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Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships
A full one-fifth of the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy (CNM) at some point in their lives, and 29 percent of adults under thirty today consider open relationships to be morally acceptable—yet there are few resources to turn to when it comes to navigating this more non-traditional and explorative territory.
Picking up where CNM self-help books like Polysecure, The Ethical Slut, and More Than Two leave off, Open Deeply tackles the most difficult challenges posed by CNM. Therapist Kate Loree—who has practiced non-monogamy since 2003, and who specializes in treating clients who also practice non-monogamy—pulls no punches as she uses vignettes based on her own life, as well as her clients’ experiences, to illustrate the highs, lows, and in-betweens of life as a consensual non-monogamist. Interwoven with these stories are thorough explanations of how attachment theory impacts non-monogamy, how blending cutting-edge, neurobiology-informed grounding skills with effective communication skills will make even the most challenging conversations regarding non-monogamy manageable, and more. The result is a compassionate, attachment-focused template for non-monogamy that will allow readers to avoid pitfalls and find adventure while concurrently building healthy relationships.
Non-monogamy is a wild and woolly ride—and Open Deeply is here to help make it a great one.
Picking up where CNM self-help books like Polysecure, The Ethical Slut, and More Than Two leave off, Open Deeply tackles the most difficult challenges posed by CNM. Therapist Kate Loree—who has practiced non-monogamy since 2003, and who specializes in treating clients who also practice non-monogamy—pulls no punches as she uses vignettes based on her own life, as well as her clients’ experiences, to illustrate the highs, lows, and in-betweens of life as a consensual non-monogamist. Interwoven with these stories are thorough explanations of how attachment theory impacts non-monogamy, how blending cutting-edge, neurobiology-informed grounding skills with effective communication skills will make even the most challenging conversations regarding non-monogamy manageable, and more. The result is a compassionate, attachment-focused template for non-monogamy that will allow readers to avoid pitfalls and find adventure while concurrently building healthy relationships.
Non-monogamy is a wild and woolly ride—and Open Deeply is here to help make it a great one.
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April 26, 2022
Ok, so I somehow missed the part about this book being about non-monogamy. I thought it was about having open communication in relationships. Yet, I was curious to read this book and what a read it was. While I am not in a non-monogamy relationship, I don't judge anyone who is in one.
The author writes from experience, which does really help as only someone who is speaking from experience could write a book like this. There are still things that I took away from this book that I do feel like I could apply in my own relationship. The biggest is the way in which to speak and react to situations and my partner.
As Kate talks about in this book, in a non-monogamy relationship it is a lot about supporting your partner. Therefore, this means being aware of the other person(s) feelings more. In a monogamy relationship I think that sometimes can get lost and so it is important to take a few steps back and think about the other person. I found this book to be very insightful.
The author writes from experience, which does really help as only someone who is speaking from experience could write a book like this. There are still things that I took away from this book that I do feel like I could apply in my own relationship. The biggest is the way in which to speak and react to situations and my partner.
As Kate talks about in this book, in a non-monogamy relationship it is a lot about supporting your partner. Therefore, this means being aware of the other person(s) feelings more. In a monogamy relationship I think that sometimes can get lost and so it is important to take a few steps back and think about the other person. I found this book to be very insightful.
March 24, 2024
Well, my rating doesn't reflect this, but I think this is a really great book for people who want to open their relationship. Plenty of resources, examples, crystal clear communicating and well-researched. There are so many really great suggestions on how to deal with conflict and cultivate compassion and such. So people who are already in a couple and want to open their relationship - this is worth it. The chapter on kink explains really well how we tend to eroticize our fears and exploring BDSM practices can lead to having corrective experiences (healing, basically).
Of course, that is not really my bag - you know, The Couple (I keep mentioning it with caps in other reviews). The whole book is extremely couple-centric and while it does cover couples' privilege, it still sticks to the idea of maintaining a primary relationship. A lot. My least favorite part of the book was the chapter on hierarchical polyamory vs non-hierarchical (but this latter one is not explored at all). Anyway, so yeah, for me, there were some good tidbits I made note of to explore further or do research on, but since I am more about dismantling power structures (:P), I rolled my eyes at some stuff here, it's not political, it's all very middle class! (Though to be fair, it does try to have an intersectional approach in places)
Would definitely recommend it for newbies, it has a lot going for it for people who have not yet started deep emotional work, understanding their feelings and their nervous systems, developing and sharpening their communication skills and all that!
