A group of suburban women help one another navigate their personal challenges, marriages, and pregnancies—both wanted and unwanted.
In 1965 America, women can’t have their own bank accounts and credit cards or sign their own leases; divorce is scandalous and difficult; and abortion is illegal. Every Tuesday a group of friends meet for a canasta game. As cards are drawn and discarded, these women share advice and confidences.
After prim and proper Lily Berg, a doctor’s wife, discovers she’s pregnant with her second child, she follows her friend Becca’s suggestion and takes in Betsy, a pregnant teen from the local home for unwed mothers. Betsy, who’s never met anyone Jewish before, is to live with the Bergs for six months, help with babysitting and housekeeping, have her own baby, and then agree to never contact the family again. But things quickly get complicated.
Moving and atmospheric, full of history and heart, In the Family Way captures the experiences of women on the cusp of liberation as they struggle with their own complex feelings about being wives, mothers, and women with their own dreams and ambitions.
I grew up in Toledo, Ohio and went to Northwestern University for college (where I majored in theater). I moved to NYC after graduation.
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I have two married children and two grand children. My husband and I raised our kids in Chappaqua, NY, and then decided we'd had enough of the cold weather and moved to Palm Beach Gardens, FL a little more than a dozen years ago. He plays golf; I write. It works well. :-)
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This book is an emotional and consuming read. I got settled in for my evening reading time and then couldn't put it down. Start to finish in one sitting. Set in the mid 1960s, the cast of characters are women who easily resemble those in our own lives or even ourselves. They face unfathomable choices and situations, but they are things any of us could encounter in our own lives. We never know how we'd handle such things until those moments come. There are moral/ethical choices and relationship choices, some with generational family impact. Each woman's story is unique, but at the same time they share so many common bonds. My only complaint (if it could even be considered a one) was the reason the two women at the end came together. Even with that in mind, it's still one of the best books I've read recently. My thanks to NetGalley, the publisher, and the author for an advance reader copy in exchange for my just review.
In the Family Way, is about pregnancy and motherhood as you would expect, but it brought so much more to the table. (Pun intended!)
1960s! Everything was groovy.
Four women meet every week for canasta at each other’s kitchen tables. While cards are played, general life issues are brought up, but the most important part is the bond these women share.
One of the women, Lily, has taken an unwed teenager woman, Betsy, into her home to help with raising her toddler and general housework. Betsy, 15, was placed in a home for unwed mothers and Lily agreed to take her in. The story moves on from here at what pregnancy looked like in this decade. Women did not have contraception, could not obtain their own credit card and usually were fired from employment if they were expecting. The author was authentic in her view of this era. This was showcased when the characters who were pregnant were smoking and drinking because ultimately, this was not considered wrong or taboo.
The story ended perfectly, and with it, I have to think we have gained such liberties as women today. Sadly though, the art of gathering around a table is lost . It is much easier to send a text, but the camaraderie is just not the same.
This was a quick read but had a wonderful message. Highly recommend. And there was a Jen Jen 🫛 🥕 in the story. #iykyk
I won this book through a Goodreads giveaway in exchange for an honest review. Thanks to Harper for choosing me.
I'd like to start by thanking Laney Katz Becker for writing this absolutely, stunningly beautiful masterpiece. This book tore my heart to shreds while somehow mending it simultaneously. The women in this book are all incredibly strong, intelligent and brave. They are all facing a moment in their life that quite literally will decide the rest of their futures. The way each of them manages to face everything with so much grace is not only beautiful but totally inspiring.
The emotions this book evoked in me were a roller-coaster. I laughed one moment, cried the next, laughed again and then felt so much rage that I literally threw the book against the wall and set it aside for a couple of days before going back to it. The amount of rage I felt coursing through my system left me with shaking hands and a headache. When I picked up the book and continued reading I was still raging, but I had to know what Rose would do. I had to know what would become of her and the rest of the women in this book. I am glad I now know what became of them. I am happy to report that my rage simmered and in its place I now feel relief, elation, and my heart is so full of love for these characters that I am sure I will never forget any of them or the journey they walked.
This was a powerful read full of fierce characters that support each other in wholesome, loving ways while they each faced the harsh realities of the time. The friendship between them is a breath of fresh air. The bond between Lily and Rose is magnificent. The relationship between Lily and Betsy is wonderful. Sarah's backstory is heartbreaking and her journey into motherhood was not easy by any means but it was absolutely beautiful. Becca is a strong, intelligent woman who is at her wit's end and simply cannot imagine bringing another baby into her orbit. She does what she needs to do for herself and what she feels is best for her family. Making that choice couldn't have been easy, I admired her the entire way through the book. Robin was ahead of the time, she was funny and smart and I loved that she was gently pushing her friends to see that there was so much more out there for them without judging them for being content with their lives (even if Lily did wonder "Is this all?" in private). Lily is sweet, supportive (in her own way) and although she's prim and proper she's open to learning about the world around her. Betsy is a naive young girl who has no idea what or how things that happened to her did but she handles her predicament with as much grace as a fifteen year old girl can be expected to have. My heart ached for her, I feared I wouldn't get to know how her life went after she left the Berg household, but I had the biggest smile on my face when I read about her in the end.
