Along with underlining another 101 book titles I want to read someday, below are a few tidbit’s that stood out to me:
We depended on our kids to satisfy their own learning. In fact, we even believed we weren't responsible for their knowledge; they were. Our responsibility was to incorporate them into our lives; live a life full of purpose, enthusiasm, and discovery; and immerse them in it.
If our children are to thrive in a world that is rapidly evolving and full of uncertainty, they need less structure and more play.
Dr. Madeline Levine
Living is learning and when kids are living fully and energetically and happily they are learning a lot, even if we don't always know what it is.
—John Holt, A Life Worth Living
John Holt said, "We learn to do something by doing it. There is no other way."
on average, kids today spend less time outside than people in jail do.
We can look at our very own lives, reflect on where we've left the comfort of known skills for whatever reason, and see how we grew by doing. We grew by experiencing. We grew by trying. We grew by failing.
all this learning for thirteen years straight is out of context and doesn't come from living, classroom learning is fragmented.
Gatto writes, "Good students wait for a teacher to tell them what to do. This is the most important lesson of all: we must wait for other people, better trained than ourselves, to make the meanings of our lives."
I was convicted. I was doing this in my home. It was well-intentioned. But every bit of planning for our homeschool stemmed from me. I was deciding everything.
This is an education.
It is an education that cannot be confined to four walls. It must be lived. It must seep into your being, into your pores, into your soul. It is created both in community and in solitude.
It frames how you view the rest of your life, the rest of the world. It happens when you live your life in real places, with real people, learning the things that are outside of a textbook.
homeschooling is not just about education; it's about preparing for a life of continuous learning and adaptation. In embracing homeschooling, we embrace a more natural, integrated form of learning that prepares our children not just for tests but for life.
Let children experience boredom; there is nothing healthier for a child than to learn how to use their own interior resources to work through the challenges of being bored.
—Nicholas Kardaras, Glow Kids
We often structure childhood without considering the individual needs of each child.
Kim John Payne, Luis Fernando Llosa, and Scott Lancaster in their book Beyond Winning. They state it plainly. "When our children are bored, we have not failed them."
Balanced and Barefoot by Angela Hanscom says it best:
As adults, we may always feel that we know what is best for our children. A child's neurological system begs to differ. Children with healthy neurological systems naturally seek out the input they need on their own. They determine how much, how fast, and how high works for them at any given time. They do this without even thinking about it. If they are spinning in circles, it's because they need to. If they are jumping off a rock over and over, it is because they are craving that sensory input. They are organizing their senses through practice and repetition.
Without open spaces in the day, a child will have no chance to act upon their inner drive.
Glennon Doyle succinctly captures the dilemma we face in this digital age when she says, "I find myself worrying most that when we hand our children phones, we steal their boredom from them. As a result, we are raising a generation of writers who will never start writing, artists who will never start doodling, chefs who will never make a mess of the kitchen, athletes who will never kick a ball against the wall, musicians who will never pick up their aunt's guitar and start strumming."
That span of time offered so much. To everyone.
A child who can handle boredom benefits everyone in their surroundings as well as themselves. Creative kids are fun to play with, benefiting siblings, cousins, and neighbor kids.
Michaeleen Douceff puts it this way in Hunt, Gather, Parent: "It's a lifelong skill to understand the situation around you and then know what to do.”
Calmly and empathetically, I would say things like, "It's okay to be bored," "I trust you'll find something to do," or simply, "That's a bummer." And I really did care. It can be hard to muddle through not knowing what to do. I'd just put my little playlist of sayings on shuffle (or even repeat), and eventually the child would get sick of hearing the same thing over and over again... and go find something to do.
By exposing our children to various hobbies and all sorts of different ideas of things to do, we give them a lifetime of strategies to turn to during hard seasons.
Glow Kids | There is nothing healthier for a child than to learn how to use their own interior resources to work through the challenges of being bored."
Children learn from anything and everything they see. They learn wherever they are, not just in special learning places.
—John Holt, Learning All the Time
John Taylor Gatto puts it. He pulls no punches when he writes, “It is absurd and anti-life to be part of a system that compels you to sit in confinement with people of exactly the same age and social class. That system effectively cuts you off from the immense diversity of life and the synergy of variety; indeed, it cuts you off from your own past and future, sealing you in a continuous present much the same way television does."
When we choose to do something out of convenience, such as grouping children together by age to move them through the same set of curricula, it is important to peel back the onion a little bit. Is this approach also beneficial for the child, or is it a choice solely based on practicalities?
