The Shyness and Social Anxiety System

by Sean Cooper, Robert Duff

This book shows you how to overcome shyness and social anxiety permanently...

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The system has been written from the perspective of the author who has actually overcome these issues himself.

Most of the "confidence" self-help books out there tell you useless advice like "fake it 'til you make it" or "just think about what's the worst that can happen."

You won't find that garbage in this book. Instead, you'll learn specific, science-based techniques to quickly eliminate your shyness and social anxiety.

The System Has 3 Parts:

1. The first part of the book explains the overall strategy for "rewiring your brain" to transform your personality to stop being shy, quiet and withdrawn.

You'll finally be confident and comfortable in your own skin, even at parties and around the opposite sex.

2. The second part of the book reveals 3 techniques that allow you to almost instantly stop feeling anxious, nervous and tense in social situations.

3. The third part of the book shows you how to change the way you THINK so you don't feel insecure and self-conscious anymore.

You also learn how to be more talkative and spontaneous... even if you've always had problems not knowing what to say in conversations.

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Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Mental Health, Psychology

202 pages, Library Binding

First published March 16, 2011

Reviews

[Jennie Cotton · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Shyness and Social Anxiety System it is an e-book wherein in-depth discussions about the symptoms, causes and treatment for shyness and social anxiety are made.

[Anastasia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very small book, yet every word is powerful. I love to read, but i’ve never read a book where i’d have highlighted literally (!!) every phrase. I’ve read the book in one evening. I’m surprised how few reviews it has. Before reading, i was sure that even these few rates and reviews were fake, mostly due to weird description of the book, lack of information about the book/author on internet, and, obviously, not so many (to put it mildly) rates and reviews.

Well, this book is great indeed. I’m painfully shy! And probably i have social anxiety. The book helped me realize why i have them, how to deal with them etc. Also very inspirational. I can’t wait to start practicing, the author convinced me that i can do it. He did it, why can’t i? Actually, i have a very difficult relationship with my dad, who violated and abused me, and eventually left me for 5 years, and now he’s back into my life, asking me very private questions and making fun of me. I always tried to please him in order to get his approval. Why? I barely like the guy. Before reading this book i realized rationally that i need to respond him somehow, set boundaries. But i couldn’t and i thought i’ll never be able to, no matter how many people told me that i have to do it. Well, i’ve just finished this book and i can’t wait for my dad to text me so i can finally BE MYSELF. Apart from this, i can’t wait to try out all the techniques in social situations and i’m definitely going to read the suggested by S. Cooper “The Power of Now” (E. Tolle). Meanwhile i believe that “The Shyness and the Social Anxiety System” deserves to be much much much more popular. Not only it’s relevant for people with social anxiety or shyness, but also for people with low self-esteem and people who want to accept/love/value themselves. And i’m definitely going to re-read it multiple times. The book is just one huge insight. It’s a must. It’s a gem!

[Eric Christian · Rating 5 out of 5]

This manual contains lots of insights, easy to relate to and understand, especially for those with social anxiety. I like the straightforward honesty that comes across from someone who's actually experienced social anxiety.

[Ramon Rodgers · Rating 5 out of 5]

A quick read with excellent tips that already seem to work for me when applied into practice. It explained the exact cause of my shyness, helped me understand the root of my problem for the first time, providing guidance on decreasing anxiety in everyday social situations. Would recommend the book to anyone whose life is affected by problems ranging from minor shyness, lack of confidence, low self-esteem, inferiority complex, to severe social anxiety. This book also provides people with 3 tips to avoid awkward silences in conversation, 4 ways to overcome fear of rejection, and 8 ways to overcome fear of public speaking. In addition, in this book, people will find out new strategies and methods to help them get rid of their social phobia effortlessly. The program revolves around the belief that in order to diminish shyness and social anxiety issues in your life, you need to change “your core personality” because that’s! Where the problem lies. The simple and straight forward formula for treating shyness and social anxiety was developed by, implementing and combining the most effective strategies found in the areas of “cognitive behavioral therapy”, “evolutionary psychology”, “behavior conditioning” and “social psychology”. It’s the way that the program has been structured that makes applying the techniques easy to use in everyday life.

