The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association

by Ola Awonubi

Current status:

Friendships – fantastic. Family – getting better. Career – promotion on the cards.

Romance – *seriously delayed*

Sade Sodipo is ready to meet ‘the one’ and finally fulfil the Nigerian Dream. So far God hasn’t performed that little miracle quite yet, but it’ll happen this year for sure. Especially if her mother, two best friends, younger sister and all those in the unofficial Marriage Monitoring Aunties Association, have anything to say about it.

She might love her job, have great friends and even own her own home, but according to the meddling aunties, this is why she’s still single at 50.

What if her prayers for the perfect man have got lost? Or maybe Sade’s happy-ever-after is right on time…

Genres: Romance, Fiction, African Literature, Audiobook, Christian Fiction

345 pages, Kindle Edition

Published July 11, 2025

About the author

Ola Nubi studied for an MA in Creative writing and Imaginative Practice at the University of East London and in 2008 her short story The Pink House, won first prize in the National words of colour competition and another short story of hers The Go- slow Journey, won the first prize in the fiction category for Wasafiri’s New writing prize 2009 and the Best Author CA Awards 2019.

Some of her short stories feature on Afreada, Brittle Paper, Story Time, Woven Tale Press, TheSiren.co.uk and naijastories.com. She has had over 15 short stories published in various literary magazines, journals and on blogs and speaks at writing events.

Author of 7 books – Love’s Persuasion was published by Ankara Press – the Romance imprint of Cassava Press, Abuja. Nigeria in 2015. Her second book for the imprint - I love You Unconditionally was published in 2017. Her third book – an anthology of short stories – Naija Love Stories was published by Conscious Dreams Publishing in October 2018.

Her 4th book 14 Days and Other Stories is a romance novella and her 5th book Reasons Why I Need to Get Married Yesterday and Other Poems was published last year.

Her current historical fiction novel 'A Nurse's Tale was published by One More Chapter Books, Harper Collins in July 2023 and her next book for the imprint is a Rom com and it is due Summer 2025!

She is also working on another historical book.

You can follow her on Substack as The Resilient Writer
or Bookbub as Ola Awonubi for more information.

Reviews

[Lina · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 / 5 Stars
This book had a lot of really great themes and content, but also had a few pacing and dialogue challenges for me. The story revolves around Sade, a 50 year old Nigerian Brit, who is successful in her career, owns a home, and has a deep connection with her Christian faith, but feels like a failure because she is not married and doesn’t have children. She is reminded of this fact quite often by her mother and aunties who meddle in her life. Sade tries to navigate her life and a potential relationship while figuring out her value and what’s important to her.

You will probably like this book if you like:
💚 Women’s literature with a subplot of romance
💚 Novels where faith and Christianity guide the main character
​​💚 An older FMC (50 years old)
💚 Complicated mother-daughter relationships
💚 Learning about Nigerian cultural customs
💚 Discussions of fertility at an older age
💚 Fibroid representation

A lot of what Sade goes through was really meaningful and relatable. I was really excited to read a book with a female main character who is in her 50s who is trying to figure out what it means to be single. Society already places so much value on women as mothers and wives, when you add cultural expectations on that, Sade is put in a really tough situation. She knows that she is smart, capable, fun, and yet still feels less than in some way. Her dating horror stories sounded like stuff that happened to me in my 20s, so it’s great to see that things don’t get better for women as they get older (LOL but also not lol). Her relationship with her overbearing mom was also relatable (and slightly triggering). Sade’s mom loves her in the way that her mom thinks is right, not necessarily in the way that is right for Sade and oof, it got me. And while I was a little unsure of how the religious aspects would be written (I am not particularly religious), it was cool to see Sade push her church to do more for women and singles so that they felt less ashamed.