As for Lily and Rose's grandmother I adored her. She was exactly what I expected her to be in every way. Their father was truly an inspiration. He could've decided differently, he could've tried to convince his daughter not to go through with it, instead he unflinchingly decided his daughter's safety was more important than any stigma around her life and his unwavering support was so much like my own dad's that I cried for a long time remembering being in a similar situation and the way he simply hugged me and told me I had all of his support no matter what I chose to do- no matter what was said about me.
David, is a careful yet courageous man. He could have chosen to remain on the sidelines. He could have simply done nothing. Instead he put it all on the line. They say its the quiet ones we should be wary of, in this case that's true but in a very good way. His character was admirable and I will never forget what he did. For any of the women.
The character I most connected with was Rose. She was strong, intelligent and beautiful. Above everything else she was BRAVE. Especially for the time she was living in. I saw so much of myself in her that I felt like the author took parts of my own experiences and used them to create Rose and her story. It was decimating, soul-shattering and honestly one of the most impacting storylines I've read in a long time. Thank you again to Laney Katz Becker for writing this book. For writing Rose and her story. For giving a voice to so many women who don't have the ability to speak up.
As for Marty he is such a small, despicable and FOUL man. There was literally nothing, NOTHING to like about him. He was too good to be true from the moment he first appeared (I had an inkling from the very first moment and I couldn't explain why). I ended up hating him with every fiber of my being as if he was a real person and not a fictional character. I mean just the simple fact that he thinks he can say, "I'm the man of the house and you'll do what I say when I say it. Are we clear?" and "Rose I swear if you don't hold still, you're going to get hurt." and "You're my wife. I'm allowed to have sex with my wife." and be liked is a problem. A HUGE problem. There was nothing that could redeem him. Not even when he agreed to her terms. I am not even sure that he should be called a man, but sadly that is what he is just a small, disgusting man.
I'm going to end it the same way I began, simply by saying thank you Laney Katz Becker for writing this book and thanking Harper again for choosing me as one of the winners of the giveaway. I will definitely be adding this to the books I recommend whenever anyone asks me for a suggestion.
I really liked In the Family Way, a story about a group of women in the 1960s. Some are married, some are pregnant, some are neither, and some want to be mothers. The story follows the women in their domestic lives and in their friendships, centered around a weekly card game. While I liked some of the women more than others, I felt for each of them in their pursuit of what they wanted to be happy with their lives. Reading this was a stark reminder about what limited rights women had in the 60s — A point we are sadly rapidly regressing toward now, more than 50 years later. In the Family Way was a moving historical fiction story, and a great reminder of how much women do, inside and outside the home.
OK THIS BOOK IS IMPORTANT!! In case you didn't know (I didn't know!!!) "in the Family way" means pregnant lol and that is important to know before reading. ok moving on!! this story centers around a group of women in a suburban town in the 60s who are each on very different journeys related to pregnancy, motherhood, and family life. The 1960s setting serves as a harsh reminder of how far women have come and how hard women who came before us had to fight for everything we can do now. The characters in this book are vastly different, but the way the women support each other and listen to each other is so beautiful. This book is really powerful and I honestly learned a lot about the realities of life for women at that time.
Laney Katz Becker's writing was so vivid and each woman's personality shone through the plot beautifully. And the end of the book wrapped everything up in a way that made me tear up!! Not only did I love this book, but I think it is an important read for our current times.
In the Family Way is a fictional look at the state of maternity care and abortion in the US in the 1960s.
The story is narrated by 3 women - Lily Berg, Rose Seigel and Betsey Eunbanks. Rose and Lily are sisters married to a lawyer and obstetrician respectively. Betsey is a 15 year old young woman who has found herself "in the family way" most likely due to ignorance of how female bodies worked. Lily has opened her home to unwed mothers before but in Betsey she senses a young woman who is curious and willing to learn.
As the stories unfold of Lily, Rose and Betsey (along with the other neighbourhood women) Laney Becker gives us a taste of various scenarios that women encountered before Women's Lib really took off.
There are several difficult subjects discussed including spousal control of finances, unplanned pregnancies, the adoption of illegitimate children, spousal abuse and the women's movement.
