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Single and Psycho: How Pop Culture Created the Unstable Single Woman

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From the single ladies of Beyoncé and Taylor Swift songs to Phoebe Waller-Bridge's irreverent television series Fleabag (2016–2019) to as far back as Miss Havisham in Great Expectations, the stereotype of the damaged single woman has long pervaded music, books, television, and Hollywood movies. Spinster tropes, witch burnings, and nineteenth-century diagnoses of hysteria have reflected and continue to inform the stories told about society's singletons, most notoriously in the original bunny boiler, Fatal Attraction (1987), and popularized in Single White Female (1992) and Promising Young Woman (2020).

In Single & Psycho, author Caroline Young explores how broader social trends such as the antifeminist backlash of the 1980s, contemporary debates about tradwives and childless cat ladies, and the absence of single women of color on-screen shape the way women are (mis)perceived and (mis)treated. Young weaves the history of a stereotype with her own fight against stigma as a single woman as well as her struggles with infertility, infusing incisive analysis with personal experience in this approachable, savvy exposé of one of mainstream media's most enduring clichés.

Single & How Pop Culture Created the Unstable Single Woman is a dynamic addition to the ongoing dialogue surrounding the #MeToo movement and societal expectations of women.

316 pages, Kindle Edition

First published June 10, 2025

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Caroline Young

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Caroline Young read English at Cambridge University and taught English in Greece and the UK before joining Usborne as a writer and editor. She has written books about a huge variety of subjects, for all ages, and believes it's one of the best jobs in the world. Caroline lives and works on Anglesey in North Wales.

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77 reviews1 follower
November 23, 2025
Single & Psycho was an eye-opening look at how single women have been portrayed in popular culture, and just how negative those portrayals have been over the years. The author weaves in her own experiences throughout, which were genuinely hard-hitting and really helped to underline the points she was making.

It’s a thought-provoking read that gave me a better understanding of the pressure women face to behave in certain ways, and how strongly the media reinforces those expectations. It’s clear a huge amount of research went into the book, which covers a wide range of themes, and it remained easy and enjoyable to read throughout.

It’s also an honest and open account of the author’s relationships and her journey trying for a baby. A really engaging and insightful read.
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66 reviews42 followers
December 1, 2025
I’m really glad I read this book. It was meant to fall into my hands. I first heard about it through a news book letter and thought it sounded great, but I was undecided about whether I’d attend the event. A few days later, the author contacted me about the book! So, many thanks to Caroline for sending me a gratis copy of the book. I told you, I was meant to read it!

For good reason too – this book was fantastic! As someone who hasn’t typically been into film (that has changed this year though, outwith this book), I was really intrigued to find out what I’d missed out and how this medium could add to my growing thoughts around the perception of women and single life. This book didn’t disappoint; it’s such a smart exploration of how pop culture has warped the way we see single women. Even though I wasn’t personally influenced by the specific films Young discusses (I think I’d seen about 2 of the films she mentions in this book, not including one I watched whilst reading this book), I knew these thoughts and portrayals of women, especially single women because they are found in so many aspects of medium and in real life, The book was informative in showcasing how some of these discussions or portrayals in other forms of medium actually started from films, showcasing just how powerful messaging in film can be. My favourite was finding out about the term ‘bunny boiler.’ I’d never even thought to question its origins, and I don’t even know how I know what the term means, but what I didn’t know was how it came about. That moment was such a revelation for me, really showing just how big an effect one moment in a film can have. One very disturbing moment, and now women are reduced to this name if they show the slightest hint of having an emotion. But really, it was so cool to learn this! Young is also great at explaining the plot, tropes and characters within the film, so even if you haven’t seen them, you get the gist of them and see how the subtle messaging seeped into mainstream culture. She also gives cultural context for these films, discussing the social and political climate of the time. What I really like is that we also get to hear about how the actors portraying these women were treated by their colleagues and the media, we get interview snippets and information on their personal lives, and it just seems that in film and real life, people did not take kindly to single women.

The book mentions Fatal Attraction a lot! So much so that I had to go and watch the film about 40% of the way through this because I had to watch this controversial film for myself. As someone watching it in 2025, I have thoughts; however, I feel that had I watched it as a teen, I would have viewed it differently. My current thoughts didn’t change how I saw Young’s commentary on this film and the effect it had on viewers at the time, which I see as a good thing. Young’s points still very much make sense to me, even if I find the film to be wild. I was really shocked at some of the vitriol towards Glen Close and her character, Alex Forrest.

