The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown - A 30-Minute Instaread Summary: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

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The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown - A 30-minute Summary
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Preview of this summary: Chapter 1It is necessary to practice courage, compassion, and connection on a daily basis in order to develop worthiness. It is a mistake to try and win someone over, because it means trading in the sense of self in search of approval from another. By doing this, people stop believing in their own worth.

The first step toward living wholeheartedly is for people to have the courage to reach out to others and to share their own stories of shame. When in need of compassion, people should reach out to the right person, someone who supports them whether they are feeling strong or whether they are struggling. When people are willing to reveal that they are imperfect and real, their relationships are strengthened. They make a connection. This is why courage, compassion, and connection are the gifts of imperfection.

Courage is displayed when people are willing to speak honestly and openly about who they are, what they are feeling, and their experiences both good and bad. Courage is about being vulnerable. It takes courage for someone to ask for what he or she needs and to risk disappointment. When one person has courage, it can create a ripple effect, making others around that person a little braver.

Compassion is a relationship between two equals. It occurs when people recognize they share humanity with others. The heart of compassion is acceptance by people of themselves and of others. In order for compassion to occur, people need to set boundaries and hold others accountable for their behavior. The key to compassion is being able to separate people from their behaviors. It is necessary to address what people do, not who they are.

Connection exists as the energy between people who feel they have been seen, heard, and valued without judgment. People feel strengthened by this relationship and need connection to do well emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually. Connections happen when people both give and receive with an open heart.

Chapter 2Love and belonging are necessary in people's lives. In order for people to experience love and belonging, they must believe they are worthy. People who accept themselves for who they are and who stop worrying about what others think are worthy of love and belonging. At the heart of wholeheartedness is that people have to believe they are worthy now, as they are, not if or when they become or do something in the future....

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction, Self Help, Productivity, Management, Health, Inspirational

44 pages, Paperback

First published May 1, 2014

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Reviews

[Michelle Murphy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read!
Super insightful and optimistic.
One I would recommend to anyone!

5 stars ⭐️

[pianogal · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a good book. I haven't read much of Brene Brown, but as a perfectionist, I did think it was helpful. I took the quiz online that goes with it, but didn't find that particularly helpful. It didn't explain the results so that I could apply them. Good read.

[Nicole]

I love Brene Brown, she helped me out a lot when I was in school, I devoured all of her books.

[Daniel Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Yes you need to read this book. It is okay to not be perfect!

[Trinity Teeters · Rating 2 out of 5]

A researcher in shame studies traits of perfection and their relationships to better understand the Wholehearted Journey and help others live out a better life. For example, she engages in the meanings and relationships between courage and worthiness because she struggled with these ideas growing up. ¨Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do,¨(14). As a result of her research and getting past her struggles, Ms. Brene encourages women to not be perfect but brave in order to persevere and be successful in life. Even though I did not finish the book due to finding cursing and foul language, I recommend this for young adults who are struggling in friendships or other relationships and need help in their faith.

[Jared · Rating 5 out of 5]

Totally loved this book. I could see how she had a breakdown/spiritual awakening. She was trying so hard to do great things then in her research on shame she stumbles across a people that she sees as wholehearted. She realizes she does not have the virtues these people have and has to start again to regain her life. She studies the group of wholehearted people and sees, creativity, spirituality, authenticity, and meaning work all the things she thought were of little value are really what life is all about. Very inspirational

[Gigi · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've read other books by Dr. Brown and have enjoyed them all. This one provides a great synthesis of why this drive toward imperfection is running our daily modern lives -- and the benefits from stepping off of that assumption treadmill. Her framings connect much of the other works I'm reading now.

[Lita Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

So amazing! This whole book resonated with me on every level. Happiness, vulnerability, shame resilience... she has done her research!

[Derek · Rating 5 out of 5]

Brilliantly presented information, that will make you think, and hopefully, apply.

[Jen]

Great book!

[Martha · Rating 4 out of 5]

This summary was full of insight, laughter, and reflection. I can't wait to read the actual book.

[Mick Mckamie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Useful inspiration. Will re-read.

[Vivian Adram · Rating 5 out of 5]

Need to go over the 10 points all over again!

[Nathan · Rating 5 out of 5]

A hard but amazing book to read as it challenges you to overcome various incarnations of shame.

[Helen · Rating 3 out of 5]

I enjoyed reading this book, but I didn't have as many "aha" moments as I'd hoped.

[Tina · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome book!