Sade’s relationship with Jimi had some sweet and cute moments but this is where the dialogue and pacing issues really stood out for me. Jimi is 45 years old, works as a psychotherapist, is the son of the Bishop at Sade’s church though he is not religious himself, and is smitten with Sade. Their relationship was built super slowly – they casually run into each other and it is a while before they even go on an official date together. They had some fun banter but they also had banter that felt super stilted and robotic which took away from their connection for me. Sade’s dialogue in other circumstances was also sometimes written in a way that was incongruent with what we knew about her (I cannot imagine she would actually say “no probs” to anyone in her life, let alone to a Sister at her church).

And while Jimi and Sade also really liked each other, they had fundamental differences. Jimi isn’t religious and he doesn’t necessarily believe in marriage, two things that are very important to Sade. So, how do they move past this? With one of them doing a complete 180 in the last 5% of the book. It just felt rushed, unrealistic, and like it undid all of the slow building in the rest of the book. Part of me wishes this stuck more to the women’s lit instead of romance so that there wouldn’t have to be a guaranteed happy ending because the ending kind of undercut some of Sade’s growth.

Even with those issues, I think this book portrays tropes that I haven’t seen often enough in romances and women’s lit (and it is on me to find these books too). Give me more FMCs in their 50s! Give me more women who are trying to navigate cultural differences between generations! Give me more about Yoruba and Nigerian customs! The more perspectives, the more writing styles, the better!

Thank you One More Chapter and NetGalley for providing the eARC! All opinions are my own.
Publication Date: July 11, 2025

[Frances · Rating 2 out of 5]

I appreciate what this book was trying to do, but the marriage monitoring aunties were not mentioned enough times for it to be the title of the book. “Sade finds love” would have been a more fitting title.

[amarachireads · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book, I loved the themes surrounding family, marriage, age etc. As a Nigerian who s entrenched in our culture this hit hard. I found myself really feeling for the fmc because i know that an unmarried 50 year old will face a lot because of the culture. Seeing the fmc be 50 and want to be a mother and a wife despite fibroids and people talking was emotional. This book also had fun moments especially with the aunties and the fmcs mom. It was portrayed very realistic and I just got it. The romance was cute and a slow burn and I like that the fmc didn’t force herself on the mmc even when people say that she’s too old to be picky. Overall this is a good read and I appreciated the older fmc and watching her navigate middle life. Thanks to the publisher for this arc.

[SelkieReader · Rating 4 out of 5]

I don’t know why, but after reading the blurb, I thought this was going to be a romcom.
I would say it’s a lot closer to a Hallmark movie, with a little Chicken Soup for the Soul mixed in, obviously, heavily spice with Uziza.
This book has a heavy lean towards religion and how it shapes not just your life, but your relationships.
Though I might suggest that ‘honor your parents’ is taken a little too literally in this book with how awful the FMC is treated by all of the aunties, save a few; it is showed (painfully) how she was raised to be the person she is.
She has lead a rather difficult life, a life that is more common than a lot of of those not from her culture might believe.
Her identity, and who she is is so wrapped up in religion, family, and the Nigerian culture that she almost becomes unrelenting in her quest for what she wants, with very little to show for it. It takes her nearly the entire book to realize that what she has wanted for the grand majority of her life has just been what she’s been told to want.
She has to decide if it’s what she actually wants or if it’s just what she’s supposed to in order to be a good Nigerian woman.

You definitely go on a soul quest with her, you can always learn more about yourself at any age and there is always time to change and become the person you were meant to be.

For me, this book was very hard to read, and I had a really hard time understanding the FMC. I have so much rage for the people that let religion and culture and their family make them f***ing miserable without doing anything about it.
Like if people are terrible to you, cut them out, don’t let that cancer eat away your life.
So if anything, I understood the MMC a lot more because he didn’t want to be trapped in the circumstances of being beholden to these people’s idea of who you ought to be.
But then he did what we have told every single little girl since the beginning of time not to do, which is, changed who you are and who you want to be for a boy…. he went and did that for a girl.

However, that’s just me.
The book is very well thought out and very well written I personally just could not connect with the characters who allow themselves to be treated so terribly.

