A friend recommended this to me. I’m a psychology graduate, so I approach most books in psychology with a mixture of excitement at possibly discovering something new, and skepticism with how the author might present his or her ideas. I have to say, this book was so compelling that within the first few pages, the skeptic in me fell quiet, and stayed like that for the rest of the book.
In this book, Bolen makes the case that we can understand ourselves and the situations we’re in - our psychological and relational patterns - through the lens of archetypal stories. Greek mythology, in particular. This is based on Jung’s theory of the collective unconscious, which he thought as containing innate, psychological experiences that were passed down from our ancestors. I’ve never quite understood that concept of his until reading this work.
Basically, Bolen describes seven kinds of personality patterns based on the stories and personalities of seven goddesses in Greek mythology. For example, an “Artemis” woman (well, these archetypes are also applicable to men, but for the sake of simplicity I’ll just use the pronoun “she”) is goal-oriented and can focus on a task important to her, oftentimes to the exclusion of her surroundings and her relationships. This is like Artemis, who, shortly after she was born, knew what she wanted and asked it of Zeus (bow and arrows, hounds, mountains to run in, etc.). Artemis is a protector of the weak and of women; the modern Artemis woman is a defender of the weak as well, and the underdogs. Most of all, Artemis values her independence. (Ugh, it might sound hokey when I’m explaining it, but all this makes a lot more sense in the book.) Artemis, along with Athena and Hestia, form the trio of the “virgin goddesses”, who possess a “one-in-herself” quality, meaning that while she can enjoy and be with people, the meaning and purpose of her life does not reside solely in her relationships.
On the other hand, there are the “vulnerable goddesses” like Hera and Demeter, who derive meaning from having a husband and children, respectively, and Persephone, who wants to please others and to be cared for. Finally, there’s Aphrodite, the “alchemical goddess,” who possess qualities of both - she delights in relationships, but at the same time, is not dependent on them the same way the vulnerable goddesses are. Aphrodite is also explained in terms of creative potential, not only romantic relationships.
While Bolen relies mostly on anecdotes to illustrate her points instead of empirical studies (although I can’t imagine how this can be amenable to the scientific method), I find that her work is not diminished by it, and is important for a number of reasons. Bolen is a feminist Jungian analyst and a psychiatrist by training and profession, and in the context of therapy, I can see how this is useful. Part of what makes therapy effective is that it allows us to tell a story about ourselves. Once we can understand what’s happening to us, we can choose to change how we respond, or we can choose to tell our stories differently. These “goddesses” are an accessible shorthand for the kinds of stories we tell ourselves at certain points in time. If we realize we’re operating under the influence of a certain “goddess” (e.g., Am I being too much of an Artemis that I’m overvaluing my independence and pushing people away?), we can shift to being another goddess (e.g., Maybe in this situation, it’s best to be an Aphrodite) - we can easily change our story. It’s far easier to remember than, say, the MBTI, another popular personality test based on Jungian theory. Using the goddesses also already reminds us that we are always telling ourselves stories with us as the protagonists - important, because we (or at least I) usually take our thoughts to be facts, and forget that what we’re actually telling ourselves is fiction.
Another thing I like about Bolen’s theory is that she explains we have all the goddesses in us; it’s just a matter of who’s active, and choosing who’s going to be active, at a certain point in your life. Also, she highlights how the active goddesses in our lives can change as we go through the lifespan. In other words, she’s saying that personality is relatively stable but not fixed (as opposed to most theorists, who maintain that while people can change, they don’t change too much).
This wasn’t without its flaws. There were some parts that just weren’t quite consistent with my experience. For example, when she mentioned that most Athena women are defenders of the patriarchy, I can’t seem to imagine any of the Athena women I know as such. Some of her descriptions were on point, but like the Athena example, I had to really stretch my imagination to get what she was describing.
Still, despite that, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I’m already recommending it to my psych friends.