Zaštitite svoju djecu od traume: vodič za roditelje: Potaknite samopouzdanje, radost i psihološku otpornost

by Peter A. Levine, Maggie Kline

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Genres: Parenting, Psychology, Nonfiction, Mental Health, Education, Counselling, Family

252 pages, Paperback

First published March 4, 2008

About the author

Peter A.Levine, Ph.D. is the originator and developer of Somatic Experiencing® and the Director of The Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute. He holds doctorate degrees in Medical Biophysics and in Psychology. During his thirty five-year study of stress and trauma, Dr. Levine has contributed to a variety of scientific and popular publications.

Dr. Levine was a stress consultant for NASA during the development of the Space Shuttle, and has taught at treatment centers, hospitals and pain clinics throughout the world, as well as at the Hopi Guidance Center in Arizona. Peter served on the World, Psychologists for Social Responsibility, presidents’ initiative on responding to large scale disasters and ethno-political warfare. His best selling book, Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, is published in 20 languages.

Peter A. Levine received his Ph.D. in medical biophysics from the University of California at Berkeley, and also holds a doctorate in psychology from International University. He has worked in the field of stress and trauma for over 40 years and is the developer of “Somatic Experiencing.”

He teaches trainings in this work throughout the world. He has taught at various indigenous cultures including the Hopi Guidance center in Second Mesa Arizona. Peter has been stress consultant for NASA in the development of the first Space Shuttle. He was a member of the Institute of World Affairs Task Force with “Psychologists for Social Responsibility” and served on the APA initiative for response to large scale disaster and Ethno-political warfare. He is on the ‘distinguished faculty’ of Santa Barbara Graduate Institute.

Peter is the author of the best selling book Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, (published in twenty languages) as well as four audio learning series for Sounds True including the book CD, Healing Trauma, a Pioneering Program in Restoring the Wisdom of Our Bodies; and Sexual Healing, Transforming the Sacred Wound. He is the co-author of Trauma through a Child’s Eyes, Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing, and Trauma-Proofing Your Kids, A Parents Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy and Resilience. Most recently, he has published In An Unspoken Voice, How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness.

Description courtesy of Trauma Healing.
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Reviews

[Annell · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good info.

Favorite Quote:
It's not our words that have the greatest impact; it's the non-verbal cues that create the feelings of safety and trust. Before you can attune to your child's sensations, rhythms and emotions, you must first learn to attune to your own. Then your calm can become their calm." pg. 17

[Monty · Rating 5 out of 5]

Trauma-Proofing Your Kids, a parents’ guide for instilling confidence, joy and resilience by Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline impressed me as one of the most important books to have as a resource. It not only applies to kids, but it is equally appropriate for adults though there are other books by these authors that speak more directly to adult issues. Because of the areas addressed in the book, it is not just for parents—it is really for everyone.

The authors, using much data from science, identify trauma and resilience as givens for all of us. Their goal is to teach others to minimize the negative affects of trauma and to enhance the development of resilience. Trauma can be as simple as a toddler falling down and as complex as being bullied or being a victim of sexual violation.

There are eight steps in this process, and each step is elaborated on in the book. Also, there are a series of exercises for the reader to get a feel for what the healing process is all about. If anything, the reader will likely experience healing as well.

Here are the steps to take for when a traumatic event takes place:

1. Check your own body’s responses first. This is key because we can not be helpful if we haven’t taken our own reactions into account.
2. Assess the situation. Check out the degree of your child’s response to the event.
3. As the shock wears off, guide your child’s attention to his/her sensations. This is exactly what you do for yourself in #1. Checking for sensations is detailed in the book since it is something that most of us don’t do routinely, plus it is different from being in touch with your feelings.
4. Slow down and follow your child’s pace by careful observation of changes. Your pace is secondary at this point.
5. Keep validating your child’s physical responses. This builds on your child’s developing a sense self and choice in life.
6. Trust your child’s innate ability to heal. Everyone has the capacity within him/herself to heal.
7. Encourage your child to rest even if she doesn’t want to. This rest time can be as brief as a few seconds. This enables the child to further be aware of sensations and allows the body to find ways to shake off the traumatic event.
8. The final step is to attend to your child’s emotional responses and help him/her make sense of what happened. I used to think of this as one of the early steps until I read this book.

There is much more to this book. For example, there is an extensive example of how child patients learn to prepare themselves for surgery and other medical interventions. There is a chapter on remedies for specific situations from amusement park rides to zebra bites. The authors also address developmental stages as well as separation, divorce and death. They also distinguish differences in symptoms of grief vs. trauma.