[KiKi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. This story was sooooo well written and Sade was definitely a character that was fully fleshed out. The writing of Sade's inner battle between maintaining her faith and values versus what she wanted and needed from a partner was a written with such nuance and care. There aren't a ton of black, female, 50 year old romance leads being written so reading about her issues with fibroids, fertility, and menopause shed light on a few things. Sade and the other characters felt truly authentic and I think that's truly where the story really shines by having these honest conversations around dating, the church, the way women are labeled if they aren't mothers or wives. I could go on and on but this was most certainly a five star read.

[Uche Ezeudu · Rating 4 out of 5]

My rating is 4.5/5.

If you loved Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband? by Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, then The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association by Ola Awonubi will absolutely charm you.
We follow Sade Sodipo — a 50-year-old, successful Nigerian woman who's never been married, still a virgin and has a village of aunties and one very dramatic mother constantly reminding her of it. You’d think being accomplished and self-sufficient would be enough, but not in a society that sees a woman’s worth as tied to her marital status and ability to have children.

Sade’s romantic life is… whew. One of her recent exes didn’t dump her — his mother did, claiming she was too old to give him children. Can you imagine? And just when she's convinced all men are bottom-barrel material, along comes Jimi Taylor — five years younger, fine, reformed bad boy energy, and absolutely smitten with her. You’d think she’d dive in, right? But Sade? She’s cautious. She’s seen too much. Plus, the pressure from her mother doesn’t stop just because someone new shows up — in fact, Jimi’s past makes Mama say hard pass.

This book isn’t just about love; it’s about the love we deny ourselves, the standards we cling to even when they’re hard, and what it means to age in a society that equates womanhood with marriage and motherhood. It shines a necessary light on issues like fibroids, pre-menopause, and faith, all with humor, heart, and a good dose of Nigerian-style bluntness.

Sade’s story made me laugh, made me ache, and made me proud. Proud of how she refused to settle. Proud of how she prioritized spiritual alignment even when her heart was on the line. If nothing else, she reminds us that it’s never too late for love — but it’s okay to wait for the right kind.

This was such an enjoyable read — entertaining, insightful, and so deeply Nigerian just the right touch of 'Britico' flair. Pick it up if you’re in the mood for a feel-good, soul-touching story with Nigerian aunties, romance, and plenty of wahala.

[norah · Rating 3 out of 5]

thanks to NetGalley for the eARC

⭐️=3 | 😘=2.5 | 🤬=2

summary: a middle aged Nigerian-English woman navigates being single and Christian and also it’s a romance I guess

thoughts: huh. okay. so like, of course she gets the guy, that’s how plots work, but it literally ends with her saying yes to marrying him—like, “yes, I’ll marry you” is the last line of the novel—and then there’s nothing else to tie things up. if their faith differences were the primary conflict I don’t think that can be resolved in a single conversation on her doorstep?? and I wasn’t totally on board with the guy in the first place?? idk basically I just don’t think their conflict was resolved in a satisfying way. this was funny sometimes, though, and I liked that it was shining light on a demographic that usually gets ignored.

[Phoenix2 · Rating 2 out of 5]

Big Thanks to Netgalley and the Publisher for the advanced copy! I received a complimentary copy of this book. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own

'The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association' is a romantic comedy about Sade, a Nigerian Brit, who sees that her chances of the happy ever after that she is dreaming of are getting slimmer and slimmer.

First of all, the title doesn't fit the book, as the aunties were not really monitoring Sade. Rather, her mother was the constant figure of criticism in Sade's life, and the aunties appeared in a chapter or two.

Also, the ending was rushed, and the story kind of halted awkwardly, as if that was the whole point of the book, and now that it's done, there is no point in reading more about Sade, how she feels about it, and what comes next.

And yet, the story had some interesting aspects, like how Sade was coming to terms with who she is without a man and how her value isn't diminished because she isn't married. It was also nice to read about how Sade wasn't compromising her values for any man.

However, the pace was way too fast, and nothing really developed smoothly.

