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You Bet Your Stretch Marks: Finding Beauty and Worth in the Ways Motherhood Marks Our Bodies and Souls

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Bestselling author Abbie Halberstadt offers encouragement and insight for mamas struggling to remain engaged and hopeful amid the challenges of motherhood.

It’s easy to be grateful for motherhood when your child is writing “best mama ever” on your birthday card or giving you a great, big hug. But how about when you’re scrubbing crayon marks off the wall for the third time in a week or tussling with your teen about curfew . . . again?

The all-in enterprise called parenting will test your patience and stretch your capacity like nothing else, but mama-of-ten Abbie Halberstadt is here to remind you that having children is a calling you should never, ever regret or apologize to anyone for.

With her trademark candor, relatable humor, and biblically based insight, Abbie will help you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus as you navigate the sometimes-murky waters of motherhood.

Even with an eyes-up approach, will you still struggle? Yep.

Will it be painful and hard at times? Without a doubt.

But will it be worth it? For you? For them? You bet your stretch marks!
 

256 pages, Hardcover

Published September 2, 2025

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Abbie Halberstadt

9 books278 followers
Abbie Halberstadt is a writer, fitness instructor, and homeschooling mother of ten children, including two sets of identical twins. Abbie lives by the motto that “hard is not the same thing as bad” and encourages women to dig deep to meet the challenges of everyday life through her blog and Instagram posts. She, her husband, Shaun, and their children live in the Piney Woods of East Texas.

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Profile Image for Jo|Ruth Reads.
728 reviews90 followers
September 20, 2025
There’s so much wisdom packed into this book that it’s hard to fully capture it all in one review!

The best I could do was highlight, tab, and make tons of notes. I also have the accompanying guide to help me implement much of what I learned. Abbie reminds us that the scars and stretch marks motherhood leaves behind are marks worth wearing proudly and how the highs and lows of the journey shape us as believers. The book also explores the world’s view of motherhood and our value, and compares that with what God and the Bible say. I love that constant reminder to "stay the course" and follow his will, because, at times, we really need it. Abbie points out that our insecurities often come from measuring ourselves against worldly standards instead of God's truth, and that resonated deeply with me. This is a wonderful read for mothers, and it’s a personal call to bring back the joy of motherhood. It’s a reminder to show the world the true joy in it, especially for those who may be doubting whether it’s worth the sacrifice...because it truly, truly is!

I need to grab Abbie's other books now and read them!

I received a complimentary copy. This review reflects my honest opinion.
Profile Image for Beth.
296 reviews55 followers
March 21, 2026
“Sadly, if we keep shoving away opportunities to rehearse the truths of Scripture in everyday, mundane scenarios, we’re likely to grow- but in frustration, not in forbearance.”

“If there is anything that should narrow our scope down to the essentials, it’s being in charge of other human beings. If there is any pursuit that should take precedence over all others, it’s investing in everlasting souls.”

I am so thankful for Abbie’s encouraging voice amidst a sea of complaining moms and women who try to convey the idea that having children robs one of joy and fulfillment. All three of her books have been five star reads for me and are books I revisit when I need sage wisdom and inspiration. Abbie points mamas to God’s Word to challenge, edify, encourage, and spur us on in our important and joyful work. His Word never returns void and the same can be said of his calling for mothers to invest in the privilege laid before us. I highly recommend this book!

Thank you, Harvest House for a complimentary copy of this wonderful book! All opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.
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298 reviews153 followers
November 25, 2025
🐅 Book Review 🐅

Title: You Bet Your Stretch Marks
Author: Abbie Halberstadt
Genre: Nonfiction/Motherhood

Review: This one is for all the mamas out there—no matter what season you’re in! Abbie’s books always come just when I need them. They’re filled with Scripture, practical tips, application questions, and stories that will encourage your heart. This one focuses on the question “Is motherhood worth it?” And the short answer is yes. If you need some hope in the hard days whether you’re going through them now or know they’ll be coming, this book is the perfect for you. I love how it feels like you’re sitting down with a mentor/friend and learning principles to apply to your own life. This book just oozes wisdom! I’d also recommend any of her books for a gift to the mamas in your life 🤍 Biblically sound, practical, encouraging, and convicting, you can count on these to point you to Jesus!