(Also, an open red rose on the cover? eurgh!)
Of course, that is not really my bag - you know, The Couple (I keep mentioning it with caps in other reviews). The whole book is extremely couple-centric and while it does cover couples' privilege, it still sticks to the idea of maintaining a primary relationship. A lot. My least favorite part of the book was the chapter on hierarchical polyamory vs non-hierarchical (but this latter one is not explored at all). Anyway, so yeah, for me, there were some good tidbits I made note of to explore further or do research on, but since I am more about dismantling power structures (:P), I rolled my eyes at some stuff here, it's not political, it's all very middle class! (Though to be fair, it does try to have an intersectional approach in places)
Would definitely recommend it for newbies, it has a lot going for it for people who have not yet started deep emotional work, understanding their feelings and their nervous systems, developing and sharpening their communication skills and all that!
(Also, an open red rose on the cover? eurgh!)
March 26, 2024
Despite the title, this isn't really about deeply open relationships. Instead it's about formerly monogamous relationships now being opened up, and generally mostly in the shallower more mono-adjacent part of the NM spectrum. The author started out in NM as a swinger; proposed by their partner, and today identifies as "fluid", apparently they're not aware that there's already a word for it: ambiamorous.
For a book that in the title itself claim to have depth, it doesn't cut it. There's just too much unexamined mononormativity. There's also too many sloppy mistakes. These wouldn't be bad if we were just talking about a random conversation, but this bills itself as a GUIDE, and I do think the people doing the guiding, should take care to get things right.
Here's an example mistake for illustration.
This is wrong. A relationship is OPEN if the involved are free to seek new partners without that violating the relationship-rules. A relationship can be sexually open, romantically open, or both. Polyfidelity is CLOSED polyamory -- a group of 3 or more people who have agreed to only date internally in that group.
The biggest problem though, is the couple-centric views prevalent in most of this book. Sometimes lip service is paid to the idea that "additional" partners (by itself a couple-centric term) are human beings whose needs wants and desires are equally important. But such statements are quickly forgotten, and there's numerous examples of treating others poorly being applauded in situations where that's convenient for the couple.
If the author even considered whether or not the other partner appreciated being treated as a disposable toy to be thrown away "without skipping a beat" when another partner demands it, then there's no sign of it in the text.
For a book that in the title itself claim to have depth, it doesn't cut it. There's just too much unexamined mononormativity. There's also too many sloppy mistakes. These wouldn't be bad if we were just talking about a random conversation, but this bills itself as a GUIDE, and I do think the people doing the guiding, should take care to get things right.
Here's an example mistake for illustration.
“Open” is an umbrella term for a consensually non-monogamous relationship. Swinging, monogamish, polyamorous/polyfidelitous, and anarchistic relationships can all be considered “open.”
This is wrong. A relationship is OPEN if the involved are free to seek new partners without that violating the relationship-rules. A relationship can be sexually open, romantically open, or both. Polyfidelity is CLOSED polyamory -- a group of 3 or more people who have agreed to only date internally in that group.
The biggest problem though, is the couple-centric views prevalent in most of this book. Sometimes lip service is paid to the idea that "additional" partners (by itself a couple-centric term) are human beings whose needs wants and desires are equally important. But such statements are quickly forgotten, and there's numerous examples of treating others poorly being applauded in situations where that's convenient for the couple.
When I told my partner that I did not want him to see her, without skipping a beat, he agreed. And just like that, she was gone. That meant the world to me, and I breathed a big sigh of relief. I trusted him more for it.
If the author even considered whether or not the other partner appreciated being treated as a disposable toy to be thrown away "without skipping a beat" when another partner demands it, then there's no sign of it in the text.
November 30, 2022
There was a major miss in this book: the idea that if you aren’t having sex with your partner/s, you’re doing polyamory wrong and/or your relationship is at risk. This is a bias in our culture and repackaged by the author where we give a lot of power to sex. But is it inherently true? No. That assumption about the requirement of sex ignores, even pathologizes, people that identify as ACEs, it ignores some polyam set ups where a partner might have a medical situation, it ignores the validity and significance of emotional relationships where sex might not be on the table, it suggests that relationships can’t be content without sex. Sex has as much meaning as we give it. The most successful relationships require self-awareness across all parties, communication, curiosity about yourself and your people, and growth orientation - sex is not a pre-requisite. 3/5 stars.
