Beth Thomas’ seemingly perfect life is about to take a detour. At thirty-five, she’s married to her college sweetheart, has two adorable kids, and finds fulfillment teaching part time at the local university.
But when a friend persuades her to go dancing on a rare night out, a chance meeting with a handsome former student changes the course of her life. Loud music, too much to drink, and the thrill of feeling young again lead to an unforgettable kiss that was never supposed to happen. Beth feels wanted again, listened to, cared for, but she knows it’s wrong.
She tries to put the memory behind her, but he pursues her, drawing Beth back to temptation. As she travels deeper into Dave’s world, Beth struggles to choose between what her mind says is right and what she truly craves.
I think this is a first book ever where I did not particularly like the main characters, but I still really enjoyed the book. I guess, because I could understand their choices and decisions, it was easy to relate and connect with them. However, I really hope somebody will slap me if my life ever becomes similar to Beth's!
"Do other women fantasize about living a different life? Do they passionately love and loathe their families at the same time?"
Beth Thomas is a mother of two boys and a wife of a man who has really forgotten how to be a husband. The story is about her struggle of finding herself, getting to know herself again and filling this hole, she always felt inside her.
On the night out with her friend, Beth ran into one of her old students, Dave. She always had a crush on him and turns out he had a crush on her too. Her husband, Rick, hasn't really paid any attention to her for a while and for Beth it felt good to be wanted by somebody. One thing leads to another and in the end of the night Beth kisses Dave. Although it was unforgettable, it should have never happened. Now Beth is split in two, she feels angry and guilty, but she has to decide is she taking that kiss further or does she stop any contact with Dave?
"And who the hell gets to say what's wrong or right for us?"
I was conflicted throughout the whole book. I knew that the cheating was wrong and I wish I could have judged her for the choices she made, but I really couldn't because I felt the conflict she was feeling and I was able to understand the decision she made. I actually really enjoyed the conflict in my own head, because I just didn't know how and what to feel. Also, I constantly had to guess in which direction the story will go, because I had no idea. I loved that.
Yes, it was easy to connect with Beth and I could easily understand her choices, but I was struggling with liking her because she seemed weak. She was putting everybody else first, and that left her unhappy. If you are unhappy you should change something, not wait for a miracle. I am 22 and unmarried, so I probably don't know what the hell I am talking about, but if I had a husband like Rick, who doesn't care about his marriage or his wife, I would be seriously pissed.
I hated Rick, because ultimately I blamed him for everything. I know that Beth's decisions aren't excusable, but if Rick would have been a better husband than maybe the kiss would have never happened.
Dave, khm. I am still conflicted about him. He was fun and sweet, but the fact that he wanted a married woman makes it hard to like him.
Anyway, I really liked the book and the emotions I felt while reading it ♥
"We have many soul mates who come into our lives to teach us the lesson we need to learn."
Lastly, I really felt like there were so many great lessons packed in this book. It was a story which takes place after the HEA, and it shows the struggles families and couples really have. I really enjoyed it and I highly recommend it if you are in a need of less lovely-dovely stuff. :)
"Are you lost in remembering? It happens to me all the time." ♥
*ARC provided by the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review*
I'm very torn about my rating for this book. On one hand, it brings to light some issues that few women feel free enough to talk about. On the other hand, the execution made it less insightful and meaningful than it could have been. I suppose I feel that it missed it's potential.
We all know that marriage is hard. Many of my friends that got married in their twenties are divorced now. I pride myself on my eleven year marriage, and I'm happy to say that our marriage is currently the happiest it's ever been. However, we've been through some dark, dark times. And I distinctly remember thinking "Is this all there is? Is this going to be my life?" End of the fairy tale, Nicole. This is it. Somewhere between babies two and three and a myriad other problems that come with melding your life permanently to a person who is, in fact, NOT the person that I married...came this moment of "Oh no!"
And that's what's going on with Beth right now. Baby number two is one year old, baby number one is a precocious seven year old, and her husband sees her as a maid/childcare worker/end table decoration. And Beth feels it. She wakes up every morning and lives her life on autopilot...a passionless, dull, gloomy existence. Memories of her early marriage don't seem to rekindle any hope for the future. To put it bluntly, it seems that both she and her husband have given up. But she loves her children, and puts all of her devotion into raising them, foregoing that advice that all mothers get pounded into their heads..."Take care of YOU as well as everyone else." Somehow, everyone else always seems to take up all her time.
One thing leads to another, she goes out dancing with a friend, has a few too many drinks, meets a former student of hers who looks at her like a woman, and voila'...magic. She feels sexy, she feels wanted, she feels validated as a human again. Dave wants to talk to her, he admires her daily grind, he wants to know more about her boring life, and all of the desires of the past rise up with her libido.
This can be headed nowhere good.
On to my thoughts: In such an emotional, thought provoking and easy to relate to story, I would have thought I'd have felt more of a connection with everyone involved. In reality, I think I felt more emotion for Beth's husband than I did with her. Regardless of the fact that I could relate to Beth because I've been in nearly her exact situation, I ended up feeling somewhat angry with her. She took things way too far and it almost got to the point where she was sabotaging herself on purpose. I thought that her husband kept trying to help her out. He could tell that she was feeling down and that something was wrong. He'd push her to go out, he'd push her to be a better person, to get away from the kids, etc. Her decision to be overwhelmed by her young children was just that...her decision. She had two different Grandmas available and willing...sometimes begging...to take the kids for a day or overnight. She had a friend begging her to come out with her, she had a husband pushing her out the door. I very quickly lost my sympathy for her. I hate to consistently compare her experiences to mine, but I didn't have that kind of support system. I had my kids 24/7 for their entire early childhood, with the occasional evening out without them. Beth actively chose to be in her situation, and it was frustrating.
