Parenting Anxiety: Breaking the Cycle of Worry and Raising Resilient Kids

by Meredith Elkins

A timely, practical, and innovative look at the relationship between parent and child anxiety, with actionable strategies to help parents break the cycle—from a clinical psychologist with expertise in treating anxiety disorders in children, adolescents, and in parents.

How do you raise resilient kids in this age of uncertainty? How do you parent your kids if you yourself are anxious? How do you make sense of the avalanche of parenting advice and best support your child’s mental health—or, at the very least, not make things worse?

Parents who struggle with anxiety themselves, or who have anxious children, are looking for guidance. Influencers have responded with an explosion of content, which is awash in cultural narratives around what makes a “good” parent. But much of this guidance encourages parents to act in ways that actually increase the risk of child anxiety in the long term. And ironically, the hyper-availability of this content, delivered as one-size-fits-all solutions, can contribute to even more confusion and anxiety for parents seeking clarity. 

Dr. Meredith Elkins, a clinical child psychologist and faculty member at Harvard Medical School, demystifies anxiety and empowers parents to rethink “negative” emotions like fear, sadness, and guilt. A parent herself, Dr. Elkins argues that modern parenting pressures are major contributors to the current state of parent and child anxiety. She urges parents to clarify their values and embrace a “love and limits” approach to anxiety—balancing compassionate support with healthy boundaries while resisting the urge to shield children from every discomfort. With warmth and understanding, she provides concrete, evidence-based techniques to help families experiencing normal levels of anxiety and those coping with anxiety disorders. This indispensable guide offers readers a roadmap for understanding and addressing anxiety in children and parents, and promotes adaptability and resilience across all stages of development.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Psychology

352 pages, Hardcover

Published January 20, 2026

Reviews

[Bethany Mock (bethanyburiedinbooks) · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thank you @prhaudio @crownpublishing #partner for the gifted copy of this book.

😬Parenting Anxiety: Breaking The Cycle of Worry and Raising Resilient Kids 😬
Author: Meredith Elkins, PhD.
Pub Date: January 20, 2026

I’ve picked up a few books on anxiety recently and this one felt especially important. I have several close people in my life — adults and kids — who are in the middle of some pretty heavy stuff struggling with anxiety. I wanted to better understand what they’re really going through to see if I could help further. I personally do not experience anxiety like this so it is hard for me to grasp just how crippling it can be. This book did a wonderful job helping me understand that.

I read The Anxious Generation first, which focuses more on how and why anxiety happens in kids, and then followed it with this one which I think was the perfect order. This book focuses on what to do about it. This book is written by a child psychologist and it breaks down real examples of helping kids face fear head on. She emphasizes how to relate to your child, communicate and then work through it rather than avoid it. What I really appreciated was how practical and compassionate it felt. There was no blame, just tools to help parents cope.

Honestly, I think this book is helpful beyond parenting too. So many examples sounded exactly like things I’ve heard friends say. One of the biggest takeaways for me was learning how the things that feel most natural and what we think are helping likely are making anxiety worse. The actions we do not out of harm but out of love.

I also loved how clearly different therapies were explained and when they make sense. It helped me better understand how parents’ own anxieties can unintentionally pass to their kids...and how to support without feeding the fear.

If you, your child, or someone close to you struggles with anxiety, I really believe this is an incredibly useful and eye-opening book. One I’m very glad I read. 💛

[Kaela · Rating 5 out of 5]

5 ⭐️

What a wake-up call. What a lot of us as parents are being pressured to do through social media or "over-parents ideals (e.g., gentle parenting, helicopter parenting, etc), is actually making anxiety worse in kids.

Meredith Elkins explains the history and background to perfectly set the stage of what we CAN do and how to do it to help make your kids more resilient and grow through their anxious episodes. She also acknowledges the difference between anxiety that everyone experiences (no one's cup is empty) and when it needs to be treated by professionals (the cup is overflowing and debilitating).

I listened to the book and I just bought a copy to highlight and re-review when needed. I have anxiety and I see symptoms in my children, but I feel better equipped to identify and help them after reading Parenting Anxiety. I really appreciated the perspectives, ideas, and activities that this book provides. This should be a staple for all parents, not just anxious parents or parents of anxious children.

[Rezzi Belle Beanz · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ok I have two chapters left and I seriously doubt the last two chapters could do anything to change my mind. if they do I'll update this comment. if they don't I'll still update so you know I finished the book.

EDIT TO ADD: It just kept getting better. 15/10 fantastic helpful book!!!

This is the best parenting book I've read. I won it in a Goodreads giveaway and I am SO SO GRATEFUL. as someone who struggles with anxiety and has just been passing it down to my 8 year old, this book couldn't come at a better time.

Dr. Elkins lays it all out for the reader.

This book is helpful, whether you have anxiety yourself and your kid doesn't, your kid has anxiety and you don't, you both have anxiety, or even if neither or you have anxiety. I'd recommend this book to everyone.

