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Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty-Year Trail to Overnight Success

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A humorous collection of autobiographical essays from comedian and Emmy Award–winning actor Jeff Hiller, who shares his journey from growing up “profoundly gay” in 1980s Texas to his experiences as an inept social worker and how he clawed, scraped, and brawled to Hollywood’s lower middle-tier.

While struggling to find success as an actor and pay the bills, something accidentally happened to Jeff he aged. And while it’s one thing to get older and rest on the laurels of success from the blood, sweat, and tears of your youth, it’s quite another to be old and have no laurels. At forty, stuck in a temp job making spreadsheets, the dream of becoming a star seemed out of reach. But after twenty-five years of guest roles on TV and performing improv in a grocery store basement, he finally struck gold with a breakout role on HBO’s Somebody Somewhere, playing Joel—the kind of best friend everyone wishes they had.

In his book, Jeff dives into the grit and grind of climbing the Hollywood ladder. It’s a raw and often hilarious tale of the struggles, triumphs, and humiliations that shaped him into the wonderfully imperfect person he is today. With a mix of awkward charm and heartfelt honesty, Jeff shares his growing up very Lutheran in Texas, navigating bullying as a gay kid, working as a social worker for unhoused youth and HIV prevention, and the endless ups and downs of being a struggling actor. For every one of us who have a dream that we’re chasing—and chasing, and chasing—his is a funny, moving, and utterly relatable story.

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First published June 10, 2025

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Profile Image for Brandon Baker.
Author 2 books10.7k followers
July 14, 2025
Hilarious, thoughtful, tender, and a bit raunchy- this is my first celebrity memoir and is a new favorite read of the year! I HIGHLY recommend the audiobook narrated by Jeff, it made the experience all that more impactful and I couldn’t help but laugh every time he giggled 😂🧡

(Also this is secretly a horror novel bc there’s a blood drawing scene that genuinely made me lightheaded 😅)
Profile Image for Jen.
35 reviews
June 6, 2025
I love Jeff Hiller! Highly recommend this memoir, the audiobook is FANTASTIC!
Profile Image for Sacha.
2,016 reviews
June 8, 2025
5 stars

I loved everything about this book except that it ended.

Jeff Hiller is someone I've enjoyed and admired for so long, and it was a thrill to see him cast in a role that felt like such a good fit. Related note, if you have somehow not seen _Somebody Somewhere_, you've done yourself an incredible disservice that you should correct immediately. It's one of the best shows that's been on in the past few years, and I can say confidently it's in my top 5 of all time. It's a nonstop roller coaster of emotions in the very best way, and Hiller plays a central role in how and why the show is so special.

Now being in a special show does not ultimately result in a special memoir. This is an added bonus. Throughout the essays, Hiller shares so much of himself: his relationship with his immediate family throughout his life, his childhood experiences that were very positive at home and incredibly challenging outside of there, his connection to religion, his feelings about and explanations of aspects of his physical appearance, his work as an actor on stage and screen, his other professional endeavors, his identity, and his general sense of being. You'll also learn that Jeff is a December baby and exactly how old he ACTUALLY is. These latter two points might sound like strange inclusions, but they come up often and in pretty hilarious ways.

Like the show he may be best known for so far, Hiller also takes the audience through many emotions and experiences in this book. I thoroughly enjoyed this and cannot wait to listen to the audiobook next. If you know Jeff Hiller, you'll probably hear his voice in your head even if you do read by sight (I know I sure did), but I can't wait for the real deal.

I love a good memoir, and for me this is an outstanding example. I'm coming out of this read appreciating Jeff Hiller even more now.

*Special thanks to NetGalley and Ingrid Carbuela at Simon & Schuster for this widget, which I received in exchange for an honest review. The opinions expressed here are my own.
Profile Image for Diane.
1,133 reviews3,234 followers
July 31, 2025
Being a huge fan of the HBO show "Somebody Somewhere," I was primed to love this memoir from one of its stars.

