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The Alabaster Girl
Sit back and relax... I will sing you the song of women.What women? you ask.All women, I answer.Even me? you ask.Especially you, I answer.And what will you sing to me? you ask.Ah, my love, I will sing to you of hidden truthsYes, hidden truths and secret On a nameless train somewhere between here and nowhere, a woman and a man sit facing each other. She is a journalist there to interview him. He is the world's greatest seducer. Thus begins "The Alabaster Girl," the sensational new novel by Zan Perrion. We get to join the two on this train ride, a fly on the wall, as the seducer recounts his life, philosophy and startling insights, interspersed with excerpts from his new "The Alabaster Girl." The book within the book.ContentsThe Way of BeautyThe Way of SeductionThe Way of DiscoveryThe Way of the NaturalThe Way of MenThe Way of WomenThe Way of LoveThe Way of SalvationThe Way of Beauty
416 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 1, 2013
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Zan Perrion
2 books101 followersZan Perrion is internationally recognized as one of the most original and insightful voices on relationships and seduction in the world today. A regular media commentator, he has been widely featured in the international press.
Zan is the founder of the Ars Amorata philosophy— a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. He is also a co-founder of the Amorati network of men.
Zan divides his time between Canada and Romania and can be found at www.zanperrion.com and www.arsamorata.com
Zan is the founder of the Ars Amorata philosophy— a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. He is also a co-founder of the Amorati network of men.
Zan divides his time between Canada and Romania and can be found at www.zanperrion.com and www.arsamorata.com
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April 16, 2016
This is not a book for boys trying to trick some poor girl into giving him a blowjob. This is a book for men that want to learn and are worthy of learning the ways of being a true lover.
This kind of men knows there is no sense in playing games, in trying to “have” something by the use of tricks, “have” one more line, “have” one more “magic pill”. You can call that “one more excuse to be mediocre”, “one more way to hide yourself from the thing you want, but can’t actually face” as Kundera so brilliantly explained in his vertigo quote.
How many times we just settle outside of ourselves afraid to be alone, afraid to have nothing to do, afraid to be just sitting with ourselves and meditate about who we are.
That darkness within us, calling our name when there is no external interference is the voice of our best self, trying to scream louder than the TV, video-games and cell-phones that it has the answers, that it knows the path to our wishes.
This is not a book for pick-up artists or wannabe pick-up artists; this is a book for seducers, men that love women, men that sincerely want to learn more so they can be pleased and please, all by the power of “being”. This book can teach you how to flow with your nature, how to float from within and touch the external with your light and your darkness, because you are both.
This book is the living proof of the quote “Be the change you want to see in the world”, Look at how brilliant the quote is: “BE” the change, don’t try, there is no trick, there are no lines, there is just being.
I am not one to promise anything extraordinary, I have no relation with the author of this book, but one thing is certain, if you know how to read, this book will change your relationship with women forever, in a positive way.
If one day I have a son (and I am not really sure, after applying some of the things I’ve learned in this book, if I will ever want to settle like that, if the wind will ever stop screaming my name as it suddenly started since I began reading it) he will receive two books from me, The way of the superior Man, by David Deida and Alabaster Girl, by Zan Perrion.
This book taught me:
Internal and external. Being and Having. Inner and outer presence.
The only thing you should “control” is your inner presence. Your being is not only the one thing you should present to the world, is the only one you can. There is a great problem in all areas of life when people try to internalize what is external (“rejection” from a woman, for example) and externalize what is internal (frustration for being “rejected” or “friendzoned”, for example). They can’t see the problem in its origin and therefore they can’t “medicate” properly, as it would happen with all the wrong medication, side effects are even more negative than the sickness: frustration, depression, misogyny, materialism, low self-esteem, etc.
The insights of a great seducer can only be understood by those who are, like him, lovers of women. Empathy, sensibility, passion, curiosity and love are required for those who wish to extract the best from this work.
He teaches no trick, but those able to read will learn all of them. No lines, but teaches the source of all of them. No “how-to…” or “10 steps to...”, but it helps you find the ocean of serenity and harmony that exists within you and that can flow outward, can seduce everything you desire, including women.
When I started reading this book, I could see that the vast majority of guys reading it would simply be blind to all the nuances, details and information you can extract from it, simply because to understand it you have to possess some of the attributes of the seducer, why not even say, some “feminine eye” as well. Empathy, curiosity, sensibility, willingness to surrender are required of the ones who want to extract from this work the “cold knowledge” that they think is the “silver bullet”.
The power of just being exactly who you are. If you can’t understand how/why you should be honest and sincere to be a seducer, this book is really not for you in this case “you” are literally not enough.
This book even changed my relation with my country, I have never being this happy for being Brazilian, women everywhere are beautiful and pleasant, but this country of mine has some of the most feminine women I’ve ever seen. I had never stopped to consider this before, how much of a fool I was to live in the dark with so much light everywhere, inviting me to bathe myself in their beams, expecting me to be for them exactly what I want to be, with respect, dignity, but still as a man to a woman.
Best quote in the book:
“Beauty needs a witness.” And “all women are beautiful” Those two quotes reflect well the nature of this book, seems like poetry or romanticism. They are beautiful and poetic, I agree, but there is a massive power behind them. If you can read, understand and internalize those two simple lines, everything else about seduction will come to you, it’s just a matter of time for you to wander consciously through the lands of women.
EDIT: 31/03/2016
A little bit more than 1 year have passed since the review. I can say that this book is the definitive external guidance in this area of my life. The importance of this book, I can say right now is that it drove me towards myself, my interior.
This book teaches you that the only “secret” is that all you have to do is to seduce yourself first, than you can do all the “wrong”, “stupid”, “crazy” things in the world and say the “incorrect” things and be shy, nervous, lip trembling and sweating or being the opposite of what they teach in “PUA101whatever” and still have her to look at you as if the day is about to dawn behind your eyes.
If I can resume, one year later, from what I can proudly call now, my own experiences, and I do this to help and inspire others and not so much to show off. Seduction is a natural process of intimacy, you have to be truly intimate with yourself, than you will be able to create bridges between your comfort being you and her small, medium or big insecurities. When you do this, your comfort with yourself will liberate her from her lack of comfort not only with you but with who she is. And this is the gift, gentleman.
The entire process is basically this, small, short, long, time-consuming, it is all contained in this, your relation to yourself, your level of intimacy with who you are.
Or, as an Amorati would say, “Beauty needs a witness.” And “all women are beautiful”.