Star Rating: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
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62 reviews
March 14, 2026
An uplifting read on seeing the difficult parts of motherhood as opportunities for growth vs burdens to be avoided. Pros, key takeaway, cons, and quotes below:

➕️ What I really liked: the book was truly encouraging, made me laugh and occasionally tear up, and after each read I felt freshly grateful to be a mom - I honestly saved the book for days when I needed an attitude adjustment and it usually helped. I also enjoyed hearing from a different older Christian mom at the end of each chapter.

🔑 Two of my key takeaways:
1. People talk a lot about the things they don't do as much now that they're a parent (eat out, date night, some hobbies...) but we don't focus enough on the ways that parenting helps us prioritize and even discover new things we love doing/have a gift for.
2. Try changing the "must be nice" mindset out for a twofold "I'm happy for ___" (rejoice with those who rejoice) and also "____ is a nice thing in my life."

➖️ Something that sometimes annoyed me: some of the writing will feel dated in a few years; phrases like ____ vibes or _____ energy, gives ___, etc. It wasn't constant, but it happened enough that I remained aware that this is someone who spends a lot of time on the internet. She also spent some time in one of the final chapters getting a little bit off track (imo) confronting some current trends. Maybe that was important to her to combat - but I would have traded it for another chapter of the encouraging bits for me ;)

Quotes:
"Perhaps, then, it is not our offspring who have robbed us of, well, anything. Perhaps it is a mindset of impending disappointment that steals our joy and replaces our vision for legacies built with regret for leisure time lost."

"And if the Lord sees fit to grant us eternal souls to shepherd in the form of children here on earth, the only way we will miss out is if we fail to recognize that we will take neither "me time" nor nicer furniture nor "trips of a lifetime" nor spotless car interiors to heaven with us, but instead only those everlasting souls whom God calls to Himself, at least in part, through our steadfast witness of love and instruction in His ways."

"He chooses to see worry, even without evident or immediate return, in His sacrifice for humanity. Why? Because He wasn't doing it for recognition or acclaim."

"It's worth it - even when it doesn't feel good - if it makes us more like Jesus."


"...practicing the fruit of the Spirit's indwelling in His strength us about the only guaranteed way to experience change, maturity, and the kind of joy that doesn't depend on your performance or your children's reactions to it. Sadly, if we keep shoving away opportunities to rehearse the truths of Scripture in everyday, mundane scenarios, we're likely to grow - but in frustration, not in forbearance."

"'This world' assures us complaining is the ticket to emotional release... God's Word tells us we have a choice to 'take every thought captive to obey Christ..."

"Yes, motherhood alters our bodies irrevocably. But its effects upon our hearts and minds and character - our patience, our self-reliance, our pride, our generosity (or lack thereof), our self-discipline - are infinitely more profound and lasting than any mere physical sign of sacrifice."
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96 reviews2 followers
December 29, 2025
With this being AH’s third book, I was kinda worried her content would be repetitive, but I didn’t find it to be. She does have the same gold thread that links all her books and it’s basically this: Moms, read God’s word and pray; ask Him for help! And He will.
This is always such a great reminder! AH’s voice helps encourage me to not grow complacent or weary in motherhood. I also appreciated her more nuanced chapters in this book, like how she addressed the “must be nice…” thought that can be so destructive (guilty). I’m very thankful for this author and how she points moms to Christ.
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238 reviews66 followers
December 1, 2025
Ever read a book that feels like a coffee date with a wise, encouraging friend? That’s exactly how You Bet Your Stretch Marks by Abbie Halberstadt feels. Abbie has been on my radar for years, and her book M Is for Mama has sat on my shelf just as long. Why I didn’t pick it up sooner is a tragedy—because after recently finishing You Bet Your Stretch Marks, I now know M Is for Mama is one I absolutely need to read. And honestly, You Bet Your Stretch Marks is a book every mom needs.

