"Good sex is impossible without equality."
--Carter Sherman, The Second Coming
Full disclosure: I probably wouldn't have read this book had I not been interviewed for it last year (a quote from me appears in chapter 9!), but boy am I glad I did.
I guess I probably would have thought I didn't have anything to learn from it. The Second Coming is about Gen Z's beliefs, attitudes and practices when it comes to sex, and as someone who is in Gen Z and has sex, and has read many books about sex, I probably would have skipped it. But there are three particular reasons I give this book five stars, and why I would recommend it to others regardless of age: one, the writing is excellent; two, the inclusion of so many Gen Z voices make the book stand out; and three, The Second Coming has many important things to say about consent.
Before reading this book, I never thought about consent being a crucial component of sexual education. That may sound bad, but hear me out. I, like many of the other people interviewed for the book, had a terrible sex education that prioritized abstinence above all else. Any inklings in my mind of the idea of consent were planted in the wake of #MeToo, which was definitely not discussed in any of my high school classes. But Sherman points out why this is such a problem in my favorite passage in the book: if your teachers only ever tell you to say 'no' to sex, what do you do when someone doesn't take 'no' for an answer?
In so many ways, the reasons the world has incels, and rape culture, and girls with body image issues, etc, etc, is because of the failure of sex education, and the people behind that failure. America is in dire need of its own cultural revolution, one which abolishes the conservative ideals surrounding sex. Young people are going to have sex despite conservative efforts to stop them. They need to learn about consent, they need access to birth control and abortion, and they need to understand that equality is the key to good sex. Conservatives in both political parties, whether they outwardly express it or not, want to control and dominate young people, and in particular young women. This domination has been the cause of so much misery and death in this country, and it is time for us young people to fight back.