Remember guys, the difference between a man and a boy is that the man understands that his strength is not hiding from his insecurities. Be intimate with your insecurity, be comfortable with the fact that you are not comfortable. Everything will be okay, there is no trying, Now, GO.
This kind of men knows there is no sense in playing games, in trying to “have” something by the use of tricks, “have” one more line, “have” one more “magic pill”. You can call that “one more excuse to be mediocre”, “one more way to hide yourself from the thing you want, but can’t actually face” as Kundera so brilliantly explained in his vertigo quote.
How many times we just settle outside of ourselves afraid to be alone, afraid to have nothing to do, afraid to be just sitting with ourselves and meditate about who we are.
That darkness within us, calling our name when there is no external interference is the voice of our best self, trying to scream louder than the TV, video-games and cell-phones that it has the answers, that it knows the path to our wishes.
This is not a book for pick-up artists or wannabe pick-up artists; this is a book for seducers, men that love women, men that sincerely want to learn more so they can be pleased and please, all by the power of “being”. This book can teach you how to flow with your nature, how to float from within and touch the external with your light and your darkness, because you are both.
This book is the living proof of the quote “Be the change you want to see in the world”, Look at how brilliant the quote is: “BE” the change, don’t try, there is no trick, there are no lines, there is just being.
I am not one to promise anything extraordinary, I have no relation with the author of this book, but one thing is certain, if you know how to read, this book will change your relationship with women forever, in a positive way.
If one day I have a son (and I am not really sure, after applying some of the things I’ve learned in this book, if I will ever want to settle like that, if the wind will ever stop screaming my name as it suddenly started since I began reading it) he will receive two books from me, The way of the superior Man, by David Deida and Alabaster Girl, by Zan Perrion.
This book taught me:
Internal and external. Being and Having. Inner and outer presence.
The only thing you should “control” is your inner presence. Your being is not only the one thing you should present to the world, is the only one you can. There is a great problem in all areas of life when people try to internalize what is external (“rejection” from a woman, for example) and externalize what is internal (frustration for being “rejected” or “friendzoned”, for example). They can’t see the problem in its origin and therefore they can’t “medicate” properly, as it would happen with all the wrong medication, side effects are even more negative than the sickness: frustration, depression, misogyny, materialism, low self-esteem, etc.
The insights of a great seducer can only be understood by those who are, like him, lovers of women. Empathy, sensibility, passion, curiosity and love are required for those who wish to extract the best from this work.
He teaches no trick, but those able to read will learn all of them. No lines, but teaches the source of all of them. No “how-to…” or “10 steps to...”, but it helps you find the ocean of serenity and harmony that exists within you and that can flow outward, can seduce everything you desire, including women.
When I started reading this book, I could see that the vast majority of guys reading it would simply be blind to all the nuances, details and information you can extract from it, simply because to understand it you have to possess some of the attributes of the seducer, why not even say, some “feminine eye” as well. Empathy, curiosity, sensibility, willingness to surrender are required of the ones who want to extract from this work the “cold knowledge” that they think is the “silver bullet”.
The power of just being exactly who you are. If you can’t understand how/why you should be honest and sincere to be a seducer, this book is really not for you in this case “you” are literally not enough.
This book even changed my relation with my country, I have never being this happy for being Brazilian, women everywhere are beautiful and pleasant, but this country of mine has some of the most feminine women I’ve ever seen. I had never stopped to consider this before, how much of a fool I was to live in the dark with so much light everywhere, inviting me to bathe myself in their beams, expecting me to be for them exactly what I want to be, with respect, dignity, but still as a man to a woman.
Best quote in the book:
“Beauty needs a witness.” And “all women are beautiful” Those two quotes reflect well the nature of this book, seems like poetry or romanticism. They are beautiful and poetic, I agree, but there is a massive power behind them. If you can read, understand and internalize those two simple lines, everything else about seduction will come to you, it’s just a matter of time for you to wander consciously through the lands of women.
EDIT: 31/03/2016
A little bit more than 1 year have passed since the review. I can say that this book is the definitive external guidance in this area of my life. The importance of this book, I can say right now is that it drove me towards myself, my interior.
This book teaches you that the only “secret” is that all you have to do is to seduce yourself first, than you can do all the “wrong”, “stupid”, “crazy” things in the world and say the “incorrect” things and be shy, nervous, lip trembling and sweating or being the opposite of what they teach in “PUA101whatever” and still have her to look at you as if the day is about to dawn behind your eyes.
If I can resume, one year later, from what I can proudly call now, my own experiences, and I do this to help and inspire others and not so much to show off. Seduction is a natural process of intimacy, you have to be truly intimate with yourself, than you will be able to create bridges between your comfort being you and her small, medium or big insecurities. When you do this, your comfort with yourself will liberate her from her lack of comfort not only with you but with who she is. And this is the gift, gentleman.
The entire process is basically this, small, short, long, time-consuming, it is all contained in this, your relation to yourself, your level of intimacy with who you are.
Or, as an Amorati would say, “Beauty needs a witness.” And “all women are beautiful”.
Remember guys, the difference between a man and a boy is that the man understands that his strength is not hiding from his insecurities. Be intimate with your insecurity, be comfortable with the fact that you are not comfortable. Everything will be okay, there is no trying, Now, GO.
May 24, 2018
The cover is so hideously kitsch and Zan's poems are as bad (I only remember the one at the end, and God knows it is enough) as the general content of the book is good.
Zan is a horrible writer (his try-hard stylish prose completely backfires in terms of good literature, falling in too many commonplaces and affectation), but a knowledgeable and experienced man.
Paradoxically, it is a great book (for black belt pickup artists and/or everyone interested in interpersonal relationships) about kindness or manipulation, since pretending to be honest and caring is the last step to master from a sociopathic perspective (being genuinely honest and caring or wanting to improve at being so is another story).
In Hegel's dialectics terms:
1) Thesis: I'm a nice guy.
2) Antithesis: I'm a pickup artist.
3) Synthesis: I'm a honest and caring man who knows game but has forgotten everything about it for love and because that's my truer self.
This can work as effectively being genuine as being fake. It does make you neurotic and ultimately egomaniac, for the sick recreation in mind games (spiritual beings are not usually alone [or faithfully, boringly married, like me here now] by coincidence).
P.S.
I could tell you the truth about me... but to seduce you, I will tell you the truth about you...
And that, my friends, is what some call an empathic narcissist. Being there, done that.
Zan is a horrible writer (his try-hard stylish prose completely backfires in terms of good literature, falling in too many commonplaces and affectation), but a knowledgeable and experienced man.
