It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent's Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity

by Greta Eskridge

Author, speaker, and mom of four, Greta Eskridge equips parents to have age-appropriate, honest, and hope-filled conversations about pornography with kids of any age so that they can help their children develop lifelong sexual integrity.

Raising kids in the digital age comes with many challenges, but one of the biggest currently facing parents is how to navigate the prevalence and accessibility of pornography. Parents desperately want to protect their kids from being exposed to porn, but what happens when they can't? How do they connect with their kids and navigate those tough conversations?  

Greta Eskridge, mom of four and unlikely porn fighter, knows that it's not easy for parents to start a frank conversation about porn. The fear of saying the "wrong" thing or worry about how to answer uncomfortable questions can prevent them from connecting with their kids, but avoidance isn't the solution. In this book, Greta will help parents understand how essential it is to push through the awkwardness and show them how to create a safe space for conversation while tackling the toughest topics with confidence. With her support and encouragement, readers will

uncover biblical resources to help kids develop a healthy, God-honoring sexuality,learn principles and action steps to create open, honest dialogue on the prevalence of porn and the importance of sexual integrity, andbe equipped to lead an age-appropriate and honest talk for kids from preschool through high school. 

With practical tips, scripts for conversation, and a topical resource guide, It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn helps parents move from fear and frustration to hope and confidence that they can support their children in a God-honoring life of sexual health and wholeness.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Christian, Family, Christian Non Fiction

224 pages, Paperback

Published March 4, 2025

About the author

Greta Eskridge is a nature lover, book reader, and coffee drinker. She is a home schooling mom of 4, wife of 21 years to her husband Aaron, and an author and speaker. Greta’s first book, Adventuring Together, releases July of 2020 with Thomas Nelson. She loves to travel the country speaking and sharing her message of joyful, connected parenting.

Reviews

[Whitney Newby · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’m so thankful Greta had the courage to write this much-needed book. It’s incredibly practical (covering what to say in different situations and how to maintain your composure), thorough (addressing the issue from every angle), and filled with hope, rooted in solid biblical principles. I highly recommend it, especially for parents approaching the teenage years… though it’s valuable even earlier.

[Ginny Yurich · Rating 5 out of 5]

Another wonderful book by Greta Eskridge. This one is about a topic that is hardly covered in books today and that is highly sought-after by parents. I learned so much and have scripts that we can use that are age-appropriate throughout childhood. I loved the focus on real-world experiences and relationships as well. Phenomenal and timely book!

[Casey · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must-read for parents in this digital age. Greta handles tough topics with grace and compassion. I appreciate her boldness to help equip parents with tools necessary in tackling a matter that is often brushed aside or never addressed when raising kids/teens.

[Rachelle Cobb · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow! Even though this is not a book I thought I needed until my oldest was a pre-tween, the author proved me wrong. Even though this is a subject that has not something affected me personally, I live in 2025 and know it’s everywhere! I’m really glad I picked up this book because I learned a LOT.

With short engaging chapters, Greta tells the story of having her husband’s addiction almost implode their marriage and how that lit a fire in her to of course protect her children.

I will be buying a physical copy because the scripts are gold! I especially loved that this is written by a fellow 2nd-gen homeschool mom who doesn’t own a TV (same!). I think that really made me pay attention and realize that my preventative measures will only take us so far, so what next? Highly recommend!

Excuse me while I go read Greta’s other book right away!

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every parent needs to read this book!

[Shannon McGarvey · Rating 4 out of 5]

good starter for many heavy and necessary conversions to have with our children of all ages.

[Brettnay Brazzell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Greta does a great job tacking a difficult topic with intensity yet with love, grace and hope. Parents, we MUST be equipped to teach and talk to our children about porn and what to do when they've been exposed to it. I appreciate Greta being brave enough to speak about about a very real issue facing children today. Highly recommend!

[Emily]

My biggest take away from this book is keep an open, ongoing dialogue with your children. I really liked the author’s courage and her heart behind this book, but I didn’t agree with all of it.

Strengths
Acknowledges that pornography affects both men and women, sons and daughters.

Helps you to normalize the conversation and teach in age-appropriate ways.

Focuses on developing critical thinking skills to help children discern what content is acceptable to consume.

Encourages you to cultivate connection with your children and teach them to develop healthy friendships to combat loneliness, which can contribute to seeking unhealthy connections.

Weaknesses
I disagreed with the excessive application of parental controls for teens in particular. It came across as fear-based. Teens need to be able to practice critical thinking skills and self-discipline to be ready for the adult world they will enter. I think it would be better to focus on building trust, teaching spiritual disciplines, and maintaining an open dialogue first before applying controls, if necessary.

A personal thought about tech restriction: I have a child who is gifted in music and tech. He has learned several programming languages, written his own programs, and he uses one of those programs with his guitar. I had wanted a tech free childhood for our children, but to do so would have crushed this precious one’s spirit. My husband was instrumental in helping me see that I had allowed fear instilled by well-meaning social media posts (ironic!) to influence me. A dear sister in Christ who had already walked this path helped, too. Recognize and celebrate your children’s gifts. Sin does not reside in technology, but in the human heart.