When we siphon kids off with these arbitrary grade cut-offs, the question is not only what they are missing out on but who they are missing out on. There may be that special friend who just gets them, makes them laugh, and gives their world so much more meaning, but if that friend is a grade away, it might as well be a different planet. There isn't a path for connection.
This matters because "kids who are able to read nonverbal cues are better adjusted emotionally, more popular, more outgoing, and more sensitive in general."
Dan Buettner, a top researcher on centenarians, echoed Katy when he told me, "Physical activity is absolutely necessary for healthy aging. Fewer than 25% of Americans get the absolute minimum."
Dr. Victoria Dunckley summarized it well in her book Reset Your Child's Brain: "What do children require to develop optimally? Kids need several hours of unstructured physical play daily to adequately stimulate and integrate sensory pathways; they need secure attachment to caregivers, plenty of touch, and varying levels of environmental stimulation that support calm alertness during the day and restful sleep at night. They also need conversation with adults, contact with nature, and creative outlets, such as music, art or dance. "
Jonathan Haidt | advice. "TV is not particularly harmful," he said, but "it blocks out other activities.”
Adults must use the skills they have where children can see them. ... Children need to get some sense of the processes by which good work is done.
—John Holt, Learning All the Time
Homeschooling involves not just directing the learning but living out the learning process in a way I hadn't anticipated.
Adults must use the skills they have where children can see them. In the unlikely event that they have no skills to speak of, they should learn some, and let the children see them learning, even if only as simple a thing as touch typing. They should invite children to join them in using these skills. In this way children can be slowly drawn, at higher and higher levels of energy, commitment, and skill, into more and more serious and worthwhile adult activities. John Holt
What I've learned over the years is that we are modeling simply by choosing to have our children around us. It doesn't take writing a book or having a side hustle to give our kids a deeper glimpse into the adult world. Children who are around a nurturing family for the majority of their childhood begin to learn how to craft a life.
Austin Kleon promotes a fascinating kind of learning that could be adapted for anyone: "Find the influences that influenced the person that's influencing you."
The impetus is on our shoulders to find ways to create spaces in childhood that are vibrant hubs of activity.
The classroom is not a playground. I heard this over and over again as a child. Neither are so many of the indoor spaces we often take children to, like church, the library, the grocery store, and doctors' appointments. If we begin to view our neighborhoods as places to restore children's agency in their own leisure, we can set a foundation for healthier and more fulfilling lives. Because we homeschool, this outlook can begin right in our very homes.”
Katy Bowman | “The biggest piece of exercise equipment we are ignoring is our floor."
I recently spoke to a mom who requires her older teens to talk with twelve to fifteen adults who are in different walks of life and ask them, "What advice would you give to an eighteen-year-old? Would it be okay to meet and learn from you?"
John Holt wrote in Learning All the Time, "Real learning is a process of dis-covery, and if we want it to happen, we must create the kind of conditions in which discoveries are made. We know what these are. They include time, leisure, freedom and lack of pressure."
“it can take up to forty-five minutes for children to develop a play scheme, and longer if they aren't used to playing.”
Joy Prouty explains it like this: "The brain is like Velcro for negative experiences, but Teflon for positive ones." She explains some of the research behind negativity bias: "A negative experience takes only one second to imprint the memory upon the brain, while a positive experience takes twenty to thirty seconds to imprint."
I love the simple question "What is something you would like to learn about today?"
Alastair | "some adventure is better than none at all."
homeschool parents can introduce their children to diverse situations and challenges at a pace they deem appropriate, thus gradually equipping them with the skills to navigate the broader world effectively.
Homeschooling allows parents to control the role technology plays in education, emphasizing its use as a deliberate choice for specific learning outcomes rather than as a constant presence.
By focusing on hands-on, real-world experiences and interactions, homeschooling can foster deeper learning and critical-thinking skills, free from the commercial and distracting influences that tech in schools often brings.
Susan writes, "You're dealing with a culture dominated by multinational corporations spending billions of dollars and using seductive technologies to bypass parents and target children directly with messages designed sometimes ingeniously—to capture their hearts and minds. And their primary purpose is not to help kids lead healthy lives or to promote positive values or even to make their lives better.
It's to generate profit.”
Here, in the warm embrace of home, our children are not shielded from the world but are given the strength to meet it on their own terms, ready to turn life's adversities into stepping stones for success.
Homeschooling is not just about imparting knowledge; it's about inspiring a love for learning, nurturing a strong sense of self, and building a foundation for a successful, fulfilling life.
You are doing homeschooling right because you have chosen the best teacher for your children. It's you. Hands down.
No one else even comes close. Your dedication and love are the greatest gifts you can give your children.