Paradoxically, it is a great book (for black belt pickup artists and/or everyone interested in interpersonal relationships) about kindness or manipulation, since pretending to be honest and caring is the last step to master from a sociopathic perspective (being genuinely honest and caring or wanting to improve at being so is another story).
In Hegel's dialectics terms:
1) Thesis: I'm a nice guy.
2) Antithesis: I'm a pickup artist.
3) Synthesis: I'm a honest and caring man who knows game but has forgotten everything about it for love and because that's my truer self.
This can work as effectively being genuine as being fake. It does make you neurotic and ultimately egomaniac, for the sick recreation in mind games (spiritual beings are not usually alone [or faithfully, boringly married, like me here now] by coincidence).
P.S.
I could tell you the truth about me... but to seduce you, I will tell you the truth about you...
And that, my friends, is what some call an empathic narcissist. Being there, done that.
January 4, 2016
> "At some point, every man needs to stand in front of the mirror, look himself in the eye, and ask himself the big questions, the hard questions, the immense questions. The question I asked myself was this: Have you ever been a woman’s fantasy? If not, why not?"
I decided to read this after seeing someone recommend it on the /r/seduction section of Reddit. While it does masquerade as a guide on how to appreciate and fully engage with and find beauty in women, it's also a guide on how to live a life aligned with your inner self - never regretting anything and always doing what you feel needs to be done. It is not your standard Pick-up-Artist (PUA) (think 'The Game') type of book of pick-up lines, approach techniques, negs, etc. You can categorize the book as fiction but we know that most of it is from the author's personal experience. An unnamed narrator, the author of 'Alabaster Girl' is riding a train and is interviewed by a female journalist who wants to know more about his escapades with women, what makes him tick and just how truthful 'Alabaster Girl' actually is. As you noticed, this book is titled the same as the fictitious book within it which the narrator wrote. Throughout it you'll find excerpts of the narrator's book where is he remembering all the good times with the girls in his life.
The writing is erudite and you will many times find yourself looking into a dictionary to figure out all the words that are used to describe the beautiful trysts of the narrator and his muses. (If you didn't know, a 'tryst' is a romantic rendezvous between lovers.) I found it annoying and trite at first, but later on I realized the book probably would not have worked well without this type of language. I feel that I'm to see the narrator as this pure soul searching for 'Beauty' in life, finding it through women and expressing his content and bliss to those women and thus spreading and creating more 'Beauty'. Without the elaborate language the message might be interpreted to be a baser one. You would see the narrator as a creep and not a lover of beauty, life and women, and you would have a harder time finishing the book; it would not flow as easily as it does in its current form.
> I can only think that if a man has never experienced a moment like this in his life, a moment surrounded by the whirling flowerness of an island girl, with the scent of orange blossom salt on her skin, her body the color of café-au-lait and as hard and smooth as porcelain, and little bits of sand still flecked all about her knees, then he needs to stop his life right now and find it. Only then has his life been lived.
These poetics paint a dreamy and imaginary landscape that the narrator inhabits. It's persuasive. You will find it hard to not wish for yourself for scenarios such as the above one. Nearly every interaction that the author describes he has had with women has this kind of ethereal quality. Throughout the central part of the book, you'll hear a number of his stories through which the narrator will give you pointers on what makes him a lover of women and various recollections of what has worked for him. A selection of quotes to get a feel for what you'll find in the book:
> "You would be amazed what a woman will do for a man who makes her feel like a queen."
> "Women give me everything. They give me women. They bring other women into my life."
> "The language of women is entirely sub-communicated."
> "Eye contact is the eighth wonder of the world, the solution to all the problems of men."
> "Most guys will hide their natural impulses because they really like you and want to give you a good impression. The difference between me and them is that I don’t hide my desires."
> "All great lovers have great empathy. It is the essence of their lover-ness. This is the secret of a man who loves women: his touch is always imbued with respect, honor, and empathy."
> "It is interesting that the traits we had as children are the traits we need to reclaim now. We squander our childhood gifts: our sense of wonder, of adventure, of learning, of curiosity."
The final part of the book concentrates on the overall 'self', how our current generation has a lost our way and how we need to get back on track. The message was similar to what you can find in many self-help books, but it's delivery method that was very good and the points strong and appealing. Leading all the way to this chapter we know the narrator deeply believes in finding and going towards 'Beauty'; he's spent all his life finding and engaging with it in the form of women. He's so loved that at one point one of his girls organizes a birthday party for him and invites twelve of his past girlfriends with their current boyfriends. They are all merry, and the narrator reminisces of all the beauty everyone here brings to his life. It's hard to read that and then not take his self-help advice more seriously than other books that are laundry lists of motivational quotations and things you should do. I read that and think 'This guy has lived his philosophy'.
> "When faced with two courses of action, two different paths before my eyes, and I have to make a decision, I do not ask which path will offer greater security, or which path will be better off financially, or which path will be approved of by family or friends. I ask only one question: Which path will give me the best memories?"
I can recommend the book.
I decided to read this after seeing someone recommend it on the /r/seduction section of Reddit. While it does masquerade as a guide on how to appreciate and fully engage with and find beauty in women, it's also a guide on how to live a life aligned with your inner self - never regretting anything and always doing what you feel needs to be done. It is not your standard Pick-up-Artist (PUA) (think 'The Game') type of book of pick-up lines, approach techniques, negs, etc. You can categorize the book as fiction but we know that most of it is from the author's personal experience. An unnamed narrator, the author of 'Alabaster Girl' is riding a train and is interviewed by a female journalist who wants to know more about his escapades with women, what makes him tick and just how truthful 'Alabaster Girl' actually is. As you noticed, this book is titled the same as the fictitious book within it which the narrator wrote. Throughout it you'll find excerpts of the narrator's book where is he remembering all the good times with the girls in his life.
The writing is erudite and you will many times find yourself looking into a dictionary to figure out all the words that are used to describe the beautiful trysts of the narrator and his muses. (If you didn't know, a 'tryst' is a romantic rendezvous between lovers.) I found it annoying and trite at first, but later on I realized the book probably would not have worked well without this type of language. I feel that I'm to see the narrator as this pure soul searching for 'Beauty' in life, finding it through women and expressing his content and bliss to those women and thus spreading and creating more 'Beauty'. Without the elaborate language the message might be interpreted to be a baser one. You would see the narrator as a creep and not a lover of beauty, life and women, and you would have a harder time finishing the book; it would not flow as easily as it does in its current form.
> I can only think that if a man has never experienced a moment like this in his life, a moment surrounded by the whirling flowerness of an island girl, with the scent of orange blossom salt on her skin, her body the color of café-au-lait and as hard and smooth as porcelain, and little bits of sand still flecked all about her knees, then he needs to stop his life right now and find it. Only then has his life been lived.