When she goes out with her friend and the friend has lost a lot of weight, Beth is angry. Instead of supporting her friend, maybe getting tips and feeling encouraged to better herself, she again shows a lack of character and strength by pouting and actually contemplating ending the friendship. It was beyond childish.
There were a few other things that bothered me but the last thing I want to point out is the ending. It was very underdeveloped and concluded way too quickly. Someone reading a book like this is likely going to want some decisive resolution, and that didn't happen here. We're led to believe certain things happen but it was still very much up in the air. It went from huge climax to THE END in record time, and it wasn't enough, not for this story.
So, while I was looking forward to reading a book I could really identify with, in reality I felt more frustration than anything. Like I said, Beth was too self destructive to be a sympathetic character for me. I felt less emotion than I think I was supposed to, and it wasn't necessarily that the story was bad. The writing style and the author's "voice" were not my cuppa.
Before I begin, I was given a copy of this book for an honest review.
"Do other women fantasize about living a different life? Do they passionately love and loathe their families at the same time?"
Patricia Mann definitely hit the mark with this heartwarming and utterly poignant story. This book will suck you in from the very first page and you just can't help but feel for Beth. The cover and the blurb really captivated me, and I really wanted to read what Beth's choices were when she entered into this situation. This book isn't just a detailed play-by-play of a clandestine affair, it is SO much more than that. Reading this book made me realize the gravity of relationships, of marriage, and just how far is too far.
Throughout the book, I could really see Beth struggling to maintain balance and control among her children, job, marriage, and social life. Her life is normal and everything you'd expect, but to her it's just...dull. Lifeless. Lacking passion. A chance meeting reuniting Beth with a former student helps put her life into perspective.
"You're just like your father that way. You try so hard, do all the right things, take care of everybody else until you explode and act out, doing something destructive."
Crash and burn. Through the descriptions of Beth's daily routine, it was thoroughly predictable that Beth would just snap and need a break from life. And part of the reason why her relationship with Dave was so inevitable was because of the novelty. The thrill. The forbidden. Who could resist the allure of youth, the promise of passion? My heart went out to Beth because any normal married woman could find herself in Beth's situation and be conflicted over the right decision to make. Is there even a right decision?
As for Beth's husband Rick, he was what a normal married dad with kids was like. He genuinely cares for Beth and is a responsible and loving father.
"But something inside me knew he was the real thing. Unlike anyone I had ever known, and in spite of my deeply held stereotypes about frat boys, it was clear that this young man was just a purely decent, honest, ethical, human being."
That begs the question: how did their marriage just fall apart if Beth and Rick loved each other and knew they were it for one another? Such a simple question but with too many complex answers. What I love so much about this book was how real this story is. I constantly felt like I was a silent observer of Beth's life, a third wheel on her social outings. I think Iyana's reading best summarizes Beth's journey:
"There are many paths you can choose at this point. It's not that one is the right one and all the others are wrong, but there are some that will bring you closer to your truth."
This book is definitely for any woman, married or not, who finds herself struggling for identity and asking the question: "Who am I?" This book blew my mind and I sincerely hope that Patricia writes a sequel where I can see what life has next for Beth.
First thing I did after reading this book, I went and kissed my husband. Not just a peck but a full on tongue twirling make love to his mouth kinda kiss. I wanted him to know that I desired him above all else.
I honestly can’t say I liked this book. My heart still hurts from it. There were so many real emotions that I went through and the process of what happened breaks me up inside. I silently begged Beth not to do the things she was doing and when she didnt listen to me, I was really upset with her. Not like me being upset with a character in a book like she is but like she was a friend of mine and I just couldnt believe she would do this to herself.
I totally get where she's coming from. Especially as a woman, a wife, a mother. We take everything upon ourselves to get it done and done right. She felt like her world was coming apart and a small glimmer of hope comes in the form of a young college kid. He says the right thing and with just a simple word everything is thrown out the window.
It was never about someone new. To be loved, lusted, appreciated, and cherished, it didnt have to come from her husband.
Beth never anticipated her life to spiral out of control but what she thought was innocent flirting turned into gut wrenching torture of the cruelest kind. She couldnt get enough of him and the more she got a taste the more she couldnt wait for the next moment with him. But that high didnt stick around for long and right when she thought she was on cloud nine her world comes shattering back to reality and none of the pieces fit back together like they used to.
Personally the ending would have been different had this happened to me but the way things wrapped up in the story felt more like reality.
Thank you Ms. Mann for allowing me to review this book.
My Review – warning - a lot of personal feelings mixed with the summery of this book –
I gave this 2 stars, because I thought it was ok
I was not expecting this type of book. There was a lot of personal feelings in this book for me, so I was struggling with rather I should finish reading it or not.