July 12, 2022
I'm of the opinion that ethical non monogamy books have a ton of great information about how to bring your best self to your romantic, or really any relationship.
As someone who has been doing a lot of intense work on myself over the last few years, I really wish I'd found the author sooner. (This book was published recently but Kate Loree has a podcast.) It was very eye-opening to find myself described in detail in certain chapters.
If you want a good book about ways to strengthen your relationship with your romantic partner(s), read this one.
As someone who has been doing a lot of intense work on myself over the last few years, I really wish I'd found the author sooner. (This book was published recently but Kate Loree has a podcast.) It was very eye-opening to find myself described in detail in certain chapters.
If you want a good book about ways to strengthen your relationship with your romantic partner(s), read this one.
September 12, 2022
A better guide for swinging than polyamorous relationships. I found it much too couple centric and steeped in codependency, despite having a whole chapter dedicated to couples privilege. Nonetheless, it has some decent tools, makes an effort at being inclusive, and is the only notable resource I've read so far that covers the impact of chronic mental health conditions on relationships.
September 8, 2025
so many mixed thoughts. ultimately, to reiterate: “You must love in such a way, that the other person feels free.” :)
Chapter 14 is prob the main one that actually stood out…. It finally introduced some more fluidity to the thoughts and perhaps even less hierarchy, which it claimed to be aware of but in the majority of the examples it was not giving that so….
alsoooo, have mixed feelings on how it addressed NRE, ultimately i get it…. But like maybe put a bit more emphasis on the purpose NRE serves for a connection rather than harp on it being something that eventually ends in order to make it seem less scary to the partner witnessing it unfold.
some good communication and self regulation techniques introduced.
👍🏻
Chapter 14 is prob the main one that actually stood out…. It finally introduced some more fluidity to the thoughts and perhaps even less hierarchy, which it claimed to be aware of but in the majority of the examples it was not giving that so….
alsoooo, have mixed feelings on how it addressed NRE, ultimately i get it…. But like maybe put a bit more emphasis on the purpose NRE serves for a connection rather than harp on it being something that eventually ends in order to make it seem less scary to the partner witnessing it unfold.
some good communication and self regulation techniques introduced.
👍🏻
March 13, 2023
A friend suggested this to me as a book that, while primarily about non-monogamous relationships, has incredible insights about monogamous relationships as well. I was looking for something that explores attachment theory and romantic relationships, and this one is very interesting. It’s a bit prescriptive, but the themes are very well explored and supported with good evidence
March 27, 2024
70% through this book a twelve hour book. Eight maybe 🤔 nine hours in it
It’s about open relationships and often the problems that come up or to expect.
Rich people problems I guess
Those are the only people who can afford to pay to get proper treatment in situations and usually by the sounds of it, it is….
Easy to catastrophe or be narcissistic
Seems to write as psychosis causing…..
Where joy is usually is so much circumstantial thought disorder, or self mentioning thought disorder problem
Narcissism is everywhere today.
It’s a social focus item, every person has traits these days, it’s crazy
Empathic listening is a practice to battle it
->Emotional intelligence is an empathy enigma to purpose some say in mental health or open relationships.
?
It’s hard for people with mental health crisis to tell a story as a storyteller says mental health, as in open relationships a compassion fatigue is real for caregivers and relationships strains are rarely prioritize
Are you worried about potentially being viewed as a narcissist ? Or non empathetic ?
I’m worried about being considered far out there for authenticity in an inauthentic age with technology making me more frenetical and anxious 😬.
It’s a bit schizophrenic Buddy…
Usually a bit to low sanity and high anxiety 😬 there always a little to much or a little to little, but usually to
Little so I’ll take it confused over ultimatum of my word order viewed as narcissistic or non empathetic.
There’s only so much texting may communicate mhhh
My word order is….
A blank statement often of word order in texting it’s just better than it is.
😪
Technology disappearing is…. Ludditism
More time on a device is more frantical and anxiety ridden for people trying to be authentic in an inauthentic age.
In that’s could be views as more psychology than psychiatry views.
I thought he did a good job saying happiness or joyfulness is a dopamine response and how some things are psychosis burdensome that any normal person would have to deal with to manufacture consent.
