Ever been on the verge of buying your own engagement ring? Ashley Stockingdale, the charming but always-in-over-her-head patent attorney from What a Girl Wants , has finally found the man she wants to marry. But after nine months of dating, it seems her commitment-phobe boyfriend will never use the "M" word. And just when she thinks she's got it all together, Ashley is having trouble knowing where to put it. A massive remodeling project, a hyperactive puppy, and an ex-boyfriend who wants to be part of her life again all keep Ashley's world spinning. As the mayhem escalates, Ashley's life quickly goes from What a Girl Wants to out of control.
About Kristin I grew up with a strong sense of justice. I simply knew the way things should be. And since I’m not smart enough to be a district attorney, I am a novelist. My childhood was slightly confusing. I blame my parents for this. Oh heck, I’m going to blame them for everything. I think I would have turned out normal if it weren’t for them. the billerbeck's
Okay, probably not. I am a fourth-generation Californian, and an American mutt, but identify most strongly with my Italian heritage. My mother’s family, of strong Norwegian/German descent, tried to teach me how to do things right. How to cook, clean, sew, budget accordingly – all the things a proper young girl should know to be a contributing member of society. I, however, failed miserably. For my 40th birthday, my grandmother gave me a cookie gun, so it’s clear she hasn’t given up on me yet! That is eternal optimism!
My dad’s Italian family taught me about the good life. The indulgent life. How to eat, shop and be merry. My Nana had very tiny feet and a penchant for shoes (she worked at the Emporium, no doubt to fund her shoe addiction). My afternoons at her house had no lessons, other than how to walk in her high heels, drape myself in her mink stole and drip myself with rhinestones. Tastefully, of course. I picked up on this lifestyle much quicker.
I graduated San Jose State University with a degree in Journalism & Mass Communications (emphasis in Advertising), gave my life to Jesus during college and found my true love in a Christian Singles’ Group, which yes, I skewer in “What a Girl Wants”. He is German. Practical. And a Contributing Member of Society. I am still Italian, fluffy and an aficionado of fine shoes & handbags.
Together, we have four children and now it’s our turn to confuse them. The circle of life. Dysfunctional family style.
Ashley Stockingdale is back with more of her drama-queen antics (aka whining) in this sequel to What a Girl Wants.
Ashley has been dating her boyfriend for 9 months, and there seems no end in sight. He won't commit to anything long-term, and he starts to squirm whenever the subject comes up. Ashley apparently loves him and wants to get married, but he won't commit, and at the age of 31 she is feeling her biological clock ticking. Back and forth Ashley goes on the subject, she loves him, but should she just cut ties because there seems no chance of long-term commitment? Then an old boyfriend enters the picture -- he's handsome, caring, affectionate, basically too-good-to-be-true, and he wants more than friendship with Ashley. And in true drama-queen form, this complicates matters even worse. Combine Ashley's boyfriend issues with her work issues, family issues, and her best friends baby issues, and Ashley's life is sent spinning "out of control!"
Maybe it's because I'm younger than Ashley (she's 31 and I'm 22), maybe it's because she lives on a $150K salary and I don't, or maybe it's because her personality is just totally different from mine.....whatever the reason, I just can't "click" with her. She takes everything and really just over analyzes it, rehashes things over and over, and basically blows things out of proportion -- hence her 'drama-queen' nickname. In my mind, I tend to just sum this all up as "whining". She is also rather vain about her appearance...not her face or hair or things like that, but about her clothes. She is always wearing some big name brand, and she likes to mention it. (Amazingly, I actually think I've learned a valuable lesson from Ashley Stockingdale, and it is this: Since I've been reading about her, I've been alot more careful about what I say, I'm really trying to think before I speak, because I really don't want to come off sounding the way Ashley does.)
One last note: I do think Ashley has grown as a person a little bit since the first book, What a Girl Wants. In this second book her life does spin out of control (mostly from her own doing), but towards the end of the book she does get her priorities straightened out; although she is still a big-name clothes loving gal with that drama flair, and she probably always will be. I've already bought the third/last book in the series, With This Ring, I'm Confused, so it will be interesting to see if she keeps her priorities mostly straight or if she dramatically spins "out of control" again.