Everyone struggles in their marriage. And anyone who says they haven't had a couple of weeks or months where their marriage was put behind other things is probably going through that phase right now, or hasn't gotten there yet :)
My husband and I have been married 16 years, and I was 4 months pregnant when we got married. It wasn't a shot gun wedding by any means, and neither was Rick and Beth's wedding. They fell in love, they got pregnant and decided to start their future together sooner.
And like Beth, eating for comfort when your husband isn't there to give it. Taking on the toll of your kids and the house, the working outside of the home. I think Beth had it a little easier than I did. She had her mother and mother in law always wanting to take the kids for a few hours here or there. But Beth wasn't happy with her marriage, so she drowned herself in her love for her children, and felt no one could take care of them like she could.
But when Beth's Friend Rachelle talked her into going out with her one night, Beth found another way to feel appreciated.
Personal note... I go out with my girlfriends all the time. Dancing, movies, dinner - whatever - but I've never once felt the desire to hang out with another guy.
This is the part of the book that really got me down. Beth ran into a few guys she taught at the university. And it was fun to have the guys flirt with her. Hang out and show interest in her. And when Dave started paying extra attention, and buying more drinks, Beth got in a little over her head.
We can blame the alcohol for that. I don't drink, so I don't know what it's like to lose my head in alcohol like she did.
But when she saw him again, she was fully sober, and when he kissed her again I wanted to personally slap her myself.
Then we meet Jill - Jill is ok with cheating on her husband. And is actually encouraging Beth to go farther with Dave because he makes her feel good in ways Rick, Beth's husband doesn't, or hasn't in a long time.
I do know I would never be able to forgive or forget if my husband ever cheated on me, and I would expect the same from him. So to read about Jill encouraging this, really pissed me off.
But another thing I was upset about, is you can see Rick trying. He seemed to want to fix things with Beth, even after she told him she wasn't happy. And I seriously didn't understand WHY she would push Rick back and go back to thinking about Dave...
Well like I said, this book disturbed me in a lot of personal ways. It doesn't leave you feeling awful at the end. There is hope. And anyone who has struggled in their own marriage knows that when both people want to stay together, it will take some work.
"Is This All There Is?" feels like something of a punchline after reading because the title had me thinking much the same about the quality of the book, not the content. I have read quite many romance books that deal with the issue of cheating spouses well, but this wasn't done very well, I think. Sure, it was realistic in turns, and one could say the portrayal of family and the stress associated with the female protagonist being directionless and not having her needs met in her current life were palpable, but I couldn't go through this without thinking that the kids were the awesome ones in this story, and the vast majority of the adults were people I wanted to throw the book at. What made it worse was that the narrative drug its heels in some key places that it made me lose interest very quickly.
Beth is a 35-year old professor who isn't happy with her respective life. I don't know if I would call the blurb 100% accurate for this book because of it citing that Beth has the "perfect" life. From point one of this book - you can tell she's overworked, overwhelmed, and her needs in her marriage are not met. Her confidence and ability to tell her husband "no" to things and assert her needs is bottom of the barrel at best. The story starts off establishing the relationships with the people Beth has in her life - and I liked the attention paid to Beth, her grandmother, mother, friend Shelley, her kids, and her husband. But it takes about 70 pages to work up to the encounter of Beth meeting her 21-year-old fling, a former student at that. Dave's personality is about as dull as a doornail - I couldn't get any dimensional arguments about why I should've cared for his character. He supposedly made Beth feel wanted/needed/appreciated, but I didn't see that. Instead, I saw a 21-year-old clingy man-child who kept telling Beth how much he wanted/needed her. And even when Beth's young son had a major accident befall him, Dave was more interested in getting Beth to see him again and to make her imagine being with him. Beth's husband wasn't any better considering how possessive he was, and when the other shoe fell and he discovered her transgressions, his reaction sickened me. I understand being angry, but telling your wife to drop her panties to show evidence that she *didn't* sleep with her fling just made me sick.
The only reason I'm not giving this a single star is because the kids were great characters and it does walk through Beth attempting to address her issues alongside her husband in the end. The ending was a bit of a cop-out for its nature, but I did appreciate the therapist sessions toward the end. But it didn't feel fulfilling to me in the way of a true coming to terms with what a more responsible and developed narrative would've brought to it. It was dramatic with no heart to it and, in turns, felt repetitious.
It was a sincere letdown for the promise it could've had.
Overall score: 1.5/5 stars
Note: I received this as an ARC from NetGalley, from the publisher.
We never get to read a book of what happens after marriage. One can think that after that everyone gets his happily ever after but married couples have to work ten times harder to make their relationship last, to make their love grow and not lessen.
This story felt so real . At the beginning, I was so sorry for Beth. She had to be there for her family but no one was there for her. She is a Professor so she had to work, watch over her two kids and take care of the house.
"Do other women fantasize about living a different life? Do they passionately love and loathe their families at the same time?"
I was there, hoping that her husband did something for her, something in order to light up their love again.
"It's so cliché, you know? I craved attention, affection, someone to kiss me passionately and take an interest in my life, my dreams, my feelings."
But then one night she finally has some time for herself, she goes out with her bestfriend, they go dancing and she meets by chance a former student she is attracted to. At the end of the night they kiss each other and she can feel alive again. But he pursues her and her interest for him keep raising.
"You're just like your father that way. You try so hard, do all the right things, take care of everybody else until you explode and act out, doing something destructive."
I was so mad at her. I begged her not to do what she was going to do. This story was so painful, hard, destructive.
