It's My Turn

by Tina Fuller

Want to gain freedom from your manipulative and self-centered parent? This book gives you the tools and coping strategies needed to break free from the grip of narcissism, by using my 4-step program P.A.C.E. The only person who should be controlling your life is you!

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology

158 pages, Paperback

First published September 8, 2011

Reviews

[Jennifer Hullinger · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book helped me realize a lot of the patterns in which I've been stuck for years. I was raised by two narcissistic parents, so there's been a lot to sift through. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is trying to heal from abuse and manipulation.

[Travel Writing · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read this little tome for the authors experience of being raised with a narcissistic mother. It is well worth the read, especially if you think your parental unit(s) might be on the narcissistic to
garden-variety-a**hole spectrum.

The author writes very engagingly and covers a lot of ground in a very accessible way. She is able to explain things very clearly and the use of her own experience in her family was invaluable to me.

I truly enjoyed "It's My Turn", but it really is just an opener or a support text for your journey. I also felt, perhaps an unintended by the author, exhortation to 'Get past it. You already lived it. Let is go." kind of rush. That was a bit off-putting.

I would gently suggest a few other reads, written by mental health experts, that may assist on the actual healing aspect- without making you feel rushed for not already having moved past a lifetime of emotional neglect.

*What's in the way is the way- Mary O'Malley
*The Tao of Fully Feeling & Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving- Pete Walker
*She Loved me, She loved me Not- Linda Converse
*Will I ever Be Good Enough? -Karyl McBride
*The Body Keeps Score- Kessel Vander Kolk
*Anything by Beverly Engle or Peter A. Levine

[Julie Main (Schnatterly) · Rating 5 out of 5]

Growing up with a narcissistic parent can be so isolating and painful. Tina puts things into perspective in a clear and direct way that helps the reader identify these common characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder.

This book is written in simple language making it readable for everyone. Though it makes me sad to know that anyone else grew up with the abusive behavior of a narcissistic parent - the resounding message of peace and comfort this book gives is "YOU are not alone and you are not crazy".

[MKF · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's My Turn is a book about Narcissistic parent told from the victim. This book discusses just one of the many types of Narcissim and how you can tell. If it not the type you have experienced it is still a great book for victims. Tina has created excercises and P.A.C.E. to try and help other victims to move forward and heal from the years of abuse.

[Adam Z · Rating 5 out of 5]

Typically I don't bother to read, let alone purchase an independently published book. Be it right or wrong, my opinion has been if the author couldn't find a publisher to pick up his or her work, then it probably isn't that great a read. This book single-handedly proves that assumption wrong.

I was led to this book from a Facebook group that the author admins, which, unsurprisingly, is a support group for children of parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The author spends the first couple chapters helping the reader to identify behavioral patterns that are indicative of NPD, while also relating some of her own experiences dealing with her mother. Later in the book she coaches the reader on how to move beyond past hurts, forgive, and how best to be at peace with the NPD parent.

This is a great resource. Tina knows what she is talking about, and communicates her knowledge & experience on the subject in a clear and well-organized manner. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who suspects that they are dealing with a parent with NPD.

[Brenda Lee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Best book ever!!

Wanna know what Narcissi people are & protect yourself from them , read this!

[Mandi Scott · Rating 4 out of 5]

This short book is like a beginner’s guide to discovering you’ve been raised by narcissistic parents. While there may be more detailed texts on the topic, this one is a great place to begin. It defines Narcissistic Personality Disorder in parents, then teaches how to identify their behaviors that help verify this mental illness. It emphasizes that parents with this personality disorder cannot change or recover from their condition, but offers tips on how to protect yourself from the pain, suffering, and havoc they cause in families. The book identifies 3 categories of adult children of narcissistic parents; are you a conformer, a rebel, or a runner? It gives each type of adult child practical how-to advice on gaining freedom from manipulative and self-centered parents.

[1verylovedmom · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book!! This is one of the only books I have read on this topic that gave tips on how to have somewhat of a relationship with a Narcissitic parent. They are who they are and I can accept that but I can't accept their abuse any longer. I learned a lot from this book andit is reassuring to know I am not alone. The best part was that I now have tools I can implement with my parent. It still saddens me that I will never have the relationship with them I had hoped for but I can now let go of that and continue building healthy relationships with my own kids without guilt. Thank you, Tina Fuller, for sharing your wisdom.