[Jodie Hamilton · Rating 5 out of 5]

This guide explains to readers about the true origins and causes for shyness and anxiety. Once you understand this, you can then go ahead to cure your social anxiety and shyness when you know what is holding you back in the first place. All the science behind shyness and anxiety are explained, and then Sean shows you the scientifically-backed remedies that can be used to overcome them.

From this program members will be learning how to deal with every social situation, how to make new friends and stay calm in any difficult situation. Once you understand this program, you will not have to worry about awkward silences in your social interactions and will know how to make the people around you enjoy long hours of conversations just like everyone else…

[Laura]

I actually read his Workbook which is probably a little bit different than this book. Sean does a great job of explaining what causes Social Anxiety and then he provides steps to conquer this fear. It's not a personality trait although people with Social Anxiety may be overly sensitive to others. He gives lots of suggestions and steps. I bought and read the book for Sean, but I learned a lot about myself too. I'll try to follow some of his suggestions. I wish everyone in my family would read this book. You need to take your time working with this book to absorb the concepts and practice the exercises.

[Alisa Dia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I know someone who avoided social events because of anxiety, and The Shyness and Social Anxiety System helped him build confidence gradually. He noticed improvements in conversations and public speaking situations after practicing the techniques consistently.

I read through it as well and liked how it emphasizes realistic, gradual progress rather than instant “fixes.” If you’ve been struggling socially, this book gives practical tools to overcome shyness and anxiety naturally. It’s definitely worth picking up if you want to improve social confidence.

[Suz Hinton · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book. Guaranteed to add a new an empowering perspective. Quite impressive to come up with such solid theory followed by practical application.

[Dianne Streeter · Rating 4 out of 5]

I finally confident and comfortable in my own skin, even at parties and around the opposite sex. The book teaches me the overall strategy for "rewiring my brain" to transform my personality to stop being shy, quiet and withdrawn.

[Deyth Banger · Rating 5 out of 5]

"November 12, 2018 – page 107
52.97% "“If I
valued myself, what would I do?” Would you start by taking care of your body? Of
course you would. Start exercising and working out, eat healthy food, etc. Once
you start doing this, you really do feel entitled to be confident and expressive,
because your mind sees that you are taking actions that show you value yourself.""
November 12, 2018 – page 107
52.97% "difficult to feel like you are entitled to other peopleʼs friendship and affection when
that is the way you are living your life. You are acting in a way that says: “I do not
value myself,” and that comes across when you talk to other people.
So the first step is to start treating yourself like you value yourself. Think:"
November 12, 2018 – page 107
52.97% ""Treating Yourself Like You Value Yourself
I have found that it is much harder to be confident around people if I donʼt
take steps to show myself that I value myself. For example, if youʼve sat around
your house all day eating Cheetos and playing video games, itʼs going to be
pretty difficult to not think other people are superior to you. Itʼs going to be pretty"
November 12, 2018 – page 107
52.97%
November 12, 2018 – page 103
50.99% "The problem is that we swim in our thoughts... and our thoughts are shaping a fake reality... by using fake data from past...for the present and future moments...

....