I didn't think I could enjoy it this much since it involves cheating . It was really worthy to read this book. This story makes you think about who you are , it teaches you not to take things for granted but to fight for them.
I warmly recommend giving this book a chance, it really opens your eyes.
Thank you Patricia Mann for giving me the opportunity to read your work.
Cover: Okay Rating: NC-17 Steaminess: Steamy Thumbs Up: 4.5 Overall: Close to home, but a solid read Characters: Well Done Plot: Realization that your life has somehow gotten away from you Page Turner: Yes Series Cont.? N/A Recommend: Yes Book Boyfriend: Dave & Rick
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The cover may not grab you, but the story is worth the read. Always with contemporary romance, it might be a little too realistic for comfort. Still, I have no regrets reading. I think the ending was as real as they come. I left saying wow, just wow.
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Is This All There Is floored me with the similarities between the book and real life. 30-40 year old moms find themselves where Beth was in this book. The story is very well written and the author develops the characters well. From the best friend, Beth's thoughts on her friends weight loss, Beth never taking time for herself, her husband reminding her to pick up the dry cleaning, her nursing, and the secret eating the story is too real. I was so empathetic to Beth and where she was and kept thinking been there done that. I didn't even judge her when she went outside with Dave and one thing led to the other. I got it I really did but Dave was so creepy after a while. I kept thinking Fatal Attraction. Beth was so far in and gone she couldn't recognize it. I mean really, I love you didn't scare her and she said it back! What in the world? It took her getting caught to really appreciate where she went wrong. Beth spent so much time being "lost" that she didn't realize her husband was also just making it through. Like I said too real, too raw. I don't think there are any readers that read this story and could judge or say those thoughts had never entered their mind. One lesson to learn? Its always fun and new and romantic and steamy at the beginning but would those things endure when you add "real life" to the mix? When you add a 7 and 1 year old? When you are working in the home and out? When money problems enter the relationship? It quickly makes you realize its just as "easy" to put the effort back into the relationship with your spouse than moving on. Thank you Patricia Mann for sharing your story, it made it all the more special. I could relate to Beth that said, the story was almost just too real. I read to "get away" not read about real life so this genre is probably not for me. I will say, reading this story made me feel validated and that I am not a failure as a mom or a wife, just tired. This story also made me understand my husband and our life more.
I was intrigued to learn more about Beth’s character. “Is This All There Is” seems to be Patricia Mann’s debut novel.
From the onslaught of the story, you can feel like you are standing there with Beth, feeling her every emotion in the mundane ritual of her life as a full-time mother, and part-time university professor. You can feel her discontentment with life.
This was a shorter novel, but it was full of so much raw emotion that I can’t even tell you much about the writing style because I felt like I was there with Beth every step of the way. I wanted to hug her and be her friend and yell at her in her weakest moments.
I found myself so drawn into this book that I was stealing snatches of time to read it. I even found myself reading on my lunch break to make it to the end. Beth found herself in a dilemma of many marriage partners, tempted by the acceptance and adoration of someone else.
I could feel Beth’s pain and sympathize with her. I wanted her to pull back and look outside of herself. To find happiness in herself to make her a more present and happy person for her family. Although this book faces some moral marital challenges, it is written from an authentic standpoint. There is no sugar coating. You are clearly in Beth’s mind as she is going through this attempt to spice up her life.
At about 70%, I really enjoyed the story but thought it was more of a 4-star book until I read the last 30%. Something about the complete bearing of one’s soul for the world to see. For allowing herself to open up and for the final paragraph that made me cry for the bravery of such a painful learning experience and for the story shared. It was a strong and emotional finish and earned the 5 stars for me.
I highly recommend this book, but caution that it is a VERY realistic look into what some marital issues can entail. If you aren’t ready to deal with those emotions, you may not be ready for this book.
This is a story that I think any married woman with kids can relate to. The author did an excellent job of getting into her character's head and making her real. Of course, the author is married with kids, so I am sure she understands.
Beth's dilemmas and temptations stem from one thing – lack of communication with her husband. When you have busy lives, communication is not a hard thing to lose. I really enjoyed the story and how the author chose to portray Beth's life with her family. She obviously comes from a loving family but somehow lost herself in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. When tempted with the ability to feel something for herself again, she caved. She's human. Not that it's right, but that's what happens – affairs, divorce, unhappy marriages – everyday. Beth's inner turmoil was portrayed well in the story, and it makes her a relatable character. I would recommend this story to any woman who is married, whether they have ever had thoughts of an affair or not. It's an eye opening tale of temptation very close to home.
First of all I want to thank the Author Patricia Mann for giving me the opportunity to read your beautiful work.
I gotta be honest that its kinda hard for me to rate this book. Put me through roller coaster emotion. I gotta say that I really like the story and Mann's writing is amazing, capturing the reality and realness of the story.
I guess not all Marriage are perfect. All marriage has been in the ups and downs battle of life but the only thing is you know how to ride with it. I guess that's the problem between Beth and Rick they let the marriage fall apart. I understand Beth's part why she did it. Its just that situation kinda breaks my heart.
I once read that your partner is a reflection of yourself. Like you gotta PoV love your partner the way you love yourself, Cherish her/him the way you cherish yourself. Overall it was a good read and I definitely recommend it.