Young takes us through a lot of portrayals in this book, we talk about hag horror, Sex and the City, Insecure, Fleabag, Girls and how each of these genres/shows gives their own take on women and singledom. I think what’s evident to me is that, young or old, no woman is safe from being pitied or seen as having something ‘wrong’ with her, if she isn’t a heterosexual woman with a family.

Throughout the book chapters Young weaves in her own story of singledom and dating, and how the messaging from these films has shaped her and her dating life. This added a really lovely personal element to the book. I found the book to be well-researched, clear, and it gave me a lot to think about in regards to the portrayal of women in film and TV shows and how this has trickled (really chucked down) into the messaging we receive about single life, single women and relationships. There truly was a lot to think about and, quite frankly, be angry about when you realise how pop culture feeds into so much of the negativity we see around women’s independence.

I ended up seeing Young talk about the book as part of the Aye Writes Festival, when I was 75% of the way through the book. She’s brilliant and knowledgeable, and the event was a further discussion of the book. I’m glad to know that despite the messaging stacked against me, I don’t view my singledom as a waiting period or that I’m expiring on a shelf. I’m so glad I read this book, and I want to press it into the hands of most women I know. I also love the title of this book; it’s funny and a warning, and I love it.
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84 reviews
March 7, 2026
must-read for anyone who’s fed up with being asked 'So, when is it your turn?' at every family dinner 😵‍💫
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159 reviews7 followers
October 16, 2025
I love that the author shares her personal experiences of being stereotyped as a single woman based on perceptions formed by society based on what they’ve been shown or told through the years. I was divorced at a time when the majority of friends were (seemingly) happily married, so many memories of the trials and tribulations of the online dating scene resurfaced as I read. I definitely felt that societal pressure to be with someone, anyone, and eventually when I was deleting my accounts after one too many frogs, I found my prince.

To give an example, Caroline Young starts by examining the infamous bunny boiler scene in Fatal Attraction, which seemed to solidify what everyone already ‘knew’ - that single women had ticking biological clocks and you didn’t want to be around when they exploded. I found it fascinating to learn of how women older than their mid-twenties were considered past their sell-by date; additionally, they were shunned for not fulfilling their duty of procreating.

As you may be able to tell, my inner feminist has been riled but in a good way and I’m going to give this book 4.5 stars for making me think more deeply about societal assumptions.
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343 reviews40 followers
November 5, 2025
This was such an interesting look at the portrayal of women within in society but also the reinforced messages within all forms of media. There was so much in this book I hadn't considered and had just accepted as the norm. However, the more I read the more dismayed and annoyed I became. As a woman in her 40's who hasn't had children, I have felt the societal pressure and had the insensitive comments that indicate I must be the problem. Society still has a long way to go and when you take into account modern movements to take back control over women's rights, it begs the question will women truly ever be free of the expectations forced upon us.

This was really well written with lots of interesting references and historical context. I also appreciated the author sharing parts of her own struggles with relationships and how to find her place in the world based on her own wants, needs and desires.

A really thought-provoking read.

Huge thanks to the author, publisher and Love Books Tours for providing a copy of the book to review.
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112 reviews
March 28, 2026
Interesting, but quite repetitive. Might have been better to use fewer examples and go into more depth? Somehow it didn't feel right that it merged into memoir, it didn't seem to work as well as it does in other books. And I have deducted stars for TWO incorrect uses of the word "schizophrenic", lazily used to refer to "split personality" which isn't even a thing. A 30 second Google search would have put you right, instead of perpetuating misinformation and stigma about schizophrenia, contributing to negative perceptions of it being dangerous when in fact people with schizophrenia are significantly more of a risk to themselves than to anyone else. The condition you were looking for is Multiple Personality Disorder. Schizophrenia does not involve multiple personalities! It's the 21st century, it's so easy to check!
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35 reviews1 follower
October 19, 2025
Refreshing. Stigma. Cultural critique.

This book was a breath of fresh air and unlike anything I have ever read before. Young has filled a gap in the market where the role of being a single woman is explored in its many levels: throughout history, throughout popular culture, throughout society and also through ourselves. As someone who has recently divorced and become single, I found this book riveting and really related to a lot of the ‘otherness’ portrayed. Specifically the ‘bad girl’ compared to the ‘good wife’ I once was. This chapter hit home and was articulated well. I love the way Young not only uses scholarly writing but also brings in anecdotes and wisdom from her own personal life - it balances the literature well and gives the topic some emotional clarity which is needed. Young writes in a way that makes it accessible for all but particularly those interested in this kind of gender studies critique.