This series highlights in hilarious ways, the lessons a Christian single woman needs to learn in her pursuit of love. Ashley had to learn that who she wants and who wants her may not in the same man. Quite confounding. Many Christian women can relate. The guy is "perfectly" Christian, so are you - well if not "perfectly." You two find each other attractive. You two are of age and financially capable. You both want marriage. So the problem is....? Now from book one a non-Christian was on her tail. Things changed in book two. But what she holds on to, does not have what she needs.... Now that we have highlighted some of the learning points in this book, let's talk about the author.
She is one of my favourite authors because of her humour in writing. You will read about a situation that isn't funny, but you will find yourself giggling or bursting into laughter. The more you can relate to something the character is experiencing, the more hilarious it is. That's therapeutic.
There might be some boring interludes in the story, but endure it because if you don't you will miss something juicy. That boring interlude is the moment before the punchline of a joke. If you weren't paying attention, you will not understand what the joke is about.
The realness of Ashley as a person is what Non-Christians can also relate with. It shows that Church girls have similar desires as non-Christian girls and they also experience love/relationship drama even within "organised religion".
All in all, it's a novel (series) you will enjoy reading over and over again. Especially, if you are going through confusion in your quest for love. You will laugh and also learn.
This was better than the first in the series, What a Girl Wants. The characters were more developed and the guys' redeeming (or not so) qualities came out more. I am happy with her decision at this point. Like that matters. It will be interesting to see what happens with Ashley in the next book, With This Ring, I'm Confused.
I like reading series because you get more time to get to know the characters and they have time to change over time. A lot of chick lit seems to be written so quickly that the characters are just cookie cutter molds of each other and it's like reading the same book over and over. So pointless. This is a refreshing change. And it's Christian fiction without the Christianity being shoved down your throat.
I’ve noticed consistent themes in the two books I’ve read by this author. There is one obsession the main character is focused on (her big hair or her need to shop or be married). There are multiple men vying for the main character’s attention. She is always fixated on the wrong ones. And the main character also has a really low self-esteem and constantly talks about wanting to look a different way or lose more weight. The Christians in her life usually are either very uptight and judgmental or act just like the non-believers she continues to call out for their shortcomings. Her life is always out of control. The story moves too quickly and is kinda choppy. I felt like the character and relationship development is lacking. I think I’ll probably call it after reading this second book.
She’s Out of Control was a nice quick read, funny and charming, good for a trip to the beach or a poolside read. I personally felt that Ashley, the main character, was a bit shallow and spoiled. I have no problem enjoying a book with that kind of character, but I also did not feel that I could relate to her throughout most of the story. I enjoyed it as a quick read without to much seriousness.
Been re-reading this one every few years since I was a teen a bit dated now but still a cozy comfort. Story a bit repetitive especially when reading in a binge but we love Ashley Stockindale; the sass the fashion! (Definitely didn’t name my first dog Rhett because of the influence of this book 👀😂)
Well. I read book 1 of Ashley Stockingdale's life a year ago and just now decided to finish our her series. Book 1 must not have annoyed me much if I kept on my list books 2 and 3. Because if it had annoyed me as much as books 2 and 3 (that review is forthcoming) then I wouldn't have finished the series. Ashley Stockingdale is a Christian who gives the term "Christianese" it's full meaning. She is, in all honesty, shallow, self-absorbed, and obnoxious. Many times I wished I could enter into the pages of the book and smack her. She's really annoying. Billerbeck did the Christian single a great disservice in this series by having Ashley so focused on grabbing herself a man and having shopping as her life's love that I fear the stereotype will continue. So many Christian singles are way beyond snagging a spouse and shopping - they are thoughtful individuals who would rather buy a well of clean water in Africa than buy a Coach bag - even if it is on sale. Billerbeck had a chance here, in my opinion, to change the stereotype of the Christian single woman but instead she encouraged it. Ick. The author portrays that shallow faith that makes thoughtful, intellectual people running screaming in the opposite direction of Christianity. I felt like running myself and I am a believer! She employs the use of Christianese and has the characters practicing "bad" doctrine. I'm really sorry I read books 2 and 3 because they were a huge waste of time. :( I believe Billerbeck writes well enough to make a real difference in the stereotypes of Christians but she doesn't live up to her opportunity to do that in this series.