This is an important topic and I’m glad that there are an increasing number of resources out there. I’m always surprised when parents tell me elementary school is too early to talk about sexuality at age appropriate levels, let alone pornography. This may be a good resource to encourage them to start the conversation earlier.

[Sadie VanderKodde · Rating 4 out of 5]

My advice: if you're not yet a parent or have very little kids, read this and learn from it. However, if you, like me have been doing this parenting thing for 10+ years, gird yourself for an onslaught of guilt.

Here's the thing: I wouldn't take advice from anyone who hasn't put their principles into action, but it's hard to hear about their success when I don't have the luxury of time.

This book is about way more than porn - it's about tech usage, family rhythms, and creating a culture of open-discussion with your kids.

The tips on porn were helpful. The rest make me wish I had read this book 15 years ago.

[Sharon Weaver · Rating 5 out of 5]

This felt thoughtful, clear, and genuinely helpful, especially in how it approaches a hard topic with honesty instead of fear. The guidance is practical and compassionate, making tough conversations feel more possible and less overwhelming for parents who really want to do this well.

[Amy Harris · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am so thankful to Greta for writing this book. It is such an important topic! I really appreciate her bravery in sharing her own story about the effect that porn has had on her life. She writes about this sensitive subject with grace, compassion, and love, through the lens of a biblical view of our bodies and sex. In addition to information about how porn usage impacts kids' mental, physical, and spiritual development, she also provides sample conversations and scripts for parents to use. Her suggestions have helped me to navigate conversations in my own family, with positive results. I believe that we have to overcome our own reservations and embarrassment surrounding the topic of porn and drag it into the light. She encourages parents to create a family culture that has a healthy and appropriate view of sexuality and their bodies. I can't recommend this book enough as a valuable resource for parents of children of all ages!

[Jeffrey McDowell · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best books I've read on the subject, especially about addressing the issue head on at a young age.

[Jill Marks · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for all parents, whether you have toddlers or teens. Filled with practical tools that can be used to address numerous situations and how to best keep our kids safe.

[Isabel · Rating 5 out of 5]

A necessary, compassionate, practical, unintimidating book! I’m not a parent yet but I think every parent needs to read it. Keeping this one to come back to in the future!

[Amelia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Greta is a needed voice in this hard yet necessary aspect of parenting our kids in a world that is inundated with pornography! This book has been eye opening and helpful and a great tool for evaluating what conversations I’ve had and which ones are still needed with my kids. I was encouraged by her desire for parents to consider what each kid needs to know in order to be safe and the many examples of how to tailor the conversation to different ages. Her encouragement is coupled with gentle admonishment to not shy away from these conversations. And conversations is a key word here. This is not a one and done conversation but many small conversations that build as our kids grow and mature.

Greta is quick to encourage us readers to remember that this fight is not done in our own strength but by God’s grace we teach our children the truth about the devastation that pornography brings and about the glory of a sexuality that is created by a God who gives good gifts.

Every parent will benefit from reading this book and then implementing her suggestions for how to talk for your kids about porn.

[Caitriona Riding · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a must for each and every parent. This topic is so important, especially in our day and age. Greta shares a lot of hard-hitting information about the effects of Porn. She runs through this and many similar hard-hitting topics, the effects, but most importantly how to start the conversations and talk about it with your kids. She even lays out sample dialogue, the key concept to focus on, and has it divided up specifically for different age ranges. Greta touches on this subject with hard & brutal truths, but she is compassionate every step of the way and consistently brings in Bible verses all through out when discussing these hard topics. There is so much richness in this book, from the talking points to key concepts, to the numerous amounts of resources outside of this book she directs you to at the end. A job very well done, I will be recommending this to every parent I know.

[Alyssa · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is necessary, important, and honest. I'm so thankful that Greta wrote these words out of love for not only her own family, but all of us who are surrounded by so many spiritual battles this world throws at us. Not many books are out there like this that are truthful, honest, and raw with humility. Putting her own family's stories out there for all to see is so humbling, as I would greatly struggle with that, but clearly it's through our weaknesses that Christ dwells in us and His power is glorified. Thank you Greta for your encouragement, boldness, and loving kindness! The information and encouragement in this book has led my husband and I to have these important conversations with our kids, and so far it has only brought us closer as a family and closer to God. If you have kids, no matter the ages I strongly encourage you to read this book. Don't be fearful, anxious, or turned off by the topic, because it's not going away in this world. If you love your kids and want to protect them from danger and harm then this is a topic you must be vigilant on!
Thank you NetGalley for the e-copy in exchange for my honest opinion.

[Sabrina Herbert · Rating 2 out of 5]

I really wanted to like this book as it started off really strong - and I was hoping to utilize it as Christian resource on a topic that lacks in literature. It was actually through this book that I realized why: I don’t believe pornography to be the category sin issue it is often approached to as. It is, if anything, comprised of several types of sins.