I listened to "Actress of a Certain Age" on audio, performed by Jeff himself, and it was a delight. Jeff shares stories from his childhood and his decades-long acting career, always managing to find the humor in a difficult situation.

Of course, some of my favorite stories were about the making of "Somebody Somewhere," and after starting the book I rewatched the entire series, so his descriptions of specific scenes were fresh in my mind.

If you like celebrity memoirs, you will probably enjoy this book, even if you haven't seen the HBO show yet. And if you are a fan of "Somebody Somewhere," this book is highly recommended.
Profile Image for Richard Propes.
Author 2 books197 followers
April 11, 2025
I must confess that I was unfamiliar with actor Jeff Hiller prior to picking up "Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty-Year Trail to Overnight Success," a light and humorous collection of autobiographical essays from the actor who spent 20+ years struggling to find success as an actor until landing a memorable role in HBO's "Somebody Somewhere." (which I've also never heard of nor seen).

Despite being mostly unfamiliar with Hiller, this didn't impact my ability to appreciate this often humorous, occasionally quite poignant collection about his growing up "profoundly gay" in 1980s Texas, working for awhile as an "inept" social worker, and then stumbling his way toward the lower middle-tier of Hollywood success.

It feels almost cliche' to acknowledge that I found the most meaningful essays in "Actress of a Certain Age" to be those involving Hiller's growing up and, quite especially, his journey toward self-discovery and coming out. Hiller possesses a rather refreshing honesty with just the right amount of vulnerability to really bring these essays to life. While I seldom laughed out loud here, I consistently enjoyed "Actress of a Certain Age" and I always appreciated it.

You may not know Hiller when you begin reading "Actress of a Certain Age," however, by the time you've finished the book you'll likely wish you did.
Profile Image for Ed.
670 reviews91 followers
July 9, 2025

It's been a rough 2025 personally and politically, so much so that I did not pick up a book for about two months and when I did, it was hit or miss where I would read for a few days and then not for a couple more weeks, and when I did read and even complete a book or two, I wasn't really enjoying it for the books. I am happy to report that ended with this memoir, which was an utter joy and the proverbial chicken soup for the soul.

For those of you who are wondering who Jeff Hiller is, he is a character actor of stage and screen who finally got his big break playing Joel on the HBO (Max) series 'Somebody Somewhere' - a dramedy that is also that metaphorical warm hug, so much so that we are currently on our second rewatch of the entire series -- which isn't much, three 7-episode seasons of approximately 30 minute episodes. If you are unaware of Hiller, I recommend watching this show and then reading this book.

This is one of the funniest and warmest memoirs I have ever read and also a homage to celebrity memoirs with Hiller titling each chapter after a memoir written by a much more famous actor. I can relate to Hiller and his character Joel (who are very much alike) growing up as an awkward gay child with somewhat of a religious upbringing. Hiller is such a normal/everyday person, which hardly seems like a compliment with sincerity and just being a nice/good person seems in short supply these days. And this isn't a "rags to riches" memoir either with Hiller's success not being one that would land him a mansion in Beverly Hills or private jets -- so even his success and life is relatable which is often not the case with celebrity memoirs.

Anyhow, 5 stars mostly for the feelings and comfort and plenty of laughs this book gave me, but also a very well-done book in its execution and Hiller being a fine writer and wonderful storyteller.
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100 reviews3 followers
June 11, 2025
HILARIOUS. Listen to the audiobook of this. Jeff's giggles and random side notes in the audiobook make it. I had to stop walking to take deep breaths laughing. and damn near got in an accident when I was listening to it because I was laughing so hard. Truly a gem!
Profile Image for Laura Donovan.
Author 1 book35 followers
April 4, 2025
I read tons of celebrity memoirs, and none have ever been as funny as this one. The best celebrity memoirs are always written by people who aren’t necessarily A listers, but you know them when you see them. My favorite celebrity memoir of all time is Minka Kelly’s TELL ME EVERYTHING. Jeff Hiller’s is my favorite comedic celebrity memoir.