First I must say, that I love Ashley Wilkes Stockingdale, the heroine of this book series. I also like her friends Brea, Kay and Dr. Kevin Novak. The series is styled Christian Chick Lit, but it is relevant to women everywhere, Christian or secular, regardless of ethnicity. I'm a Black American female, but I totally get where Ashley is coming from. In fact, some of my friends actually think she sounds like me. I think it's wonderful when an author can develop a character so thoroughly that s/he comes alive on the pages. This is what Kristin Billerbeck achieves in these books. The friends are not just supporting characters. They have heart, emotions and opinions. Boy, do they have opinions!.
That said, this is my favorite book of the series. Why? Because there is laughter, drama, pathos, romance, "oh no he didn't" moments, emotional and spiritual conflict, awakenings to truth, righteousness and possibilities; confrontation with personal fears and insecurities, and lots of love. Of course I enjoy the little trips into fashion, food and all the other cute comments - but that's what adds some of the color and fun. It's a journey with someone who could be a friend, and at the end of it, you actually feel like you learned something. It's satisfying with a sigh of pleasure, like really good chocolate cake from one of my favorite restaurants in Half Moon Bay.
[Okay, not the best review I could write, but hey, if you read the book, you'll totally get it.]
I feel like there have been Mandy Moore movies made out of some of these books, no? I have not seen these movies, although I am strangely titillated by the concept of Mandy Moore in a series of Christian-chick-flick movies. If there exists a market for chick lit about adorable Christian lesbians, I am that market.
Anyway, I like this book. I like, in a large part, being reminded that there are people in their twenties whose inner lives are comprised in a large part of trying to maintain a relationship with the define, failing spectacularly, and experiencing grace. I wish that someone could write books like this in a slightly less formulaic way: I can only vaguely recollect the differences between this book and its sequel. I think people did write books like those I am craving... in 1835. Maybe that's the direction in which I need to head. I wish the writing were more memorable, here, but not as much as I wish that the more literary books being written now were not so thoroughly schooled in out postmodern milieu. I'd rather read every single book Billerbeck has written than read another book about a twenty-something dealing with his or her existential crisis by having an affair. I think.
She's Out of Control is an apt title for Ashley's goofy life in this second book in Billerbeck's Ashley Stockingdale trilogy. Unlike other poor little rich girls, though, Ashley is completely loveable in her crazy antics. The novel begins with Ashley lamenting the confused interest of her boyfriend, geeky bald engineer Seth. When he scurries off to India for a job, Ashley's left in a state of total confusion, with the puppy he bought her rapidly increasing in size and destructive qualities. You can also add in the total infatuation of an ex-boyfriend, uber-hot doctor Kevin Novak who's recently converted to Christianity and is certain God thinks Ashley is the girl for him.
I raced through the novel, giggling all the way, eager to find out what happens to Ashley and her gang of Reasons - California-Christian singles from her church. Billerbeck leapt into the genre of Christian chick lit with her first enjoyable trilogy (and has made a splash with her second, the Spa Girls novels). You will laugh your way through She's Out of Control as you try to understand what might be happening in Ashley's seemingly unstoppable imagination.
wow! I'm completely with out words... slightly torn, confused, and simply sitting back... trying desperately to cling on to the notion that God really does know what's best, and has the most AmazingPlan for each and everyone of us. Unfortunately, some pieces of all of this hit so dern close to home it's frightening... now if my knight in shining armor would just pop his head into my life, I might be able to actually move along *shrug* in His Timing... I know *sigh*
FTR: at this rate (approx. 1 1/2 days per book) I should be able to send the whole set to miss Bethy-poo. So, same goes for them all: enjoy, read whole-heartedly, share... just make sure it gets back to me eventually!?
