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November 17, 2025
Thank you NetGalley for providing me with ARC in exchange for my honest review.
As a therapist, I have read a lot of books about effective communication so I have a lot to compare this book to. I wish this book would have mentioned it was more of a journaling type of book/workbook. Very surface level information and when the chapter says: “what you will learn in this chapter”—-only way to learn it is if you Google or find other resources. This book did not teach anything new and even when I got to chapters of interest, it was so shallow that nothing of substance was taught.
Only reason I rated 2 stars is because the journaling/reflective questions redeemed it. You are more likely going to learn from yourself in this book versus the author actually teaching anything.
As a therapist, I have read a lot of books about effective communication so I have a lot to compare this book to. I wish this book would have mentioned it was more of a journaling type of book/workbook. Very surface level information and when the chapter says: “what you will learn in this chapter”—-only way to learn it is if you Google or find other resources. This book did not teach anything new and even when I got to chapters of interest, it was so shallow that nothing of substance was taught.
Only reason I rated 2 stars is because the journaling/reflective questions redeemed it. You are more likely going to learn from yourself in this book versus the author actually teaching anything.
June 21, 2026
COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR SETTING BETTER BOUNDARIES: EXPRESS YOUR NEEDS WITHOUT GIVING IN OR BLOWING UP.
BY: DR. LATOYA S. GILMORE
I really don't remember requesting this so I wasn't expecting it to come at a time when Medical issues have put me very behind. I think that I think it could be a useful tool since I took the time to read through it from beginning to end. The other thing that I noticed is that this is more like a workbook than something to be read. The biggest takeaway is that I believe this is generally split into two parts and this is a big time commitment since in order for this to be most effective is that it requires a ton of writing down in a notebook or journal, which I don't have the time right now to do the sort of commitment that this requires. Every single bit of text requires to take a lot more time at the present, which I will use it at a later date, or slowly do a little at a time, which this is going to require reflecting on what very little content is presented. I honestly think that I will get more out of it if I put in a lot of time, which I will revisit this review and update it since I would take too much time, and it did come at a time that this was still not expected. I have to be honest that I really wasn't aware whenever I requested it that I wouldn't have had I known it was a workbook. That's not to say that I'm not grateful to whoever sent it, because I am. I do like that it was created by a Psychologist at the Doctorate level, with years of experience. I do like that it does include scripts for examples to use or get an idea of how to set healthy boundaries with both yourself and those who I have someone in mind that I am thinking this would be helpful to use with. I have always admired those who can do this without guilt, for saying no. I actually have learned as long as you create boundaries, and they actually preserve relationships. I do expect there will be push back from some who are not used to them from me since, there are those who will resist since they will not be the popular with every one, but the thing is that I think that one attribute that I noticed that the author states is that if said to whoever you set the boundary with it should be done in such a way that is respectful that is going to help me a lot in not feeling guilty when I decide to set them. I know that this is going to be useful, and again very grateful for receiving it. I love books like these that you can work with at your own pace. This kind of resource has a lot of value, and one that I know that I'll revisit often. I think I'll start with doing a half hour every day.
Publication Date: April 8, 2025
Thank you to Net Galley, Dr. LaToya S. Gilmore, and Zeitgeist for generously providing me with my ARC, in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own, as always.
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BY: DR. LATOYA S. GILMORE
I really don't remember requesting this so I wasn't expecting it to come at a time when Medical issues have put me very behind. I think that I think it could be a useful tool since I took the time to read through it from beginning to end. The other thing that I noticed is that this is more like a workbook than something to be read. The biggest takeaway is that I believe this is generally split into two parts and this is a big time commitment since in order for this to be most effective is that it requires a ton of writing down in a notebook or journal, which I don't have the time right now to do the sort of commitment that this requires. Every single bit of text requires to take a lot more time at the present, which I will use it at a later date, or slowly do a little at a time, which this is going to require reflecting on what very little content is presented. I honestly think that I will get more out of it if I put in a lot of time, which I will revisit this review and update it since I would take too much time, and it did come at a time that this was still not expected. I have to be honest that I really wasn't aware whenever I requested it that I wouldn't have had I known it was a workbook. That's not to say that I'm not grateful to whoever sent it, because I am. I do like that it was created by a Psychologist at the Doctorate level, with years of experience. I do like that it does include scripts for examples to use or get an idea of how to set healthy boundaries with both yourself and those who I have someone in mind that I am thinking this would be helpful to use with. I have always admired those who can do this without guilt, for saying no. I actually have learned as long as you create boundaries, and they actually preserve relationships. I do expect there will be push back from some who are not used to them from me since, there are those who will resist since they will not be the popular with every one, but the thing is that I think that one attribute that I noticed that the author states is that if said to whoever you set the boundary with it should be done in such a way that is respectful that is going to help me a lot in not feeling guilty when I decide to set them. I know that this is going to be useful, and again very grateful for receiving it. I love books like these that you can work with at your own pace. This kind of resource has a lot of value, and one that I know that I'll revisit often. I think I'll start with doing a half hour every day.