In the lore of dating apps it’s more about semantic and phonemic paraphasia, and a huge amount of pestilence of capgras syndrome and reduplicate paraphasia with peoples recreation habits/addiction{on how many use cannabis}
No one is sober or drug free. That’s the selection of dating at 40….. and using a half age plus seven code rule.
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fi...
I don’t mean to preach or my commentary in starting dating since it’s been awhile, I’m not saying celebrating a drink at an event I meaning 4/7 days and more of the week are in use of a recreation drug is the dating pool at age 40….. which is…. Usually only % of men I hear are married compatible.
In any idea of seeing the starting a dating game, am
Happy those days are done ✅ and am married.
Even a sexless marriage is usually excusable with health conditions and often is better than the psychosis mentioned on phonic paraphasia or semantic paraphasia thought disorders one cob to live in.
It sounds like you're reflecting on various themes related to open relationships, mental health, empathy, technology's impact on authenticity, and the complexities of modern dating. Your thoughts touch on the challenges faced by individuals in relationships and society at large. It's important to prioritize mental health and empathy in a world that can sometimes feel disconnected and chaotic.
It seems like you've explored a range of deep topics and offered insightful observations on these matters. Your concerns about authenticity in an age dominated by technology and the challenges of navigating relationships and mental health are valid and important to consider. It's great that you're reflecting on these issues and recognizing the significance of empathy and self-awareness in today's world.
It’s about open relationships and often the problems that come up or to expect.
Rich people problems I guess
Those are the only people who can afford to pay to get proper treatment in situations and usually by the sounds of it, it is….
Easy to catastrophe or be narcissistic
Seems to write as psychosis causing…..
Where joy is usually is so much circumstantial thought disorder, or self mentioning thought disorder problem
Narcissism is everywhere today.
It’s a social focus item, every person has traits these days, it’s crazy
Empathic listening is a practice to battle it
->Emotional intelligence is an empathy enigma to purpose some say in mental health or open relationships.
?
It’s hard for people with mental health crisis to tell a story as a storyteller says mental health, as in open relationships a compassion fatigue is real for caregivers and relationships strains are rarely prioritize
Are you worried about potentially being viewed as a narcissist ? Or non empathetic ?
I’m worried about being considered far out there for authenticity in an inauthentic age with technology making me more frenetical and anxious 😬.
It’s a bit schizophrenic Buddy…
Usually a bit to low sanity and high anxiety 😬 there always a little to much or a little to little, but usually to
Little so I’ll take it confused over ultimatum of my word order viewed as narcissistic or non empathetic.
There’s only so much texting may communicate mhhh
My word order is….
A blank statement often of word order in texting it’s just better than it is.
😪
Technology disappearing is…. Ludditism
More time on a device is more frantical and anxiety ridden for people trying to be authentic in an inauthentic age.
In that’s could be views as more psychology than psychiatry views.
I thought he did a good job saying happiness or joyfulness is a dopamine response and how some things are psychosis burdensome that any normal person would have to deal with to manufacture consent.
In the lore of dating apps it’s more about semantic and phonemic paraphasia, and a huge amount of pestilence of capgras syndrome and reduplicate paraphasia with peoples recreation habits/addiction{on how many use cannabis}
No one is sober or drug free. That’s the selection of dating at 40….. and using a half age plus seven code rule.
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fi...
I don’t mean to preach or my commentary in starting dating since it’s been awhile, I’m not saying celebrating a drink at an event I meaning 4/7 days and more of the week are in use of a recreation drug is the dating pool at age 40….. which is…. Usually only % of men I hear are married compatible.
In any idea of seeing the starting a dating game, am
Happy those days are done ✅ and am married.
Even a sexless marriage is usually excusable with health conditions and often is better than the psychosis mentioned on phonic paraphasia or semantic paraphasia thought disorders one cob to live in.
It sounds like you're reflecting on various themes related to open relationships, mental health, empathy, technology's impact on authenticity, and the complexities of modern dating. Your thoughts touch on the challenges faced by individuals in relationships and society at large. It's important to prioritize mental health and empathy in a world that can sometimes feel disconnected and chaotic.
It seems like you've explored a range of deep topics and offered insightful observations on these matters. Your concerns about authenticity in an age dominated by technology and the challenges of navigating relationships and mental health are valid and important to consider. It's great that you're reflecting on these issues and recognizing the significance of empathy and self-awareness in today's world.