Every day I opened the pages, I was humbled, convicted, and encouraged. These chapters are rich with godly wisdom, stewardship, humility, and light humor. Reading it, you feel seen and heard—as if you’re sitting with a dear friend who knows the path you’re on and simply wants to encourage you along the way.

Abbie doesn’t shy away from talking about the harmful mindsets and ideologies we can fall prey to, the ones that influence our parenting and quietly impact our homes. Some chapters brought me to tears, others encouraged my heart, but every single one pointed me to Jesus.

One of my favorite features is the “Titus Two Perspective” at the end of each chapter. Here, older women in the faith share wisdom we can all glean from, offering reminders on how to respond to the world with God’s truth. Each chapter also includes practical steps, reflection questions, and a prayer—all thoughtfully designed to help moms live out the principles Abbie shares and to grow in Christlikeness.

If you’re looking for a meaningful gift for a mom this Christmas, I highly recommend this one. No matter where she is in her motherhood journey, this book can truly mentor and pour into her heart.

Thank you @harvesthousepublishers for my copy in exchange for my honest thoughts. What a blessing this book is!
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556 reviews300 followers
November 2, 2025
Abbie brings the encouragement and conviction that mamas need. Her books feel like a safe harbor for mamas who are striving to “walk in a manner worthy of their calling” when it comes to the work of motherhood. I’ve felt bolstered and spurred on by all three of her books, but this one was even more bold - both in calling out the detrimental & unbiblical attitudes of popular culture and in lovingly calling mamas to rise up to the high call and high joy of biblical motherhood.

Abbie writes with humor & honesty, modeling a positive perspective on parenting that feels so refreshing. I especially loved her thoughts on the value of truly appreciating your children for the gifts they are, her biblical analysis of popular secular parenting philosophies, and her admonition to evaluate your rhythms and establish habits that serve your family.

Mothers of every season will find solidarity and relatability in Abbie’s words, along with the necessary encouragement & conviction we all need. I personally find Abbie’s down-to-earth practicality & biblical insights deeply encouraging in my current season of early motherhood, but Abbie also offers advice and hope to mothers navigating the teenage years.

Thank you to Harvest House publishers for a complimentary copy of this book. Thoughts expressed belong entirely to me.
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44 reviews
November 7, 2025
I loved Abbie’s thesis, that children are always worth it. No matter what challenges come your way, children are always worth it, because this is God’s design for us. Grateful to Abbie for writing this book as I’m sure she will receive a lot of push back from women on this topic. It’s not easy to write an entire book on this topic, knowing you will have an entire army of women challenging every jot and tiddle of your arguments. Abbie talked about how just getting married and having children or a child is seen as an act of rebellion to the secular culture we live in. This is why her book is needed for Christian women today, because they have bought and proclaimed the lie that children are not worth it.
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589 reviews
February 5, 2026
Actual rating was probably closer to 3.5 stars. It would have been a 4 star read, but it felt repetitive at times and I got tired of her plugging her other books.

Aside from that, this was a good read packed with encouragement and practical advice/action steps.

This momma unashamedly speaks up against the selfishness of our current culture and encourages women to wholeheartedly love and serve their families with service to God as their motivation. Loved that!!

I really enjoyed the "Titus 2 perspective" at the end of each chapter, too. We need more of this! Listen to the older mommas around you, the ones who have learned lessons the hard way, the ones whose children are pleasant to be around, the one who has a great relationship with her spouse. There is so much to be learned from these ladies of faith!

