Glad to have finished on Thanksgiving, so I can give thanks for this book.
The tale takes us through the bonds of tribe, family, and nationality; those bonds are ugly and beautiful, cruel and kind, centering and anxiety-producing. It sets that discussion within a bigger story, that of the parting of children from their parents by governments. For me, this story was made more poignant by living in America today, when the government callously divides children and parents every day. Yes, this is less egregious than kidnapping and disappearing people as the North Koreans did with Japanese people living in Japan, but it is on the same spectrum.
I found it so interesting that in a story about the bonds created by association with others, Choi wrote about profound loneliness. Tiny bits of that loneliness were dispelled by connecting with others, but often others' existence made the loneliness more profound. This loneliness, exacerbated by connection, is never more true or well-exemplified than in the story, from beginning to end, of two of the main characters, Anne and her daughter, Louisa.
I don't want to talk much about the book, but I will say that we begin with the partings of children and parents. At the outset, little Louisa and her professor father, Serk, are taking a nighttime stroll on a beach in Japan. Serk, a green card-holding American who grew up in Japan but is an ethnic Korean, is teaching in Japan for a year. The move is initially hard on Louisa, who is of mixed-race, and staggeringly difficult for Anne who is of European descent and has spent just a bit of time outsied the US, and who starts just after arriving in Japan to show symptoms of a serious illness that leaves her nearly paralyzed with exhaustion, and which the Japanese doctors decided was all in her head. Anne's depression and illness leave her estranged from her daughter, and more estranged than ever from her husband, who is always awful to her because he has no respect. love, or trust to give. Serk disappears, and Louisa is found nearly dead from drowning. All assume he has died. Anne, now nearly unable to move, heads back to the US with an angry, confused, cruel child in tow. We also start early on with another severance of parental bonds. Anne gives birth to Tobias when she is 19. Her much older, very married, tryst-mate has her sign away all rights, and raises the child with his wife. The impacts of all of these events are profound for all concerned. Tobias' grief and trauma manifest in ways very different from Louisa's, though both choose in different ways to separate themselves from those closest to them. There are also partings of Serk from his parents and younger siblings when they choose to move from Japan ot North Korea after the end of the war, and of Anne from her parents and siblings through entropy, choices, and chance. Everyone in this book seems lost.
As mentioned, there is another story here, the story of North Korea's campaign to kidnap ethnic Koreans from South Korea and Japan. Of course, I knew about the kidnappings, but I guess I never thought about how that ugly practice destroyed the people left behind. That is beautifully handled here.
I loved everything about this intricate and powerful book. How have I managed to skip Choi's previous work? I will attempt ot correct that oversight in 2026.