These poetics paint a dreamy and imaginary landscape that the narrator inhabits. It's persuasive. You will find it hard to not wish for yourself for scenarios such as the above one. Nearly every interaction that the author describes he has had with women has this kind of ethereal quality. Throughout the central part of the book, you'll hear a number of his stories through which the narrator will give you pointers on what makes him a lover of women and various recollections of what has worked for him. A selection of quotes to get a feel for what you'll find in the book:
> "You would be amazed what a woman will do for a man who makes her feel like a queen."
> "Women give me everything. They give me women. They bring other women into my life."
> "The language of women is entirely sub-communicated."
> "Eye contact is the eighth wonder of the world, the solution to all the problems of men."
> "Most guys will hide their natural impulses because they really like you and want to give you a good impression. The difference between me and them is that I don’t hide my desires."
> "All great lovers have great empathy. It is the essence of their lover-ness. This is the secret of a man who loves women: his touch is always imbued with respect, honor, and empathy."
> "It is interesting that the traits we had as children are the traits we need to reclaim now. We squander our childhood gifts: our sense of wonder, of adventure, of learning, of curiosity."
The final part of the book concentrates on the overall 'self', how our current generation has a lost our way and how we need to get back on track. The message was similar to what you can find in many self-help books, but it's delivery method that was very good and the points strong and appealing. Leading all the way to this chapter we know the narrator deeply believes in finding and going towards 'Beauty'; he's spent all his life finding and engaging with it in the form of women. He's so loved that at one point one of his girls organizes a birthday party for him and invites twelve of his past girlfriends with their current boyfriends. They are all merry, and the narrator reminisces of all the beauty everyone here brings to his life. It's hard to read that and then not take his self-help advice more seriously than other books that are laundry lists of motivational quotations and things you should do. I read that and think 'This guy has lived his philosophy'.
> "When faced with two courses of action, two different paths before my eyes, and I have to make a decision, I do not ask which path will offer greater security, or which path will be better off financially, or which path will be approved of by family or friends. I ask only one question: Which path will give me the best memories?"
I can recommend the book.
February 18, 2019
Truly beautiful and one of a kind! I felt quite sad when i completed it. Men can learn great deal from this book while women can realise what they already know. 5/5
February 7, 2017
I ordered this book because someone strongly recommended it to me. I was skeptical that it would help me with my problems connecting with women, but I decided to give it a try anyway. I was blown away by the messages within the book and couldn't put it down. Since I ordered it back in November of 2016, I've read it 3 times and am starting on my fourth read of it now. This book will be a book I read periodically throughout the rest of my life . It is that good! It's almost magical because every time I pick it up I read exactly what I need to read in that moment. If you are a man who is struggling to connect with women, get dates, etc. and read this book with an open mind and heart it will turn your world upside down. Reading this book was a very cathartic experience for me because it shined a light on the total lack of love and joy I had in my heart. I realized that this was the reason i've been woman repellent my entire life. One of the biggest themes of the book is the "seducer seduced" meaning that the man (seducer) has to be seduced by women before he can ever hope to be charming and magnetic. I used to be a bitter guy who thought women were nasty, manipulative, and delighted in hurting men. Basically, I was the opposite of a seducer. I had contempt for women and did not trust them. Is it any wonder my outer experiences with women were pretty crappy? This book changed all of that. I now actively seek beauty "and only beauty" and beauty is already starting to manifest in my life. I would recommend this book to anyone as it completely changed my life and how I view women, love, and life in general. Please read this book! You wont regret it.
November 7, 2018
Most people write from their minds, but I think this is the only book I have read written from the heart. It is so genuine, flowing, moving, inspiring. It is poetry written in prose form.
It is evident that Zan is an artist but not in writing, or storytelling, or poetry, but he is an artist of life. He makes beauty, love and freedom his primary values in life and continually dances between them. Once he becomes too preoccupied with beauty he remembers to be free and moves into the world with ease. He simply loves all women for they are the beautiful, magnificent, elegant and above all filled with the feminine spirit. The feminine spirit which has been chased away today by the feminists who wanted equality but got sameness. The feminine spirit which guards the potential of life in itself.
The author teaches us to be authentic to who we are. Dig deep down into our spirit, and discover ourselves. Discover our masculine spirit which has been emasculated. Discover our inner being and bring it into the world.
There is so much knowledge in the gender dynamics in this book. So much wisdom. And if Zan was not such a big fan of women, but of all human beings, this would be a spiritual book. A great read. I will read this book again.
It is evident that Zan is an artist but not in writing, or storytelling, or poetry, but he is an artist of life. He makes beauty, love and freedom his primary values in life and continually dances between them. Once he becomes too preoccupied with beauty he remembers to be free and moves into the world with ease. He simply loves all women for they are the beautiful, magnificent, elegant and above all filled with the feminine spirit. The feminine spirit which has been chased away today by the feminists who wanted equality but got sameness. The feminine spirit which guards the potential of life in itself.
The author teaches us to be authentic to who we are. Dig deep down into our spirit, and discover ourselves. Discover our masculine spirit which has been emasculated. Discover our inner being and bring it into the world.
There is so much knowledge in the gender dynamics in this book. So much wisdom. And if Zan was not such a big fan of women, but of all human beings, this would be a spiritual book. A great read. I will read this book again.
September 15, 2020
I have a lot of friends who are so pretty I thought they would be getting approached all the time.
Turns out that they don´t, or only at clubs, where men are drunk.
The man might be nice and have good intentions. He just wants to have fun, he finds her pretty, but he is hiding behind the mask of alcohol.
I have found out most of these pretty girls have tinder.
And I don´t blame them.
Tinder sucks, it is the dawn of relationships.
There is no eye contact, not any feeling in the stomach when you approach, there's no mystery of who you are going to be talking to, no intrigue, no wanting to find out if they like you, you become just a swipe in somebody´s life.
And it is not their fault, it is men´s fault.
Women just want to be loved, revered, understood. They want to know they were chosen for their beauty and their energy.
But men aren´t stepping up.
They are hiding behind the alcohol, behind their phones, behind lies.
They are busy counting tinder matches, phone numbers, and blowjobs.
Playing games, waiting two days to text. Hiding.
Men are hiding, and for this reason, women are hiding too.
As Zan says " women will always need men to celebrate them, and men in return, will always need women to inspire and contain them".
The world is becoming the way it is because men are forgetting to celebrate women the way they should. For this reason, there is a fight between the genders.
But the truth is we need each other.
