What Is Wrong with Men: Patriarchy, the Crisis of Masculinity, and How (Of Course) Michael Douglas Films Explain Everything

by Jessa Crispin

A hilarious, ambitious work of trenchant cultural criticism that traces the origins of today’s crisis of masculinity through . . . Michael Douglas’s oeuvre from the eighties and nineties

How to be a Man? That question—and all the anxiety, anger, and resentment it stirs up—is the starting point for a crisis in masculinity that today manifests as misogyny, nativism, and corporate greed; gives rise to incels and mass shooters; and leads to panic over the rights of women and minorities. According to Jessa Crispin, it is the most important question of our time, and the answer to it might be found in an unlikely the films of Michael Douglas.

In the 1980s, the rules for masculinity began to change. The goal was no longer to be a good, respectable family man, carrying on the patriarchal traditions of generations past. Not only was it becoming unfashionable, but increasingly the economic and political shifts—a slashed social safety net, globalization—made it harder to find a breadwinning income, a stable home life, and a secure place in the public sphere. So, then, how to be a man? From the early eighties to the late nineties, Michael Douglas showed us he was our president, our Wall Street overlord, our mass shooter, our failed husband, our midlife crisis, our cop, and our canary in the patriarchal coal mine. His characters were a mirror of our cultural shift, serving as the foundation for everything from the 1994 Crime Bill to Trump’s ultimate rise. With wry wit and wisdom, Crispin examines the phenomenon of the Michael Douglas character as a silver-screen seismograph registering the tectonic movements within our society that have fractured it in shocking ways.

Blending feminist arguments and pop culture criticism, Crispin uses the iconic roles of Michael Douglas, from Fatal Attraction to Wall Street to The Game, as a lens to explore men’s and our culture’s ongoing anxieties around women, money, and power. Ultimately, What Is Wrong with Men reveals that the patriarchy has now fully betrayed men, along with everyone else and shows how unpacking one of its most fervent icons can help us envision a pathway forward.

Genres: Nonfiction, Feminism, Humor, History, Politics, Sociology, Film

289 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 3, 2025

About the author

Jessa Crispin is the editor and founder of Bookslut.com. Her writing has appeared in The Washington Post, The Chicago Sun-Times, The Guardian and The Toronto Globe and Mail, among other publications.

Reviews

[Mikey ಠ◡ಠ · Rating 4 out of 5]

A really good reflection on masculinity as it was presented in the past, in today’s society, and of course, in Michael Douglas films. Now, I have never seen a Michael Douglas film a day in my life (but full disclosure I listen to the podcast Ruined and they’ve done two of his movies) so don’t feel like you need to be familiar with his work to understand the book. Really his films are used as jumping off points to discuss topics like war or consumerism or no fault divorce. I don’t know if I learned anything new in terms of feminism as it comes up in the book, but I did feel like I learned more on how the patriarchy fails men, which, embarrassingly, I had never considered before beyond the superficial talking points. All in all an interesting book that I’m glad I picked up.

Thanks to NetGalley, the publisher, and the author for a free eARC in exchange for an honest review.

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is brutal, sharp, just a hair shy of being scathing, and I loved every page of it. Via the films of Michael Douglas in the 1980s and early 1990s, we get treated to an explanation of the breakdown of the patriarchy and masculinity, and the uncertainty and questions that arose within that time and how all of those things influenced the situation we find ourselves in today.

What I love is that there's accountability with sympathy - men have been separated from the patriarchy but still see themselves as individuals rather than members of communities, and don't realize their isolation isn't necessary if they can build and join. It reminded me of many good men and many terrible men in my life.

Despite the fact that this book feels sad and depressing at times, especially when you care about the well-being of men, the note that it left on feels truly hopeful, and helped realign my perspective. It's about solidarity versus inclusion, building communities without gatekeeping, and recognizing that "merit" is not the barometer we think it is.

The hook of the Michael Douglas angle will get people reading, but it's the message of the author that will get them working.

[Monica · Rating 3 out of 5]

I bought this on the basis of the laugh-out-loud title and premise, expecting trenchant cultural commentary. It’s in there, as is some wicked humor, but after a few chapters the conceit of Michael Douglas seemed forced and the observations less concise. Felt like it needed another round of editing to keep it from reading like someone’s senior thesis.