[Caiti · Rating 4 out of 5]

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Plot
The plot itself is very straight forward. Fifty year old unmarried woman is being viscously bullies by every auntie within a 50 mile radius for not being married.
Being a traditional romance lover, this was a slight step away from my normal fare, and I'm glad I gave it a go. I don't know a huge amount Nigerian culture, but apparently for unmarried woman between the age of 25-50, it's brutal. The plot follows Sade as she navigates trying to balance her work life, which she loves, her church life, which she has become slightly disenfranchised from, and her romantic life, which is non-existent.
While many of the traditional comments she received from so many angles in her life made me feel uncomfortable at times, it was really interesting to follow Sade through each trial put in front of her and how she managed everything, especially the women. The men take a backseat in this story, with most of the praise and criticism coming from the women around her, although I did like the contrast provided by the men who did appear.

Characters
FMC
I really like Sade. She tries her absolute best at every stage of the story, trying to please everyone around her while furthering her career and trying to kindle the small romantic flame between herself and Jimi. I enjoyed her evolution as she tried to stand up for herself and the other single women and I really liked how she brought her faith and planning skills together for the singles club.

The Rest
Jimi - is as close to an MMC as we get. I like him. He's got a past he's trying to embrace and a future that doesn't involve sticking 'Dr' in front of his name, much to the shame of his father. I really liked that he was true to himself no matter what anyone else said, owning up to his mistakes and emphasising the love for his career and the fact that he didn't need money and titles. He also gets extra brownie points for some exemplary grovelling.

The aunties - are so brutal. The change in their opinions and feelings about Sade and her cousins situations gave me whiplash at time, but seeing it from Sade's perspective made it so real. The control these women had over the families and the church congregation was as inspiring as it was terrifying.

Her mother - I both like and dislike her mother. She's such a perfect example of the strengths and weaknesses of the Nigerian culture (at least from my outside perspective) and I found the ways that she would show her love for Sade really intriguing - she clearly loves her dearly, but feels that the only way she can show this is to bully her into getting married, despite the clear success she was having in her professional life. I also liked how their interactions changed throughout the story, especially as Sade started to stand up for herself.

The Good
There's a lot of Jesus in this story, and being non-religious I thought this would bother me, but you know what? It freaking worked. So much of Sade's personality is tied to her faith, so I felt that this was a really important to include. I especially liked how Sade brought the romance together with her faith to try and improve the life of the other singles at her church, with fantastic results.

Also, this cover. I love it and I feel that it exemplifies the story perfectly.

The Bad
The pacing was a little slow at times, but the author made it work most of the time.

The Wrap Up
If you ever accept for from an Auntie, don't tell your mum. No matter how good it is.

Big thanks to One More Chapter for letting me get my paws on this ahead of release, and for bestowing me with my first Widget!
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[Ritu Bhathal · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love stories steeped in cultures that are fighting to keep themselves heard while in another country, so this UK-based story with a Nigerian cast of characters was right up my street!
Sade Sodipo is a successful career woman with her own house, unmarried, and, shock, horror, fifty years of age! This is a sticking point for her mother, the various aunties of the church, and pretty much anyone in her Nigerian circle.
The story is based on Sade's own ingrained religious and cultural beliefs, which include saving herself for 'The One' and true love leading to marriage and children. However, with her age against her and her health not cooperating, this is looking increasingly unlikely.
Is it a romance? Well, yes, romance 100% plays a part in this story, as Sade meets someone, but it is more about her accepting herself, as she is, and realising that maybe she needs to think a bit more about the expectations she (and the community) has put upon herself.
Many thanks to NetGalley and Harper Collins, One More Chapter, for an ARC.

[Jadesola Lamina · Rating 3 out of 5]

Hmmm that’s all I can say
This book brought on all my pet peeves, from the fact that the dates didn’t correspond. One day it’s January the next it’s march and then we are back to January again, I like my stories cohesive when it comes to timelines and this book’s failed to deliver on that. I have an issue with the writing for a fifty year old a lot of the things in the book did not sound believable, because who still lets aunties talk over you like that. It was laborious getting into the book and it wasn’t humorous fun or stimulating. It got a bit better towards the end and that’s why I rounded up my stars to three. I understand it is Christian and all but this wasn’t any form of portrayal I was interested in. Keeping yourself all that time just to end up with a divorced has been that was a playboy?

