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Confidence: Eight Steps to Knowing Your Worth
Discover how to cultivate deeper, dazzling self-confidence in your daily life, from bestselling author of Manifest, with over 1 million copies sold worldwide
Confidence is at the foundation of everything we do. It's the invisible power that propels you to dream bigger, take bold risks, and create a life you truly love. But for too many of us, confidence feels out of reach - reserved for those who seem to have it all together. But how can we tap into that kind of transformative power and find our self worth when we're buried under the voices of our inner critic, our inner competitor, the needling lies that say we’ll never quite be enough?
In her newest book, bestselling author Roxie Nafousi provides eight steps to developing a deep, long lasting confidence, MASTER YOUR THOUGHTS ACT WITH INTENTION STOP TRYING TO BE LIKED BY EVERYBODY BREAK FREE FROM COMPARISON...and more.
The truth is, you don’t have to strive to earn your confidence with a resume full of external achievements. Nafousi teaches that it’s about the simple, day-to-day inner work – and while it will be a journey, it’s one that will enable you to own your worth and live unapologetically yourself.
The life you want is even closer than you could imagine.
Confidence is at the foundation of everything we do. It's the invisible power that propels you to dream bigger, take bold risks, and create a life you truly love. But for too many of us, confidence feels out of reach - reserved for those who seem to have it all together. But how can we tap into that kind of transformative power and find our self worth when we're buried under the voices of our inner critic, our inner competitor, the needling lies that say we’ll never quite be enough?
In her newest book, bestselling author Roxie Nafousi provides eight steps to developing a deep, long lasting confidence, MASTER YOUR THOUGHTS ACT WITH INTENTION STOP TRYING TO BE LIKED BY EVERYBODY BREAK FREE FROM COMPARISON...and more.
The truth is, you don’t have to strive to earn your confidence with a resume full of external achievements. Nafousi teaches that it’s about the simple, day-to-day inner work – and while it will be a journey, it’s one that will enable you to own your worth and live unapologetically yourself.
The life you want is even closer than you could imagine.
256 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 3, 2025
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December 31, 2025
A poignant way to finish the 2025 reading year, given that I wasted a lot of my 20’s feeling like an insecure loser. Since being in my 30’s, I’ve dedicated a lot more energy to challenging these thoughts, and building on the confidence that I wish I always felt worthy of! Hello 2026! Go me!
April 30, 2025
This is probably the best personal growth book I’ve read so far—I absolutely loved it✨️
April 27, 2025
Rating based on what I personally took from the book, someone who has been into self development for 7 years and therefore familiar with a lot of the concepts. This could be a good entry book for someone new to self development as it has lots of practical steps and exercises but I personally do not feel it warrants a £16.99 price tag. Buy when it’s on sale via Amazon.
I would have loved more depth, since a lot of the book is exercises and external studies / research but in full transparency I do not read Roxie’s books for tons of new insights, I just really like her and enjoy her take on topics and her personal insights and inputs, I guess I wanted more of that!
I would have loved more depth, since a lot of the book is exercises and external studies / research but in full transparency I do not read Roxie’s books for tons of new insights, I just really like her and enjoy her take on topics and her personal insights and inputs, I guess I wanted more of that!
August 25, 2025
Was excited to read Roxie’s new book after loving ‘Manifest’, so was buzzing to get a signed copy from Waterstones before it officially went on sale. Most concepts I was already aware of, but this book really does cover everything that will help you grow in confidence, so I’ll definitely keep it on hand as a resource for when my confidence dips. Cognitive distortions are wild, so being aware of them has been really helpful.
September 10, 2025
Confidence!
Hi Friends,
Hope you are keeping well!
I came across these 8 steps to confidence in an article about Roxie Nafousi’s new book. You can see them below:
1. Master Your Thoughts
Confidence begins with self-talk. Roxie encourages treating negative thoughts like defendants in a trial—challenging and replacing them with compassionate “cheerleader” reinforcement.