[Claire E L · Rating 4 out of 5]

I did have to read the Wikipedia articles of Michael Douglas films to understand the book, but I do love reading Wikipedia articles.

[Shelby K · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked this book, but I also didn’t. It just didn’t hit for me. I loved Crispin’s commentary on how the societal systems we’ve destroyed, altered, and that we maintain affect men and their self perception. I thought using a series of Michael Douglas movies throughout his career to give examples of the issue plaguing men and their identities was creative and well executed. Unfortunately, this book also, at times, felt like a thesis paper that was in desperate need of an editor.

[Christina · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5 rounded up

Thank you NetGalley for an ebook ARC of What is Wrong with Men by Jessa Crispin. This book was surprisingly entertaining and informative. I found myself highlighting about half of the book because Jessa’s commentary was so insightful.

I’ll admit when I requested this book I didn’t even know who Michael Douglas was. When I googled him I found I had only seen him in two movies: Antman (a marvel movie) and The American President. I don’t think being familiar with Michael Douglas or his movies was a prerequisite for this book. Jessa’s main thesis is that almost every character that Michael Douglas portrayed in the 80’s and 90’s featured a patriarch struggling to evolve and adapt in a post-patriarchal society. She makes a very compelling narrative around why that is, how men in general didn’t have the social structures to help them adjust to feminism, and why so many young men today are so easily sucked into the manosphere as a result.

This book was exceptionally nuanced. Jessa calls out both political parties (and capitalism) as responsible for what is wrong with men today. Society has failed men and neither party has seemed to care about the crisis. Her facts and research on the patriarchy was fascinating. Like how men are more likely to divorce their wives if they have daughters than if they have sons (fascinating right?). And how she was able to tie it all together by providing detailed and in depth analyses of over a dozen Michael Douglas movies was nothing short of impressive!

She explains the plot of each Michael Douglas movie and why the movie was relevant and even revolutionary to the culture of the time when it was released. Then she explains aspects of the characters that Douglas portrays and why they never adjusted to the new shift in culture that feminism initiated. This was such an in depth book on the patriarchy and Jessa was such an excellent writer that I will likely come back to some of her quotes and insights over the next few months just to reread and ponder.

A weird byproduct of reading this book was that I now want to watch a handful of the movies she mentioned just to analyze and get better insight into what was happening to men in the 80’s and 90’s.

I highly recommend this book on masculinity, Michael Douglas movies, and the patriarchy. It was such an in depth look at how feminism and the culture in the 80’s and 90’s contributed to the current crisis of men. What is wrong with men? A lot. And it’s something we should know and address as a society!

[alicia · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was fine. The patriarchy bits were interesting but I couldn't help think that it didn't really have a reason to tie into Michael Douglas films. It almost seemed like it would have been a better book if it was strictly on the patriarchy or strictly on MD films. To be fair, I hadn't seen all the films the author discussed so that was probably also part of the problem.

[Dramatika · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting take on the struggles of men, the only problem is that one must know all the movies!

[Me · Rating 3 out of 5]

It is difficult to review this book. It and she is complex.

Just a few notes.

1. I never saw Michael Douglas movies growing up in the 80’s
2. Movies I relate to are Road Warrior, Mad Max and Gangs of NY, Zombie Movies and a Razor’s Edge.

This being said, those movies are relatable because like Max, we live in a desert of destroyed ideologies. In this, as Nietzsche wrote “God is dead”. This to me this was any form of religion, ideology, and mostly everything lies in ruin. Like Max, we survive. Our dog and beat up car land where we are.I survive.

Next is Gangs of NY. My life has been more like this movie than the Gilded Age. Violence, alcoholism and just fucked up people thrown into a fucked up world.

Zombie movies because you hang with a group: any sex and race until they turn into a zombie. You are lucky if you get to care for three or four people.

Finally the Razor’s edge. In a fucked up world, try to live ethically although it is absurdly doomed to fail, you never know the full implications of your actions and while you think you are being kind your shadow brings alone the demons.

I will write more later.