“Do other women fantasize about living a different life? Do they passionately love and loathe their families at the same time?”
I read 80% of this book last night. After tossing and turning for a while, I knew I’d be waking up early to finish it before work. And that’s exactly what I did. Why?? What is it about this book that had me so edgy? Was it insanely erotic and steamy? No. Was it over-the-top, can’t-stop-laughing hysterical? No. It was real, honest, raw, unrelenting. It is the story of the woman who takes care of everyone else; the woman who loses herself in the process. Beth and Rick are living the American dream. Beth knows this and knows how blessed she is. Yet, her discontent is apparent from the very start. She feels invisible to her husband and has all but isolated herself from her closest friends. Beth has an empty ache, a void… and it needs filling. She just doesn’t know how or why. On a rare night out with her friend, Beth runs into a former student from the university where she teaches part-time. Dave is 21-years-old, he is sweet and adorable with a captivating dimple and eyes that are as green as grass. He captured Beth’s eye when she first spotted him in her class. Most importantly, Dave SEES Beth. He sees all the things she wants him to see and he’s enthralled with it all. The intense feelings build through the night as Beth and Dave drink and talk the night away. With inhibitions low and hormones high, the two share a passionate kiss that quickly represents the flipping of a switch. The novel describes in great detail the inner struggles Beth endures while contemplating the fate of her marriage and the decision of what comes next. I loved this book for the honesty of it. We all get so lost in the day-to-day that we forget to nurture ourselves as well as our loved ones. During the process of filling everyone else’s needs, we completely forget about our own. Often, by the time we realize it, it’s as if a bomb has exploded and we haven’t a clue where to even begin the repairs. The first question is “How did I get to this point?” and the next question, “How do I get back?” This novel is an amazing read for all of you moms, wives, and even husbands, who may have lost your way.
*I received this book from the author in exchange for an honest review. The opinions in this review are my own and have not been influenced in any way.*
This book is not my typical read but as a 35 year old woman in a 12 year relationship and a 6 year old son I could relate to Beth more then I wanted to. This book just pulled at me to read as I much too often wonder, is this all there is? I often have wondered if the grass is greener on the other side. And apparently it is not .
I tend to read books with lots of steamy situations and if you are looking for that in this book then you would be disappointed . But this book is much deeper then that, it's about so much more than sex. It's about a woman feeling like something is missing in her life and the days of old with the husband that used to look at her, really look at her and make her feel something but the monotonous routine of daily life put their relationship on the back burner . Who can't relate to that and feeling like its the same day over and over ?
This was a great book and worth the read for me. My only critique would be when Dave tells her he loves her by IM. To me it seemed too premature, their relationship just didn't seem deep enough for that yet and her response so quickly was even worse.
I definitely recommend giving this book a chance and viewing it with an open mind.
Wow, this book completely floored me as to how true to life this story is. I'm a woman close in age to Beth so I could really relate to her. Which I'm sure many other women in a similar age bracket and situation will at some point if not, now.
Patricia Mann has written this story beautifully and with so much emotion that you feel for all the characters on either side of the equation. Whether it be Sam, the eldest child, Rick, the husband, or Beth herself.
I enjoyed reading this book and couldn't put it down and times, hoping that things work out for this lovely family. It makes you wonder if the "grass is greener on the other side of the fence."
Thank you Patricia for sharing this story with us. It helps you appreciate who you have and what you have in this life. I look forward to reading more of your works.
Is This All There Is is a Woman’s Fiction/Chick Lit written by Patricia Mann. I read this as a R2R with Fifty Shades Support Group. As always, a special thank you to the mods and author for allowing me to participate.
★★★★ Big Realistic Stars!
The Review: This book was so realistic it was painful to read. And I think that’s what I liked most about it…
When I first started reading Is This All There Is I wanted to put it down because the main character, Beth Thomas, is going through the daily monotony of a married mother of two small children. Her life is a revolving hamster wheel of lackluster events day in and day out. She gets up, takes care of her kids needs, takes care of her husband’s needs, gets chores and work done, helps the kids with homework, feeds kids, puts them to bed and is a roommate with a man who barely notices her and ignores the signs of unhappiness because he doesn’t know what to do about their abating marriage.
But Beth’s character was in a genuine and poignant place. As miserable as her situation was, I read on because I needed to find out if maybe her circumstances could end on a better note than it started.
Like so many of us, Beth had dreams and wanted more from her life. She wanted to feel more from her life. She has a hole inside her and she tries to fill it with her children, work and chores, reading and even binge eating. Unable to fill that hole she is susceptible to outside influences, including the attentions of a much younger man who is all too willing to give her what she thinks she’s missing. Passionate kisses, adoring attention, compliments, someone to notice her worth and tell her she’s more than just a nurse maid to those around her. He fulfills these wants and desires.
Beth is me. She is you. She is every woman who’s found herself in the rut of being a woman, a mom, a wife and a caretaker for everyone around her, except herself. This read was so familiar, it was real and like the character, I was filled with a longing to know if it could end differently.
The Wrap Up: This book might have started out slow and you might have a reluctance to read it but it’s worth getting to the end because along with the emotional distress it also is filled with hope. And it gave me a different perspective on my own life.
I’ll definitely look for other works by this author.