The story will be enlightening for a lot of people who perhaps don't realise how little women controlled in their lives even as recently as the 1970s. The women themselves provide various viewpoints - the happy housewife married to a decent man, the wife who unwittingly married an abuser, the wide who cannot stay pregnant and the wife who is prepared to undergo the dangerscof backstreet abortionists because of the laws.
I think this book is appropriate for our time as the repeal of Roe v Wade threatens to send women's rights back half a century and all the horrors that entails. With further attacks on legal abortions in the US women are fighting for their rights and their lives harder now than for many decades.
It is an emotive book that made me cry at times. I would definitely recommend a read no matter which way you lean on women's rights.
Thankyou to Netgalley and HQ Publishing for the advance review copy.
5🌟 I love a good 60s vibe and this did not disappoint. All the women’s issues of the day… reproductive issues, infertility, unexpected pregnancy, unwed teen pregnancy, adoption, abortion, birth control, miscarriage, domestic violence, a woman’s role in the home, are all experienced by the cast of characters. The women’s friendships are strong and important and help them process and deal with everything that comes their way. Each of the women are so different, yet come together to support each other in immeasurable ways. This is a thought provoking and emotional read. A+ for the cover. For fans of Take My Hand and Looking for Jane.
In the Family Way by Laney Katz Becker is a powerful, emotional story set in 1965, where a group of suburban women support each other through marriage, motherhood, and pregnancies—both wanted and not at a time when women couldn’t open bank accounts, get divorced easily, or access legal abortion. I loved how easy this book was to read while still being emotionally powerful and rooted in historical detail, vividly capturing a moment when women were beginning to push against the boundaries of their prescribed roles. The characters feel real, and you will grow to care about them deeply. With today’s ongoing fight for reproductive rights, this book feels especially timely- a moving reminder of what women once went through and why we say, “we won’t go back.” TW: domestic abuse.
Thank you Harper Collins & the author for the opportunity to read an advanced digital copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
This is a quick read with great voice. It’s a timely commentary that illuminates how far women have come and how female friendships, connection, and empathy are to credit for much of our progress.
And I think it sheds light on how political issues that end up diluted into two black and white policies are more complex and more nuanced than those political parties want you to believe. It is always good to have an issue “re-humanized” per se — whatever side you stand on.
I did feel it was a bit too on the nose and pointed, and I wish she had developed some of the side characters a bit more. It still made me think, made me cry, and I enjoyed it.
If do it for the plot was a book… these characters were SO well-developed and the issues were heavy and real and raw and so perfectly portrayed. At times, I felt like I couldn’t possibly keep putting myself through the emotions, but the pace was so perfectly balanced that it never became entirely too much! An absolute must-read!
I absolutely LOVED this book. It should be THE book of the summer. In the Family Way talks about an incredibly important topic at an incredibly important time, and is a must-read for anyone who cares about women's rights in today's world. Laney Katz Becker's writing style is engaging, accessible, and elevated all at the same time. For me, the sign of a great book is when you miss the characters when you've finished reading it, and boy did I miss these characters when I was done.
Read on kindle; but can't wait to re-read on audio!
Update 7/7/25: just finished listening on audio and it is PHENOMENAL. There are three different narrators which really makes the book so much more dynamic. I HIGHLY recommend listening to the audio version!
Really like 2.5… This was an easy read but a bit boring and everything was so one dimensional, expected, and rushed. I appreciated the themes the book was trying to get at, the limited rights of women in the 60s surrounding reproductive care and finances. But it really just scratches the surface and surrounds a bunch of well-off white women in the suburbs. This could have been executed 1000x better and the writing is truly subpar at best.
Timely read and a good reminder of what we have to be grateful for and what we have to keep fighting for today. I thought the characters were pretty flat and underdeveloped, and the journal entry style of the book left me wanting more world building. Still I read this in one sitting and I was moved
6++++ sterren! Een heel krachtig boek, een must read voor iedereen. Ik zat vastgeplakt aan dit boek en wilde het niet wegleggen. Zo indrukwekkend en belangrijk🥹🥹🥹
This book really made me think. It's crazy how many things women weren't allowed to do in the mid 1960s. Couldn't buy a home without a man to cosign. Couldn't get a credit card in their name. Birth control? Only if you were married. Abortion was illegal so hospitals needed wards specifically for women who went septic getting back alley abortions or attempting to do one themselves. Divorce was next to impossible. Definitely not simply for irreconcilable differences. It seems many currently in power want to go back to this. Nothing against housewives. I'm far less stressed since I gave up my 20 year nursing career to be a SAHM. I do see the need to have a passion and a purpose. I need to read The Feminine Mystique (never have). I grew up in a conservative home. Went to church every week. Thought Christians were supposed to be conservative (its what the Baptists taught). It's taken me till my 40s to realize what I really think and believe. I'm a lot more liberal these days. Anyway my review seems all over the place:-p I enjoyed this story very much. Thanks Goodreads, the author, and publisher for the free print copy!!