[Windsor Grace · Rating 4 out of 5]

I received this book from NetGalley for a review. I was thrilled to read this. I studied the differences between how men and women communicate in college, and this is right up my alley. I enjoyed it! The book examines how the second wave of feminism transformed society for women, as women worked to create change. And generally, men did not. The world was different, there were and are different expectations for men, and it’s no longer acceptable to simply go to work, come home, and do nothing. The book examines this through the lens of Michael Douglas’ movies from the 80s and 90s.

I hadn’t seen most of these movies, so I watched a few to prepare. It was really interesting how Michael Douglas portrays the troubled man in this time period. The author discusses the ways he is portraying the classic “hysterical woman” of the past in his movies.

Before reading this, I hadn’t considered how much the world changed for men at this time. Unlike women, who were making community organizations, helping each other, and making spaces to be heard and seen, men did nothing to help themselves. Suddenly, men were no longer kings of the world, and many of them didn’t know what to do or how to live in a modern society. Instead of looking around themselves and trying to help each other, they’re now incels who host podcasts and hate women.

Crispin also does a deep dive into capitalism, how it hurts everyone, and drives the patriarchy. She explores the political climate of the 80s and 90s and how it fueled the economic crisis the United States is experiencing right now. And how it led to fascism and the cult of Trump.

This book is fascinating. I haven’t read much nonfiction lately, but I’m so glad I got the chance to read What is Wrong With Men. It was truly interesting, entertaining, and answered questions I didn’t even know I was asking.

Get your copy June 3, 2025.

[Aleksandra · Rating 5 out of 5]

Writing anything that might looks like a review really contradicts the topic, the 'shadowing theme' and the writer herself I would say.
However, I always admire her ability to raise above 'the fantasies we are being sold', address it in a book as simply as possible and for everyone to be able to understand yet drawing a parallel with Bifo, Susan Strange and Edward Said.
The paragraph which hit the hardest and is one of the scariest 'The intellectuals of our time are mostly spokespeople for the elite. 'Elite' is a tricky word these days used to conjure Versaillesian fantasies of wealth and decadence, an easy political scapegoat for the failures of the current moment. But it is true and worrying that our writers, philosophers, and teachers come from the same small educated class as the political rulers and the entertainers, not just unfamiliar with but hostile to the lived experience of much of the nation.'

On a personal note, your writing and the world's view truly keeps me in check and helps not to wonder off to Michael Douglas's world.

[Kristin Fellows]

Agree with several other reviewers –

Crispin’s commentary on the societal systems we’ve created, then destroyed, and how that affects men and their self perception, is interesting.

And the conceit of using Michael Douglas films as illustrations of the rise and fall of men's identities was creative. (I kept wondering if he's read the book and if so, what he thinks of it.)

Overall, however, this did read like a thesis paper and I could only absorb it in small doses while gardening or doing something else productive.

Perhaps, an edited version would have made a better TedTalk?

[Tracey Sinclair · Rating 5 out of 5]

The premise of this sounds a little gimmicky - dissecting everything that's wrong with modern men through the medium of ... Michael Douglas movies? But this is actually a really thoughtful and incisive book about how the dissolution of traditional patriarchy and the shift towards capital as a status marker has left men floundering.

It's very centred on white American men - taking in wider but overlapping issues such as how Americans see themselves as old myths about their country are being challenged - but has a much wider resonance. it even offers tentative, though not easy, solutions.

Crispin is also a witty and eloquent writer, so this never feels bogged down by theory.

Also, wow. it turns out I've seen way more Michael Douglas movies than I thought.

[Lily Luan · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love watching movies that explore what's wrong with society, so naturally I enjoyed this book that explores "what is wrong with men" via Michael Douglas movies. The flashy title might invite controversy, but in reality Crispin delves into far more than what is wrong with men, at times exploring what's wrong with the american people or society in general. In fact, I think I most enjoyed the chapters that critiqued America. The format was refreshing and original, weaving in Michael Douglas films seamlessly, and was exactly how I wished my AP English essays could have been like.

[Mike S. · Rating 4 out of 5]

The other reviewers pretty much nail it without a lot of need to extrapolate further other than to say, this book is executed very well considering the conceit feels like something dreamed up in grad school between bong hits and a conversation begun with, "ok, hear me out on this, but".