[Katarína Dóczéová · Rating 4 out of 5]

O traumách sa hovorí veľmi malo medzi odbornou i laickou verejnosťou. Keď sa povie slovo trauma, mnohokrát si predstavíme veľmi vážnu udalosť. Pravda je taká, že i obyčajný pád môže mať neblahé následky na psychickú odolnosť dieťaťa. Preto odporúčam každému rodičovi prečítať si aspoň tu časť knihy, ktorá popisuje ako reagovať pri úrazoch, lekárskych zákrokoch, ktoré postihli dieťa. Pokial ste učiteľ, tak táto kniha je pre vás povinným čítaním.

[Marie Costers · Rating 2 out of 5]

Het is heel informatief, en praktisch bruikbaar, ook voor ‘leken’. Toch vind ik ergens dat het boek net een reclamefolder is voor Peter Levine’s Somatic Experience, met weinig onderbouwing of nuancering. Grootste verhalen hoe kinderen met 1 oefening opeens stukken beter zijn, zonder ook de nadelen/kanttekeningen/vragen erbij te beschrijven, maakt het wel wat ongeloofwaardig op momenten. Komt soms sensationeel en goedkoop over.

[Adam Jarvis · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was not what I expected. It was informative, but more than that, it was very practical. There were many examples of how to walk step by step, helping your child and guiding them through difficulty experiences.

I see it as a helpful resource book, and would recommend it to parents, especially if their child is going to have a surgery or medical procedure done.

[Katie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this for school but would definitely recommend it for any parent. This is a good book to help your kids through a traumatic event and tho help build resiliancy for protection from future events. This book is an easy read.

[Michael Sasson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Should be given as a gift at every baby shower... I know, it might not go over so well. Sigh...

[Tim Hedger · Rating 4 out of 5]

A great practical look at helping children become more resilient in the face of adversity.

[Hannah Lulu]

Much more practical than you would expect. Rather than presuming that you can stop any bad things from happening to your kids, the book is about helping kids process their experiences so that the bad things that will inevitably happen do not have a long-term traumatic impact. It's about helping children to be aware of their feelings, helping parents and children be aware of dangers, helping adults respect the feelings of children, and helping to process bad experiences and dangerous situations when they occur. A very useful book.

[Shannon · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book does a good job outlining steps for how to approach shock trauma if you recognize it happening right in front of you, which is important. But I wish it provided more clear steps on what to do if you catch it after symptoms begin or well after the fact. There are stories included that address that and some examples of exercises you can do, but not clear steps. Seems rather idealistic, when what is practical is that I will miss it and miss steps, so now what?

[JS · Rating 5 out of 5]

great book on trauma and how we can help not only children but ourselves avoid and process trauma. Trauma isn't just "big" events, it can happen to anyone at any time. Being able to overcome the trauma and process it in the "correct" way is a huge part of mental health and positive healing!

[Halley · Rating 4 out of 5]

I picked up this book because I wanted to know how someone could possibly think we can “trauma proof” anyone. Turns out, the authors don’t think you can either! The name of this book should have been “how to reduce trauma,” but either way it was a good read!

I liked that it explains things well, in layman’s terms, for parents to understand. While this is focused on a somatic approach, and doesn’t get into other factors of how children learn to cope (like family systems), it does offer a lot of information for parents on how they impact their children and how they might tend to their own needs and regulate themselves.

I like that the authors use a lot of concrete examples with plenty of activities and ways for parents to help prep children or cope. This feels very useful and hands-on for parents who are willing/able to learn. There’s often the assumption that only therapists can handle something and parents need to stay in a certain lane, but this book does a great job of bridging that gap.

Overall - the language and accessibility in this book are 10/10 for me. I could see how this book would be empowering and informative for parents/caregivers. It explains things well and provides a lot of useful tools. Only four stars because every time I read a book about somatic therapy, it’s written like it’s the end all be all, and I’m still not convinced of that.

[Tara Blais Davison · Rating 4 out of 5]

4/5 A simplistic approach to help children build resilience in.cases of trauma potentially caused by medical operations, accidents and abuse. Probably the best advice to come out of this book, directed at parents, is that their/your actions and visible attitude toward your child and their ordeal has just as much affect on your child’s ability to cope; if not more, than whatever you may say to them. Also, repetition of reenacting their trauma with a gentle, stepped and patient approach can do wonders to help your child work through their trauma.
It’s heartening to read about the wonderful strategies that are being taught and incorporated in some hospitals through the U.S.