The only negative I would pick out is that some of the chapters felt slightly shallow or less specific than it could have been due to Young trying to cover so many genres/ decades etc… Whilst I loved and appreciated the broad range of pop culture and history Young managed to include, I do wish some of the more recent/ current tropes would have been explored deeper but that could be spun into how much I enjoyed the book and just wanted more. Great read and a very interesting take that I would recommend anyone to read to gain some wisdom/ insight.
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1,176 reviews69 followers
August 10, 2025
Cuando leí el titulo me di cuenta que tenia que leerlo. Y fue correcto. Tenía que leerlo. Este libro es extenso, por momentos tiene mucho texto, mucha explicación y sí.. es necesario.

A lo largo de la historia la figura de una mujer 'soltera' fue cambiando, pero incluso hoy en día me preguntan '¿para cuando el novio?' por suerte dejan de molestarme cuando les comento que estoy bien así, que soy feliz y que no necesariamente necesito una figura al lado mío (sea hombre o mujer) para sentirme plena.

Acá lo que hace Caroline Young es darnos un repaso de la figura femenina soltera en diferentes ámbitos y géneros y cómo es vista. Entre esa info, tambien nos cuenta experiencias personales que enriquecen mucho la lectura y uno realmente se siente acompañado y entendido.

Creo que es un libro que me gustaría tener en fisico y releer varias veces. Abrir en cualquier pagina y leer el apartado y disfrutar de la escritura de Young.

Muchas gracias University Press of Kentucky por el arc que leí en netgalley a cambio de una reseña honesta.
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128 reviews1 follower
March 21, 2026
When looking at the Goodreads winter challenge, I spotted Single & Psycho by Caroline Young under the ‘Her Story’ tag. The reason I spotted and chose this book is because the title caught my eye, and I’m so glad I did. It’s smart, honest, and surprisingly emotional. Caroline Young dives deep into how single women have been portrayed in the pop culture from old books to modern day movies and how those PORTRAYALS are still affecting how people see us today.

As a fellow Swiftie, I loved how Taylor Swift's music was given a mention. Her songs have always made me feel empowered and understood in ways that are hard to explain, and this book showed how artists like her challenge outdated ideas about single women.

The writing is clear and thoughtful, mixing history, media analysis, and the author's own experiences.

This book made me look at familiar stories in a new way. It's perfect for anyone who's ever felt judged for being single or just wants to understand how media shapes our views. This book is worth reading in my opinion, if I could give it more than 5 🌟 then I would.
524 reviews14 followers
October 15, 2025
I picked this up because the title caught my eye, and I’m so glad I did. It’s smart, honest, and surprisingly emotional. Caroline Young dives deep into how single women have been portrayed in pop culture from old novels to modern movies and how those portrayals still affect how people see us today.

As a Swiftie, I loved how Taylor Swift’s music was mentioned. Her songs have always made me feel empowered and understood, and this book shows how artists like her challenge outdated ideas about single women.

The writing is clear and thoughtful, mixing history, media analysis, and the author’s own experiences.

This book made me look at familiar stories in a new way. It’s perfect for anyone who’s ever felt judged for being single or just wants to understand how media shapes our views.
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262 reviews
July 11, 2025
Thank you, Caroline Young ( @carolinejillyoung ), for sending me a copy of your new book, Single & Psycho: How Pop Culture Created the Unstable Single Woman (out now).

Young combs through movies, tv, and books, to show examples of how single women have been portrayed as damaged, hysterical, or spinsters. From the murderous Alex Forrest in Fatal Attraction to uber pop star Taylor Swift, Young describes how single women are perceived and mistreated.

While I loved the pop culture aspect of this book, my favorite part was the personal stories Young wrote about herself and her singleness. Her personal stories really made the book for me.
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654 reviews10 followers
October 19, 2025
This book was amazing and truly unique, I don't need to explain the difficulties many of us face as women as 95% of my followers are female but this book examines how stereotypes have been shaped by the surrounding world. I found it really interesting looking back at the backlash from the 1980s and comparing it to the current trends and influence that social media has on us all. The way in which the Trad wife is explored in this book is one I am personally fascinated by becuase its kind of my life but not on the extreme scale, im not baking fresh bread daily but I am home more than a working parent. Its really interesting reading books like this and gageing where we are socially
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848 reviews9 followers
March 5, 2026
DNF @ chapter 4. I really really wanted to love this, it sounds so very up my street, but I just can’t get on with the writing. I’m really early on and it already feels repetitive and I’m getting bored. It’s clearly very well researched, but that’s the thing, it feels like reading a research paper rather than a book; I’m just drily being told a load of facts and I’m not getting a sense of like an engaging voice to keep me interested. I’m 100% behind the idea of this, and I’m sure she makes fantastic points and this book contributes worthwhile stuff to the social conversation, so if you like her style of writing then crack on but I can’t keep forcing myself with it I’m afraid. 🥲
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75 reviews1 follower
March 11, 2026
This book looks at how pop culture has long portrayed single women as unstable, desperate, or even dangerous. It goes through a lot of examples from films and media that reinforce the stereotype of the “crazy single woman,” showing how these narratives shaped public perception over time.