The whole thing is just try to focus on the now things..."
November 12, 2018 – page 103
50.99% "forget about it! Itʼs done man, you canʼt go back to that. The river keeps flowing.
Stay in the present!”""
November 12, 2018 – page 103
50.99% "10
years, 10 months, 10 minutes or even 10 seconds ago, then you are not able to
focus on the only place where your actions can make a difference, which is the
present.
You canʼt affect the past or the future. I remember when I was learning to
play a new instrument a friend said: “If you mess up or play the wrong note,"
November 12, 2018 – page 103
50.99% ""Your thoughts about the past are also not real. When you think about your
past, you are reliving something that happened before. It may be true that you
are thinking about a real event that happened, but the point is actual event is not
happening right now. If you are constantly focusing on things that happened"
November 10, 2018 – page 103
50.99% "103 out of 113"
November 10, 2018 – page 103
50.99% ""If you are ever wondering “Whatʼs the right thing to say in this situation?”,
STOP. Start to install the belief that what you say is the right thing to say, not
because itʼs a great comment, but because it comes from you. Donʼt be afraid to
say things that are boring or obvious. People are perfectly satisfied talking to
another, regular, normal person.""
November 10, 2018 – page 100
49.5%
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% "Or maybe you have one or two people who
you can “be yourself” around, but when you try to talk to other people you donʼt
know what to say and become inhibited?
Many people who I teach often assume that they need to learn some new
social skills to improve their personality. This isnʼt true at all in most cases.""
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% ""What I am trying to get you to do here is to get in touch with the way you
naturally act when you donʼt feel the pressure of other peopleʼs eyes on you.
Do you ever notice how at home you walk completely relaxed and normal,
yet become self conscious in public?"
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% "Donʼt worry
about your temperature being too low, thatʼs not your issue right now.
Yes, there are some people who could benefit from being more inhibited.
But if you are reading this book, thatʼs not you. You need to focus on disinhibiting
yourself.""
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% ""How do I respond to this? Yes, the world does need a certain amount of
inhibition. But not you. The key words are “a certain amount.” You have such an
excessive amount of inhibition, you are like someone with a fever telling me that
some temperature is necessary for people to stay alive. If you have a fever, the
best thing to do is to focus completely on reducing your temperature."
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% "2. "Will it sound good?"
3. "What's the best way to say it?"
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4. ...and only then do they actually say it.
This type of thinking is called Self-Monitoring, and it's bad for several
reasons:"

- Sometimes this process slowdowns and it really fucks you up..."
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% ""For example: Is what you say next going to be liked? Are your clothes
representative of your personality? Will the way you walk give off the right vibe?
What's the right body language? Will doing this or that make you seem less
smart? Do people secretly respect the way you are?
This is the process shy people go through before they say or do something:
1. "What should I say next?""
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% "Unfortunately, as great as this sounds, there is no magic technique to
achieve it. It happens over time, as you gain more experiences and start to live
the concepts I have laid out here for you.
89""
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% "to get to a point where you are much less dependent on other peopleʼs reactions
for you to feel okay about yourself as a person. You want to start having more
control over your own emotions and increase your indifference to what people
think of you."
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% ""If someone teases you, do you feel affected? If someone criticizes you, do
you feel the need to keep talking and convincing other people you are not what
they said you were? It simply shows you care about their opinions too much.
Instead, you want to remain unaffected by peopleʼs negative reactions. You want"
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% ""One of the biggest issues I see with people who have shyness and social
anxiety is that they are very dependent on other peopleʼs validation and approval.
They rely on other peopleʼs acceptance.
If someone has the ability to make you feel worthless simply by giving you
disapproval, then they have all power and control over you. You have given your
power away by requiring their validation.""
November 10, 2018 – page 88
43.56% ""Implement this mindset in everything you do. The fact that sometimes you
get approval and sometimes disapproval from other people says nothing about
you. It's useful feedback, but the idea in your mind that you must/should/ought
constantly meet otherʼs standards to get approval and positive reactions or
else feel hopelessly inadequate is completely false.""
November 10, 2018 – page 83
41.09% "That's the problem... that's the main problem... mostly main happiness and approval... and self-esteem is conditional... "IF" something happens... he or she is going to get more "Up"... if not... more "down""
November 10, 2018 – page 83
41.09% ""For each person building self esteem based on an accomplishment, an
ability, physical appearance, and so on, they feel good about themselves for as
long as their skills, abilities, and accomplishments remain intact. Yet when their
skills, relationships, accomplishments and so on change, they lose themselves in
the process. Is this self-worth? No, it's "things' worth," not self-worth.""
November 10, 2018 – page 83
41.09%
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% "•Self-Consciousness: If you can walk and move normally when alone in
your house, but then feel tense and self-conscious in social situations, itʼs
because you are super aware of how other people are seeing you. Instead of
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letting your legs and body move themselves like you usually do, you are trying
to monitor what other people will think of your actions and you try to adjust them
manually.""
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% ""Here are some examples of behaviours that come from needing to meet
other peopleʼs standard to get them to approve of you:
•Insecurities: If you are concerned about any “defect” you have, and
constantly check how it looks in mirrors, and measure it somehow constantly,
then you are worrying that the defect makes you unworthy of their approval."
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% "This explains a lot of ... with what mindset you get inside... your body is showing what deeply down you feel...