[Cate · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great information on how to support kids using Somatic Experiencing / Polyvagal principles after medical trauma, falls, losses and other common childhood events. It’s a great start to getting the information out and an easy read. Many step by step activities to use with kids in order to release shock and fight or flight energy. However, I’m curious how much a parent who hasn’t had experience with SE might be willing to implement the practices. I think many of the topics could have been expanded on and written about a bit differently.

[Anna Lovel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Full of helpful information -- both background knowledge and practical methods.

I love the idea of using play and songs to help children work well with their nervous systems and rewire trauma pathways.

Chapter 5 has some ideas that I think are based on faulty science. While men like Freud and Kinsey might agree with the 4 & 5 year old stage, their papers are deeply flawed. I'm not interested in interpreting the behavior of children through that sort of lens. That's why this book got 4 stars instead of 5.

[Adri Dosi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ta kniha je skvělá nejen pro odborníky, kteří přicházejí s dětmi do styku, tedy pro učitele, vychovatele a podobně, ale i pro čerstvé rodiče, kteří zde najdou vše. Jak preventivně pracovat proti traumatům třeba ze ztráty domácího mazlíčka nebo operace a podobně. Je to praktická kniha, která se vyplatí přečíst. Má i cvičení, říkačky a básničky, které vám pomohou s překonáním traumatu, ale i předejitím.

[Julia Torgrimso · Rating 4 out of 5]

Note: parts of the book that did not pertain to my situation were skimmed over.

This book was very helpful to me in describing what trauma is and how it manifests itself in a person. Also, the comparison between trauma and grief was very interesting. I appreciated the authors sectioning off various traumatic situations and offering help for those particular situations.

[Angela Behrends · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very basic guidance on how to feel and connect with your emotions and sensations to help regulate your own emotions in a crisis and then helping your child do the same. Good for if you don’t have a basic understanding of children’s minds and how they work, regulating emotions, and practicing understanding and compassion with your child. Not really what I was looking for.

[Ramona · Rating 5 out of 5]

Een erg duidelijk geschreven, prettig leesbaar boek over traumawerk bij kinderen waar ook volwassenen met trauma's veel aan kunnen hebben om deze te kunnen verwerken of er in ieder geval beter mee te kunnen omgaan. Een aanrader!

[Robin]

On hiatus. Wasn't a fan of the part where it was implied that medical trauma can turn a kid into a serial killer. The rest of the book was reasonable, seemed like good advice, but that tweaked my anxiety a little too much to continue. Will try again some other time.

[Lydia Bergen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Practical and full of hope. This is not a how-to wrap your child in bubble wrap and protect them from trauma book. It’s a book demonstrating that trauma is a part of life, but thankfully, so is resilience. Our own physical bodies being the healing agent for psychological pain is exciting.

[Tara Russell · Rating 5 out of 5]

A absolute must read for parents or I would suggest reading this before becoming parents. Explains trauma for children really well, and great activities to use in the book also to help your kids build resilience.

[vlad popescu · Rating 5 out of 5]

Unul dintre cele mai bune ghiduri de terapie cu copiii. Dr. Peter Levine reușește să transmită metode concrete de lucru cu copiii, pe care chiar le-am încercat și funcționează.
O carte minunată, pentru orice terapeut sau părinte.

[Lucybell Haner · Rating 5 out of 5]

Muy didáctico y divulgativo. Incluso si no tienes hijos recomiendo leerlo por los pequeños que puedas tener en tu entorno, para saber cómo ayudarles a desarrollar resiliencia y también para entender los propios traumas que puedas tener, especialmente los originados durante la infancia.

[Michelle Cornish · Rating 5 out of 5]

What a valuable book!! I especially loved the section on rhyming stories you can use to help kids work through trauma by asking questions and encouraging them to draw pictures to go with the story. The descriptions of trauma (it's not always what you think) were also very helpful!

[Antonija · Rating 5 out of 5]

"(...) zapamtite, 'nikad nije kasno za sretno djetinjstvo', bez obzira na to koliko godina imate. (...) dogodit će se loše stvari. To je životna činjenica. Međutim, traumu je moguće spriječiti ili promijeniti; ne morate služiti doživotnu kaznu." str. 44-45.

[Rachel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful

[Alina · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every parent should read this.

[Erika · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wish I had read this as a new parent.
I do recommend it - the sooner in your child raising days the better. 💞

[Kathy Carey · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you have kids that come from trauma, read it. If you have kids at all, read it!