[Rachel · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars rounded down. more academic and anti-capitalist than expected. less Michael Douglas than I wanted. usually I like it when authors read their own books, but I think this would have benefitted from a professional narrator.

[Lesley · Rating 3 out of 5]

Examining the patriarchy, male fragility and the definition of masculinity through the cultural lens of Michael Douglas movies was really quite interesting!

[Beth · Rating 5 out of 5]

it's hard to be a man when everything is So Feminine 🤮 and you lost all your money in crypto. but I'm sure they'll figure it out.

[Josh Kline]

when the coffee and Adderall hits at the exact same time

[Buster Danger Franken · Rating 4 out of 5]

A great, somewhat lighthearted, introduction into the crisis of masculinity following after 2nd and 3rd wave feminism and it's connection to kapitalism. With some good clues on what to do next :)

[Demetri · Rating 5 out of 5]

There is a kind of brilliance in asking a question so deceptively simple it nearly blinds you: how does one be a man in a world that has, over the past fifty years, quietly and insistently dismantled the rules men once relied upon? Jessa Crispin’s What Is Wrong with Men answers this question in ways both unexpected and undeniable, brilliantly tracing the crisis of masculinity through a cultural prism that is, at first glance, utterly unlikely: Michael Douglas films. And yet, in Crispin’s hands, this lens becomes not just appropriate but revelatory, allowing her to navigate decades of social, sexual, economic, and generational upheaval with intelligence, wit, and razor-sharp insight.

From the opening pages, Crispin sets the tone: men, especially those conditioned by patriarchal expectation, are adrift. The 1980s and 1990s, she argues, were decades of seismic social change. Women were claiming new freedoms—financial, sexual, professional—and the structures that had guaranteed men authority and entitlement were eroding. Into this uncertain terrain stepped Michael Douglas, whose characters are at once emblematic and emblem-bearers: they are the anxious, entitled, ambitious, morally compromised, and, yes, occasionally heroic figures that crystallize the anxieties of a generation. He is the everyman and the emblem of every failure, the canary in the patriarchal coal mine, and Crispin’s reading of these roles is at once hilarious, devastating, and utterly persuasive.

The chapter on Fatal Attraction exemplifies this approach. Dan Gallagher is more than a man caught in an affair; he is a cultural symptom. Alex, the mistress, refuses to vanish, refuses to conform, and Gallagher’s panic and ineptitude reflect a societal reality: masculinity, previously defined by entitlement and control, cannot adapt without crisis. Crispin’s prose here is incisive, oscillating effortlessly between humor, psychological insight, and feminist critique. The chapter illuminates the tension between male anxiety and female autonomy with a deftness that is both entertaining and profoundly unsettling.

Crispin’s analysis of The War of the Roses extends this inquiry into the domestic and legal spheres, revealing a masculinity destabilized by divorce, property disputes, and the financial independence of women. Oliver Rose’s unraveling is simultaneously comic and tragic, emblematic of men who find themselves suddenly disempowered when the societal scripts they relied upon are removed. In Basic Instinct, sexual dynamics, power, and desire intersect, forcing Douglas’s detective to confront a woman whose intelligence, sexual autonomy, and cunning destabilize his authority. Crispin’s reading here is particularly compelling, revealing not just fear or obsession but the structural fragility of patriarchal masculinity itself.

Corporate and economic dimensions are brilliantly addressed in Wall Street and Falling Down. Gekko embodies a new archetype: the ruthless, ambitious, financially oriented man whose success is performative and contingent. In contrast, D-Fens is the everyman undone by instability, unable to reconcile expectation with reality. Crispin demonstrates that economic context, social hierarchy, and opportunity shape masculine identity in profound ways, and she does so with humor, historical context, and a keen understanding of cultural resonance.

Douglas’s cross-cultural encounters in Black Rain, his political authority in The American President, and the complexities of workplace and sexual power dynamics in Disclosure reveal a consistent theme: masculinity is performed, contingent, and socially mediated. Crispin shows that authority, whether domestic, sexual, economic, or political, is always relational. Men who fail to adapt—whether due to inflexibility, entitlement, or ignorance—experience both personal and societal consequences. Yet even in these examinations of failure, Crispin highlights the potential for insight, adaptation, and growth, showing that masculinity, while fragile, is not immutable.