We need to start celebrating women. Giving them our gifts, without expecting nothing in return.
We need to start watering our flowers, so they can grow as pretty and joyful as they can.
This book is the book men in the world need.
This is not just a book about relationships or getting the girl you want.
As Zan says:
"I don´t want a companion. I want an angel. I don´t want to date. I want to revere. I don´t want a casual encounter. I want an exquisite encounter. I don´t want to fill some supposed void in me. I want to step into a shared light"
This is a book about beauty, joy and true love. It is about aligning with yourself and your true purpose so the world aligns with you.
This book is about showing yourself to the world and never having a hidden agenda.
You are going to find a lot of people that are not for you.
But if you keep being your best self, aligning with your values and purpose, you will find your alabaster girl.
Turns out that they don´t, or only at clubs, where men are drunk.
The man might be nice and have good intentions. He just wants to have fun, he finds her pretty, but he is hiding behind the mask of alcohol.
I have found out most of these pretty girls have tinder.
And I don´t blame them.
Tinder sucks, it is the dawn of relationships.
There is no eye contact, not any feeling in the stomach when you approach, there's no mystery of who you are going to be talking to, no intrigue, no wanting to find out if they like you, you become just a swipe in somebody´s life.
And it is not their fault, it is men´s fault.
Women just want to be loved, revered, understood. They want to know they were chosen for their beauty and their energy.
But men aren´t stepping up.
They are hiding behind the alcohol, behind their phones, behind lies.
They are busy counting tinder matches, phone numbers, and blowjobs.
Playing games, waiting two days to text. Hiding.
Men are hiding, and for this reason, women are hiding too.
As Zan says " women will always need men to celebrate them, and men in return, will always need women to inspire and contain them".
The world is becoming the way it is because men are forgetting to celebrate women the way they should. For this reason, there is a fight between the genders.
But the truth is we need each other.
We need to start celebrating women. Giving them our gifts, without expecting nothing in return.
We need to start watering our flowers, so they can grow as pretty and joyful as they can.
This book is the book men in the world need.
This is not just a book about relationships or getting the girl you want.
As Zan says:
"I don´t want a companion. I want an angel. I don´t want to date. I want to revere. I don´t want a casual encounter. I want an exquisite encounter. I don´t want to fill some supposed void in me. I want to step into a shared light"
This is a book about beauty, joy and true love. It is about aligning with yourself and your true purpose so the world aligns with you.
This book is about showing yourself to the world and never having a hidden agenda.
You are going to find a lot of people that are not for you.
But if you keep being your best self, aligning with your values and purpose, you will find your alabaster girl.
May 19, 2015
A great mediocrity, written by someone full of phantasms and self indulgence. I couldn't go beyond the first 50 pages of the 416.
سخافة زهرية اللون، مؤلفها رجل فخور بغرامياته التي لا تستطيع امرأة الصمود أمامها. لم أستطع قراءة أكثر من 50 صفحة من أصل 416
سخافة زهرية اللون، مؤلفها رجل فخور بغرامياته التي لا تستطيع امرأة الصمود أمامها. لم أستطع قراءة أكثر من 50 صفحة من أصل 416
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March 21, 2014If you want to learn about how to live excellently, read this book.
July 12, 2023
The Alabaster Girl is not just a book, it's a way of living, a brief guide to the perspective of living life to the fullest, what should be looked at, and how. This book talks about men, women, relationships, and life. even though there's a love-hate connection between me and this book, I love how it recreates the perspective you have about women, facilitates the understanding of me and my woman, and the flow between us and US .
I love the sense of realization this book gives when describing the usual interactions nowadays and how ingenuine and insincere they are. I was told that this book will recreate your love for women, It did.It also mentions why people are what they are today (miserable, and victim minded), and the so-called war between men and women.
On the other hand, the other part of the book that I hesitate about and sometimes disagree with is the way the writer overly glorified women and some subjective perspectives of his, in addition to the "the way of Love" chapter that has so much modernity in it.
There's something about this book that makes it unique, it did not use either logical or emotional judgments, it used what I call "truth".
Overall this book is a great guide for aware men who already have an idea of the represented topics to a fulfilled life with meaning.
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I love the sense of realization this book gives when describing the usual interactions nowadays and how ingenuine and insincere they are. I was told that this book will recreate your love for women, It did.It also mentions why people are what they are today (miserable, and victim minded), and the so-called war between men and women.
On the other hand, the other part of the book that I hesitate about and sometimes disagree with is the way the writer overly glorified women and some subjective perspectives of his, in addition to the "the way of Love" chapter that has so much modernity in it.
There's something about this book that makes it unique, it did not use either logical or emotional judgments, it used what I call "truth".
Overall this book is a great guide for aware men who already have an idea of the represented topics to a fulfilled life with meaning.
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March 29, 2017
There isn’t much of a story here. It’s loosely about a woman interviewing a male writer who has written a book called “The Alabaster Girl.” This is a very small part of the book prefacing each of the nine chapters with just a few pages. Scattered throughout are “quotes” from this book within a book, which I found confusing at first, but may have been a more interesting story. This fictional writer has a reputation as a man who loves women and most of the book is spent rhapsodizing about them. That he frequently calls them girls or his girls was a little off putting and condescending. He advises men to be: “…strong enough to put them (women) in their place when they deserve it.” This is an outdated patriarchal attitude. However, I don’t believe this is his intention. His writing is beautifully poetic, and there is much great advice and possibly some revelations. So why have a story at all? Either forget it or give us more. All this rhapsodizing, beautifully written though it was, began to get quite repetitive at over 400 pages. More of the hinted at interview framed by his observations and his expounding upon them would’ve been a better book. Most of his musings were respectful and poetic and draw you into a dreamy world of adventure and passion, and in his perfect world, women love him and men admire him. But where is the story?
October 9, 2014
I really wanted to not like this book. I've only glanced into Zan's stuff from time to time. Being a reformed "pickup artist" myself, I found his philosophies to be wishy and washy and overly vague and poetic. But after reading The Alabaster Girl, I can say, yes, he is wishy and washy and overly poetic, but he's also a really good writer, a sensitive soul, and an incredibly insightful man.
His core philosophies on women, love, travel, career, have really opened my own ideas up to a few new ways of being. I've never really loved women the way Zan claims he does. Not that I hate women, not at all. It is also my life's mission to understand them. But Zan has a way of being that will bring women into his life whether he wants them or not. You get that from reading this tale.
The setting is on a train, and Zan is telling his story, his ideas, to a journalist. Within his story are letters to his former lovers, and philosophical waxings.