When I first saw Jeff Hiller in the HBO series Somebody, Somewhere three years ago, I fell in love with his and Bridget Everett’s characters. It’s a show about misfits and underdogs, played by misfits and underdogs. This comes through in the show and in his memoir.

He writes about childhood bullying, which, unsurprisingly, was pretty brutal to a gay kid growing up 1980s Texas. He makes it funny, though. His mom tries to help him dress like the cool kids and it backfires spectacularly. I laughed out loud so many times reading this book.

Did I mention that he accidentally studied abroad in Namibia because he was too polite to tell the study abroad adviser at his school that he would have preferred Ireland? On his third plane ride ever, he flew to Africa.

Jeff is so funny, it hurts. He played a flight attended many times despite being 6’5”. No airline would ever hire someone that tall!

There are so many beautiful, tragic, and hilarious lines in this memoir. When he tells you he’s read dozens of celeb memoirs, you believe it because his writing is so open and captivating and compelling.

I love this book, but I love that Jeff Hiller became a household name in his forties even more. It’s never too late to be an underdog.
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1,216 reviews
June 15, 2025
This memoir was made perfect by having the author read it. It is touching, funny and entertaining. I found Somebody Somewhere after the second season and loved the show and the character of Joel was something special ❤️
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274 reviews80 followers
August 27, 2025
I haven’t laughed this much at a book in a long time. Jeff Hiller is a delight. If you miss Somebody Somewhere like I do, listen to Jeff read this audiobook and it will make you feel better, like spending time in the company of an old friend.
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792 reviews20 followers
June 29, 2025
Jeff Hiller is an absolute gem and we don’t deserve him. This book is a delight to read, warm, funny, joyous and so full of little BTS moments. I laughed so damn much. Thank you, Jeff!
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1,697 reviews28 followers
July 24, 2025
Such a delightful read! I could practically hear him read it as I read, and that made it even better. I'll have to listen to the audiobook at some point.

And if you haven't yet watched him in Somebody Somewhere, you REALLY have to drop everything and remedy that. It's such a beautiful and funny show and he's wonderful as Joel, the kind of best friend everyone deserves. It's the kind of show that restores your faith in humanity and makes you laugh your ass off at the same time.
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372 reviews51 followers
August 3, 2025
Life is strange, I know (or have met) so many folks in Hiller’s circle, but have never met Hiller himself. I picked this up hoping to relive a little of the downtown NYC early 2000s scene, but that was a very brief part of the book. There’s a lot of focus on his early, non-nyc life, and while his high school and early career experience will resonate strongly with a lot of gay folks coming of age at that time, the straightforward memoir format somehow makes this lack the spark it needs to catch fire. Hiller has a quick wit and can turn a phrase and I think a collection of essays, a la Sedaris or Lebowitz would have been more exciting and allowed the book to reach a wider audience. As it is, it’s mostly for the die-hard fans.
Profile Image for K.J. Ramsey.
Author 3 books912 followers
August 14, 2025
Do yourself a favor and enjoy the hell out of the audiobook version of this. I wasn’t loving just reading it—though I did like it. But Jeff Heller’s diction and delivery on audio make this book a *delight*.

I adore this kind-hearted human and his story is one that reminds me of the goodness of not giving up and the beauty of humbly being who we are, whether the opportunities or accolades we wish for come or not.
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496 reviews57 followers
July 20, 2025
To know Jeff Hiller is to love him. Have you seen Somebody Somewhere on HBO? It’s an amazing 3 season series starring Bridget Everett, Murray Hill, Mary Catherine Garrison, and Jeff. His memoir came at just the right time. Full of life’s ups and downs, it certainly ends on a high note.
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748 reviews14 followers
August 13, 2025
4.5 stars rounded up--laugh-out-loud funny on audiobook!
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58 reviews
September 1, 2025
As a fan of Somebody Somewhere I couldn’t resist reading Jeff Hiller’s memoir. Let me tell you, it was a pure joy. Hiller recounts his long career as a working actor who landed a role on the HBO series Somebody Somewhere. His memoir is funny, heartwarming, poignant, and a lesson in gratitude.