Really solid read!
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70 reviews1 follower
September 30, 2025
Love Abbie’s books. Having had the pleasure of meeting her twice and hearing her speak twice, I’m always convicted and encouraged. I’m so thankful she is being obedient to the Holy Spirit and writing these while in the midst of raising 10 kiddos. Born for such a time as this in the generation of kids being a burden instead of blessing. Thankful for a woman of truth rewriting the narrative. Are children worth it? You bet your stretch marks!!
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December 2, 2025
Out of all her books thus far this is my favorite. I found this one most encouraging and applicable for the season I am in and I think a lot of the moms I know would be blessed by it as well.
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79 reviews6 followers
November 7, 2025
I don’t want to be dramatic, but I really think this is something every Christian mother should read. It’s so timely, wise, and saturated in scripture. The author truly sees through the lies of our culture and the travesty of Christian mothers receiving their primary discipleship through social media, and she pulls the curtain back graciously and firmly.

Many passages were just tear jerkers or soul piercers or eye openers. One of those books I know I will need to own in physical form so I can mark it up to reference for my own motherhood journey and in helping other moms!

Format: Audio
Abby Halberstadt is a rare author because she has a voice I didn’t mind listening to for 7 hours. Not a fan of this trend in general, but it shouldn’t be a deterrent for this one!
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57 reviews10 followers
October 9, 2025
Wow. This book was life changing and one of the best books on godly motherhood that I’ve read.
Profile Image for Hannah Schnetz.
25 reviews
January 29, 2026
Mixed thoughts on this book.

I have read each of Abbie Halberstadt's books as they were released, and in God's providence they each hit me at a different stage of parenting. Each of the books in her trio were applicable and encouraging at the time that I read them, and I love her heart for uplifting other moms while stating crucial truths from Scripture. Not many can balance hard-hitting exhortation with gracious delivery, but she manages to do it well in both her books and her social media.

As with the first two, this book's message was well timed for me, as after three children and some major health concerns, the "tiger stripes" of motherhood are starting to manifest. This book is not for the first time beginner mom (read M is for Mama instead for that), but for the ones who have been in the fight for a while and are starting to weary of the struggle. Solid truths, helpful examples (albeit mostly online illustrations), challenging discussion questions, and a whole lot of up front honesty. Read the chapter titles in the table of contents for an example of what kind of honesty we are talking. They always gave me a wry grin and I appreciated the humorous candor.

That said, I have a caveat. I am not a fan of conversational, fragmented sentence writing style, only because I don't think it translates well into book form. Books need more of a structure to the sentences in order to preserve the flow of thought, but this reads as if you are listening to her podcast. While that makes it a very easy read, it left me searching for more.

However, after mulling it over, I think that is Abbie's point. More than the other two books, she has written this directly to the modern mom who is dealing with online influences and - I venture to say - has not picked up a hearty meat-filled book in a while. She utilizes the punchy, parentheses-filled, rapid fire dialog that social media captions are known for, interspersed with run-on sentences that are meant to be re-read. I found it distracting, to be honest, but if you haven't delved into the book scene recently, this might light your fire again. The chapters are long enough for substantial truth to be explained, yet short enough for the exhausted mom who is just trying to fit in a chapter of enrichment per day before she falls asleep. (Ask me how I know 😜)

All in all, a worthwhile read and full of needed reminders. Just be aware that it will challenge your heart instead of your brain. I hope she writes more of a deep dive style book in the future, as she has the knowledge and wisdom for it. I think after reading through this book her audience will be ready for the stronger stuff.
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48 reviews3 followers
February 13, 2026
Another great book by Abbie Halberstadt! This one was more focused on why children are worth having- a view I already agree with- so I wouldn't say there was anything super profound but just enjoyable to read and affirm. She did a great job in the last chapter on parenting formulas and especially poking holes in the "gentle parenting" phenomenon happening in our times. Looking forward to reading M is for Mama at some point as well!
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30 reviews1 follower
February 28, 2026
Mrs Halberstadt,

How timely. I was moved to tears on multiple occasions (which is abnormal). It was the perfect finale. Thank you, once again, for pushing me to God’s Word above your own. I don’t need more opinions, I need more truth which comes from the One who is truth.