The writing style wasn’t it for me with a lot of inner monologue rather than conversation through out the book.
I felt the characters were aged up unnecessarily.

[Bukola Akinyemi · Rating 4 out of 5]

The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association
by Ola Awonubi

Representation matters! Great to see an unmarried 50 year old beautiful, successful and intelligent woman represented in a novel.

Sade is happy with her life, she has a good job, good friends, her own home and a family she loves. Yes, she would like to find romantic love but she is happily living her life until she does.

Her mum and meddling aunties would not have it though. She is reminded at every chance of her ‘failure’ to secure a man and have children.

I like how the characters are written. Sade is witty, confident and positive even when going through really challenging times with her health.

Ironically, I was reading this book while nursing serious abdominal pain due to fibroids, the same condition Sade suffered from in the book.

Will Sade find love and silence The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association?

I really enjoyed reading this book, it’s full of hope and love.

[Stephanie Wienke · Rating 4 out of 5]

The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association by Ola Awonubi is a sweet story about a fifty year old woman overcoming gossip and cultural expectations a finding love. Sade is always getting grief from her mother for being focused on her career and unmarried while also being judged by all of the Aunties at her church. While she would like to find love, she hasn’t had much luck with the men she meets. But when she runs into a handsome stranger, her luck may turn.

This was a really good book; however, I went into it with different expectations for the plot based off the description. I thought it would be a lighthearted comedy about a group of meddling but lovable aunties who helped Sade find love when it focused on her dealing with cultural expectations and finding her happiness in life. While it was good, it took me a bit to reframe my mind when reading as I needed a more lighthearted book in the moment. Once I adjusted, I was sucked into Sade’s story and loved her growth.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for access to an advanced copy in exchange for my honest review.

[Rachel Blades · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for the ARC!
3.75 stars
I liked that this book was about a woman turning 50 because you don’t see that often in romance books. I wanted to yell at our FMC’s family and acquaintances to leave her alone and let her live her life. Overall, I enjoyed watching the FMC find herself and accept herself.

[Abisola · Rating 3 out of 5]

I personally love a predictable happy ending, as a Nigerian woman I can somewhat relate to the experience not really in my personal life but in the lives of my Nigerian friends. I’m just glad she got her happy ending 🥰

[Nora · Rating 4 out of 5]

netgalley arc
loveddd it
review to come

[Jency Forgue · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book with a lot of relatable themes as a woman of color who grew up in the church. Trigger warning for anyone who has ever been told their “singleness is a gift”. 🫠

[Oluwadara Odukomaiya · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a Nigerian girl reading this book had a lot of nostalgic moments for me, I enjoyed this book, also because I share the FMC stand on her faith and values. Very well written

[Favour Emmanuel · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is supposed to be a sweet, beautiful read, but for some reason, I feel underwhelmed.

2.8⭐️

[laura · Rating 3 out of 5]

i liked this book but it could have been sooooooo much better to bump it to a 5!

* needed more meddling aunties
* apart from the reminders, I was really unsure at times the main character was 50
* at 50 thats how we stop talking to the male character?!?

other than that a good range of perspectives of female expectations in society with the added african added dust.

[Jazzy.bookz · Rating 5 out of 5]

alright, so. i can't speak much for the Nigerian side of things. the presence of the nigerian culture in this story was beautifully written, and i found rather educational, actually. I have had my own battle with Christianity in the past, I no longer follow the religion, and I felt a very small urge to dnf because of the sheer attitudes presented in this. It's a personal bug, but it's actually real life, and the author wrote this perfectly.

this is your sign to seriously consider whether it's the writing that makes you want to dnf or the characters/story. i dont share the same faith, beliefs, or culture as the characters in this book, but I really enjoyed it!