Because of that, we as Christians need to approach it as we would any other type sin - confession + repentance.

I felt the author was heavy on woke terminology for pornography and secular solutions, which made the gospel theme that was sprinkled throughout this book feel less important than it actually is. This also felt deeply rooted in gentle parenting, which I generally disagree with as a primary parenting tool Christians should be implementing.

I did agree with the author on discussing media that your children are consuming and are encountering - critical thinking skills -, and that this is not something we unfortunately can shield our children from forever. I did feel like her suggestions for discussion were a little heavy for little ages and maybe more descriptive than they actually need to be.

I do feel like if you just create a general culture in your home where the Bible is read and discussed daily, hymns are sang, your family regularly attends a healthy church, activities are done together, biblical discipline is utilized and family teamwork in most things is encouraged, you can create an environment where safety is felt and sensitive discussions can be had.

[Allison · Rating 4 out of 5]

“When should I give my kid a smartphone?”
“When you’re ready for them to see pornography.”

This wasn’t a particularly enjoyable book to read. But it is necessary. The Gel X and Millennial generations are the first who have had to approach the topic of porn with their kids in an intentional, strategic, and super-vigilant way. This is a terrifying reality, but Greta imparts courage and hope to us. I appreciated how she covered everything in this book with biblical encouragements. We are living in such a time as this, and God is still on His throne.

This book is COMPREHENSIVE. Greta literally covers everything that is going on these days, and gives information, strategies, scripts, etc.

Read this book to be empowered.

[Katherine · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was so good. It's certainly not what I'd call "fun" reading, but it was helpful and thorough and provided excellent scripts. I listened to this, but I think I'm going to buy a digital copy to have for reference. I also appreciated her candor while also recognizing that different families have different values and needs. It isn't judgy, but she doesn't hold back. Incredibly readable and important.

[Livi Ju · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this is a very important read for all parents. Greta speaks from her own vulnerability and with grace. It is an easy conversational read with thoughtful questions at the end of each chapters. I also appreciate how their are sample conversations that you can have with your kids, this is very helpful if you feel unequipped and unsure about how to talk about some topics.

[Cate · Rating 5 out of 5]

Greta did an incredible job tackling a heavy subject. Her words were encouraging, frank, gentle, and honest. She covers everything from puberty to sex, nudity in art to pornography, as well as provides sample dialogs for different age ranges. Her boldness to share her own story with how pornography affected her life and her willingness to have hard conversations with her own family has encouraged me to do the same. I wish I could get this book in the hands of every parent I know.

[Crystal Pollard · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a very practical guide/helpful tool to help you tackle a topic you WILL have to address with your kids and that you will have to start talking about earlier than you would like. This book also gives you sample scripts to help you start conversations at age appropriate levels.

[Bethanyanne · Rating 4 out of 5]

While uncomfortable to think about- this was an incredibly necessary book to read. Especially when considering how to approach this topic in the age where access to porn lives in the pockets of children.

[Alyson Dilling · Rating 5 out of 5]

An incredible book with tons of insight on a wide variety of topics. Definitely going to purchase a physical copy!

[Ben Riley · Rating 3 out of 5]

I appreciate the author tackling a difficult subject on which there is a paucity of literature. Her advice to talk to your kids openly, honestly, and candidly about the dangers of pornography is sagacious.

While she stressed the importance of not using shame to motivate kids, the framework she used still seemed to engender shame, especially among teenage boys.

The biggest gap in this book was the dearth of research. I especially would have liked a chapter addressing the impact of porn on the brain and healthy dopamine levels. The biggest benefit to not consuming porn is for the individual to actually experience healthy dopamine in other areas of life, which, is the most compelling motivator for those who are compulsive porn users.

Finally a much more robust discussion on the behavioral triggers related to porn consumption is even more important than the tools to block it.

[Daniellehullreads · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an informative and encouraging book. Eskridge gives great examples of how to talk with our kids, even giving a sample script for each topic based on age of child. There's an index of these scripts so you can easily refer to them in the future. Compassion is stressed, in order that our children will come to us with their questions or problems. The book ends with "Important Concepts" such as "media literacy," and a Resource Guide of books and sites to help us further.

We don't need to ruin our kids' innocence, yet we do need to prepare them for our tech-heavy world. It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn helps us with this necessary task! Highly recommended!

I received an eARC of this book from NetGalley. Opinions are my own. I found it to be valuable and have purchased a copy for our home library.

[Lindsey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book on a hard topic, but it’s just what I needed to hear! Greta speaks with encouragement and hope as we start these discussions with our kids. I feel so empowered as a parent to walk this path with my kids, helping them feel safe talking to me, and helping me respond with grace and compassion. Highly recommending this book to every parent I know!

[Jen · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so gentle yet clear and equipping for the parents reading and their children. The short scripts for various age levels and thoughtful questions for parents to consider were all relevant.

The audio version was read by the author and easy to listen to. It’s 6 hrs which I think makes for easy listening.

[Rūta Bacevičė · Rating 4 out of 5]

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