If you’ve never seen Somebody Somewhere, what are you even DOING? Watch the show! (It’s three seasons of pure delight and friendship and love that sadly HBO didn’t see fit to renew but will be on my recurring watch list until the end of time.) And then you’ll fall in love with Hiller’s character Joel, and then go read this memoir.
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174 reviews5 followers
November 19, 2025
LOLZed several times! Perfect blend of vulnerability and pop culture references. “Public health is gossip in the name of science.”
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83 reviews3 followers
February 5, 2026
I listened to the audio book and highly recommend listening (or reading!) this hilarious book! 5 giant stars for Jeff Hiller!

PS If you haven’t watched the show Somebody Somewhere on HBO with Bridget Everett & Jeff Hiller go do it NOW!!
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2,001 reviews81 followers
February 3, 2026
When it comes to reading celeb memoirs, I am Jeff Hiller. Jeff Hiller is me. I have read most of the memoirs he references in this book, which is pretty weird because it's not like he is referencing the most famous or prestigious ones. (can celeb memoirs be prestigious lol maybe not). Anyway, the similarity delighted me and predisposed me towards liking his book.

As someone who is also irritated by celeb memoirs that spend chapters and chapters on their prefame life - I don't care about your primary school teachers, Morrissey. Stop with all the history of your grandparents, Keith Richards - I nearly applauded when Jeff wrote that he too finds that irritating and would bear that in mind and only provide short highlights from his childhood. All of his reminiscences were relevant to his life story. He actually could have added a smidge more about his sister and dad and I wouldn't have minded.

He is a funny guy. I didn't realize that going into the book. I mainly know him from American Horror Story(where he is creepy) and Somebody Somewhere(where he is heartwarming and sweet). Funny was not on my radar.

Celeb memoirs are one of my easy read go-tos because I find them comforting, the rags to riches storyline. I mean, even if the person is a one hit wonder, they did have one hit! They are successful enough for someone to give them a book deal. No one is offering me money to publish my life story. Merely the fact that the celeb memoir was published and is sitting in the library for me to check out, signals a certain degree of success. It's the opposite of schadenfreude - I feel pleasure reading about others success. There is that interesting mix of talent, luck and hard work that I find fascinating.

I appreciated how long it took Jeff to reach the level of successful working actor. Jeff wishes it had been sooner, of course. While overnight success stories are fun to read - I'm looking at you, Debbie Reynolds! And Lana Turner! And Shirley Jones! - I am drawn to the stories of actors who don't break it big until they are older - Bryan Cranston! Cicely Tyson! Bob Odenkirk! So many people want to be in showbiz and I am impressed at anyone who is able to make a working career of it. I don't mean a superstar. I mean just being able to support yourself as an actor or dancer or musician or artist without having to have a day job. Well done! That is success to me!

I hope that Jeff continues to find steady work and that he writes another book. I would definitely read it.

As an actor, when you are obviously gay but not hot, your roles are very limited. You just play the bitchy gay. If you have abs, you can hit on the main character or be the lead in an indie gay rom-com, but those of us with asymmetrical faces just get to tell the leading lady that she doesn't have a reservation.

Don't get me wrong, I really want to win an award (I'd place it on top of the toilet to keep me humble), but the truth is, 1 am just happy to be an actor who gets to act and who doesn't have to grate mounds of Parmesan onto someone's pasta in hopes of a large tip. Yay! He won an Emmy this year!

Life is a lot easier when you have money and health insurance and don't live with roommates. This is a book about what it is like to be an actor who isn't famous. An actor who clawed, scraped, and fought their way to the lower-middle rung of the ladder.

When Somebody Somewhere started airing, people began recognizing me more frequently. I was walking down the street and wondering to myself if anyone was watching it and whether we would do well enough to get a second season when suddenly a man approached. He pointed directly at my face, shouted, "Nobody Nowhere," and kept walking. To this day, I'm not sure if he had seen the show or if he could just hear my inner monologue.

