Flooded: Panduan Berbasis Fungsi Otak untuk Membantu Anak-Anak Mengelola Emosi

by Allison Edwards

Mungkin sistem pendidikan masih mengabaikan pentingnya pengendalian emosi . Namun, tidak demikian dengan dunia bisnis. Kecerdasan emosional sangat erat kaitannya dengan keberhasilan seseorang dalam pekerjaan. Sekalipun demikian, kita sebagai orangtua dan pendidik belum memprioritaskan tugas membantu anak-anak untuk mengenali dan mengelola emosi mereka.

Mempersiapkan anak-anak menghadapi dunia yang menanti mereka, kita perlu mengajarkan cara mengenali perasaan, mengetahui apa yang menjadi pemicu perasaan-perasaan itu, dan memberikan strategi coping untuk mengelola perasaan dengan cara yang sehat. Namun, sebelum bisa melakukan itu semua, terlebih dahulu kita harus memahami emosi kita sendiri. Sebab, sebagai orang dewasa yang penting dalam hidup anak, kita adalah teladan dalam mengelola emosi.

Buku ini membahas cara agar kita tidak tertekan dan stres, tidak mengamuk atau kehilangan kendali emosi, dan tidak melakukan hal-hal yang nantinya akan kita sesali. Dan yang terpenting, di sini juga dibahas bagaimana cara untuk mengajari anak-anak mengelola emosi. Dilengkapi informasi yang kita butuhkan, bahasa yang harus digunakan, dan langkah-langkah yang perlu diambil, kita diharapkan dapat membantu anak-anak mengatasi emosi secara bijaksana.

Sekalipun ini bukan perjalanan yang mudah, jika kita meluangkan waktu untuk memahami, mempelajari, dan menerapkan informasi ini, kita akan dapat membantu meningkatkan kehidupan emosional anak-anak di masa kini dan generasi mendatang.

Genres: Parenting, Counselling, Nonfiction, Emotion, Mental Health

136 pages, Paperback

Published August 2, 2023

About the author

Allison Edwards is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist who specializes in working with children, adolescents, and their families. She received her undergraduate degree in Education from Northwest Missouri State and a graduate degree in Counseling from Vanderbilt University.
Before opening a private practice, Allison developed and maintained a play therapy program for at-risk and immigrant children in the public school system. In her current practice, she sees children of all ages, consults with parents, supervises counselors, and writes about childhood anxiety. She also serves as an Affiliate Professor at Vanderbilt University where she enjoys teaching future counselors how to work with kids.

Reviews

[Laura Twaroski · Rating 5 out of 5]

A really quick read that offered some solid insight into the impact of emotions on the brain and suggestions toward helping a child identify and learn to regulate their own emotions.

[novi a. puspita · Rating 3 out of 5]

Buku tipis yg asyik. Semoga di waktu mendatang, anak saya saat memasuki usia pra remaja mau baca buku ini. Jelas membantu! Andai dulu saat remaja saya ketemu buku ini, rasanya pergumulan pikiran & batin usia2 remaja bisa sedikitnya berkurang, atau bahkan ngga ada itu banyak bingung2, nangis-nangis.

[Alex Evans · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good review of information on trauma, aces and behavior.

Reiterated I suck as a parent.

Encouraged me to try a new strategy or two at home and in my classroom.

[Emily Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a parent of 3 neurodiverse children with what I like to call “Syndrome Soup” this is an excellent book to review what happens when emotions become escalated, and how to help children identify and learn skills to regulate those intense emotions.
When anyone is in that flood zone, we are unable to access our ability to reason and logic, which this book does a good job at reminding caregivers. We must learn to be patient and understanding, and to recognize when it is the right time to talk and when to use other skills.

One piece of advice I want to give all caregivers who are reading this book during a time of potential crisis: we never have all the answers, and it will always be a matter of being our own scientists. By that, I mean we try new approaches, and we fail fast and regroup with better information moving forward and try again.

[Amber Nutter · Rating 5 out of 5]

Flooded is a book that takes you on the journey of reminders to stop and think, learn about emotional responses and provides strategies to further the home to school communication. Providing insight into felt safety and asking “how are you” rather than “what happened/what’s wrong it provides a better insight into their emotional state. It can be hard at times since educators are humans and can react in the moment as we also can be in fight, flight and freeze mode. I am hopeful in the future there will continue to be more resources in the area of co-regulation that blend with brain-based education and strategies.

[Ashley · Rating 4 out of 5]

Our elementary school guidance counselor recommended this book to all parents at our school. It offers good, succinct explanations for what is happening in the brain when kids are overcome by emotion. I have a child who just devolves into uncontrollable tears from time to time. I think I will use the brain-based explanation to help her understand why she sometimes feels so out of control.

