All Parts Welcome: The Queer and Trans Internal Family Systems Workbook

by Sand C. Chang

Embrace your authentic self, heal emotional pain and trauma, and build meaningful connections while honoring the complexity of your identity and experiences.

If you are queer or transgender, you may feel like you have to hide certain aspects of yourself, both physically and mentally, in order to “blend into” society. You may even feel ashamed of your differences, due to a history of judgment or rejection from others. You aren’t alone. Many queer and trans people feel disconnected from their authentic selves, or have internalized negative beliefs about what it means to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer, trans, nonbinary—or anything that deviates from our culture’s expectations regarding gender or sexual expression. So, how can you fully embrace the beauty of who you are?

All Parts Welcome offers skills grounded in internal family systems (IFS) therapy to help you build self-compassion, strength, and resilience as you reconnect with, reclaim, and befriend the parts of yourself you’ve lost touch with. The concept of multiplicity in IFS will show you how to honor all parts of your identity—such as race, ethnicity, religion, class, and ability—and help you gain a greater understanding of how these parts intersect with your sexuality or gender expression.

This workbook will help you:
Heal the pain of rejection—including rejection from your family
Honor the coping mechanisms that have helped you survive
Identify what matters to you
Set boundaries with others
Build community and meaningful connection
Boost your mental health  

IFS, at its core, is about inclusion and belonging—about making space for the complexity of our identities and experiences, including both the challenging and joyful ones. If you’re ready to celebrate all of the parts that make you you, this workbook can help you get started.

Genres: Psychology, Mental Health, Queer, Nonfiction

192 pages, Paperback

Published July 1, 2025

Reviews

[Lisa Gray · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this for work and wasn’t expecting to get much personally from it since I do not identify as queer or trans. BUT, I have to say I think this book was the best book I’ve read on the basics of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy. I myself find IFS to be confusing and a little intimidating (I have skeptical parts haha). The first half of this book is all about the self-led practice of IFS with some excellent worksheets and reflections. The second half is more geared toward the queer & trans community - but also there I got some gems. After all, we all have some sort of gender identity, we all have a body and we have all ingested the societal norms that are often not helpful. I HIGHLY recommend this book for learning about IFS, and especially if you belong to a marginalized community. So good.

[Amelia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this one! Listened on audiobook but just bought the hardcover too to re read it. Very helpful look into IFS and the Queer community. Second read will really help me I think. Definitely recommend!

[Jessica · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’m cisgender, but this workbook was actually very insightful and helpful. It’s not just for trans folks. It’s for anyone who isn’t straight and/or “typical”. It can be helpful for anyone in the queer community, and anyone in the neurodiverse community as well. I gave it four stars because the meditations and worksheets weren’t very good, but the book itself is very useful. I’m going to donate it to my local library or indie bookstore so someone else can benefit from this as well. 💗

[Kai Thigpen · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is such a wonderful book - very accessible for people who are new to IFS, and thorough with lots of valuable areas of focus for people looking to deepen their IFS practice. Beautifully centers queer and trans communities without flattening the wealth of experiences our communities hold! I recommend this for people to do alongside therapy as well as for people looking to do their own exploration.

[Nick Krieger · Rating 5 out of 5]

I use IFS both personally in my own life and as a practicing therapist, and I can't recommend this workbook enough! I've read so many IFS books and this is the first one that feels like it's speaking directly to me as a queer and trans person and to the clients that I work with directly. I've already suggested it to one of my clients. IFS is such a useful and accessible approach that I'm deeply grateful this book will make its way to the queer and trans community.