with would give the book a wider audience.
I received this book from NetGalley in return for my honest opinion.
I am a fairly outgoing person and never had issues making friends as a teenager. I joined sports, music and clubs in high school and BAM there were my friends already for me. A few of the tips were about coming out of a persons shell and almost like this person was starting from rock bottom and knew no one and didn't know how to make any friends... The book did talk about moving from schools. etc...
I think that there are other issues and tips that could have been given. More about peer pressure--sex, drugs, smoking, illegal activities, skipping are all things that start coming about for teenagers. How about surviving when that stuff comes along? More detail on those subjects is what I was hoping for. Not "say these words instead of those words...", "talk like this to someone you want to be your friend..." Teens have A LOT more issues, especially in todays society, that I was hoping to see.
I think the idea of quizzes at the end of the tips was great! I would have liked to see pages for the activities to be written on. Instead the book says--now grab a piece of paper. This would have been great to also include these activities in the pages. People who complete the book could look back years from now and see what they wrote. Whereas if they write it on a separate piece of paper, it is probably going in the garbage.
Overall I thought this was a good guide for a teen who is very shy, quiet and really doesn't have any friends. I think adding more issues that most all teens deal with would give the book a wider audience.
I received this book from NetGalley in return for my honest opinion.
April 10, 2016
The Intro states: "If you want to feel good, authentic, and connected to plenty of people--and you want at least a handful of those relationships to feel mutually trusting and fun and rich--this book is for you!"
I liked this a lot more than I expected to and agree that the above statement does reflect what you will find in the book. So did my students. I shared some insights with my niece and my nephew's girlfriend. They liked it too. It has some activities to keep readers engaged which I thought were very good. This book is especially helpful for introverted girls. I think it is spot on. It has a lot of advice I hear from my go to sources as an adult. Think positive thoughts, feelings are just feelings and they may not be true.
"It's true that the more you practice positive thoughts and feelings, the more it becomes your new normal. Give it a try!" ( I could stand to practice this a little more myself).
And, also, the practice of acting as if is utilized in more than one section. This is a practice I have learned to use in more recent times with my adult self, and it works!
I received this fantastic book from Netgalley. I highly recommend it if you know some teen girls. College and adult (me) girls will like it too. In fact, each chapter has a little guidance given from an older college- aged girl. My younger self would have loved that! It's easy to read and take away from. While I will hold onto to it as a resource on my tablet, as an educator, I would happily pick up a physical copy to share with the teens I meet.
I liked this a lot more than I expected to and agree that the above statement does reflect what you will find in the book. So did my students. I shared some insights with my niece and my nephew's girlfriend. They liked it too. It has some activities to keep readers engaged which I thought were very good. This book is especially helpful for introverted girls. I think it is spot on. It has a lot of advice I hear from my go to sources as an adult. Think positive thoughts, feelings are just feelings and they may not be true.
"It's true that the more you practice positive thoughts and feelings, the more it becomes your new normal. Give it a try!" ( I could stand to practice this a little more myself).
And, also, the practice of acting as if is utilized in more than one section. This is a practice I have learned to use in more recent times with my adult self, and it works!
I received this fantastic book from Netgalley. I highly recommend it if you know some teen girls. College and adult (me) girls will like it too. In fact, each chapter has a little guidance given from an older college- aged girl. My younger self would have loved that! It's easy to read and take away from. While I will hold onto to it as a resource on my tablet, as an educator, I would happily pick up a physical copy to share with the teens I meet.
December 31, 2015
Not sure a guy my age has any business reviewing a book aimed toward teenaged girls, but I felt that there might be stuff in here that could apply to older women who’d missed this boat, as well as men. I was right.
The first part is all about knowing yourself, and once you do, leaving your comfort zone. After that it becomes about communication, which is really the gist of this book. Basically college-aged girls tell their life experiences to make it easier for the younger ones reading this. After each there’s a section on what can be learned from those stories, which comes off a little preachy and too much like a textbook as it basically summarizes what’s been said.
Best quote: “If you give them a chance, lots of kids will give you help if you ask for it. And when you reach out for help, it gives them a chance to be the “expert,” and who doesn’t like that?” And the best advice: Being a good friend is the key to social success. It’s tough not to say that these things are rather obvious, because a lot of people, especially teenaged girls, aren’t that introspective. But at the very least it has some sections that help cut through the drama, showing that not everything is as bad as a fragile mind might make it out to be.
3.5 pushed up to 4/5
The first part is all about knowing yourself, and once you do, leaving your comfort zone. After that it becomes about communication, which is really the gist of this book. Basically college-aged girls tell their life experiences to make it easier for the younger ones reading this. After each there’s a section on what can be learned from those stories, which comes off a little preachy and too much like a textbook as it basically summarizes what’s been said.
Best quote: “If you give them a chance, lots of kids will give you help if you ask for it. And when you reach out for help, it gives them a chance to be the “expert,” and who doesn’t like that?” And the best advice: Being a good friend is the key to social success. It’s tough not to say that these things are rather obvious, because a lot of people, especially teenaged girls, aren’t that introspective. But at the very least it has some sections that help cut through the drama, showing that not everything is as bad as a fragile mind might make it out to be.
3.5 pushed up to 4/5
August 16, 2015
This is a great read for all females - not just teen girls. Although it does tend to use examples aimed at a teenage audience (e.g. use of social media, etc.) I believe it contains truths that can be applied by women of all ages.
The most resonating truth is the practice of self-love. I think it's particularly important to emphasise the word practice. Because self-love, for most of us, isn't something we magically wake up with every morning. It's something that needs to be re-taught to us, nurtured, and fed daily.
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The most resonating truth is the practice of self-love. I think it's particularly important to emphasise the word practice. Because self-love, for most of us, isn't something we magically wake up with every morning. It's something that needs to be re-taught to us, nurtured, and fed daily.
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August 19, 2015
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REVIEW BY: Arianna, age 12 years, 8 months
MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS:
I absolutely loved this book! It gave me great advice that will really help me survive my teenage years and be the best teenager I can be!
My favorite advice is knowing what "I bring to the party." I feel that too many of my friends are changing themselves to fit in and by knowing what makes me "me", it helps a lot because I realize that I should stay myself and not try so hard to fit in.
I recommend this book for those teens that need help surviving their life of middle and high school.
I give this book 4 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 11 and older.
REVIEW BY: Arianna, age 12 years, 8 months
MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS:
I absolutely loved this book! It gave me great advice that will really help me survive my teenage years and be the best teenager I can be!
My favorite advice is knowing what "I bring to the party." I feel that too many of my friends are changing themselves to fit in and by knowing what makes me "me", it helps a lot because I realize that I should stay myself and not try so hard to fit in.
I recommend this book for those teens that need help surviving their life of middle and high school.
I give this book 4 out of 5 stars and recommend it for ages 11 and older.
June 23, 2016
I liked it and thought the advice was cry practical. I didn't care too much about the quizzes, but I am sure they will appeal to the target audience. The advice from real girls seemed realistic to follow and wasn't corny. I thought it was a good balance of advice from the psychologist and slightly older peer mentors. Recommend!
April 18, 2016
I almost didn't skim the whole thing because I didn't like the way the book started--about caring how you look/bring to the party. But the other chapters are really good. She talks about important inter and intrapersonal skills--including going too far--like oversharing or over apologizing.
December 31, 2015
I won this book threw Goodreads. My daughter and I both read this book. Both really liked it.
December 16, 2015
Great book for any middle-school girl thru high school! Good, solid advice
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January 28, 2016very interesting ....maybe helpful to mother and child..
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