Sade is brilliant, beautiful, and humorous. l love Jimi.
it was well paced (set over a year).
and the title is spot on. my own aunties are wildly different, but the same in very subtle ways.

loved it.

thank you to Net Galley and the publisher for this eARC in exchange for an honest review

[LiteraryMarie · Rating 2 out of 5]

Sade is ready to live the Nigerian dream and meet "the one." For sure, this is the year. Especially if her mother, two best friends and younger sister have any say. According to the unofficial Marriage Monitoring Aunties Association, the reason Sade is still single at 50 is because she loves her job and owns her own home. So independent that her prayers for the perfect man are lost. Hence the need for a miracle of romance.

This is a book I judged from the cover and title so it drew my interest. I expected meddling comedic aunties and Nigerian culture. I looked forward to reading from the perspective of a black mature-aged female. I was quite disappointed that the aunties are not a big part of the novel. In fact, it is the main character's helicopter mom that monitors the most. And what I liked most about Sade was negated by end of the novel.

Just because I think The Marriage Monitoring Aunties' Association was an okay read doesn't mean this multicultural romance is not for you. Give it a try, Bookhearts.

Happy Early Pub Day, Ola Awonubi! The Marriage Monitoring Aunties' Association will be available Tuesday, July 11.

Disclaimer: An advance copy was received directly from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. Opinions are my own and would be the same if I spent my hard-earned coins. ~LiteraryMarie

[Tolulope Soremekun · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a slow-paced but enjoyable read. I found the characters and the issues explored very relatable. I especially loved that it was set in my home country. It made the story feel even more personal and familiar.

[Muhsinat 'Deen · Rating 3 out of 5]

Thanks to NetGalley for this ARC. The story follows Sade a 50 year old Christian lady and her journey to finding the one amidst dealing with feminine issues. Whilst I appreciate the author trying to shed light on the challenges that come with trying to find a partner after a certain age and societal pressures on women, the execution could definitely have been better.
Although the story had its interesting and humorous moments, this didn’t not hit the mark for me. The title didn’t accurately reflect the book’s contents. There were a few instances of aunties monitoring Sade, but they weren’t significant.

[sarah-lee · Rating 2 out of 5]

I really loved the insight to a different culture within the UK and the general plot really did draw me in. However, I found the flow to be quite stilted and I really didn't get any depth from the MC at all. It was also incredibly frustrating how she just allowed herself to be treated that way, but that may just be the cultural difference and a 'me' issue. I'm not sure why I was expecting romcom type plot, but this definitely wasn't it. That's not a bad thing either, I do feel the overall plot was a lot deeper than a romcom. However, I do not feel I was the correct audience unfortunately! 10/10 cover though and I am definitely open to reading other books in different cultures POV now!!

[Amy · Rating 2 out of 5]

The book is just a bland read to me. It had prospects but something wasn’t done well. The title of the book is different from the story in the book. I thought it was going to be more of comedy but it ended up a romance novel. The only person that made me smile a bit was Sade’s mum. It was more about Sade than the monitoring aunties.. the main Fmc was annoying to me ,like she said she was young at heart and acted young like a genz . The book works if you need something simple and short to get you out of a reading slump.

[Layo · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars. I enjoyed the book but the end let it down in my opinion.

[Stacy-Ann · Rating 4 out of 5]

Characters
The characters are one of the book’s greatest strengths. The protagonist feels relatable torn between personal desires and cultural obligations while the aunties are vividly drawn, each with distinct personalities that go beyond caricature. Rather than portraying them as purely meddlesome, Awonubi gives them emotional nuance, showing how their actions stem from care, fear, and tradition. Secondary characters, especially romantic interests and family members, are well integrated into the narrative. They serve not just as plot devices but as mirrors reflecting different attitudes toward marriage, independence, and identity.