This book covers the science behind anxiety, why it happens, what is happening in our body and why, and also why we shouldn't fight it quite as hard as society wants to make us think we should.
she asks the reader to "nerd out on the science with her" and I was so there for it. as anxious as I am, I love learning the science behind everything.

beyond just teaching the reader about anxiety, she includes some worksheets that are used in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (I hope I got that right, it's CBT lol) she includes a breakdown and short description of different diagnoses, and several helpful book and website resources.

the care she put into writing this book is evident in the examples she uses and the empathetic verbiage. she offers several examples for just about everything which I felt was a bit much but some people may need a different example than others and I appreciate her attempt to make sure she covers all her bases so she can reach as many people as possible.

my copy is covered in tabs and annotations, I found so much of this book to be helpful and useful. I would recommend this to literally everyone I know. and to be perfectly honest I have already started recommending it to everyone I know.

[Jessica · Rating 5 out of 5]

As an anxious parent with clinical anxiety and depression, this book was life changing for me as I navigate parenting two anxious teens and one anxious tween. I immediately integrated the scripts and philosophies into our lives. Dr. Meredith gave me true insight and real, valuable tools. I also appreciate the grace she allows us to give ourselves as parents. Especially as an anxious parent, generosity towards myself does not come easy. I’ll be forever grateful for this book. I Highly recommend the audiobook also! Her voice is beautiful and so soothing, and I felt like I was listening to a friend.

[Kristina · Rating 5 out of 5]

A fantastic aid for parents navigating anxiety in their children and themselves. I borrowed this from the library and I ordered myself a copy because I want to have this around for much longer than three weeks. Dr. Elkins does a fantastic job of providing insight into anxiety, some of the ways we as parents may inadvertently enable anxiety, and tools to help us work through difficult moments and empower our children. She does it with a relatability and humanity that is refreshing after reading so many sterile tomes about anxiety.

[Analie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'll be recommending this one. It's well-written with clear info about how anxiety works and what normal developmental behavior is as well as how to help a child and manage parental anxiety. The only downside is that it is so CBT-heavy. Readers very familiar with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Exposure Response Prevention may find the content repetitive and familiar, but I think most families can benefit from this book.

[GEP · Rating 4 out of 5]

Parenting Anxiety: Breaking the Cycle of Worry and Raising Resilient Kids by Meredith Elkins is a compassionate, practical guide that reassures parents they’re not alone. With clear strategies and an encouraging tone, Elkins helps turn worry into confidence while fostering resilience in both parents and children.

[Emily Muller · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this. It was humorous, impactful, data driven. It felt actionable in a way no other book on this topic has for me. It gave me tools to manage the anxiety in our parenting dynamic and helped me better understand my strengths in this and where I need to build up some skills here. Would love more content from this author.

[Sue May · Rating 2 out of 5]

My mistake. When I entered the goodreads giveaway I thought I was going to read why my anxiety was off the charts for the last 53 years. Didn't realize it is about how to parent an anxiety ridden child. Back in the day we weren't concerned with that. Now it seems every other kid is on meds or has a therapist. Whatever works I guess. But not back when. This book did not serve a purpose for me.

[Kristy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredibly helpful to me

[Gigi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent!!

[Patricia Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

I received this from GoodREADS for an honest review and opinion. WOW Meredith Elkins, YOUR book made me wish I was back teaching University Sophomores Child Development. Among my opening statements in class was " Parenting is a Job. You won't get paid in money, will work overtime, AND your goal is to work yourself out of the job of being a 'parent'.." i.e. you will teach, help your child how to do the job of being an adult; How to cope with anxiety, how to set boundaries, limits and the coping with the Real World. It's empowering your child, not infantilizing them ( yes, I have seen helicopter parents when the 'child' is 23 y.o., 30 y.o.) It's believing in your child's own strengths. Although your book is titled Parenting Anxiety: breaking the cycle of worry and raising resilient kids, I'd recommend this book for all parents. We all have some level of parenting anxiety with our children, the examples you give are relatable, the concepts understandable and not mired in psychobabble! I was impressed with the sections on dealing with insurance companies, decoding diagnoses, the glossary, all dedicated to the goals of reality, practicality in parenting. Good job, Good Read!!

[Dara · Rating 4 out of 5]

The title of this book had me wondering if it was about anxiety around parenting or being a parent of someone with anxiety. And maybe it’s about both! This book helps parents help their kids without over parenting, over accommodating, etc. I liked how this book said you should focus on what you value when making decisions on how to handle kids with anxiety. For example, if your kid is anxious about a certain activity, is that an activity they have expressed that they really want to do? Maybe it’s not necessary. But if you back off and don’t make them go, their anxiety is apt to increase next time. Also, I liked that the book addressed that anxiety is normal and useful in a lot of cases. I thought this book gave some practical ideas for interacting with kids in general.