As children, we crave recognition from our parents. Look at you, are you smart? “Do you really like my gift?” “Are you proud of me, Dad?” When we go to school, we also need to be accepted. When the teacher accepted my behavior, I got good grades. Otherwise, we will have difficulty. They may be allowed a little variation in their academic performance, but for the most part they depend on others' recognition of their own success. As teenagers, we continue to follow the principle of asking permission — “Can I do this?” “Is that possible?”