Until your next book, we wait with bated breath . . .
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224 reviews2 followers
December 11, 2025
Full of Biblical principles, backed up by so many Scripture references. Convicting and timely. Loved reading and discussing this with my dear friend. We both came away challenged and encouraged!
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November 1, 2025
I don’t think I have laughed out loud this much reading a nonfiction book in a while. If you are looking for something easy to read and practical, you might like this one. It has a very relatable tone and is extremely practical.

Abbie shares a lot of wisdom from her years of mothering (She is blessed to raise 10 children)

While funny at parts, she does talk about serious struggles and hardships moms face like when our children don’t listen or life feels overwhelming.

It reads like a seasoned mom friend giving you advice and the great thing about this book is she takes each point back to how we should be seeking to model Christ in our motherhood.

It has questions at the end of the chapters and there is a study guide you can grab so would be good to read for a book club too.

I also must add that the cover and interior pages of this book are STUNNING, it is hardcover so durable for throwing in your bag to read a few pages during appointments or waiting in carline.
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88 reviews50 followers
August 30, 2025
“Mothers seem to be increasingly primarily concerned not with meeting their children's needs but with exceeding them. Whether or not they realize it, they don't want to be enough. They want to be more than enough.”
—Abbie Halberstadt, You Bet Your Stretch Marks (Chapter 9)

I wrote this quote down in my commonplace journal. It speaks to me deeply.
Mrs. Halberstadt shared this right after addressing questions she often receives about whether she spends “enough” time with each of her children or if they all just form one big blob together. These are questions I’ve started to get too… and ones I used to ask my adopted father, who already had six children when he took me in.

This quote sums up a common misconception about having more than one child: the fear of not being enough. Yet God is enough, and He has entrusted us with these blessings. When we feel we aren’t enough, we fall into the enemy’s trap of comparison.My dad used to take me on a weekly walk to Arby’s. Sometimes we split a meal, sometimes just a soda. His simple check-ins with me were enough. We don’t need to orchestrate extravagant one on one time to make each child feel special. Small gestures matter.

Mrs. Halberstadt ties this beautifully to the example of Jesus feeding the 5,000 (15,000 with families!). With only meager offerings, He multiplied them. In the same way, God can multiply our simple, imperfect efforts the moment we surrender them to Him.

✨ I truly enjoyed You Bet Your Stretch Marks, the third book in Abbie Halberstadt’s motherhood trilogy. She makes me laugh out loud with her humor and strengthens my heart as she takes a bold stand for children in a world that often devalues them.

Why I read this book:
I’ve read the other two in this series and always appreciate Mrs. Halberstadt’s heart for mothers and her defense of children in a culture that mocks them for cheap laughs. I value moms who won’t settle for mediocrity, but who are also honest about the challenges of motherhood without trashing children for being, well…children.

What I loved:
🌿 Titus Two Perspective, each chapter closes with veteran moms sharing godly, biblical reflections on motherhood.
🌿 The humor and transparency (the comment about “Choo-Choo Joe is dead” had me laughing out loud from page one).
🌿 The reminder that the daily, ordinary work of motherhood is holy and beautiful.
🌿 Practical prompts at the end of each chapter to reflect, apply, and tie everything back to Scripture.
🌿 The lovely illustrations sprinkled throughout the book, adding beauty and charm.


📚 You Bet Your Stretch Marks by Abbie Halberstadt
🌿 Genre: Motherhood / Parenting (Biblical)
⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ –I’ll be rereading this one whenever I need encouragement!

Things to know: Written by a Christian mother of 10, this book is clean, faith filled, and full of encouragement. Some sections will tug at your heart, but she always points back to relying on the Lord.

Who it’s for: Moms who want to strengthen their motherhood journey by leaning on Christ instead of drawing endlessly from their own depleted wells.

🌿 This was such a delightful and timely read! Thank you Harvest House for a copy in exchange for an honest review!
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74 reviews1 follower
January 18, 2026
Solid 4.5. I love her practical, biblically based encouragement for mamas. The end of chapter encouragement from other mamas was also a delightful add in for this final book in her trilogy.