The topic’s interesting, especially if you like analyzing media and recurring tropes in pop culture. That said, the book mostly stays within the same argument, so after a while it can feel a bit repetitive. Still, it’s a solid analysis that makes you notice how often this stereotype appears in stories.
657 reviews2 followers
March 31, 2026
I really enjoyed this two day focus on how women have been presented in pop culture. It’s interesting being almost the same age as the writer, we share the same memories and seminal movie moments. The book hasn’t made me reevaluate my choices in life, love and cats but it has made me consider where my ideas about what life should be like have come from and how much control mainstream media had in the 80s and 90s. Not sure I would recommend as it’s niche but if you’re interested in the presentation of women in mainstream media then it’s worth a read for sure
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97 reviews4 followers
November 4, 2025
I love it when a book makes me think! Pop culture is taken for granted and sometimes we don't read in between the lines. Or even take time to see the way women are portrayed. This book follows the authors own personal experiences with the background of some of the most popular movies in the background. A wonderfully critical book that is feel like i will be reccomending to everyone!

Definitely pick this up if you want a deep dive into female portrayals in pop culture!
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84 reviews
Did Not Finish
March 12, 2026
DNF at 50%.

I can see why people enjoy this book.
Interesting premise and it did get my attention form its title alone—but it just wasn’t for me.
I’m definitely more of a fiction girlie 🫣

I wanted to give this one a fair shot, it never really sparked any joy while I was reading.Nothing was necessarily bad about it; it just didn’t hold my attention the way I hoped it would.

Unfortunately, it just wasn’t the right fit for my reading taste.
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90 reviews3 followers
April 2, 2026
As somebody who thoroughly enjoys pop culture, film, and identifies as a single woman, this book did a lot for me.

If you’re looking for answers to misogyny, this isn’t the book for you. But if you’re interested in a chronological breakdown of how feminism and numerous “single woman” tropes ties into pop culture and our society, I would definitely recommend reading this. Plus, I got to add a bunch of new movies to my Letterboxd watchlist hehe
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776 reviews
July 18, 2025
Thanks so much to NetGalley for the free Kindle book. My review is voluntarily given, and my opinions are my own.

Although this is a breakdown of different pop-culture references, you don't have to necessarily have watched a single movie referenced or read any of the books to understand what she is discussing. I haven't seen most of the movies (books, yes), but I didn't have any issues following any of the book.

Might have to go reread Great Expectations. I haven't read it since high school. I mean, Miss Havisham. ❤️

Definitely would recommend this book!
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541 reviews9 followers
Read
March 15, 2026
if you took a shot every time she mentioned “fatal attraction” you would be dead. unfortunately, as someone who is single and psycho and basically the target audience, this was unbearably boring. anytime she began to talk about herself, i started skimming….i feel like a lot of her problems would be solved with better female friends. i wish i liked this more.
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Author 4 books49 followers
August 2, 2025
Just finished this today and loved it. I really great survey of how movies and television have dealt with single females and though there have been changes the answer is … not well. Young adds her own story and it becomes a moving and vibrant narrative.
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12 reviews
March 21, 2026
Digs into how single, childless, and/or "psycho" women are portrayed in media, films, and pop culture, and how these depictions scapegoat women for the ills of society during times of economic uncertainty and shifting gender roles.
1,101 reviews4 followers
October 27, 2025
3.75: was not interested in the author’s own romantic experiences as these were repetitive and detracted from the analysis and history of women’s portrayals in pop culture.
2 reviews
November 2, 2025
A fascinating and insightful book - the beautiful writing will draw you in. Highly recommend it!
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18 reviews
March 20, 2026
white women stay writing shitty books. incredibly shallow analysis and ended with a fucking taylor swift quote. just felt like a summary of various films and anecdotes.
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8 reviews
March 21, 2026
Fantastic book, really eye opening walk through Hollywood’s need to have women married off young let us paint single women as unstable and dangerous. Easy to get into
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92 reviews1 follower
March 3, 2026
3.5, really compelling deep dive into pop culture's portrayal of women in general

i feel like i need to go watch Fatal Attraction now
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