That's pretty much the book. It sounds simple, which it is. But I couldn't put it down. Loved it. Might even read it again one day.
And he's from my home town of Vancouver. Bonus points.
His core philosophies on women, love, travel, career, have really opened my own ideas up to a few new ways of being. I've never really loved women the way Zan claims he does. Not that I hate women, not at all. It is also my life's mission to understand them. But Zan has a way of being that will bring women into his life whether he wants them or not. You get that from reading this tale.
The setting is on a train, and Zan is telling his story, his ideas, to a journalist. Within his story are letters to his former lovers, and philosophical waxings.
That's pretty much the book. It sounds simple, which it is. But I couldn't put it down. Loved it. Might even read it again one day.
And he's from my home town of Vancouver. Bonus points.
August 23, 2019
Part self-help, part seduction, part poetry, part memoir. Admittedly i had my reservations, considering that Zan has adopted the "Johnny Depp" persona in late years, both in his outer style and the way he approaches seduction.
And yet the book actually delivers. It managed to capture the essence of seduction, close it in a bottle and infuse it in it's pages, bringing into light everything holding you back from truly loving and capturing the female spirit. Required reading, both for delving into seduction and comprehending the masculine-feminine polarity better.
And yet the book actually delivers. It managed to capture the essence of seduction, close it in a bottle and infuse it in it's pages, bringing into light everything holding you back from truly loving and capturing the female spirit. Required reading, both for delving into seduction and comprehending the masculine-feminine polarity better.
April 11, 2015
The best book I've read so far and I read a lot.
January 16, 2015
All I say for this book is that it comes from the author's heart. Highly recommended!
June 26, 2020
If you are wanting to know off the bat is this book going to help you have sex with beautiful women the answer to your question is most likely no.
However this book gets five whole pandemic stars for pure entertainment value. It stuck with me for a solid 3 weeks after I read it just because it was so novel in content. As far as literary value, it gets no stars. But as a collection of stand-alone quotes, I found it unexpectedly entertaining and sometimes insightful. It was like the quote machine that kept on giving and giving. This review contains my favorites.
I can't remember exactly why I chose this book but it was on some kind of list and my understanding was that it was about a man seducing a woman on a train. After I bought the book, Amazon began recommending books to me that had to do with techniques for picking up women and I realized that I had wandered into an unexpected genre.
The book is like a freak hybrid genre of self-help, fiction, autobiography, and celebration / mild objectification of women. It does not really make sense as a single narrative but works as a collection of quotes, some ridiculous, some amusingly obvious, and some quite insightful. It's not a super awesome pandemic book because most of the author's recommended techniques violate one or several social distancing guidelines and some of the descriptions can induce a yearning of the flesh.
As the book is really just a meandering collection of quotes, likewise this review will be a meandering collection of my favorite quotes with some commentary.
Perrion clarifies that he's not giving advice on how to just get phone numbers or to pick up women for a one-night stand but rather teaching men the techniques of empathy that will lead to a one or maybe even two month stand: "I know that wine and travel, wild flowers and women can only be truly experienced in their entirety, that all senses must be engaged, and that, ultimately, all beautiful things must end. Otherwise they are not beautiful. I give it a month. Maybe two." I think the author is talking about the ephemeral nature of experiencing beauty but honestly this just sounds exhausting to live life as a series of one month stands but then again I'm older than I used to be.
Most of the author's techniques involve lots of winking and making eye contact for a little big longer than necessary. Also, "... listen to them." "The secret to being mesmerizing to women is to listen to them and look deeply into their eyes." This is where you might be getting some value out of this book if you need to be told to listen to women.
"Eye contact is the eighth wonder of the world, the solutions to all the problems of men. Eye contact is the solutions to all of the problems of men." Listen to them and make eye contact.
But then this: "His respect for her is supreme and yet if she spends any time in his presence at all, he will bend her over without hesitation." I had to read this sentence about ten times before I realized that yes, he is talking about literally bending over the woman. It surprised me, because up until this moment everything in the book was about respect, empathy, winking and eye contact. Then all of a sudden the bending over.
Perrion randomly addresses such practical issues such as how to pick up a woman who is is a part of a girls night out (make friends with the leader) and how to conduct yourself in a threesome (with two other women obviously.)
Perrion states from the beginning that he likes women more than men and that he doesn't really like hanging out with men or interacting with them much at all.
"My entire life is a dedication, an official ceremony, a monument, to the song of women. Is not the curve of a woman the greatest creation of a benevolent God? Is not the smile of a woman the greatest source of inspiration on earth?" The Canadian is making a lot of sense.
"How can one devote his life to anything but a study of the poetics of women? It makes no sense to me to strive for anything else." It makes no sense.
Perrion is torn between whether the best feature of a woman is the small of her back or her calves:
"The French have a lovely word for the small of a woman's back: ensellure. This is, to me, the greatest curve of all. I suspect that entire novels have been written, entire mountains climbed, entire villages razed, because of the madness induced by the curvilinear sensuousness of the small of a woman's back." Definitely. I'll bet Helen of Troy had an amazing ensellure.
But, "You can tell everything about a woman by the shape of her calves. A great pair of legs is usually an indication of a pretty good body all around. Shapely legs usually means she takes great care of her health. It takes no more than a daily walk. Breasts and hair and various other things can be purchased. Calves never lie." Amen. No more than a daily walk.
On heels: "Heels accentuate and define the glories of a woman's legs: the arch of her calves, the firmness of her thighs, the hinted-at-imagery of a heart-shaped ass. Oh joy!" I am not sure if this is objectification or a form of worship but either way who doesn't love a heart-shaped ass.
On hormones. "Hormones take over and all logic goes out the window - doubly so if it is a full moon."
The full moon part seems dubious and the rest seems obvious.
On the special joys of period sex: "An ovulating woman is like a wildflower from a remote place, a little more ragged and disheveled and plucked than her friends, who are all arranged in rows in a carefully constructed garden. [What?] An ovulating woman is beauty personified. If only men knew what is possible with her on those great, dark, and sultry evenings." The evening was dark and sultry.
Perrion has no tolerance for men who don't have the courage to go after women to whom they are attracted. "When a man is attracted to a woman and he allows the moment to dissipate, he is letting his fathers down." Letting his fathers down! (Perrion explains that all men are by definition descended from men who have successfully gotten women and bent them to their will.)
"Never underestimate the power of showing up." I'm pretty sure that Woody Allen said this first.
And, "The greatest lovers please only themselves in bed." This seems like dubious advice at best.
