Hello My Name Is Single: How I Learned to Ignore the World's Expectations and Trust God

by Adriane Dorr Heins

Being a single Christian in today s culture can be complicated. This helpful book seeks to engage singles with Christ-centered content that covers topics such as dating, modesty, holding out for marriage, understanding the vocation of a single person, and seeking healthy guy-girl relationships. It also provides a platform for married Christians to engage singles in conversation about the blessings and challenges of marriage as well as lessons learned from their time as a single Christian.

164 pages, Paperback

First published June 3, 2014

Reviews

[Amy · Rating 2 out of 5]

I'll be honest, I became completely frustrated with this book. When I picked it up I was expecting to find a refreshing take on being single and how it's ok, God is in control. While that last aspect is repeatedly stated, I am also constantly reminded that marriage is the ideal and that at my current age I should get cracking, find myself a guy, and settle on down! Where is the reassurance that God will take care of you regardless of relationship status? Why, despite the title, am I being bombarded with the awesomeness of marriage? Should there not be more information/inspiration on how to make the most of our time as single men and women and how to best use this time to serve our Lord. After all, we are constantly being reminded of our singleness anyway, and we do not need a book that offers consistent reminders of this fact while holding the ideas of marriage making life better over our heads.

Perhaps more should be explored on what we as singles can bring to the church and evangelization instead of what we may or may not be missing out on. You cannot make the claim that living a celibate and single life is a vocation of its own if you are going to immediately turn around and say that marriage is what has been in the cards for each of us. You can't have it both ways. #shakingmyhead

P.s. I do believe this book had good intentions but it just fell a little flat.

[Heather · Rating 3 out of 5]

Hello, My Name Is Single is a light, swift read that nevertheless incorporates weighty, solid theological truths. I gained little in the way of new insights from this book, but it did remind me of truths I know in fresh ways. In this sense, it is a very theological book: Instead of offering quick fixes and new, evidence-based relationship advice, it directs the reader again and again to the unchanging foundation, to Christ, to His Word, to prayer. Yet it never becomes ponderous, in part because of its oh-so-breezy style, which at times seems to emulate blog culture writing. This style, along with the numerous cultural references, will make the book seem dated in a few years, but for now it is a worthwhile read for singles, their pastors, their families, and their church families. My favorite parts were the moments where the author dropped the quirky, tongue-in-cheek style for a bit to offer deeply personal stories and words of wisdom from the Scriptures, the church fathers, and current pastors. In the end, the main message of this book is not uniquely for singles. Rather, it is the same message that all Christians should hear each Sunday and think on every day: Repent and receive forgiveness. Pray earnestly. Keep your eyes on Christ.

[Krystle Marcis · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm no where near being close to ignoring the world's expectations, but maybe closer to trusting God. Although I really enjoyed the book, I don't think the intended audience is necessarily single people. It is however a phenomenal read for all of the non single people who want to better love single people in their spheres of influence!