Perhaps most striking is Crispin’s treatment of relational and generational masculinity. In chapters exploring romantic relationships, age gaps, and fatherhood, she demonstrates that men’s anxieties extend beyond power and ambition into emotional and familial domains. Douglas’s characters negotiate sexual autonomy, intimacy, and legacy, revealing the emotional labor and psychological complexity inherent in masculine identity. Father hunger, generational expectation, and the desire to leave a mark—all are scrutinized with wit and empathy, demonstrating how masculinity is as much about reflection and adaptation as it is about performance and authority.

Stylistically, the book is a marvel. Crispin’s voice is simultaneously intelligent, sharp, and playful, blending rigorous cultural critique with humor and accessibility. Her writing draws the reader in, whether unpacking the symbolic significance of a single scene or tracing decades of cultural, economic, and political shifts. There is a rhythm to her analysis, a cadence that mirrors the oscillation of masculinity itself: powerful, uncertain, performative, and often contradictory. The use of Douglas as a lens is both clever and insightful, providing coherence across diverse themes while maintaining cultural relevance and narrative momentum.

If the book has limits, they are small. Its focus on Douglas, while illuminating, excludes other cultural figures who might enrich the analysis. Certain economic and political contexts are suggested rather than exhaustively explored, and at times, the pacing across domains—sexual, corporate, domestic, political—feels brisk. Yet these are minor concerns in a work that succeeds in transforming pop culture into a profound reflection on modern masculinity.

Ultimately, Crispin’s achievement is that she takes a question everyone thinks they understand and unpacks it with precision, humor, and cultural intelligence. Masculinity, she demonstrates, is not a fixed identity but a social performance, a relational construct, and a reflection of broader societal structures. Douglas’s characters embody the tensions, failures, and occasional triumphs of men navigating a world in flux, and through them, Crispin renders visible the anxieties, privileges, and responsibilities of male identity.

What Is Wrong with Men is a timely, incisive, and entertaining work of cultural criticism. It is a book that provokes thought, inspires laughter, and demands reflection. Crispin balances wit with scholarship, comedy with insight, and critique with empathy, producing a work that is as intellectually rigorous as it is culturally resonant. Readers will come away with a clearer understanding of how masculinity has been shaped—and destabilized—by historical, social, and cultural forces, and why this understanding is essential for navigating the complexities of contemporary life.

In short, this is a book that does exactly what it sets out to do: it makes sense of male anxiety, failure, and adaptation in a way that is at once entertaining, instructive, and profoundly relevant. It is a work of cultural criticism that is both accessible and deeply insightful, and it leaves the reader with a richer understanding of what it means to be a man—or to live in a world shaped by men.

Rating: 91/100

[Dave Rhody · Rating 4 out of 5]

As a boomer-generation white heterosexual male, I am in no position to argue with the title: What’s Wrong with Men?

Jessa Crispin is a modern clear-eyed feminist, inviting us men to redefine ourselves. Despite the provocative title, she’s somewhat generous in her appraisal, “The patriarchy sold men out, stopped honoring that old gentlemen’s agreement. No one told the men.”

But let’s get to the full title of Crispin’s 2025 book:
WHAT’S WRONG WITH MEN: Patriarchy, the Crisis of Masculinity, and how (of course) Michael Douglas Films Explain Everything.

Michael Douglas has had a prolific career. Film critic Rob Edelman points out that Douglas’s roles have “personified the contemporary, Caucasian middle-to-upper-class American male who finds himself the brunt of female anger because of real or imagined sexual slights".

Crispin reminds us of his rugged-and-loveable Jack Colton role in his early 80’s films, Romancing the Stone and its sequel Jewel of the Nile. But that was a time before America, and the men who ran it, needed to redefine themselves. It was before the end of the Cold War.