Oh, and when you finish each one... would ya call me, for HeavenSake!? I need to be able to rant & rave with someone!
*quickly exits to read the next book* Toodle-oo!
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a fabulous and fun read, that had me up late into the night with laughter, intrigue, and happy tears... the book that renewed my faith in quality inspirational fiction!
For a "clean" Christian chick lit book, I found Ashley to be entertaining. Of course I got bored of her overly dramatic search for a husband, which often came off as whining, but she was a very likeable person other than that minor issue. I read the 2nd book first (not knowing it was a series or even Christian) and from then, I read #1 and #3....all three in a little over a week. I'd be friends with Ashely in real life as long as she wasn't too preachy.
The three books are very typical chick lit (girly movie) type books, but after I was finished, I really wanted Kristin to write a 4th book to update me on Ashley and her new life.
Very cute beach read if you can get over the minor whining...definitely read them in order because once I read #1, it was redundant since I already knew what happened. It was just nice to know HOW it all happened.
This Christian chick-lit book is the second in the Ashley Stockingdale series and it picks up right where the previous one left off. Ashley is in a dither as she tries to make her relationship with the man of her dreams, Seth Greenwood work out. However, their differing approaches to their relationship make it difficult for them to come together. The situation is further complicated when both of their exes show up and their is renewed interest from the exes. While I generally liked the book, at times I became exhausted with Ashley's constant search for a husband and her flippant approach to life that mainly involved shopping for more and more stuff. Yet, the book is meant to be fun and it is fun and should not be taken too seriously.
This book was excellent. I found myself not being able to wait until the next opportunity I would have to get back into it. This is the second book in the Ashley Stockingdale series. I had read the first (What A Girl Wants) back in 2003 and thought that I wanted to get back into it. As soon as I finished She's Out of Control, I went to the library and checked out the last/third book in the series and am now reading that.
This is good Christian chick lit. It's fun and enjoyable and relatable as well. Where's my Kevin Novak?
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This book is the second in teh Ashley Stockingdale series. It picks up where book one left off. The characters are likeable and the storyline while predictable keeps a good pace. If I could have a I would have given this book a 3.5. It was good to get another glimpse at what was going on the the lives of the characters of this book. I would recommend this author and this series especially if you want a light quick read.
I just saw this book at the library and thought it might be good. It was super funny. A girl has been dating a guy for 9 months and thinks its time for an engagement but the guy has other ideas. The big day comes and all her friends have been invitied to the boyfriends for a surprise. He gives her a dog instead of a boyfriend. Her world is crazy and she is a bit misguided and naive when it comes to men. It is a cute story and would like to see more with the same characters.
Classic tale of which guy will she choose. Portrayed the two guys as equally likable at first and I was pleasantly surprised at her choice. I love the drama surrounding each guy. Ashley is a character we feel like we can relate to. I read this series one after another. Good thing my friend owned all 3!
This is the second book in Billerbeck's Ashley Stockingdale series. I am happy to say that I really enjoyed this book! Ashley finally grew a backbone, which is something I need in a female character (especially the heroine). This book was much less predictable than the first and, though I still can't see myself in Ashley, I did enjoy "watching" her stumble through life in her own clumsy way.
This is the first book in a trilogy of "Christian Chic lit" about the same main character Ashley Stockingdale. The writer's style is so fresh and the character Ashley is so quirky...her life is really believeable. In the book you follow Ashley, a patent lawyer, on her "indirect" search to find Mister Right. I caught myself laughing out loud at least a dozen times. It was so much fun to read!
I'm enjoying this cute and fun "Christian chick-lit" series, and this second book was better than the first. I liked Ashley more in this one, though I do still think she can be a bit judgmental at times. (That was reined in a lot in this book, though.)
By the third book, I was becoming a little redundant, but I still enjoyed reading it. Sometimes it is fun to have something light to read that doesn't require much concentration.