Perrion reminds the reader again that women yearn to be "bent over" and that the mass of men have no clue about that. "Why do women never get the sense from men that they would, without hesitation and with full respect and delight, bend them over and ravish them? This is what women are desperate for." The author unfortunately does not give any more detail on how you can give women this sense that you will bend them over and ravish them, with full respect and delight, and without hesitation.
"And every chaste and innocent girl has a secret, dirty side. I don't care how prim and proper and innocent she may appear, every woman has a little bit of whore in her - for that one guy!" Although Perrion notes astutely that every woman has an inner whore, he does not really tell you how to tap into the inner whore. You need to figure that out on your own. Maybe he is reserving that kind of detail for his next book.
And, "You stand there before me in innocence, yet underneath that raffine elegance is a dirty, dirty girl, a trollop, a siren, a possession, a tramp, your body not perfect but fully embraced, and there is something lyrical and serene in the madness of it all." (This might be the author seducing the woman on the train. It's really not clear at all but again the theme of the inner trollop.
On freedom. "A woman must be free to leave. Only then might she stay." As opposed to chaining her to the bed.
On toxic masculinity. "The whole earth is out of balance, cloaked in an aggressive masculine energy, a systematic obliteration of the feminine. It is a dark and cataclysmic energy, bereft of any of the beautiful components of masculine energy - empathy, generosity, charm - and devoid of the countervailing saving grace and healing of the female spirit." This observation borders on genius and does indeed describe the source of most of the world's current problems.
On the #metoo movement, "Make no mistake, there is a fine line between a respectful, engaging touch and a creepy guy with wandering hands. It is a tap, not a stroke; a touch, not a massage. Women will recoil from a sticky, lingering, disrespectful tough, and understandably so, for this is a breaking of the covenant of respect between men and women, a violation of her personal space." Don't be a creepy handsy guy.
About 3/4ths of the way through the book, approximately where the denouement would be in a normal book, the author swerves full-on into erotica, with a 4-page description of a woman masturbating. It is entirely unclear to the reader why there is a 4-page description of a woman giving herself on orgasm; the author lets us know that this is something that doesn't particularly interest him because he's seen it so many time. Whatever.
On men longing for female energy. "Men long for female energy. They want nurturing spirits; instead they get women with semi-accessible holes." Such a way with words.
On threesomes, the author advises to never have a threesome involving another man. He doesn't like sword fights. Really solid advice. More importantly, he stresses that while engaged in a threesome with your girl and a second girl, it is absolutely critical that you give your girl all your sexual attention and never give the second girl any attention, sexual or otherwise, because this will cause your girl to get jealous and ruin your relationship. You should just let the third girl do her job which is undefined.
On social distancing. "There is something good and right and necessary about looking into the eyes and shaking the hands of our peers."
Perrion veers a little bit into sweat-based erotica: "You don't even know that I taste you each time I kiss your neck, but I do. And there in the exalted softness of your skin and in the salt of your sweat and in the desire of your perfumed essence, I linger and I taste you ... as deeply as if you were mine. I kiss and taste the wonder of you and I desire you completely in that moment; I want to take you right here, right now." Excellent use of the semi-colon.
Some other things .... The author has a mild obsession with red lipstick. "I will always walk across a room just to thank a woman for wearing red lipstick." He really likes red, "Red is the color of movement, of hurtling desire. To men, it is a gift from above, from the goddess Aphrodite, a reminder that life is fundamentally worth living, a happy interlude from the dreck and drear of this cold and graying world." I'm pretty sure Aphrodite never wore red lipstick and this is the same thing he said about eye contact.
"A man is happiest with a girl who reads books." Noted.
"A woman knows if she likes a man within the first few seconds, so there is little to be gained by hanging around and trying to be more interesting." You can't force it. Also an endorsement of speed-dating.
"A girl who is interested in you will always touch you, and always touch you first." OK.
"'Yeah, what about you? Do you like to cuddle?' 'Yes.' 'So do I ... doggy-style!' She laughs and hits me again." Don't be afraid to get verbal about doggy-style.
"Where you look is where your life goes. Head toward the light and only the light."
Men need direction: "The simple truth is that men need direction in life. They need to be pointing towards something constantly. Women sit down to pee ... Men need something to aim at."
Finally, "This is the secret to living and loving; everything must be experienced on all levels, everything must be explored, every invitation accepted, every experience fully immersed." OK, got it. Still no threesomes with other dudes though.
And no idea what happened with the story about seducing the woman on the train. Regardless, this is the most bizarrely entertaining book I've read but it probably won't help get you laid.
However this book gets five whole pandemic stars for pure entertainment value. It stuck with me for a solid 3 weeks after I read it just because it was so novel in content. As far as literary value, it gets no stars. But as a collection of stand-alone quotes, I found it unexpectedly entertaining and sometimes insightful. It was like the quote machine that kept on giving and giving. This review contains my favorites.
I can't remember exactly why I chose this book but it was on some kind of list and my understanding was that it was about a man seducing a woman on a train. After I bought the book, Amazon began recommending books to me that had to do with techniques for picking up women and I realized that I had wandered into an unexpected genre.
The book is like a freak hybrid genre of self-help, fiction, autobiography, and celebration / mild objectification of women. It does not really make sense as a single narrative but works as a collection of quotes, some ridiculous, some amusingly obvious, and some quite insightful. It's not a super awesome pandemic book because most of the author's recommended techniques violate one or several social distancing guidelines and some of the descriptions can induce a yearning of the flesh.
As the book is really just a meandering collection of quotes, likewise this review will be a meandering collection of my favorite quotes with some commentary.
Perrion clarifies that he's not giving advice on how to just get phone numbers or to pick up women for a one-night stand but rather teaching men the techniques of empathy that will lead to a one or maybe even two month stand: "I know that wine and travel, wild flowers and women can only be truly experienced in their entirety, that all senses must be engaged, and that, ultimately, all beautiful things must end. Otherwise they are not beautiful. I give it a month. Maybe two." I think the author is talking about the ephemeral nature of experiencing beauty but honestly this just sounds exhausting to live life as a series of one month stands but then again I'm older than I used to be.
Most of the author's techniques involve lots of winking and making eye contact for a little big longer than necessary. Also, "... listen to them." "The secret to being mesmerizing to women is to listen to them and look deeply into their eyes." This is where you might be getting some value out of this book if you need to be told to listen to women.
"Eye contact is the eighth wonder of the world, the solutions to all the problems of men. Eye contact is the solutions to all of the problems of men." Listen to them and make eye contact.