In Fatal Attraction and Wall Street – both in 1987 – we witness a new American male, sense of entitlement still intact, but the world is no longer his oyster. In the first, Douglas is a man who feels utterly betrayed. Glenn Close plays the woman who happily fucked him but afterward was unwilling to take no for an answer.

Crispin also points out that in Fatal Attraction, Michael Douglas thinks this is about him, about punishment for his infidelity. But it’s really about the tension between two women – his faithful stay-at-home wife Beth and Alex, single, self-determined and assertive-to-the-point-of-crazy. Both women demonstrate that patriarchy no longer rules the land.

In Wall Street, Douglas is the infamous Gordon Gekko. Never content with his success, Gekko clamors for the next big deal to shore up his fragile male ego. Despite his bravado, he is always slightly out-of-control, the world never quite rising to his demands.

Referencing Douglas’s role in the 1993 film Falling Down, William ‘D-Fens’ Foster, a man pissed off at the world on a rampage across L.A., Crispin writes, “After the fall of the Soviet Union and the liberation of its communist empire in Central and Eastern Europe, America had an identity crisis. Without its most powerful enemy, who was it anymore.”

In a world where money and acquisition hold greater sway than substance or contribution to the greater good, “Masculinity had become severed from the actions of masculinity.”

In 1995’s The American President, Michael Douglas transforms himself into a new age male. President Andrew Sheperd is professional, cosmopolitan, educated and liberal. He proclaims that “Americans can no longer afford to pretend they live in a great society.”

Jessa Crispin peppers the entire book with Michael Douglas metaphors, referencing his roles in Fatal Attraction, Black Rain, The Game, Wonder Boys, Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, and more. Starring in over 65 films, Douglas provides endless material.

But Crispin goes beyond the struggle of men trying to redefine themselves, far beyond Douglas film role metaphors. She offers insightful commentary on the feminist movement, 21st Century American politics, history and sociology.

She speaks frankly about the failures of the feminist movement: “Sadly, no matter how many CEOs or girlbosses or Olympians or representatives with hoop earrings we managed to put into positions of power, somehow the changes feminists had been dreaming of failed to materialize.”

Crispin points out, however, that feminism did create female solidarity. Women banded together to fight for equal rights and equal opportunity. But when heterosexual men finally had to confront the demise of patriarchy – as Douglas portrays – they failed to reach out to each other. As Crispin points out, men don’t identify with their gender but with themselves as individuals. They lack a sense of solidarity.

She quotes French economist Thomas Piketty, “Every human society must justify its inequalities: unless reason for the are found, the whole political and social edifice stand in danger of collapse.”
As evidenced by the number of my Crispin quotes, What Is Wrong with Men is chock-full of insights.
I particularly love this one: “Imagining what a humbled America looks like is the same project as imagining a humbled* form of masculinity.”

*I misspelled this at first, but wonder if ‘bumbled form of masculinity’ might be more accurate.

[Reading Our Shelves · Rating 3 out of 5]

Full review at: https://readingourshelves.wordpress.c...

This book takes a moderately heavy topic – how the rise of feminism left men not knowing what their new roles should be – and couches the author’s ideas on the topic in examinations of the films of one movie star. It’s a bit of a zany topic, sure, but for someone who loves dishing about movies… I just had to dive in.

The book is broken down into several categories, with chapters on a few separate movies in each. The bigger categories are: Michael Douglas and Women, The Economic Actor, A White Man in a Brown World, The Patriarch Falls, and Welcome to the Postpatriarchy.

The author spends some time defining patriarchy and its various structures, and posits that we didn’t really dismantle any of the structures themselves… we just moved from the men being the ones obviously benefiting to the wealthy being the ones obviously benefiting.

As for the movies themselves, whole chapters are dedicated to the likes of “Fatal Attraction,” “Wall Street,” “The American President,” and so many more that you’d totally expect. But she also talks about other Douglas movies, like “Romancing the Stone,” without necessarily dedicating whole chapters to them.

She compares the men of this era of movies with those of Michael’s father’s era… whereas Kirk Douglas often played war heroes, the post-Vietnam era was jaded by war, for example. But beyond that concession, the author does not delve into Douglas himself, his upbringing or personal life. It’s all focused on the characters he’s played.