2. Act with Intention
Start and end your day with purposeful habits—like journalling, stretching, reading, or skincare. Following through with these routines strengthens self-respect by honouring your own word.
3. Stop Trying to Be Liked by Everyone
Seeking universal approval muffles authenticity. Roxie offers reassuring truths: people aren’t thinking about you as much as you imagine; you can’t please everyone; don’t take others’ reactions personally.
4. Compare Downwards
Instead of harmful upward comparisons, practice downward comparisons—not to belittle others, but to appreciate your growth and gain perspective.
5. Celebrate Yourself
Recognise and relish even small wins, organising your space, supporting friends. These often-overlooked strengths deserve appreciation and fuel your self-confidence.
6. Do Hard Things
Growth doesn’t happen in comfort zones. Lean into discomfort, reshape nerves into excitement, and visualise success. Each challenge met strengthens courage and confidence.
7. Be of Service to Others
Shifting focus outward by helping others eases inward anxieties and fosters purpose, connection, and improved self-perception.
8. Show Up as Your Best Self
Confidence is embodied, not just projected. Your posture, movement, voice, and wardrobe all shape how you feel and how you're perceived. Ask: Would my most confident self-wear this?
To some of them I can relate because I either actively doing them to some extent or follow completely, such as creating new routines and habits, not taking others’ reactions personally and being of service to others; however, some of them are more difficult to implement.
I would really appreciate your opinion here. What would you do to apply these steps in the most effective way?
Thank you!
Yours,
Pav
Hi Friends,
Hope you are keeping well!
I came across these 8 steps to confidence in an article about Roxie Nafousi’s new book. You can see them below:
1. Master Your Thoughts
Confidence begins with self-talk. Roxie encourages treating negative thoughts like defendants in a trial—challenging and replacing them with compassionate “cheerleader” reinforcement.
2. Act with Intention
Start and end your day with purposeful habits—like journalling, stretching, reading, or skincare. Following through with these routines strengthens self-respect by honouring your own word.
3. Stop Trying to Be Liked by Everyone
Seeking universal approval muffles authenticity. Roxie offers reassuring truths: people aren’t thinking about you as much as you imagine; you can’t please everyone; don’t take others’ reactions personally.
4. Compare Downwards
Instead of harmful upward comparisons, practice downward comparisons—not to belittle others, but to appreciate your growth and gain perspective.
5. Celebrate Yourself
Recognise and relish even small wins, organising your space, supporting friends. These often-overlooked strengths deserve appreciation and fuel your self-confidence.
6. Do Hard Things
Growth doesn’t happen in comfort zones. Lean into discomfort, reshape nerves into excitement, and visualise success. Each challenge met strengthens courage and confidence.
7. Be of Service to Others
Shifting focus outward by helping others eases inward anxieties and fosters purpose, connection, and improved self-perception.
8. Show Up as Your Best Self
Confidence is embodied, not just projected. Your posture, movement, voice, and wardrobe all shape how you feel and how you're perceived. Ask: Would my most confident self-wear this?
To some of them I can relate because I either actively doing them to some extent or follow completely, such as creating new routines and habits, not taking others’ reactions personally and being of service to others; however, some of them are more difficult to implement.
I would really appreciate your opinion here. What would you do to apply these steps in the most effective way?
Thank you!
Yours,
Pav
April 9, 2025
I felt the book was definitely motivating and helps you try and flip things in your head to view things more positively. Lighthearted read for sure x
December 1, 2025
Honestly this was good! Much more detailed than I expected, with some neuroscience too. I mean I’m pretty confident but this has some great reminders to live your best life and be authentic.
I love Roxie - she’s the best hype woman!
I love Roxie - she’s the best hype woman!
November 28, 2025
Ok very low rating I know but this book just wasn’t for me (received as a gift) HOWEVER it would be lovely for a teen going through hell or someone who hasn’t done much reflection on topics like this. For me though it was just too surface level and lacked depth.
