How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships

by Francesca Hogi

Modern dating is broken. It’s time for a true love revolution.

It’s rough out there. From dating apps that don’t reliably connect us, to the unrealistic ideal of love we’ve been sold by fairytales and romantic comedies, finding love can feel like an uphill battle. Combined with digital overload, rapidly shifting cultural norms, and an ongoing loneliness epidemic, it’s no wonder so many are disillusioned with modern dating and relationships. And yet, romantic love and connection still remain a key factor in what motivates and fulfills us. Here’s the good your desire for true love isn’t a pipe dream – it’s a call to date differently than you’ve been taught. Francesca Hogi, certified matchmaker and dating expert, is here to show you a world of romantic possibility beyond our broken dating culture, and it all starts from within.
     In How to Find True Love, Hogi provides a better, more realistic method for actually finding and keeping real love. Dating can’t be hacked, but it can be transformed. With her advice, exhausted romantics will find comfort in releasing the impossible ideal of a “one true love,” and instead come to realize that true love is first and foremost a type of relationship, not one individual person. Co-creating a true love relationship with a great partner is a choice, one available to everyone who wants healthy love. Hogi will show you a holistic approach to dating through the four dimensions that make true love your Mindset: think bigger about love Heartset: feel better about love (and yourself) Soulset: connect with a higher love  Skillset: date in alignment with love   Above all, true love is really an inside job. Rooted in optimism and purpose, How to Find True Love is a necessary guide for the weary dater. No matter your romantic history, present circumstances, or dating challenges, you can make true love inevitable.

240 pages, Hardcover

Published April 8, 2025

Reviews

[Elizabeth · Rating 4 out of 5]

Won a finished hardback copy via a Goodreads giveaway.

Really appreciate how this book encourages readers to be open to a romantic relationships, from not making snap judgments about people and compatibility to trying new approaches to finding a good fit. It’s filled with lots of sound advice and important reminders that are easy to forget when you’re in the midst of searching for someone. Loved the historical introduction, even if I wish it had been a little longer (per my personal preference for context!). The heartwork sections, MCM Pillars, and some of the other aspects of the book were a bit challenging for me, if only because they were sometimes so abstract. However, I see the value they bring and think they definitely added to the book. The dating self-care tips and other practical steps were super useful. Overall, a good read—one that folks will want to keep around to reference along their journey.

[Maria Grigoryeva · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very kind book, the kind self-talk you want to run in your head on repeat whenever you slide into "I am not ok". If I could only have one take away from the book it would be this: Date RAW. A guideline to follow when you’re looking for a significant relationship 1)ready, 2)able and 3)willing. All three are ideally present within both you and your love interest.

[Art]

This book was pretty good overall. I especially liked the structure of the book, including the table of contents, footnotes on various pages, and the little assignments at the end of each chapter. I can see how people might benefit from the nuggets of advice that the author provides. Whether a person finds another individual to love or not, I'm pretty sure that everyone can find some areas of potential improvement.

I am grateful to have received a free copy of the book to evaluate through a Goodreads giveaway. Peace be with you. :-)