Psychological Depth
Psychologically, the novel delves into themes of internal conflict and social conditioning. The protagonist’s journey highlights the tension between individual agency and collective expectation a common experience in many cultures. There’s an undercurrent of anxiety tied to “getting it right” in life, especially regarding marriage, which is portrayed not just as a personal milestone but as a communal achievement. The aunties themselves offer an interesting psychological lens: they represent a kind of inherited mindset, where love is intertwined with duty, and happiness is often measured by stability rather than self-fulfillment. This creates a subtle but persistent emotional pressure that shapes the protagonist’s decisions.

World-Building
While not a fantasy or speculative novel, the book excels in social world-building. Awonubi constructs a vivid cultural environment rooted in Nigerian traditions, values, and diasporic experiences. The “Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association” feels like a believable extension of real life community dynamics almost an institution in its own right.Through dialogue, social gatherings, and family interactions, the reader is immersed in a world where community involvement in personal affairs is normalised. This cultural backdrop adds richness and context, making the story feel grounded and authentic.

Themes
Love vs. obligation
Tradition vs. modern independence
Community influence on personal choices
Female agency and self-definition

Writing Style
Awonubi’s writing is engaging and accessible, with a conversational tone that makes the story feel intimate. Humor is used effectively, especially in scenes involving the aunties, but it never undermines the emotional stakes. The pacing is steady, though some sections may feel slightly drawn out as the narrative lingers on interpersonal dynamics.

Religion, Obligation, and Social Expectations
Another important layer in The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association is the subtle but powerful influence of religious expectations particularly the sense of obligation to the church and its moral framework. Marriage is not only seen as a cultural milestone but also as a spiritual duty, shaped by Christian values that emphasise commitment, respectability, and “doing things the right way.”

This adds another dimension to the protagonist’s internal conflict. It’s not just family and community she feels accountable to, but also a higher moral standard reinforced by church teachings. This can create a kind of psychological pressure where personal desires are filtered through what is considered spiritually acceptable.

The aunties, in many ways, act as extensions of both cultural and religious authority. Their guidance often reflects not only tradition but also deeply rooted beliefs about what a “good” marriage should look like in the eyes of the church. This blurring of social and religious expectations makes it even harder for the protagonist to distinguish between what she truly wants and what she feels she ought to want.

Ultimately, the novel raises thoughtful questions:
To what extent should faith guide personal decisions like marriage?
Where is the line between guidance and control?
Can individual happiness coexist with strict adherence to tradition and religious rules?

Final Thoughts
The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association is more than just a romantic comedy it’s a thoughtful exploration of how culture shapes our most personal decisions. It invites readers to reflect on the balance between respecting tradition and asserting individuality.

If you enjoy character driven stories with strong cultural grounding and a mix of humour and heart, this novel offers a satisfying and meaningful read.

[Stella · Rating 3 out of 5]

I picked up The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association because of the cover and the title. I don’t like reading synopses, they often feel like spoilers to me, so the cover and title is everything. With a name like this, I was expecting a lighthearted romantic comedy filled with overbearing but funny Nigerian or African aunties making snide, hilarious remarks and meddling in the main character’s love life. But that’s not quite what I got.

While the book does feature a few aunties and a very judgmental mother, it wasn’t about a whole association of busybody elders. The title felt misleading because the story centers more on one woman, Sade, and her internal and external struggles around being single at 50, not a quirky auntie-led matchmaking brigade. That was a bit of a disappointment, even though the story itself had enjoyable parts.

Sade is a 50-year-old Christian woman who has never been in a long-term relationship and is still a virgin. She’s successful, owns her own home (which is a huge achievement, especially in today’s economy!), and seems like someone who should be a bit more self-assured. But throughout the audiobook, I honestly kept forgetting she was supposed to be 50. She read more like someone in her 30s, especially in how passive she was with her mom and aunties. Despite their constant critiques and pressure to get married, Sade rarely pushed back or defended herself. I wanted her to be more assertive, more grown, considering her age and life experience.

One of the strongest points of the book is its focus on a woman in her 50s who’s never been in a relationship. That’s something we don’t often see in fiction, and I appreciated that representation. It challenges the societal and religious expectations that say every woman’s life should follow a certain timeline of marriage, kids, etc. But even though the book starts out as if Sade is content in her singleness, it quickly becomes clear that she’s actually very obsessed with getting married. And a lot of that obsession is tied to her Christian beliefs.