Docking half a star for personal preference - I found the “examples” of specifically viral social media posts and Reddit threads kind of annoying. While I understand her sphere of influence is primarily on social media, I just didn’t feel like calling out ridiculous viral things (often here today, gone tomorrow like most things on the news) particularly helpful.

But aside from that, overall a great encouragement and a good read. Looking forward to diving deeper into this book at a future book club with some fellow mamas.
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74 reviews1 follower
February 20, 2026
Talking points:
- gentle parenting vs Bible
- women with kids are often more productive not less
- stop complaining and be grateful
- family worship
- talk nonstop about the Lord
- stop scrolling
- more kids does not mean neglect
- be careful with how you spend the one on one time



Great book for people in churches that don’t touch on parenting and family in direct and confrontational ways. Many pastors are scared to say things as direct as in here.

Not necessarily super informative if your church already touches on these topics. Great book for moms that are newer believers or not discipled.
Profile Image for Sara Hill.
42 reviews
January 18, 2026
4.75⭐️

Such an encouraging read filled with so much wisdom for God fearing mamas. I felt convicted in so many parts of this book. I felt encouraged and uplifted all throughout! I also loved the stories she included from other mom friends at the end of each chapter! Great read and would recommend to any of my mom friends!

The only reason this wasn’t a 5 star read for me is because I didn’t love how often she referenced her other books throughout the entirety of this book.
Profile Image for Nicole.
109 reviews
March 6, 2026
Welp. I borrowed this one from the library thinking I don't need to buy Abbie's 3rd book on motherhood... what more could she have to say? Turns out it was just the encouragement that I needed right now, so I may be adding it to my shelf after all... I absolutely love her writing- so easy to read, so personable, so down-to-earth and so convicting. And now I want to have alll the babies 🤣 😜
I think Hard Is Not The Same Thing As Bad is still my favourite of the 3 books.
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195 reviews2 followers
January 9, 2026
I really liked this one. Especially loved the Titus 2 perspective from an “older mom” at the end of each chapter.

I find with each book Abbie gets a little more sassy / more confrontational in some ways 😂 But don’t let that stop you from reading this because there’s so many great points, encouragement, scripture references and prayer prompts that I found really helpful :)
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170 reviews
January 12, 2026
This book is all about the value of motherhood and it was such a timely encouragement to me. It is full of relatable stories, biblical truth, and encouragement to keep persevering. I love all of Abbie’s books and highly recommend them (even if you’re not a stay at home mom of 10 and don’t plan to be).
Profile Image for Taylor Miller.
24 reviews
January 17, 2026
Honestly, I had a hard time getting through (and did not finish) Abbie’s first book, M Is for Mama, so I wasn’t sure how I was going to like this book (even though I really wanted to like it). But You Bet Your Stretch Marks hit differently for me and I truly enjoyed it and feel like I will need to relisten/read again. Now I’m going to give Abbie’s two other books another try.
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January 28, 2026
I often find books about Christian motherhood difficult to read for various reasons (it's partly the books, it's partly me!) and don't make it through it them, and this one still had some of those factors, but overall I really liked it. I found the mindset shift encouraging and meaningful, and there was a lot in here that refreshed me, along with some good parenting principles that I have been thinking about, and even started to actually do.

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156 reviews5 followers
March 4, 2026
While there were encouraging nuggets along the way, I found this to be repetitive, anecdotal, and (quite frankly) boring. This was my first book by the author and my expectations were high; unfortunately this one didn't deliver for me. Maybe I just wasn't the right audience for this? I also can't get over that this hardcover was $35 😱
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15 reviews1 follower
January 21, 2026
Really enjoyed this book and some of the application tips in the book. Also loved the Bible verses and encouragement to memorize them at the end of the chapters.

Giving it a 4 star just because I think some of the examples got drawn out and were not the most applicable.
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157 reviews10 followers
December 30, 2025
4.5 ⭐️’s. The flow wasn’t as natural as the previous two books, but this tome is still chock-full of Biblical wisdom, encouragement, and humor.
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