This book, quite simply, was stunning. The author really had something to say and it comes through in her writing. I can't believe that this is the author's first book and I can't wait to read more. This book quite potently illustrates the dangers and consequences of what can happen when a person in a marriage lets their guard down, doesn't communicate with their partner and forgets to take care of his or her needs, wants and desires. Coming from the perspective of a working mother who has been married for thirteen years, I can truly say that this book is real. The emotions are real. There is no Cinderella aspect to it. It's reality, beautiful and ugly, but it is there. And the kids are not left out of it. They are ever present, just as in life. This is truly the best novel I have ever read that gives a clear perspective of the torture, guilt and anguish that a person who is having the affair goes through. I am not saying at all that what the person who was cheated on is any less painful, but this book shows the other side of the story with all the pain and angst that goes along with it. Being in an affair is like an addiction to drugs or to alcohol...the high that comes along with it is fleeting, but no less real due to the endorphins. The immediate thing that came to my mind when I was reading this story was the movie Unfaithful with Richard Gere, Diane Lane and Olivier Martinez in it. This quote from Connie's friend Tracey while they are having coffee pretty much sums it up in a nutshell:
"Having an affair is nothing like taking a pottery class. It would start out like that, and then something would happen...someone would find out or someone would fall in love and it ends disastrously. They always end disastrously. It was a long time ago and it's the one thing in my life that I would undo if I could."
Well said, Tracey.
Many, many thanks to the author and the publishing company for the privilege of reading and reviewing this book.
Okay, let's be clear about one thing: most people at some point in their life is asking themselves questions about life, about the purpose in living and "Is this all there is?" is one of them, so I was curious about reading this book. I first thought that it would be about a change in the heroine's life and maybe she became bored and wanted something more. Something exciting, like an affair.
Some readers can't stand a book when there is one of the characters who cheats on the other, and I am usually this person. But not when the cheating is somehow 'justified' and when the author succeed to make you feels the struggling between doing what is asked of you or what you desperately want to do. And here, I felt the struggling the heroine between the lust she has for Dave and the loyalty she's supposed to have toward her family. I admit it, I wanted her to be impulsive for once and be with Dave because I really enjoyed his character. Why can't you act more with your gut Beth?
Anyway, when I saw this title who was up for review, I knew I had to read it. It isn't the first book I've read about being disappointed in life, or in your relationship you have with your husband and family (and probably not the last). I hoped it would keep its promises of a good read and it did! So, if you want to read another story about a forbidden relationship between a wife and a younger man, and if you're not averse to some cheating and unexpected feelings, then go ahead and grab this book!
"I need excitement. I need new experiences. I need to be creative. I need intensity. I need passion."
Beth's life is centered around being a mom, wife and part-time professor. She puts everyone else's needs ahead of her own and ends up losing her sense of self along the way. She feels invisible to her husband. Their relationship has taken a backseat to the kids and other things they have going on in their lives. He isn't giving her the attention she yearns for. Isn't that what we all crave, to feel wanted and appreciated?
Beth lets one of her friends drag her out for a night of dancing and she runs into a former student, Dave. He's 21 and adorable. After a night of drinking and flirting, they share a passionate kiss. But, it's a dangerous game she finds herself caught up in. She loves her husband and her family, but also loves the way Dave makes her feel. She ends up having to face the consequences of her decisions.
I think this book did a great job of portraying what happens all too often. By nature, most women seem to be people pleasers and we tend to set aside our own wants and desires to make those closest to us happy. Then we wake up one day and wonder how things got so far out of control. I think it's always hard to read about cheating, but I found this book to be well written and honest.
*Complimentary copy provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review*
I normally find that books where a married person has an affair, the author makes sure we don't feel much for the other half so as to make the affair more acceptable but in this book that is not the case. I actually felt sorry for Rick, the husband.
Beth and Rick have been married ten years or so and have two young sons. Beth is still breastfeeding her youngest when the story starts. I actually found some of what Beth is feeling relatable. When Beth's friend encourages her to come on a night out, Beth meets an ex student of hers, Dave. Dave showers her with attention and a flirty secret friendship starts. Dave doesn't come across as much of a 'man', more of a boy (he's 22). He seems besotted with Beth, I couldn't understand the attraction. Beth has one friend who encourages the affair but her other best friend doesn't. I liked that and I also felt that was relatable as well. There are many times when I felt how selfish Beth was being.
For those who don't like to read of affairs, Beth and Dave do not have sex but they do kiss and 'make out' and express feelings for one another but then Rick finds the emails they have written to each other. Can Rick forgive Beth and can they move on after her affair? I felt optimistic at the ending but then I read the synopsis for Book 2 and am now not so sure however, I have read there is to be a third book set 8 years later so I look forward to reading what happens.
I know when a book makes me squirm and re-read certain parts that I am reading a fantastic book. The story inside these pages is one I heard many many times as a marriage counselor and family therapist. Mann tells it with adroit compassion for a "young mommy" who, though a flawed character, and certainly an imperfect heroine, makes you understand (even identify with) the feelings of ennui that she feels in a life that is supposed to be "enough" even enviable. There is a lot of truth telling in these pages and the story is unburdened by any prosaic manipulation. The action rings true, the characters are real enough to be the next door neighbors, and the ending begs a sequel. It's been a very, very long time since I was a "young mommy" but Patricia Mann's first novel brought it all back from the very first scene. Because I was asked to write a blurb for it, I read the manuscript twice. The first time as a reviewer and with my therapist's hat on. The second time I read it remembering... and that's when I started to squirm.