July 9, 2025
Roxie Nafousi’s Confidence sets out to be an empowering and accessible guide for anyone seeking to build self-worth. With a warm tone and clear structure, she offers eight steps that promise to help readers reconnect with themselves, overcome limiting beliefs, and develop confidence from within. While the author’s intention is sincere and many of the exercises she proposes are useful in their own right, the book ultimately lacks depth, originality, and critical engagement with the subject matter.
Much of the content feels like a remix of familiar ideas from the self-help canon. Practices such as affirmations, visualization, setting boundaries, and identifying personal values are standard fare in personal development literature. That’s not inherently negative—these tools can be powerful—but Nafousi doesn’t bring new insight or perspective to them. Instead, she repackages well-known advice in a polished, easy-to-digest format without challenging the reader or offering much that hasn’t already been said elsewhere.
One irritation came along when she drifted into esoteric metaphors that substitute for deeper psychological understanding. For example, she claims that interpersonal friction is simply a matter of people being “on different frequencies,” and that not everyone is energetically aligned. While such language may resonate with a spiritually inclined audience, it oversimplifies complex social and emotional dynamics. These explanations sidestep more grounded insights from psychology or sociology and end up feeling superficial.
Another recurring issue is the heavy reliance on her own life as the primary source of examples. Nearly every key point is illustrated by a story from her podcast, one of her seminars, or her personal journey—often ending with subtle promotion of her own offerings. While personal experience can be a valid narrative tool, the frequency and format here feel more like self-branding than storytelling. The anecdotes are often trivial or overly curated, and they lack the narrative or emotional richness needed to truly inspire.
The design of the book further contributes to this sense of curation. The text is broken up by frequent pull quotes, bullet points, and boxed affirmations—visually more akin to a self-help website or PDF workbook than a flowing narrative. While this may appeal to casual readers or those looking for quick takeaways, it undermines the sense of intellectual and emotional continuity.
By the final chapters, repetition sets in—particularly with regard to visualization, which is covered multiple times without substantial new insight. This redundancy might not bother every reader, but it contributes to the overall impression that the book is stretched thin over its 200 pages.
That said, it’s important to note that the exercises included in each chapter are well structured and effective when done seriously. They guide readers through meaningful self-reflection, and for someone new to this kind of inner work, they can be genuinely helpful. The real value of the book lies less in its theory and more in the practical application of its prompts.
In the end, Confidence will likely resonate with readers who are new to self-help or who connect personally with Roxie Nafousi’s voice and brand. But for anyone looking for deeper psychological insight, a more diverse range of perspectives, or intellectually challenging content, the book may feel repetitive, overly curated, and light on substance. It’s a well-intentioned and occasionally useful introduction—but not a transformative or essential one.
Much of the content feels like a remix of familiar ideas from the self-help canon. Practices such as affirmations, visualization, setting boundaries, and identifying personal values are standard fare in personal development literature. That’s not inherently negative—these tools can be powerful—but Nafousi doesn’t bring new insight or perspective to them. Instead, she repackages well-known advice in a polished, easy-to-digest format without challenging the reader or offering much that hasn’t already been said elsewhere.
One irritation came along when she drifted into esoteric metaphors that substitute for deeper psychological understanding. For example, she claims that interpersonal friction is simply a matter of people being “on different frequencies,” and that not everyone is energetically aligned. While such language may resonate with a spiritually inclined audience, it oversimplifies complex social and emotional dynamics. These explanations sidestep more grounded insights from psychology or sociology and end up feeling superficial.
Another recurring issue is the heavy reliance on her own life as the primary source of examples. Nearly every key point is illustrated by a story from her podcast, one of her seminars, or her personal journey—often ending with subtle promotion of her own offerings. While personal experience can be a valid narrative tool, the frequency and format here feel more like self-branding than storytelling. The anecdotes are often trivial or overly curated, and they lack the narrative or emotional richness needed to truly inspire.
The design of the book further contributes to this sense of curation. The text is broken up by frequent pull quotes, bullet points, and boxed affirmations—visually more akin to a self-help website or PDF workbook than a flowing narrative. While this may appeal to casual readers or those looking for quick takeaways, it undermines the sense of intellectual and emotional continuity.