Publication Date: April 8, 2025
Thank you to Net Galley, Dr. LaToya S. Gilmore, and Zeitgeist for generously providing me with my ARC, in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own, as always.
#CommunicationSkillsforHealthierBoundaries #DrLaToyaSGilmore #Zeitgeist #NetGalley
September 21, 2025
Thank you to NetGalley and Zeitgeist for the free copy in exchange for an honest review!
I applied for this copy as a recovering people-pleaser and learned so much more about myself. For one, as much as I can sometimes let my boundaries get run over, I also have a habit of holding rigid boundaries with those I trust that might be pushing my loved ones away with my unwillingness to adapt.
This review already feels so vulnerable to put out there but I think this is the type of book that makes you take a deeper look at yourself and the way you’re communicating and upholding your beliefs. There are many tasks given to help you reflect and dive into these topics. It’s honestly a really helpful guide and I appreciated the way it helped me connect to these topics.
I definitely would recommend this book and will be bringing it up to people as I spot them struggling with these topics as a good resource, however, my lower rating comes from what I think is a lack of well developed explanations behind things. There was quite a number of times that I do think the author did really well explaining things but then during the skill building exercises, she breaks it down into what you will learn, what you need, and instructions, of which i felt that it was often overpromised what I will learn.
That isn’t to say that what I did learn wasn’t valuable but that I was looking for more of that educational value that breaks down why we see things that way or why we react in certain ways. I always find the break down of those cognitive functions to be really helpful to me as someone who has a hard time giving up control in any situation because if I understand why I do things this way, it feels possible to rewrite them.
Overall, I did enjoy this book and the exercises. I learned a lot and will probably come back to it to reflect as I grow and change.
I applied for this copy as a recovering people-pleaser and learned so much more about myself. For one, as much as I can sometimes let my boundaries get run over, I also have a habit of holding rigid boundaries with those I trust that might be pushing my loved ones away with my unwillingness to adapt.
This review already feels so vulnerable to put out there but I think this is the type of book that makes you take a deeper look at yourself and the way you’re communicating and upholding your beliefs. There are many tasks given to help you reflect and dive into these topics. It’s honestly a really helpful guide and I appreciated the way it helped me connect to these topics.
I definitely would recommend this book and will be bringing it up to people as I spot them struggling with these topics as a good resource, however, my lower rating comes from what I think is a lack of well developed explanations behind things. There was quite a number of times that I do think the author did really well explaining things but then during the skill building exercises, she breaks it down into what you will learn, what you need, and instructions, of which i felt that it was often overpromised what I will learn.
That isn’t to say that what I did learn wasn’t valuable but that I was looking for more of that educational value that breaks down why we see things that way or why we react in certain ways. I always find the break down of those cognitive functions to be really helpful to me as someone who has a hard time giving up control in any situation because if I understand why I do things this way, it feels possible to rewrite them.
Overall, I did enjoy this book and the exercises. I learned a lot and will probably come back to it to reflect as I grow and change.
April 16, 2025
I have, fairly recently, become a stay at home parent. Despite having a supportive, equal partner, staying at home has caused a major shift in my sense of self. It has changed the dynamics in many of my relationships, and I find myself shying away from conflict or overreacting when I feel overextended. I'm actually not typically someone who struggles with setting boundaries or advocating for myself, so this is new to me. I wanted to give Communication Skills for Healthier Boundaries a try, just to see if it helped.
I am so pleasantly surprised by how useful this book has been! The exercises in the first half left me feeling both affirmed and introspective. So much talk about boundaries these days is about cutting toxic people out of your life - none of that here. The exercises force you to take an honest look at yourself - your listening skills, your values, your strengths and weaknesses. It was helpful in many ways - I know my listening is subpar, and I also struggle with needing to make myself heard. Dr. Gilmore provides strategies for working on those things. It doesn't feel judgemental at any point, and I think virtually everyone would benefit from this type of self-assessment.
The second portion is examples of real-life application of boundary setting. While not all of them were applicable to me, I found it helpful to read through them anyway.