The book could be better if it offered a few more self-regulation technics. Though the ones it has are good.

[Karen Gavra · Rating 5 out of 5]

awalnya beli buku ini iseng krn mumet bgt pengen baca bacaan ringan dan tipis di tengah2 ngerjain Skripsi. ternyata buku nya insightful sekali. meskipun judulnya buat membantu anak2, tapi menurut gue ini juga bisa diterapkan ke orang sekitar, kayak orang tua, pasangan, atau keluarga.

dan menurut gue orang2 yg mikir pengen punya anak atau pengen nikah nantinya, wajib sih buat baca buku ini. seengaknya sekali seumur hidup deh.

[Kelly McPherson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Definitely some good information about emotions and trauma and the brain. The suggestion to wait out a kiddo while they’re flooded is common sense but with the students I teach they sometimes need co-regulation in order to get calm. Also, there are some good strategies for teaching self regulation but the students I teach require a more visual approach such as The Zones of Regulation.

[Sylvia Prastika · Rating 4 out of 5]

Bukunya nggak cuma bisa dibaca sama pendidik atau profesional konseling aja tapi para orangtua juga bisa baca buku ini biar bisa bantu anaknya mengelola emosi mereka. Dan kita bisa menerapkan sama orang sekitar nggak cuma buat anak-anak aja. Bukunya tipis tapi insightful, cocok buat yang lagi belajar ilmu parenting mau yang belum atau udah menikah sampe yang para orang tua.

[Amy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read as part of a book study for work, this quick guide was full of great ideas for any educator or parent to implement. It gives a quick and easy to understand viewpoint of what a flooded or triggered brain does, and how it sets a person into a fight, flight, or freeze reaction.

I would have like more depth in the science.

[Krystle Lopez · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was required reading for my job. While I felt that it didn't help with my profession, it provided a lot of insight into how to treat teenagers in distress from a parent's perspective. I think it made me a more understanding parent with my own daughters.

[Amanda Hale · Rating 5 out of 5]

What an incredibly powerful and insightful book. As an educator and parent, this was eye opening in how to fully understand what my children’s and students’ brains process daily struggles. This book is invaluable and should be on everyone’s shelf, regardless of profession or child status.

[Elizabeth · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very quick read. Simplistic, but it is helping me understand one of my children who goes into a “flooded” emotional state frequently. Lots to think about. Will be looking for more ideas on the subject. Written from a school counselor’s perspective— includes advice for counselors and parents.

[Ashley Quinton · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this for work and it was a quick and easy read with some helpful information and strategies. I wish she would have gone into a little more detail about some of the strategies but what I’ve learned will be helpful in my classroom and with my kids at home.

[Rebecca Webster · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informative and Practical

To the point with practical strategies for teaching children the essential skills needed to self-regulate. Great for counselors, social workers, and parents.

[Kim Erwin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Decent book - nothing earth shattering for me, but definitely a good read for school counselors - especially those new to the profession.

[Gail · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book for educators and parents. Quick read with tons of helpful strategies.

[Mel Corrigan]

The content was useful. Probably could have been more refined and better formatted. Relative to other parenting texts, I felt it used its pages wisely and succinctly.

[Tionna Jones · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great quick read for parents, educators, counselors or anyone who works with children. The big take away is recognizing your own triggers.

[Anastasia · Rating 5 out of 5]

A simple, short book that must be read by all parents and teachers.

[Morgan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was extremely helpful for tips and understanding what my child is going through. Shared it with her teacher.

[Ana Porumbaceanu · Rating 5 out of 5]

Scurta, foarte pe înțelesul parintilor, usor de parcurs.

[Celeste · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for parents and anyone working with kids of all ages.

[Hannah Taylor-Loyd · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was okay. There was some good information about the parts of brain that are overcome in the flood zone, but as far as strategies this book is lacking.

[Brianna · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was clear, concise, and to the point. Truly one of the best counseling/parenting books I’ve read in my professional and graduate career.

[Karen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great, easy to read book that I’m hoping will help me teach students how to regulate their emotions.

[Heather Greaves · Rating 5 out of 5]

Easy read. Easy to understand

[Stephanie Stough · Rating 5 out of 5]

Currently recommending this book to everyone I know. And it’s under 100 pages long so PLEASE read it.

[Brenda Zusriadi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Buku yang sangat bagus untuk memahami emosi yang ada di dalam diri kita dan anak - anak beserta cara menanganinya 😊😊