So after all... failure comes from inner place!"
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% ""Do you remember back to the beginning of this book when I told you that
social anxiety was rooted in a fear of disapproval? Yes?
You are socially anxious because deep in your mind you have a core belief
that says: “I must be loved. I must be approved of.” When you are in social
situations, you are constantly trying to make sure people do not disapprove of
you.""
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% "So here is the thing... if you laugh about it... it's ain't needy or nice...
...

Just as first you need to clean up few one-liners and punchlines..."
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% "The problem is that we see ourself as inferior and that's what really fucks us over in the end..."
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% ""The importance placed in modern society on proving oneʼs worth, on material
success, on status, on measurable achievement is acutely felt by children. To be
loved, accepted, and valued, they must produce the desirable responses. People
are recognized on the basis of what they have produced -- not on who they are.""
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% ""Maybe you have heard before how inferiority is the result of comparing
yourself to others. If you compare yourself to others and come up short, then you
feel a sense of shame about yourself. Itʼs easy enough for others to tell you to
“stop comparing yourself to others,” but itʼs much more difficult to live that
philosophy.
In the first place, you have been conditioned since childhood to achieve.""
November 10, 2018 – page 65
32.18% "This book is pointing out deep problems... most people miss them other skip them... but look you suckers... you can't get far without cleaning up the shit before it..."
November 10, 2018 – page 56
27.72%
November 9, 2018 – page 23
11.39%
November 9, 2018 – Shelved
November 9, 2018 – Shelved as: to-read
November 9, 2018 – Started Reading"

[Carmella Kirby · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Shyness and Social Anxiety System has been an absolute game-changer in my life. As someone who has struggled with shyness and social anxiety for as long as I can remember, I approached this program with both hope and skepticism. However, after implementing Cooper's techniques and guidance, I can confidently say that it has transformed my life in profound ways. From the very beginning, Cooper's empathetic and understanding approach resonated deeply with me. It felt as though he was speaking directly to my struggles and fears, assuring me that I was not alone in my journey. His personal experiences and anecdotes created a sense of connection, making me feel understood and motivated to embark on the path towards overcoming my social anxiety. The program's structure and organization are exceptional. Cooper takes a systematic approach, breaking down the complexities of social anxiety into manageable steps. The techniques and exercises he presents are clear, practical, and tailored to address the specific challenges faced by individuals with social anxiety. Through gradual exposure and cognitive restructuring, I began to witness a positive shift in my mindset and behavior. Cooper's emphasis on taking action is what truly sets this program apart. He understands that knowledge alone is not enough to overcome social anxiety; it requires consistent practice and pushing oneself outside of comfort zones. With each chapter, I felt empowered to confront my fears and apply the strategies I had learned. This active engagement allowed me to develop new social skills, build self-confidence, and challenge the limiting beliefs that had held me back for so long. Through implementing Cooper's program, I have experienced profound personal growth. I am now able to engage in social situations with greater ease and confidence. The strategies I've learned have enabled me to challenge negative thought patterns, reframe my self-perception, and develop meaningful connections with others. While the journey is ongoing, I am grateful for the tools and insights that "The Shyness and Social Anxiety System" has provided me.

[Ali Raza]

good book

[Marylou · Rating 5 out of 5]

Extremely helpful. I'm so glad I read it

[Lazerta · Rating 5 out of 5]

I feel this book would suit me well

[Javier · Rating 1 out of 5]

Some interesting concepts, but this book mainly support itself on a marketing stunt, no scientific relevant data or references. Just a guy talking about his experience and if there is some scientific concept, there is no reference or deep explanation.

[Fadi Antwan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredibly empowering and uplifting for anyone who struggles with any shape or form of social anxiety. Just recognizing and acknowledging the fact that there are many people who struggle with it, and that I am not helpless to change is very freeing. I actually often think of myself as more introverted than socially anxious, but this book has shown and explained to me many of my more anxious behaviors, the roots of them, and how I can gradually eliminate them. I really believe that applying the principles discussed in this book can bring about positive change and increase life quality. I never would have expected this to be my first 5-star read of the year, but I am really glad that I read it, and I'm very excited to continue on this journey of self-care that I started months ago. <3