Here is a book that is difficult for me to review because, A) this is a well written story, and B) the subject matter really bothers me. I'm going to put my troubles with the theme aside saying only that it was well executed and done so in a manner that left no holes for confusion or questions to thrive in.
Is This All There Is? is a tale with essential truths told in a way that I'm sure many people will recognize in themselves or in friends and loved ones. It's a sadly common story, told in an honest and full picture kind of way. I appreciate that. To often books of this nature contain colorful fluff; painting a picture that somehow everything is fine and normal, acceptable. You'll find none of that here.
I found that this book was well edited, non-repetitive, and well structured. I did, however, feel that the ending was abrupt; I needed more after what I went through during the read, but also see that it was a great place to stop if there is to be a second book. I would most certainly read it if a second book was introduced.
Is This All There Is? by Patricia Mann in my opinion was very well written, serious novel. The story is about Beth, a wife and mother that works as a part time professor and is about to embark on an affair. I felt Beth was trying so hard to be the perfect wife and mother, that she felt susceptible to the attention of Dave, one of her former students. Sometimes people try to be perfect for someone else and live to their ideals of who they should be that in the process they lose who they are.
The author manages to really put a reader in the mind of the character. You can feel Beth’s inner turmoil. I do feel she should have tried sooner to fix her relationship with her husband Rick, before almost going to far with Dave.
I did really enjoy this novel. It’s definitely the type of novel that makes you think of what would you do if you were in the same situation that Beth was in.
A review copy was provided in exchange for honest review.
This is a tough review for me. I totally realte to this character and can understand how you can loose yourself once you become a mother and wife. I know that I have personally had thoughts that resemble some of the characters, although I have never made the choices that she did. This is a very well written book...and although it is not necessarily a traditional love story, it was a very interesting read. I had hoped to get more at the ending of this book, but I understand that the point of the book is not the ending, but the journey this character takes in her life and what the consequences were for her. I highly recommend this read!
I read this book in one sitting and wished it had 100 more pages to go! I rarely have an opportunity to do so, but the story and characters captured my attention and I'm looking forward to learning more about Beth, hopefully, in a coming sequel. The author had a very realistic take on what it is to be a married couple with children. I didn't agree with all of Beth's choices, but more often than not, I found myself thinking how much I could relate. I really enjoyed the mix of a romance book with events that really made me think about life and releationships. Very well written. I highly recommend this book. It's a fun and thought provoking read.
Not my usual type of book but something drew to it. I wanted to know how affairs start, as a friend of mine is going through much the same. Quite enjoyed the book, easy to read, now onto final book..
Beth Thomas has the perfect life. At thirty-five, she’s married to her college sweetheart, has two adorable kids, and teaches part time at the local university. But when a friend persuades Beth to go dancing on a rare night out, a chance meeting with twenty one year old Dave, one of her former students, changes the course of her life. Loud music, too much to drink, and the thrill of feeling young again lead to an unforgettable kiss that was never supposed to happen. As she tries to put the memory behind her, Dave’s pursuit leaves Beth torn between what her mind says is right and what her heart and body crave.
REVIEW:
Patricia Mann’s IS THIS ALL THERE IS ? is a story for anyone considering an affair. Whether it is an affair of the heart or a physical affair there are dangers, heartbreak, excitement, sorrow, anger, pain, retribution and regret.
Beth Thomas is a married woman with two small children, teaches part time at the local college and, she and her husband have fallen into a rut. Desire has given way to ambivalence and sex has given way to sleep. Like many young families, there are days, even weeks, where it seems everything leads to a diaper pail or washing machine. But for Beth Thomas, an opportunity presents itself in the guise of a former student who has had a major crush on his teacher since the first time he laid eyes on her.
What woman wouldn’t want the adoration and attention of a hot twenty-something young man who had yet to fall prey to the realities of life. But Beth knows she is treading into dangerous waters and no one will win in the end.
IS THIS ALL THERE IS is one woman’s journey into the unknown. Like many woman, Beth feels she is missing something in her life. She is not actively looking for anything or anyone, but she is floundering in her present circumstance. Real life isn’t pretty some days but the alternative is even uglier.
Relationships are difficult at best and many couples find themselves dissatisfied with the direction of their marriage. This is not to say that these couples stray or go looking for something on the side. Children can bring out a side to people that they never knew existed. Raising a family is hard, especially in today’s society where everyone is looking for something different, something new. And falling into a rut, into a familiar pattern but a pattern that is going around in circles, can sometimes pull the person into another direction. Whether intentionally or otherwise, looking for something different isn’t always better.
IS THIS ALL THERE IS is an eye-opener for anyone considering stepping outside of the marriage. Many women (and men) will recognize themselves-whether it is in the form of the married woman who is looking for something different or the mother whose self-image is now tied to her family. The reality of the situation will strike a chord with many readers and will have you thinking-IS THIS ALL THERE IS?
Patricia Mann has written a storyline, whether taken from real life or a work of fiction, that will make you sit up and think. It will be a difficult read for some, especially those who have experienced the emotional trauma and heartache of an affair. Is it worth the physical and emotional pain to look for something different, when everything you ever needed, was at home-waiting to be explored and discovered.
"This book was kindly given to me in exchange for an honest review."