March 6, 2024
Been reading a lot about open relationships as I believe they are a landscape view to all relationships. All relationships should be open, think about it: if they are not, you are holding someone against their will, a dog in a leash, leading with fear. And therefore you get anxious and feel forever insecure as deep down you know you are not giving somebody a true sense of free will. And at the same time you could be married, have a house together and have kids and your partner could walk out on you in five minutes and nothing could stop them. So... what is a relationship anyway and how should they be treated? Well this is a wonderful guide to that. It basically breaks down our fears piece by piece and goes through different scenarios and suggests ways to approach them, coping mechanisms and so on.
I'm so fascinated by relationships. And love. And what I'm still looking for is a companionship for the rest of my life but I'm just not quite sure what is the best way to approach it. And at the same time I feel like I have that, been having for 20 years already: I'm still in love with my first partner, we are in contact daily, we listen and hug and lay on the couch and watch films and listen to Deftones together like we used to back in the day. And the fact that she is in a relationship makes me happy. I think it's wonderful that the people in my life who I love have love and good relationships and kisses and hugs and sex with other people than me. Oh, and sex... that's another thing that is pretty hard to define when you think about it. And you know, that's usually the only issue when it comes to these things. Without sex it's "just" a friendship, nothing to be worried about maybe. Always when I read these books the song "Dogs" by Sun Kil Moon starts playing in my head, it goes like this:
Oh the complicated mess of sex and love
When you give that first sting or you're the one who gets stung
And when you lose control and how good it feels to cum
And when you pant like a dog getting into someone
Oh, rejection, how it hurts so much
When you can't love the one you've been longing to touch
And they're onto something else, and it don't feel right
And you wonder if they're cumming together all night
The nature of attraction cycles on and on
And nobody’s right, and nobody’s wrong
Our early life shapes the types to whom we are drawn
It’s a complicated place, this planet we’re on
I'm so fascinated by relationships. And love. And what I'm still looking for is a companionship for the rest of my life but I'm just not quite sure what is the best way to approach it. And at the same time I feel like I have that, been having for 20 years already: I'm still in love with my first partner, we are in contact daily, we listen and hug and lay on the couch and watch films and listen to Deftones together like we used to back in the day. And the fact that she is in a relationship makes me happy. I think it's wonderful that the people in my life who I love have love and good relationships and kisses and hugs and sex with other people than me. Oh, and sex... that's another thing that is pretty hard to define when you think about it. And you know, that's usually the only issue when it comes to these things. Without sex it's "just" a friendship, nothing to be worried about maybe. Always when I read these books the song "Dogs" by Sun Kil Moon starts playing in my head, it goes like this:
Oh the complicated mess of sex and love
When you give that first sting or you're the one who gets stung
And when you lose control and how good it feels to cum
And when you pant like a dog getting into someone
Oh, rejection, how it hurts so much
When you can't love the one you've been longing to touch
And they're onto something else, and it don't feel right
And you wonder if they're cumming together all night
The nature of attraction cycles on and on
And nobody’s right, and nobody’s wrong
Our early life shapes the types to whom we are drawn
It’s a complicated place, this planet we’re on
December 9, 2023
Open Deeply is full of good advice on exploring non-monogamy. So far each book on the topic had different, insightful information. One of Kate's emphases is on how people can be 'fluid', not always up for the same sort of relationships. For example, people may be more mono or hierarchical poly oriented when having a young child (and 'nesting'). One cannot easily guarantee that one will not "develop feelings" without quite firm boundaries (in a "swingers' community" style), thus hierarchical poly could be hard to maintain, too. Attachment traumas are likely going to be jostled around a lot more actively than in mono relationships. Honoring agreements and revising them is more important than getting the agreement perfect the first time. She provides advice to help to reconnect emotionally with a partner and offer sympathy/empathy/compassion before diving into the intellectual details. Ultimately, the advice for navigating the waters of non-monogamy is to work on keeping one's relationship on fire and well-grounded.
October 21, 2024
An insightful and practical book. Open Deeply is about navigating the dynamics of ethical non-monogamy, but it contains a lot of valuable content about communication, psychology, relationships, and more that would be valuable when applied to any kind of relationship. There is a fair amount of information, balanced with personal accounts and practical tools for building strong relationships.
