My thoughts on the book 1. The author still has a long way to go to work on her internalized misogyny.
2. The critique the sex workers had of her being a “tourist” rang true for me for all of the chapters. It felt like she hadn’t learned the lesson and continued to be a tourist in all these spaces and never got the full picture. Particularly the chapters on dance and midwifery were a little upsetting to me because I’ve lived in those spaces. I was a dancer for a very long time. And the way she spoke pityingly about the ballerinas trying to reach perfection upset me. Does she speak the same way of Olympic divers? And I felt like in the midwifery portion she spoke of all the horrors and problems, but very little of the magic of being a birthing person. While I understand and support anyone’s decision to be child free, there was a lack of perspective of the magic of birth in an often primarily womens space. It’s really hard and brutal but still precious and holy. 3. Each chapter was half baked and never actually highlighted the transformative nature of women working together. Instead of celebrating all of these women spaces in the various chapters, it read as her pointing out all the issues with them, like she is still “not like other girls”