Try to See It My Way: Being Fair in Love and Marriage

by B. Janet Hibbs, Karen J. Getzen

a deeply probing book that gets to the heart of what all healthy romantic relationships need: fairness

Most couples enter marriage hoping it will last forever-so why are more and more relationships failing? As Dr. B. Janet Hibbs explains, the key to solving most relationship problems-whether relating to money, children, chores, sex, or in-laws-is through a shared sense of fairness. Intuitively, we think we know what's "fair." But as this book reveals, the way we each understand fairness is much more complex, and is powerfully shaped by our family expectations and experiences.

Dr. Hibbs provides readers with a road map for recognizing imbalances and building a stronger, more loving relationship based on a new kind of fairness. Filled with compassion, practical advice, and compelling, real-life examples throughout, this book offers a groundbreaking understanding of the issues that divide couples over time-and how they can be happier and closer than ever.

Genres: Nonfiction, Marriage

332 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2009

Reviews

[Mmars · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this book is a good read for people needing to build their self-esteem in the context of their marriage and especially helpful for those who feel they are "going it alone" in trying to improve their marriages, also for couples who want to break the cycle of confrontion within their marriages. Occasional explanations of psychological concepts seemed geared more for therapists/counselors. Lay persons who read this while in therapy would probably benefit the most from it. If your marriage is in trouble and you're not working on your own psychological issues, negotiation may only be a band-aid. On the other hand, learning when and how to negotiate in a relationship is never a bad thing.

[Turquoise Brennan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not bad at all - the exercises at the end of each chapter truly make you reflect honestly about your motivations and intentions. Some ideas are repetitive

[Keri · Rating 4 out of 5]

Don't know why this book is more reviewed...although the anecdotal couples weren't relatable to me, the insight and concept of this book is one of the more helpful books I've read on this subject...great talking points and starting points for couples working to maximize their communicative abilities togethers, etc. Recommended.

[Amr · Rating 5 out of 5]

Showed reasonable analysis of how to overcome non fairness in marriage, the book addressed the most common issues that leads to divorce. I would recommend anyone to read it to raise his/her awareness and to maintain a healthy family.