By the final chapters, repetition sets in—particularly with regard to visualization, which is covered multiple times without substantial new insight. This redundancy might not bother every reader, but it contributes to the overall impression that the book is stretched thin over its 200 pages.
That said, it’s important to note that the exercises included in each chapter are well structured and effective when done seriously. They guide readers through meaningful self-reflection, and for someone new to this kind of inner work, they can be genuinely helpful. The real value of the book lies less in its theory and more in the practical application of its prompts.
In the end, Confidence will likely resonate with readers who are new to self-help or who connect personally with Roxie Nafousi’s voice and brand. But for anyone looking for deeper psychological insight, a more diverse range of perspectives, or intellectually challenging content, the book may feel repetitive, overly curated, and light on substance. It’s a well-intentioned and occasionally useful introduction—but not a transformative or essential one.
December 15, 2025
While I usually tend to stay away from psychological and self-help books—for various reasons, including not always believing in their promised transformations—I do like to give one a chance from time to time. At the very least, they can offer a perspective you hadn’t fully considered, and sometimes they feel like a long, reassuring message from a friend you didn’t even realize you needed. Confidence didn’t necessarily introduce groundbreaking advice that could instantly change your life, but instead helped organize thoughts many of us have had before and overlooked, highlighting the strength they can build when approached with intention. Overall, it was a comforting and calming read, complete with exercises and challenges for those who want to dive deeper. Even if you don’t, it still leaves you feeling a little more confident by the end—and that, in itself, is something special.
August 5, 2025
I almost want to say I wish I had read this book sooner—but honestly, I’m not sure it would’ve resonated as deeply without the mindset I’ve developed recently. Some readers say the content feels obvious or familiar, but for me having just started to internalize many of these ideas, it felt like a refreshing affirmation and a thoughtful way to formalize what I’ve been thinking. There were also a pleasant amount of ideologies that the book offered that I have not yet considered which is at this point all I can ask for.
This book had a good mix of tools and explanations about why many of us struggle with confidence as we grow up. Personally I don't like when books become too memior-y and thankfully this book had a tastefully small amount of that.
This book had a good mix of tools and explanations about why many of us struggle with confidence as we grow up. Personally I don't like when books become too memior-y and thankfully this book had a tastefully small amount of that.
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January 20, 2026
I received this book as a gift, and I thought I would give it a shot.
Maybe for a beginner in self-help books it’s a good starting point, but otherwise, I think it has a lot of main ideas that you would find in many other books. And besides that, most of the things presented here don’t necessarily apply to confidence, but to living a peaceful and happy life, and to making general improvements to yourself. I guess that in the end, all the small improvements will make you more confident, but that would basically apply to any book.
What I want to say is that it’s not focused on confidence, but general advice.
Maybe for a beginner in self-help books it’s a good starting point, but otherwise, I think it has a lot of main ideas that you would find in many other books. And besides that, most of the things presented here don’t necessarily apply to confidence, but to living a peaceful and happy life, and to making general improvements to yourself. I guess that in the end, all the small improvements will make you more confident, but that would basically apply to any book.
What I want to say is that it’s not focused on confidence, but general advice.
May 18, 2025
A good wee book worth reading, with useful steps towards improving self confidence. Felt a little bit at points like the author was not conscious of her own privilege and how that may have assisted her in her confidence journey. Was also a bit jarred by her using working in the day of her father’s funeral as an example of triumph over self doubt, I can’t imagine that is the most healthy approach. As said though, an enjoyable read, clearly laid out and no doubt helpful
May 19, 2025
While the book can be a bit simplistic at times, it serves as a solid reminder of tried-and-tested confidence boosting strategies. It also offers some fresh, valuable insights that even readers who consider themselves as ‘confident’, may find helpful. A great resource for anyone—whether you're just starting to build your confidence, or whether you’re already someone who sees themselves as confident. The casual writing style makes it a light and easy read!
