Raising AI: An Essential Guide to Parenting Our Future

by De Kai

From the pioneer of translation AIs like Google, Yahoo, and Bing translate, an accessible and authoritative guide to AI—as well as a framework of empowerment for a future with our artificial children.


As AI becomes the ever-trending keyword, having a leader in this radical new technology to help illuminate the impact of “the automation of thought” on our way of life has never been needed. How is AI’s widespread everyday use impacting our world, our minds, and our future—not just as a technical innovation, but as a mode of culture? Should we be afraid? Longtime AI trailblazer De Kai brings a decade of his paradigm-shifting work at the nexus of AI and society to help audiences make sense of our interactions with AI at both personal and collective levels—ethically and responsibly.

While Hollywood narratives of AI destroying humanity may be overblown, the future of civilization in the age of AI is truly shifting exponentially. What should each of us do as the responsible adults in the room? De Kai asks critical, overlooked questions requiring urgent attention. Written for the general reader, as well as thought leaders, scientists, parents, and academics, Raising AI gives us an accessible framework to navigate the enormous impact of AI upon human culture, values, and flow of information. De Kai shows us that society can not only survive the AI revolution, but also flourish in a new world where we all play our part in a more humane, compassionate, and understanding society—alongside our artificial children.

Genres: Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Science, Nonfiction

280 pages, Hardcover

Published June 3, 2025

Reviews

[Fiona · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is the most interesting book I’ve read about AI. De Kai has been working with AI for decades and clearly knows his stuff. At times, he seems to struggle to explain concepts at a basic level we ignorant luddites can understand and occasionally I felt like he was being too basic but this is the problem with writing non-fiction; determining what your audience knows and doesn’t is almost impossible. Overall, he does a wonderful job of explaining the ways in which AI needs be better designed and trained (aka parented) by us to ensure it doesn’t destroy society with its childish ignorance.

[Camilla · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was super intrigued by the premise/thesis of the book, that we are “raising” AI as pseudo-parents. I still think that’s a creative and useful idea, but the metaphor felt stretched/irrelevant to some of the chapters and I don’t think he necessarily sold me on it. Also the writing was just… bad? (Not to be too harsh but it was giving STEM kid writing an essay yktv) 😭 I do credit him on putting responsibility on both individual users and companies/developers for how AI acts tho

[Elizabeth Chan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Absolutely fascinating and riveting

I picked up this book thinking it was about raising kids in the era of AI. But it is actually about how we — as the primary parenting generation of AI — can influence the trajectory of AI’s development.

This book introduces me to a lot of new ideas, especially around information disorder.

I am also intrigued by the idea of having PTA Boards for AI model development.

Highly recommended.

[Hye-Jin Shim · Rating 4 out of 5]

As an AI researcher, Raising AI made me deeply reflect on the direction we’re heading in. The idea of training a model as if we were raising a child gave me a sense of responsibility toward developing AI ethically and thoughtfully. I’m not sure how accessible the book might be for general readers who aren’t familiar with AI concepts, but I would still recommend it as it offers valuable insights into how we coexist and grow alongside AI.

[Allison · Rating 5 out of 5]

De Kai raises lots of interesting and important questions about the future of AI. Definitely a very timely book given the rapid adoption of generative AI by companies. I particularly appreciated the book's focus on the intersection of technology and philosophy. Readers who are somewhat technical will get the most out of this book but it's a good read for everyone.

[Mike Gormley · Rating 2 out of 5]

I felt this book could have been written in a fraction of the pages used. The first interesting thought came around page 100 in the idea of using Enlightenment principles to define policy around AI content. I felt the sub divided definitions of AI bias and how it influences us not particularly useful or offering much new to the conversation. Somewhat disappointed.

[Curtis Robinson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Phenomenally concise and thoughtful!

De Kai seeks to unravel the fears surrounding AI, in not only a human and intellectual format, yet also in a complex historical,
ethical and compassionate narrative.

[Jo Beth · Rating 3 out of 5]

My summer of trying to understand and not fear AI. This one written explaining AI as children. Thought provoking

[David · Rating 5 out of 5]

Review to come...

[Nina Le]

found this looking for a recently published book about AI and society. I was curious about the perspective of an author who's directly involved in AI development/research