The memorable thing about this novel is the character of our narrator, Rosa Achmetowna The archetypal feared Mother-in-law, unable-to-show-her-love mother, & excessively doting grandmother. Strong, independent, a voice that easily directs the narrative, I was honestly torn between understanding/almost liking and/or hating her. Sometimes, it seemed like she was the woman that might not realize how hurtful she was being to her loved ones. Other times it seemed she was fully cognizant of this but saw it as inevitable, as she was in the right and/or simply did not care. Most of the time, the essential thing was that she would come through when it really counted, unveiling that she might have a heart after all. I was shocked at these times, her previous words, decisions, etcetera being so contradicting, and genuinely so.
She very clearly discusses her dislike, sometimes regret regarding her only daughter Sulfia. She says the worst things about her, negative things that would be better suited for a most hated enemy. Nicknamed "Stupid Sulfia", she has no faith in her looks finding her any sort of husband, let alone a quality one. She does not believe in her daughter at all, in any way. In order to, how she sees it, "compensate", she does things such as setting her up with bachelors, filing paperwork to move her across the continent, visiting the three husbands she eventually has; the general scheming and conning in order to create the life for her she sees to be right, because she knows best, of course.
Rosa treats her husband the same way, a not-so-reserved dislike bordering on hatred. But, she remains married to him, as much for image reasons as for an affinity for him she herself may be in denial about.
Aminat, named by her of course, Sulfia's daughter from the first marriage, is a ray of sunshine in Rosa's family members. She falls in love with her granddaughter as she almost single-handedly decides to raise her, going so far as to kidnap Aminat, audaciously stating that Aminat belongs to her.
The other two female heroines are also memorable, but their presence is not as strong (obviously in part due to their not directly narrating their side of the story).
A humorous but also sad (wartime, underprivileged countries) story with three unique leading heroines. Three generations: grandmother, mother, daughter. The intertwining familial dynamics, their laughable adventures across countries, scenes that remind readers of their own family drama, while the men fade into the background, because we all know the women run the show.
She blames her husband Kalganow, completely illegitimately, for Sulfai's death. To place that kind of guilt on someone, especially when they are ill themselves, already depressed, is inexcusable. And this was not something retracted once she came to her senses. Another time, she tries to commit suicide in part, I am convinced, in hopes that she would not succeed and guilt Sulfia into not relocating with her current husband so she can still have Aminat. She succeeds in this, and not only feels no remorse, but also expresses no inkling how selfish this is. These are only a few examples, but, even though she does in her own way ensure the well being of Aminat, Sulfia, and even all five of their combined husbands/serious love interests (none, three, two, respectively), such decisions cannot be forgiven, most definitely without evidence of any remorse whatsoever.