This story is one of those where I think many women will be able to easily relate to Beth, the main character. Not only is the focus surrounding her decisions to meet up with a former student for a secret affair, she also addresses everyday struggles like constantly binge eating to try and improve her mood and feeling a loss of self-worth when her life always seems to revolve around her kids and husband.
Many people often get married, then “BAM” 10-15 years go by quickly and they are now stuck in this rut. At first everything is new and exciting but after living together for a while, everyday things will slowly change. Buying new homes, cars, raising kids, working the same job every single day, and doing the same routines can become repetitive and monotonous.
Most women compensate by finding hobbies, interests or attend social outings of some sort to help mix things up with their daily grind but in this case Beth chose to secretly meet up with and email/msg one of her former male students named Dave after running into him at a bar. He gave her all this positive attention and excitement that was lacking in her home life. He really seemed to care about her well-being, which she craved from her husband but wasn’t getting. Dave was making her life more exciting and thrilling even though all along she knew it was wrong to have an affair with him.
I think Ms. Mann nailed it with this book! The scenario that she developed is somewhat controversial, yet very realistic and believable at the same time. It made me question myself and think, “Would I follow the same path as Beth or completely avoid this mess altogether?” I felt like she was always making poor judgment calls but at the same time I could also see how she would quickly get caught up into this tricky situation and have trouble getting out. I felt really bad for everyone getting hurt that was involved in the process. It affected her kids, husband and even her relationship with her best friend.
I recommend Is This All There Is to readers that love real life romance stories that aren’t necessarily a 100% HEA. Is This All There Is revolves around cheating, so if this easily offends you then this may not be the book for you. I honestly feel that many readers will be able to empathize with Beth in some way or another. I loved this book and I hope Ms. Mann does a continuation of this story because I’m dying to know what happens next with all the characters.
I give Is This All There Is, 4.5 EMOTIONALLY GRITTY STARS!
When I first started reading the book Is This All There Is by Patricia Mann, I thought I would not be able to make a connection to this story. The plot is about a 35 year old married mommy of 2 little boys whose marriage is hitting a plateau. The main character Beth is hungry for attention, affection, and an overall need to feel wanted. Once I really got into the first couple of chapters I realized, isn't that what all women yearn for? A man to look at them the way they did when the "courting phase" first began? A man to have hunger in his eyes when he looked her way? A man that was genuinely interested in what she did that day, and not just what the kids did that day? As the story progressed I found myself understanding Beth more and more.
Then a young hot former student enters Beth's life right when she has hit the lowest of lows in the need of feeling wanted. He, of course, shows her the very attention and affection that she has been yearning for. Problem is Beth actually debates if she could have an affair with this young thing and how much of herself will be sucked into this world of secrets and lies.
One thing I really love about this story is one, the author does an outstanding job at describing the feelings that as women we all want. Secondly, Beth has two friends that she uses as her confidants. One is encouraging her to have a little something- something on the side. She convinces Beth that she deserves to be happy and if her husband is not providing that happiness, then she has the right to look elsewhere. Of course, this friend is cheating on her husband herself. Then there is the second friend. The one that supports Beth with everything else in life, like balancing being a mom, a wife, a working woman, and a woman who still needs a social life outside of play dates. This friend is the more positive influence and when Beth tries to confide in her about the affair, the friend highly discourages those feelings.
I thought Is This All There Is touches on the issues women have everyday. After babies are born we lose our once svelte figures, we begin to live for the new life we brought into the world, and seem to forget ourselves. I found the topic a refreshing one and was rooting for Beth and her husband to find their way back to each other. Great job Patricia Mann on writing a heartfelt book that many women can relate to.
Overall, I really wanted to like this book. I was intrigued when I read the book description when the ARC opportunity came out as premise of the book is one many can relate to, myself included-married, mom of 2 little ones, thirtysomething. But I just could not get into it. Some parts were relatable, but I found myself very frustrated with Beth. What is relatable (at least for me: feelings of being overwhelmed, under-appreciated, unattractive, wanting to raise well balanced, happy, healthy children, and sometimes feeling like you've completely lost yourself through all of it. However, there were several things I struggled with: 1. Beth's inability to put herself first. Yes, it sounds contrary when you have children. However, if you lose yourself in your children and don't take time for yourself, doing something you enjoy-exercise, reading, a hobby, spending time with your partner, etc-you will end up miserable and resentful of those around you who you perceive as having the "perfect" life. 2. Her feelings towards her husband being able to take care of the kids while she goes out-dinner, bed/bath routine,etc. I readily admit that my husband and I have different approaches when it comes to parenting. Does he always read books before the kids go to bed if I am not there at bedtime? No. Does he feed them what I would? Not always. Does that make him incapable or untrustworthy as a parent? Absolutely not. Neither approach is perfect but we respect and love one another. 3. The affair-yes, many people have affairs, as they think this will "solve" the issues or help them find some sort of validation they're seeking-so it is not that she had an affair. It was the "who" she had an affair with- a 21-year old college student and former student of hers. Really?!
The quality of the writing, character development, and the premise of the story are good. For me, nothing can ruin a book more quickly than one that is littered with horrible grammar, spelling mistakes and overall misuse of words. This was definitely not the case with this book so on these components, the book would be a 4 or 5. I would not shy away from recommending the book to anyone. I would absolutely read more from this author.