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How to Have Better Relationships: The Skills You Need, the Actions to Take based on The 5 Personality Patterns
We all want to have good relationships, but no one shows us how.
No one tells us how different other people can be or tells us how to approach them, interact with them, and relate to them. This book tells you how.
When approaching others, do you know
what makes them feel safer ‒ and what scares them?
when to face them ‒ and when not to?
when to move closer ‒ and when not to?
how to speak to their core ‒ and when not to?
This book will show you
how to understand them
how to approach them
how to communicate successfully with them
When you learn this, all your relationships will get better.
No one tells us how different other people can be or tells us how to approach them, interact with them, and relate to them. This book tells you how.
When approaching others, do you know
what makes them feel safer ‒ and what scares them?
when to face them ‒ and when not to?
when to move closer ‒ and when not to?
how to speak to their core ‒ and when not to?
This book will show you
how to understand them
how to approach them
how to communicate successfully with them
When you learn this, all your relationships will get better.
322 pages, Paperback
Published October 15, 2024
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February 6, 2025
When I read Steven Kessler’s older book “The 5 Personality Patterns” a couple of years ago, I was enthusiastic about his convincing, straightforward, and helpful description of safety patterns we habitually embrace to protect ourselves against emotional overwhelm.
The author decided to write a sequel focusing on relationships. It turns out, however, that he does not have many additional insights to share. Large parts of this book are repetitions from his first one, and some exercises and basic principles are recurring throughout the sequel as if the author was trying to fill the pages. Repeating an exercise like a mantra may have a healing effect in real life, but it is boring in a book. While the concept of the five patterns is compelling and undoubtedly supported by the extensive professional experience of the author, some of the conclusions about partnership dynamics seem far-fetched and constructed.
My recommendation is to read his first book, which I still find very helpful, and skip the second one.
The author decided to write a sequel focusing on relationships. It turns out, however, that he does not have many additional insights to share. Large parts of this book are repetitions from his first one, and some exercises and basic principles are recurring throughout the sequel as if the author was trying to fill the pages. Repeating an exercise like a mantra may have a healing effect in real life, but it is boring in a book. While the concept of the five patterns is compelling and undoubtedly supported by the extensive professional experience of the author, some of the conclusions about partnership dynamics seem far-fetched and constructed.
My recommendation is to read his first book, which I still find very helpful, and skip the second one.
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