The final chapters devolve into a larger commentary, with movies referenced but not given whole chapters. These are her closing arguments, if you will, to drive home what she sees as “the point.” And I found this part just as intriguing as the rest, but I wanted to call out the slight format change.

This was a fun read… for someone who can sit through long-form written film criticism, and doesn’t mind reading about concepts like feminism and politics and such. It won’t probably appeal to everyone equally. And that’s ok.

[Aran Johnson · Rating 4 out of 5]

“Once a man has wandered over the line from responsibility to criminality he is frequently seen as disposable.”

This is at the heart of this book’s argument. Patriarchy is not what it used to be and has mostly been replaced by a hyper charged capitalism that rewards a very few with extraordinary gains and leaves almost everybody else fighting against each other in an endless blame war. And, once a man is deemed no longer worthy, he is likely to drift into hateful thinking. The book is suggesting that saving those men from falling over the edge is part of the solution.

Feminists decry toxic masculinity and the YouTube manosphere. White men yell about immigrants. Long term immigrants get mad about recent immigrants.

All these people who are all victims of capitalism have incorrectly concluded that they are enemies of each other.

Meanwhile Jeff Bezos can rent the entire city of Venice as his wedding venue.

The author has cleverly used Michael Douglas films as a way to track the historical time period in which strictly defined gender roles were replaced by a social system that was based almost solely on money.

Some of the facts are a little wrong and, having lived through the period, I did notice some sloppiness with the historical context of some of the films. For example, it is a pretty big exaggeration to suggest that Falling Down had a big cultural impact.

Still, the message is pretty good and is one that I truly think many men would find compelling. The book’s second half is strongest.

The book is a real call for people to recognize a shared struggle and work together against the real enemy. To get there we may need to work a bit on forgiveness and stop using binary thinking that labels people as either good or bad.

[Joy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jessa Crispin does it again. This lady is amazing, IMO. There was so much in here, I feel like I should read it another time or two to soak more up.
This is a very thoughtful take on how the patriarchy has been dismantled and what that now means for society—good and bad. She has thought about this at levels that I sure hadn’t, and I thought it was great.
The title/approach of structuring it around Michael Douglas movies was VERY creative, though I suspect it may cost her some readers (because at quick glance it sounds very random and/or like it’s heavily focused on Michael Douglas, which it really isn’t). Her point is that his roles during the 80s and 90s embodied all the phases/challenges of the role of white men in society—and after reading the book, I 1,000% see her point. It was very creative (though I don’t think it will draw in any readers who would be in the fence about trying this book).


Most notable quote:
The American birth rate began its sharp decline in the early 1990s. There was also growth in the number of people delaying, or forgoing, marriage around the same time. Divorce rates seemed to stabilize after the peak in the 1970s and 80s but this was possibly only because fewer people were getting married. Without the guidance of traditional, patriarchal forms of courtship, marriage, and family creation, the heterosexual couple proved itself to be a very fragile thing. All you had to do to destroy centuries of norms was give half of the participants a real opportunity to say no. And then it all fell apart. That should be a clue that maybe not everyone was enjoying themselves.
3:05:00

[Trevin Sandlin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Jessa Crispin has written a deep dive into the "crisis" of modern masculinity through the lens of the movies of Michael Douglas, particularly the movies of the 80s and 90s. Her exploration of the main topic, masculinity, is fascinating, well reasoned and pretty excellently well argued. She doesn't provide a whole lot in the way of recommendations, but she does point where things have gone wrong. Where her argument breaks down is pushing this through her chosen lense of the movies of Michael Douglas. Quite apart from my disagreements on her takes of some of these movies, the larger issue is that this is a long-form essay that is pushed well past the breaking point. An essay on this would have been interesting, but Crispin ignores some (perhaps) better movies to explore her themes (which, again, I think she sells quite well) in favor of pushing some square pegs through round holes. In the end, it started to drag early and by the end I'd started to tune some things out.

This isn't a bad exploration of the topic. I think it might have been better if it had focused one chapter on Michael Douglas, another on, say, Tom Hanks. Another on Michael Keaton. Etc. There were opportunities there. But for what it is...it's fine. 3.5 stars, rounded down to 3.