Having grown up in the church myself, I understand that environment. The pressure to marry and to marry a man, specifically, is intense. It’s hard to feel genuinely content with being single when the church constantly glorifies marriage and treats it as the ultimate goal for women. So even though I wanted to see a story where the character embraces singleness joyfully and fully, I understood why Sade struggled.

Then comes Jimmy Taylor, the love interest. Their dynamic is filled with tension, mostly because he left the church due to past trauma, and she’s deeply committed to her faith. At first, he’s honest about not wanting marriage again and being unsure about religion. They flirt with the idea of a relationship, but nothing fully develops. Then, out of nowhere, he goes abroad, comes back having reconnected with God, and proposes marriage. And she says yes.

That ending felt rushed and unrealistic. I didn’t like that the book wrapped everything up in a neat little Christian-romance bow. Just because he says he’s found his faith again doesn’t mean their fundamental differences have disappeared and I’m not convinced their religious mismatch wouldn’t cause problems down the line. Faith, especially when it’s central to your identity, isn’t something you can compromise on easily.

Ultimately, I enjoyed the themes of late-life singleness, religious pressure, and cultural expectations, but I wish the book had followed through with more nuance and realism, especially in the ending. It had potential to be a great story about choosing fulfillment outside of marriage or exploring love in unexpected ways, but instead it fell back on familiar tropes.

[Rachael Stray · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ola Awonubi’s The Marriage Monitoring Aunties’ Association was a refreshing change of pace for me - an enjoyable, heartfelt read that offered insight into Nigerian culture, a charmingly exasperating cast, and a main character I genuinely rooted for.

While it wasn't a perfect read, it was certainly a meaningful one.

Sade Sodipo, is a 50-year-old protagonist who is smart, successful, and deeply rooted in her Christian faith.

Her journey through love, pressure from family, and personal convictions is both relatable and inspiring. I loved how the book tackled topics rarely seen in romantic fiction - infertility, menopause, myomectomy recovery - honestly and respectfully, while keeping the tone warm and often humorous.

The cultural richness of the novel is one of its strongest features.

From the overbearing but well-meaning aunties (who’ve practically formed an unofficial marriage monitoring agency), to the expectations around marriage and motherhood, Awonubi paints a vivid picture of the Nigerian community - blunt, loving, chaotic, and deeply traditional.

The tension between modern values and cultural norms is felt throughout, and while it can be overwhelming at times, it also adds depth and realism.

The faith element is also beautifully handled. Sade’s spiritual life is integral to her choices and the narrative. Her firm stance on waiting until marriage, her reliance on prayer, and her unwavering sense of morality are refreshingly portrayed with sincerity rather than sanctimony.

And then there’s the romance. Jimi Taylor had all the ingredients of a great romantic lead—charming, kind, persistent, and genuinely interested in Sade. But I found myself frustrated with the imbalance in effort. Jimi consistently pursued Sade, made time for her, and opened up, while she often brushed him off or pulled away, despite saying she wanted more time with him.

I absolutely respected her decision to prioritise her faith and morals - that was one of the most powerful parts of the book - but I found myself wishing she’d been more emotionally reciprocal along the way.

Their chemistry didn’t quite leap off the page for me, and at one point I even thought she might be better off without him. Thankfully, the ending offered a satisfying resolution that redeemed some of that unevenness.

Despite these minor flaws, this is a beautifully layered novel. It’s about more than romance - it's about self-worth, societal pressures, spiritual identity, and the importance of not settling.

It made me laugh, reflect, and cheer for a protagonist who chose herself and her values, even when it was hard.

If you’re looking for a closed-door, later-in-life love story that’s culturally rich, faith-forward, and full of Nigerian aunties with plenty of opinions (and drama), this one’s well worth picking up. A soulful, engaging read with just the right amount of wahala.

With thanks to NetGalley and the publishers for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.