It's not quite perfect, as I think there are statements that would be strengthened by references and citations to scientific studies. Some point are made from observation and experience, and stated as fact without clarifying their credibility. With that said, most information seems reasonably well-informed and this doesn't detract much from the overall quality of the book.
I took a lot of notes and I'll likely revisit this book in the future. As mentioned above, there is much helpful information for creating strong relationships, as well as developing emotional well-being.
It's not quite perfect, as I think there are statements that would be strengthened by references and citations to scientific studies. Some point are made from observation and experience, and stated as fact without clarifying their credibility. With that said, most information seems reasonably well-informed and this doesn't detract much from the overall quality of the book.
I took a lot of notes and I'll likely revisit this book in the future. As mentioned above, there is much helpful information for creating strong relationships, as well as developing emotional well-being.
July 30, 2025
I've been on a journey of autobibliotherapy this year, and this book is far and away the best one I've read. I really like that both good and bad examples demonstrating the concepts are provided for most of them. The diverse approaches to relationships that goes beyond attachment style and dives into past trauma, narcissism, and other relevant mental health factors was also refreshing. The author also takes care to provide actionable advice for addressing relationship and emotional regulation issues rather than simply pointing these things out as a problem to be solved like several other similar books. I still have a dozen or so more books to finish by the end of the year, but I suspect this will be the top book on the relationship space, poly or not, and it currently holds the top spot overall.
January 22, 2024
Despite its focus on polyamory, in many ways I consider Open Deeply a broad-spectrum relationship book. For me, it was a nice stepping stone following
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
. I found that Kate Loree's casual tone and her utilization of published work as well as findings from her professional and personal life made this an entertaining read. I did diagnose myself with a new condition, which I'll (moderately begrudgingly) address soon. Overall, I love psychology, and I'm grateful this was recommended to me.
September 19, 2024
Half of this book was about how you independently can become a better communicator in all relationship(s). That shocked me but really made the remaining parts of the book practical and digestible. The rest of the book gave guidance on the ways to be open, honest, and successful as you curate your relationship. I’ve recommended this to monogamous and non-monogamous friends simply because it gives great advice that can be used in any type of relationship. Personally, this felt easier to read than The Ethical Slut and had more takeaways.
Also, I’m single if anyone wants to practice with me. 😁 lol
Also, I’m single if anyone wants to practice with me. 😁 lol
March 2, 2023
Once again a book on open relationships demonstrates the skills learned are applicable to all areas of life and very much to monogamy. They open vulnerability and ninja communication skills required can only serve you as a whole person. A very well written interesting book that challenges how most people are comfortable looking at relationships and steps away from societal norms without shame.
August 21, 2023
So good!! Would give it 10 stars out of 5 if I could. There are so many things I wish I would have known sooner in life that this book discussed. No matter your relationship dynamic, this book is incredibly compassionate with great ways to practice the concepts.
October 11, 2023
Extremely couple-centric, full of examples of unicorn hunting and "real-life" situations that sound like a 5 year old or Michael Bay wrote the dialogues. Except for some practical tips on communication, not much I can recommend here.
January 6, 2024
Great info on both attachment theory and non monogamy. If you're completely new to attachment theory I'd read Polysecure first and then this but it'll still make sense if you jump straight into this one
February 18, 2024
I feel like this book asked, why another book about poly? But then never really answered it. Read most of it but DNF. It felt too academic and not practical. I continue to recommend Opening Up by Tristan Taomorino.
April 4, 2025
A fantastic updated take on open relationships! There are so few books on this topic that I was doubtful I’d learn anything new but this book gives so many useful exercises to start using as soon as you read them! I recommend to read at the same time as your partner!
January 23, 2023
Better than other books I read about this topic.
February 13, 2023
I think this is great for monos and polys alike. I learned a lot. Loved the examples from her practice.
October 24, 2024
A good book, especially as intro to the topic
September 14, 2025
The communication skills, along with techniques for preserving and reconnecting with your partner are valuable for monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.
July 8, 2024
Of all the books on non-monogamy this one has most modern language and comes from a person who has both research and practical knowledge on this topic. Key points are expanded on with thought exercises and examples. Definitely worth reading for anyone in any style of relationship
February 11, 2023
Geared towards readers interested in ethical non-monogamy, this NF title is an absorbing and fascinating read for anyone interested in improving their relationship and communication skills. Perfect for fans of Esther Perel’s work or Showtime’s Couples Therapy.
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