Thank you to NetGalley and Pantheon/Knopf for a chance to read an advance copy in exchange for a fair review. All opinions are my own and are uncompensated.

[K. Karl · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jessa Crispin analyzes psychological, social, and political issues about men through a cultural review of Michael Douglas’s films. Popular culture reflects the current societal norms, so this is a fun and interesting way to approach the problem of alienated men. Some of Douglas’s films, like War of the Roses, reflect the unfairness of the male-dominated marriage. When Douglas’s wife (played by Kathleen Turner) wants to start a business after they become empty-nesters, Douglas is derisive. This infuriates Turner because she sacrificed her prime working years to make the perfect house for him and his career. Crispin then explains how Turner’s legitimate mid-life crisis gets co-opted into a popular story of how men have mid-life crises. Other films, like Wall Street, depict Douglas as Gordon Gekko, plays an unscrupulous financial wizard who gets rich through insider trading. But his wealth, drugs, sex workers, perversely drove young men into careers in finance, even though Gekko in the end must pay for his crimes. The film revealed a strong interest in getting rich by any means possible, even though the moral of the movie was that crime does not pay. And Michael Douglas was at the heart of the reveal.
Crispin’s writing is engaging, sarcastic, and humorous, making What Is Wrong with Men a highly enjoyable read.

[Steve Malone · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a mixed review. First, I got a lot out of this book and found the progression over time discussing the patriarchy that dominates society quite interesting and enlightening. I learned quite a bit about the problems the ingrained male assumption of privilege can and does permeate our society. I keep reflecting back to aspects of the patriarchy that I have witnessed and sometimes participated in that does disturb me. Being more aware of such may help me to adjust my actions to reduce the deleterious effects. Why I give the book only 3 stars is that there were several things that did bother me a lot. 1. I have neither seen nor can remember any of the Michael Douglas films used extensively as examples (I guess I can't blame the book for my not being familiar with all of these films), 2. The author frequently uses terms of exaggerations or extremes such as 'never' or 'always' or 'all' when there are clearly cases that don't fit these extremes. This overlooks the subtleties that exist that can make the argument or situation more interesting and informative. 3. There are also many assertions made without any follow up as to the evidence or where her opinion comes from. Some may be 'self evident' but many are not and leaves one saying "where did that come from".

[Daniel · Rating 3 out of 5]

I won a paper back copy of what is wrong with men from a goodreads giveaway.

I have not watched many Michael Douglas movies or if I have watched them I don't remember watching them. What is wrong with men makes me want to watch Michael Douglas movies.

Although I did not laugh at anything written in the book I thought Jessica Crispin make a lot of good points about culture and how it had changed for men and what can be done to make it better for everyone.

The one point that the author made that sticks with me the most is the idea of the man with a midlife crisis. If you say midlife crisis to me I would think of a man feeling trapped by marriage, getting a divorce, a new girlfriend.

The author says its actually women who hit middle age and are dissatisfied with their marriages and get a divorce. When I thought about it that made a lot of sense. Women probably do the house work, take care of the kids, have a job and feel suffocated by marriage not men.

So I thought that What is wrong with men while not hilarious was a book that made me rethink who actually is suffocated by marriage or who has the midlife crisis.

[Abbey · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this book does a lot to answer, economically and socially, why it is that men are struggling, and just why it is that they’re turning to right wing, fascist impulses and archetypes of a masculinity long-gone, in ways that are much more satisfying (to me) than a few other books on the topic I’ve read in the last year. And it’s funny.

On the other hand, I think this books whiteness, and it’s onlineness, get in the way. The average man does not know Contrapoints or see yoga as a cultural appropriation issue, and the fact of the matter is that most men in real life are not getting shouted down by women the way the book implies they regularly are. It feels like the most glaring blind spot of the work to me, who nodded along to mentions of the likes of Hassan Piker and Andrew Tate, because, well, I’m chronically online and have been deep in the trenches of leftist tumblr and twitter for the last decade. The author clearly has too, and I think it’s the weakest point insofar as any possible solution to this problem goes.

Overall though, really funny, and I mostly agree with her assessment. Now to go add a whole bunch of Michael Douglas movies to me “to watch” list.