December 7, 2025
Confidence: Eight Steps to Knowing Your Worth is an insightful and empowering guide to building self-assurance and recognizing your value. Roxie Nafousi presents practical steps in a clear and relatable way, making it easy to apply the lessons to everyday life. Some sections feel a bit repetitive, but overall, it’s motivating, thoughtful, and a helpful read for anyone looking to boost confidence and take bold steps in life.
December 23, 2025
Confidence: 8 Steps to Knowing Your Worth is a great introduction to the self-help genre. The book offers genuinely helpful tips, and I found myself taking notes throughout and actually using many of the journal prompts as I read. It’s practical, approachable, and easy to apply, which made the experience feel more personal and engaging. A solid starting point if you’re beginning your self-help journey.
January 6, 2026
“Would you be willing to give up all the best parts of your own life, all the people and experiences that bring you joy, just for a snapshot of someone else’s [life]?”
This is pitched as a way to remind you of the good in life but for some of us there hasn’t been much of that.
This book might be helpful if you’re having one or two challenges in life or if you’re in your 30s with plenty of life ahead of you. But it just didn’t help my own situation.
This is pitched as a way to remind you of the good in life but for some of us there hasn’t been much of that.
This book might be helpful if you’re having one or two challenges in life or if you’re in your 30s with plenty of life ahead of you. But it just didn’t help my own situation.
June 23, 2025
Mixed reviews from me. I already know a lot of stuff in the book (the first chapter is essentially CBT), so didn’t learn much new. I do think it summarised things quite nicely into steps and I liked how key messages were in bold. Step 4 on breaking free from comparison was personally really helpful and made some notes!
April 14, 2025
As ever a great straight forward step based guide that is very useful and contains exercises that you can do. It works to read through then go back and work through areas in detail. It also aligns well with her other books on manifestation. I would definitely recommend.
April 26, 2025
I even took notes so I can come back to what I read, as I borrowed the book from my local library. It was an impulse read, as I saw the title on their list of most popular for the week or something like that. Good 8 steps, backed up with scientific studies here and there.
June 1, 2025
Absolutely loved this. Super empowering, reassuring and the most encouraging self development book I’ve read in a long time. Probably since Manifest! Will be gifting/lending to all my loved ones needing a boost.
June 4, 2025
Audiobook 🎧📚
I’ve seen this book in Tesco 😂 so instead, I fount the audiobook. Really really enjoyed it, learned a lot, quite relatable, had fun listening to it.
I would like the book so I can do lots of highlighting!!!
Great book to read or listen to ❤️
I’ve seen this book in Tesco 😂 so instead, I fount the audiobook. Really really enjoyed it, learned a lot, quite relatable, had fun listening to it.
I would like the book so I can do lots of highlighting!!!
Great book to read or listen to ❤️
July 17, 2025
This was a great listen in the mornings. A rarely listen to audiobooks but this one was perfect for that, felt like a podcast, easy to listen whilst driving with lots of useful tips that anyone can use.
August 24, 2025
- Helps a lot for personal and internal matters. Mental health
- Uses science to emphasize and understand the human psyche
- Supports to reflect on life and to work on yourself
- For people, who wanna learn how to deal with yourself and your psyche
- Uses science to emphasize and understand the human psyche
- Supports to reflect on life and to work on yourself
- For people, who wanna learn how to deal with yourself and your psyche
September 1, 2025
Big fan of Roxie for a long time. As someone who reads a lot about self development this wasn’t a lot of new information but it was a helpful reminder and I do feel more confident just having listened to it!
May 4, 2025
Excellent book which I'm reading again for the second time!
May 6, 2025
Reflections and lessons learned/the content of this book made me feel…
…nodding in agreement for the things that too many of us forget - obvious in parts, but bears repeating in order to help
…nodding in agreement for the things that too many of us forget - obvious in parts, but bears repeating in order to help
May 9, 2025
lovely structure and tone, but little new insight for me personally
May 11, 2025
I have read/listened to her other books and this is just what I needed. Thank you
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