Cradled in Hope is a heartfelt book aimed at mothers navigating the painful journey of pregnancy and infant loss, and Ashley Opliger’s intention to bring comfort and theological insight is clear throughout. Having read it with personal hopes of connecting more deeply to Ashley’s story and how she leaned into faith after losing her 24 week daughter Bridget, I found myself with mixed feelings about the experience.
MY SUMMARY:
Overall, I would give Cradled in Hope a solid 5 out of 5 stars for those seeking theological answers specifically about pregnancy and infant loss within Ashley’s denominational tradition. It’s clear this book fills an important niche and provides gold-star theology for that purpose. However, for me personally, it missed the mark as a memoir or a deeply personal story of faith in grief. I was hoping for more of Ashley’s personal journey and encouragement on how to lean into Jesus through loss, rather than revisiting familiar sermons or doctrines I’ve heard before—some of which I don’t fully agree with. I’d recommend this book for moms looking for solid Baptist theological grounding, rather than for those seeking a narrative memoir of healing through grief. My personal preference is for the latter, as it allows readers to interpret the content on their own. You should know that when I reivew books I tend to criticize them to death, so take all of this with a grain of salt.
TONE & TRIGGER WARNINGS:
One aspect that stood out to me was the frequent footnotes and trigger warnings scattered throughout the book. While I understand the desire to be sensitive and cautious, especially around such difficult subject matter, the level of these warnings felt a bit excessive. When reading a baby loss story, it’s almost expected that medical trauma and heartache will be part of the narrative, so constant alerts seemed unnecessary and somewhat distracting.
EXPECTATIONS VS REALITY:
The title and subtitle led me to expect a more personal memoir-style journey focused on Ashley’s grief and the beginnings of Bridget’s Cradles ministry. However, only about a quarter of the book was devoted to her story, while the majority delved deeply into Christian theology. This theological exploration was rich but very focused on a particular denominational perspective, which was not clearly communicated upfront. For readers from different Christian backgrounds, this might cause some confusion, as the interpretations of scripture and theological concepts like limited atonement, predestination, and the age of accountability presented in the chapter "For He Is Good" are not universally accepted among all Christians.
READING YOUR BIBLE:
There was a particular sentence early in the book that really stood out to me—Ashley mentions how reading the Bible can be a source of encouragement and comfort during grief. In my personal experience, and that of about two dozen Christian loss moms I’ve connected with through my ministry, it’s often been the exact opposite. For many of us, reading the Bible was the last thing we wanted to do in the midst of our grief. I had to put my Bible down for years to avoid the overwhelming feelings of anger and doubt toward God. My friends shared similar experiences; they too stepped away from Scripture for months or even years before returning with softer hearts, more open to hearing from the Lord—and importantly, none of us lost our faith through that process.
It’s okay to take time away from your faith as part of healing. Losing a child fractures every relationship in your life, including your relationship with Christ. Like any friendship Ashley discusses in her book, sometimes that relationship needs to be approached with caution and care during grief. If you feel drawn to lean into God, do so, but it’s also okay if you need space and find yourself pushing Him away for a while. Healing looks different for everyone.
STRUGGLES WITH THEOLOGICAL EXPLANATIONS:
I found myself struggling a bit with the theological discussions, especially in the chapter about God’s goodness and sovereignty. To me, these sections felt like attempts to neatly explain or justify something as profoundly messy and painful as the loss of a child through rigid doctrinal frameworks. Life is universally unfair—and that unfairness doesn’t get smoothed over just because God is good or sovereign. We should be simply celebrating that life is UNFAIR because Christ took our penalty to pay - and that means eternal life with him! We should be thankful that life is unfair because God is good to us.
HIGHLIGHTS & THOUGHTFUL TOUCHES
On a brighter note, the chapter titled "A Renewed Mind" was a highlight for me. It contained many practical and encouraging insights that I believe could be helpful to any mother grieving a loss, whether recent or long ago. I'll definitely be referencing back to this chapter in the future. The inclusion of discussion questions at the end of each chapter in the book was also a thoughtful touch, making the book more usable in group settings or study contexts.