Quick tangent (1 heard this amazing factoid from a friend of mine in a recovery program): When someone in AA has a not-particularly-dramatic rock-bottom story, they say they hit a... wait for it... soft bottom! I mean, isn't that a great term? Oh! I should have named this book Soft Bottom! What a missed opportunity.
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17 reviews1 follower
January 10, 2026
I absolutely love Jeff Hiller! If you haven’t watched Somebody Somewhere you are absolutely missing out. Please watch this beautifully quiet show about identity and found families. You must listen to the audiobook version, so you can hear Hiller narrate—such a treat! This is honestly my rule with every memoir—to hear it read by the author. Otherwise something is missing and it just doesn’t pack the same punch.
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145 reviews
July 29, 2025
Even though I am stingy with five stars, I am rounding up from 4.5 stars as feel the author will be reading these reviews and I am big fan of Somebody Somewhere, for which he just received a well deserved Emmy nomination. This was one of the best memoirs I’ve ever read. I laughed, I cried, and adored his narration. His dedication to his art while mainly existing with acting roles as “snarky gay man” were delightful. The audiobook felt as though he was next to me, relaying his stories, rather than him reading a book.
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32 reviews
August 8, 2025
I thought I would love this book, but then I went ahead and ADORED it. Love ya Jeff. You’ve got us all gigglin
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964 reviews1 follower
September 13, 2025
Somebody Somewhere is one of my favorite shows of all time so I wasn’t surprised when I loved this memoir. Jeff Hiller is hilarious and so relatable! I thank him for commuting with me to work this week. This was a wonderful and very inspiring memoir.
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53 reviews5 followers
November 28, 2025
This book was delightful. Bright, funny. I loved his view of the world.
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August 28, 2025
very much enjoyed this listening experience. laughed out loud multiple times.
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6 reviews8 followers
August 29, 2025
This book was absolutely delightful!
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Author 29 books92 followers
January 11, 2026
If you don’t know who Jeff Hiller is, please go get HBO and watch Somebody Somewhere. On it he plays the most delightful character in a cast filled to the brim with delightful characters, on the most delightful series HBO has ever broadcast. I love this show like a warm security blanket, and his character is absolutely wonderful. This memoir—written by an actor who is *obsessed* with celebrity memoirs—is one of the funniest books I’ve ever read, and you’ll find yourself wanting to read aloud passages to anyone in the room ( my cats wish I’d just listened to the audiobook). It’s the story of a person who struggled with coming out, endured bullying and insults for so much of his life, managed to maintain a sense of humour and love for those around him, and made the long climb to the “overnight success” of the HBO series. Each chapter is the title of another celebrity memoir, where he provides with an asterisk as a footnote how old the person who wrote that memoir was when they found success, as encouragement that it’s never too late for you. Even if you don’t know the show (he really only spends one chapter talking in detail about it) this book is such a happy story in a world filled with unhappy ones. I can’t recommend it highly enough.

My one and only complaint, which has nothing to do with Hiller: for the last few years I have railed at the unprofessionalism at Simon & Schuster, one of the biggest publishing houses in the world, for their lack of editing. I believe they turfed proofreaders years ago, so now you can be reading a book and as I’ve said before, if you’re 50 pages in and have already found 10 typos and grammatical errors, look at the spine: there’s a 90% chance it’s a S&S book. Even knowing that, imagine my horror when I got the book home and looked at the spine. They misspelled one of the words in the TITLE—“Actress of a Cetain Age.” As a professional editor for over 25 years, I can tell you that when I worked in-house at an independent publisher, that cover proof—back, front, spine, and flaps—was passed around to EVERYONE in the office: editors, typesetters, marketing people, sales people, publishers, publicists, people who dropped by to say hello, couriers… you name it, everyone read it so we couldn’t let a single error through. And this massive corporation missed a glaring typo in 36-point size. Unbelievable. This, by the way, is an early look at what is happening when large corporations are starting to use AI instead of real people to do their editing for them. DO BETTER, SIMON AND SCHUSTER. Jeff Hiller deserved so much better than this.
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