The Mirror Effect: How We Attract What We Judge

by Michael R. Mathews Sr.

We all form judgments every day. Whether it's about the people we meet, the situations we encounter, or even the choices we make, judgment is a natural and often unconscious part of human experience. At first glance, judgment may seem harmless, just a way of organizing the world around us. However, what if these judgments had more power than we realized? What if, instead of simply reflecting the world, our judgments were actively shaping it? This is the central idea behind the concept that “we attract what we judge.” Our judgments, whether positive or negative, create energetic ripples in our lives, drawing in experiences that align with the focus of our attention.
When we judge something—be it an individual, an event, or even ourselves—we send out a signal. Thoughts and emotions carry energy, and this energy impacts not only our perception but also the situations we encounter. If you've ever found yourself repeatedly encountering the same frustrating type of person or situation, it might be due to a pattern of judgment you've unknowingly reinforced. The power of judgment lies in its ability to magnetize experiences that mirror the beliefs, expectations, and emotional energy we attach to those judgments.
The law of attraction operates on a simple like attracts like. It suggests that the energy we put out into the world, through our thoughts, feelings, and actions, influences the events, relationships, and opportunities we attract. Judgment is a powerful form of focus, and when we direct our focus toward criticism or negativity, we may unintentionally pull more of that very energy into our lives. This principle isn't confined to external experiences—it also applies to how we view ourselves. Self-judgment, whether in the form of harsh criticism or lingering doubts, can shape our self-perception and limit our ability to grow and thrive. It’s as if the energy behind our thoughts and judgments creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Understanding this dynamic offers an incredible opportunity for personal growth and transformation. By becoming aware of the judgments we make, we can begin to shift our focus away from criticism and negativity, instead cultivating acceptance, understanding, and compassion. When we release judgment, we open ourselves up to new possibilities, allowing space for more positive experiences to enter our lives. In this way, judgment becomes a powerful tool for change. It’s not about silencing judgment altogether but about recognizing its influence and learning to redirect that energy toward what we truly want to attract.
The journey of personal growth begins with self-awareness. As we explore the patterns of judgment that shape our lives, we gain the power to rewrite those patterns. By shifting from judgment to curiosity, from resistance to acceptance, we not only improve our relationships with others but also deepen our relationship with ourselves. When we understand that every judgment is a choice—an opportunity to direct our energy in a way that serves us—we unlock the potential for true fulfillment. Our reality is not fixed; it is shaped by the energy of our thoughts, and by changing the way we judge, we change what we attract.
In the chapters that follow, we will delve deeper into the ways judgment affects every aspect of our lives. We’ll explore how this principle works, why it holds such power over our experiences, and most importantly, how we can transform our judgments to attract the life we desire. By the end of this journey, you’ll have the tools to see judgment in a new light—no longer as something that limits you, but as a gateway to attracting greater peace, joy, and growth.

94 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 20, 2024