The exercises can take some time, but the book itself is a quick and valuable read. Dr. Gilmore has done a nice job of leaving out the fluff and distilling the information into actionable, useful guidance.
Thanks for the gifted book, @penguinrandomhouse
I am so pleasantly surprised by how useful this book has been! The exercises in the first half left me feeling both affirmed and introspective. So much talk about boundaries these days is about cutting toxic people out of your life - none of that here. The exercises force you to take an honest look at yourself - your listening skills, your values, your strengths and weaknesses. It was helpful in many ways - I know my listening is subpar, and I also struggle with needing to make myself heard. Dr. Gilmore provides strategies for working on those things. It doesn't feel judgemental at any point, and I think virtually everyone would benefit from this type of self-assessment.
The second portion is examples of real-life application of boundary setting. While not all of them were applicable to me, I found it helpful to read through them anyway.
The exercises can take some time, but the book itself is a quick and valuable read. Dr. Gilmore has done a nice job of leaving out the fluff and distilling the information into actionable, useful guidance.
Thanks for the gifted book, @penguinrandomhouse
February 7, 2026
I loved the workbook-style setup because it’s not just something you sit back and read – it makes you get in there and actually do the work. The exercises hit in real time, with real-life scenarios that feel familiar, so you’re not guessing how to apply the skills. It walks you through it step by step and even tells you exactly what you’ll need to successfully engage with each exercise, which makes it feel organized and intentional, not overwhelming.
The whole repair the rupture approach really spoke to me because it focuses on accountability, healing, and growth instead of blame (restorative approach facilitator here!). It connects just as much to personal life as it does to professional development, so you’re leveling up in both spaces at the same time.
The Saboteur section…Whew. I immediately thought about someone I’ve crossed paths with, and it made everything click. The book is thorough without feeling heavy, and it gives you space to really reflect, and change…hopefully. Plus, the references and resources at the end are solid, so you’re not left hanging.
Overall, it’s not just a book you read – it’s a book you work through, sit with, and come back to. Real talk, this book helps you ask yourself some deep questions about yourself and others around you. I highly recommend this book for those looking for something that can be used in real-time, relatable, and informative on a human level.
Thank you to Zeitgeist and NetGalley for providing this book for review consideration. All opinions are my own. Looking forward to reading more from this author!
The whole repair the rupture approach really spoke to me because it focuses on accountability, healing, and growth instead of blame (restorative approach facilitator here!). It connects just as much to personal life as it does to professional development, so you’re leveling up in both spaces at the same time.
The Saboteur section…Whew. I immediately thought about someone I’ve crossed paths with, and it made everything click. The book is thorough without feeling heavy, and it gives you space to really reflect, and change…hopefully. Plus, the references and resources at the end are solid, so you’re not left hanging.
Overall, it’s not just a book you read – it’s a book you work through, sit with, and come back to. Real talk, this book helps you ask yourself some deep questions about yourself and others around you. I highly recommend this book for those looking for something that can be used in real-time, relatable, and informative on a human level.
Thank you to Zeitgeist and NetGalley for providing this book for review consideration. All opinions are my own. Looking forward to reading more from this author!
February 6, 2026
Communication Skills for Healthier Boundaries: Express Your Needs without Giving In or Blowing Up by Dr. LaToya S. Gilmore is an informative book in learning ways to communicate while maintaining healthy boundaries.
This book makes you take a deeper look at yourself and self reflect on the ways you’re communicating and upholding your beliefs. There are many tasks given to help you reflect and dive into these topics. It’s honestly a helpful guide.
I definitely would recommend this book to people who are trying to learn more about themselves and are working on themselves. I feel that the book was informative and didn't shy away from explanation in certain aspects/ exercises but I do feel in other areas we could have had a bit more effort in explaining.
Overall, I did enjoy this book and the exercises. I will definitely reference and reflect on myself by revisiting this book often.
I do prefer a paperback/ hardcover of these books so i can notate and come back later to reflect. The same can be done with the electronic version but that's just my preference.
Thank you to NetGalley and Zeitgeist for the free copy in exchange for an honest review!
This book makes you take a deeper look at yourself and self reflect on the ways you’re communicating and upholding your beliefs. There are many tasks given to help you reflect and dive into these topics. It’s honestly a helpful guide.
I definitely would recommend this book to people who are trying to learn more about themselves and are working on themselves. I feel that the book was informative and didn't shy away from explanation in certain aspects/ exercises but I do feel in other areas we could have had a bit more effort in explaining.
Overall, I did enjoy this book and the exercises. I will definitely reference and reflect on myself by revisiting this book often.