3.5 rounded up. i think this book did a great job of showcasing the plight of middle class white women and the oppression they faced surrounding pregnancy, learning sex ed (though really the lack of sex ed at all), and abortion. it's so depressing that even as a very privileged group of women compared to WoC/poor women/queer women during this time, there was still a tremendous amount of really horrible shit that these women were subjected to. overall i did think this was worth the read, though i wish it had incorporated more of an intersectional lens
Or at the very least, I think I wished that this acknowledged that the struggles for women of color were different than those of white women? That class plays a huge role in access? like. I think this story is one that needs to be told, it's a very real and honest part of history and women's rights. But I also think by not acknowledging that the struggle historically has not been the exact same for every women, it removes a lot of the nuance. Idk I have a lot of thoughts
Wow. What a book. I absolutely loved it. My first time reading @laneykatzbecker and I wasn’t disappointed. Set in 1960’s America, a beautifully written story about pregnancy, motherhood, family life and changing times.. It’s so captivating I was totally hooked from start to finish, I was pulled right into the story. I couldn’t put it down. It’s so powerful, poignant, atmospheric and full of history and heart. I laughed. I cried. A rollercoaster of emotions throughout. Hard themes like teenage pregnancy, abortion, miscarriage, rape and domestic abuse are covered. The writing style is full of empathy and so intimate. The short chapters alternate between different POV’s from Betzy, Lily and Rose making it easy to read and follow. I loved the characters which are well drawn, relatable and feel so real. You get to care about them. .The women are strong, brave, intelligent and fierce. I loved the friendships between them and how they supported each other. I learned so much from reading this book and it will stay with me for a long time. I liked the authors notes at the end of the historical facts. Highly recommend. It’s well worth the read. Definitely one of my favourite reads of 2025 so far. I look forward to reading more from this author. With thanks to #NetGallery #HQ @hqstories for an arc of #InTheFamilyWay in exchange for a honest review. Book publishes 3 June 2025.
This book takes place in the 60s and yet is relevant in conversations today about women’s rights and bodily autonomy. The book has essentially two main characters for most of the book: Betsy (15 years old), who is the primary main character, and Lily (mother of one and pregnant with her second). Their lives come together when Lily and her husband agree to take in Betsy during her unexpected pregnancy. From there we meet the rest of Lilys friends in her Canasta group, her sister, her daughter, Jojo, and her husband, who is an obgyn. There are several great stories told here and I thoroughly enjoyed this book and the story arcs (there are several). I also liked the way each chapter had a different pov. The audiobook had great narration, especially for Betsy, and I think the narration of the audiobook made me like the book more than I would have otherwise if I had read it with my eyes.
Not a great work of literature but I love reading books set in the 60s. A group of women experience difficulties because of the low status women had during that time period.
A solid four star read for me. I like the alternating viewpoints and the friendship of the women. I also adored the connections between the sisters, Rose and Lily. This was an easy read that packed an insight into life for women in the 60s. I am now going to have to read the Feminine Mystique!
In this time of regressive reproductive rights, the trad-wife movement and the normalization of misogyny by our very President, there couldn’t have been a more timely moment for this book to be released.
In The Family Way is a story about four women in who develop a close friendship after all moving into the same neighborhood. It’s the exploration of how all four navigate their lives within the confines of womanhood in the 1960s, and how misogyny and the patriarchy affects everyone.
Despite this being a relatively short book, it was jam-packed with discussions of domestic violence, abortion, parenting, women’s rights and their agency. The commentary about abortion was especially well-done, because even as someone who has always been staunchly pro-choice, I could see why certain characters felt strong hesitation about bucking conventions.
Check trigger warnings, but if you can handle them, this is a worthwhile read.
This is a flashback to life in the USA in the 60s, where women are still beholden to their men folk. It includes references to pregnancy, domestic abuse but also the power of friendship. I am (slightly) too young to fully remember the 60s, I'm also sure that the UK where I live was slightly less chauvinistic - but then again as a man I'm less exposed to its affect. It should be taken as a grim reminder that we should never go back to those days. The story shows what happened to young, unwed mothers to be, and also how people aren't always what they seem to be from the outside. Perhaps this should be compulsory reading for all as a reminder of those times, but is an enjoyable book in its own right. I received an advance copy of this book from the publisher through Netgalley, however this did not influence my review of the book.