I do prefer a paperback/ hardcover of these books so i can notate and come back later to reflect. The same can be done with the electronic version but that's just my preference.
Thank you to NetGalley and Zeitgeist for the free copy in exchange for an honest review!
April 18, 2025
I received a free copy of this book for review purposes from Penguin Random House. I think it's a really useful book to help anyone become a better communicator and a better person in general. It has lots of exercises that force you to sit and reflect. This is definitely not a quick read. Rather, it's the perfect book for anyone looking for some self help. It's a great book to help with specific situations as you can do any part at anytime. My only complaint is that I wish it was a tad more instructive. It typically only gives you one response example before having you come up with your own. I'd like 2-3 sample responses to get a better idea of how to respond in situations. However, this is a great starting point!
January 20, 2026
Communication Skills for Healthier Boundaries is a self-help book that helps you express your needs more healthily. Dr. LaToya S. Gilmore is a licensed psychotherapist, and I like that the book is not written in therapist-speak. Anyone can read the book and apply the strategies given here. She includes real-life dialogue scripts for practice. The only problem with this is that life rarely follows a script. I like that she explains what boundaries are simply and why we struggle to set them. I do wish she had discussed respecting others' boundaries and why that is so difficult for some people.
Thank you to Zeitgeist for providing this book for review consideration via NetGalley. All opinions are my own.
Thank you to Zeitgeist for providing this book for review consideration via NetGalley. All opinions are my own.
June 28, 2025
This was a super helpful and straightforward read. Dr. Gilmore breaks things down in a way that’s easy to understand without feeling overly simplified. The real-life examples and prompts made it feel super practical, like advice you can actually use right away. Some parts repeated a bit, but honestly, it just helped the lessons stick. Great for anyone working on setting better boundaries and learning how to speak up without the negativity attached. 4 ⭐️‘s
March 6, 2026
Thanks for the free/gifted book, @penguinrandomhouse
The content is crisp and to the point. It helps to know how to organize my thoughts before speaking up in any situation. I will definitely gift this book for any high schoolers and college aged students.
I wish I had this book before applying to my first job.
Dr Gilmore’s step by step approach is so relatable . We can do just one chapter a day to keep the incoherent communication at bay.
The content is crisp and to the point. It helps to know how to organize my thoughts before speaking up in any situation. I will definitely gift this book for any high schoolers and college aged students.
I wish I had this book before applying to my first job.
Dr Gilmore’s step by step approach is so relatable . We can do just one chapter a day to keep the incoherent communication at bay.
December 26, 2025
This was fantastic. I loved the way this was set up with side activities to do. It really prepared me for the holidays and I am very grateful to whoever accepted my request for this ! It will become something I will be going back to in the future for tools to help situations when I need a reminder.
Thank you to Netalley for this e-ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Thank you to Netalley for this e-ARC in exchange for an honest review.
January 31, 2026
This self care guide about communicating your social needs and boundaries is concise and insightful. The examples and scenarios are realistic and helpful. The author uses modern examples of how to kindly respond to difficult conversations, be an empathetic listener, and still keep your boundaries intact. Well done.
August 19, 2025
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Thanks for the gifted book @penguinrandomhouse
This book gave some tips to serve as reminders on how to say no, set boundaries, but I wish it gave more in depth information. A quick read with some prompts to Addis with self learning.
Thanks for the gifted book @penguinrandomhouse
This book gave some tips to serve as reminders on how to say no, set boundaries, but I wish it gave more in depth information. A quick read with some prompts to Addis with self learning.
August 23, 2026
Thanks for the gifted book @penguinrandomhouse ! This book offered specific and concrete examples, but they were beginner level communication skills.
January 1, 2026
The book was okay, but I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that I could've used a chapter regarding the inverse of what this book talks about: how to respect boundaries of others.
It pains me to admit it, but I had never even heard of boundaries until my mid 30's, much less respected them in others growing up. I wasn't a total ogre, but I could have benefited from the finer points of a more focused short game so to speak.
I got this book to make up for lost time by hopefully learning how to respect the boundaries of others. This book falls short in that respect, but it's still helpful, and if I keep working on it, I think I can improve.
It pains me to admit it, but I had never even heard of boundaries until my mid 30's, much less respected them in others growing up. I wasn't a total ogre, but I could have benefited from the finer points of a more focused short game so to speak.
I got this book to make up for lost time by hopefully learning how to respect the boundaries of others. This book falls short in that respect, but it's still helpful, and if I keep working on it, I think I can improve.
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