But then this: "His respect for her is supreme and yet if she spends any time in his presence at all, he will bend her over without hesitation." I had to read this sentence about ten times before I realized that yes, he is talking about literally bending over the woman. It surprised me, because up until this moment everything in the book was about respect, empathy, winking and eye contact. Then all of a sudden the bending over.
Perrion randomly addresses such practical issues such as how to pick up a woman who is is a part of a girls night out (make friends with the leader) and how to conduct yourself in a threesome (with two other women obviously.)
Perrion states from the beginning that he likes women more than men and that he doesn't really like hanging out with men or interacting with them much at all.
"My entire life is a dedication, an official ceremony, a monument, to the song of women. Is not the curve of a woman the greatest creation of a benevolent God? Is not the smile of a woman the greatest source of inspiration on earth?" The Canadian is making a lot of sense.
"How can one devote his life to anything but a study of the poetics of women? It makes no sense to me to strive for anything else." It makes no sense.
Perrion is torn between whether the best feature of a woman is the small of her back or her calves:
"The French have a lovely word for the small of a woman's back: ensellure. This is, to me, the greatest curve of all. I suspect that entire novels have been written, entire mountains climbed, entire villages razed, because of the madness induced by the curvilinear sensuousness of the small of a woman's back." Definitely. I'll bet Helen of Troy had an amazing ensellure.
But, "You can tell everything about a woman by the shape of her calves. A great pair of legs is usually an indication of a pretty good body all around. Shapely legs usually means she takes great care of her health. It takes no more than a daily walk. Breasts and hair and various other things can be purchased. Calves never lie." Amen. No more than a daily walk.
On heels: "Heels accentuate and define the glories of a woman's legs: the arch of her calves, the firmness of her thighs, the hinted-at-imagery of a heart-shaped ass. Oh joy!" I am not sure if this is objectification or a form of worship but either way who doesn't love a heart-shaped ass.
On hormones. "Hormones take over and all logic goes out the window - doubly so if it is a full moon."
The full moon part seems dubious and the rest seems obvious.
On the special joys of period sex: "An ovulating woman is like a wildflower from a remote place, a little more ragged and disheveled and plucked than her friends, who are all arranged in rows in a carefully constructed garden. [What?] An ovulating woman is beauty personified. If only men knew what is possible with her on those great, dark, and sultry evenings." The evening was dark and sultry.
Perrion has no tolerance for men who don't have the courage to go after women to whom they are attracted. "When a man is attracted to a woman and he allows the moment to dissipate, he is letting his fathers down." Letting his fathers down! (Perrion explains that all men are by definition descended from men who have successfully gotten women and bent them to their will.)
"Never underestimate the power of showing up." I'm pretty sure that Woody Allen said this first.
And, "The greatest lovers please only themselves in bed." This seems like dubious advice at best.
Perrion reminds the reader again that women yearn to be "bent over" and that the mass of men have no clue about that. "Why do women never get the sense from men that they would, without hesitation and with full respect and delight, bend them over and ravish them? This is what women are desperate for." The author unfortunately does not give any more detail on how you can give women this sense that you will bend them over and ravish them, with full respect and delight, and without hesitation.
"And every chaste and innocent girl has a secret, dirty side. I don't care how prim and proper and innocent she may appear, every woman has a little bit of whore in her - for that one guy!" Although Perrion notes astutely that every woman has an inner whore, he does not really tell you how to tap into the inner whore. You need to figure that out on your own. Maybe he is reserving that kind of detail for his next book.
And, "You stand there before me in innocence, yet underneath that raffine elegance is a dirty, dirty girl, a trollop, a siren, a possession, a tramp, your body not perfect but fully embraced, and there is something lyrical and serene in the madness of it all." (This might be the author seducing the woman on the train. It's really not clear at all but again the theme of the inner trollop.
On freedom. "A woman must be free to leave. Only then might she stay." As opposed to chaining her to the bed.
On toxic masculinity. "The whole earth is out of balance, cloaked in an aggressive masculine energy, a systematic obliteration of the feminine. It is a dark and cataclysmic energy, bereft of any of the beautiful components of masculine energy - empathy, generosity, charm - and devoid of the countervailing saving grace and healing of the female spirit." This observation borders on genius and does indeed describe the source of most of the world's current problems.
On the #metoo movement, "Make no mistake, there is a fine line between a respectful, engaging touch and a creepy guy with wandering hands. It is a tap, not a stroke; a touch, not a massage. Women will recoil from a sticky, lingering, disrespectful tough, and understandably so, for this is a breaking of the covenant of respect between men and women, a violation of her personal space." Don't be a creepy handsy guy.
About 3/4ths of the way through the book, approximately where the denouement would be in a normal book, the author swerves full-on into erotica, with a 4-page description of a woman masturbating. It is entirely unclear to the reader why there is a 4-page description of a woman giving herself on orgasm; the author lets us know that this is something that doesn't particularly interest him because he's seen it so many time. Whatever.
On men longing for female energy. "Men long for female energy. They want nurturing spirits; instead they get women with semi-accessible holes." Such a way with words.
On threesomes, the author advises to never have a threesome involving another man. He doesn't like sword fights. Really solid advice. More importantly, he stresses that while engaged in a threesome with your girl and a second girl, it is absolutely critical that you give your girl all your sexual attention and never give the second girl any attention, sexual or otherwise, because this will cause your girl to get jealous and ruin your relationship. You should just let the third girl do her job which is undefined.
On social distancing. "There is something good and right and necessary about looking into the eyes and shaking the hands of our peers."
Perrion veers a little bit into sweat-based erotica: "You don't even know that I taste you each time I kiss your neck, but I do. And there in the exalted softness of your skin and in the salt of your sweat and in the desire of your perfumed essence, I linger and I taste you ... as deeply as if you were mine. I kiss and taste the wonder of you and I desire you completely in that moment; I want to take you right here, right now." Excellent use of the semi-colon.
Some other things .... The author has a mild obsession with red lipstick. "I will always walk across a room just to thank a woman for wearing red lipstick." He really likes red, "Red is the color of movement, of hurtling desire. To men, it is a gift from above, from the goddess Aphrodite, a reminder that life is fundamentally worth living, a happy interlude from the dreck and drear of this cold and graying world." I'm pretty sure Aphrodite never wore red lipstick and this is the same thing he said about eye contact.
"A man is happiest with a girl who reads books." Noted.
"A woman knows if she likes a man within the first few seconds, so there is little to be gained by hanging around and trying to be more interesting." You can't force it. Also an endorsement of speed-dating.
"A girl who is interested in you will always touch you, and always touch you first." OK.
"'Yeah, what about you? Do you like to cuddle?' 'Yes.' 'So do I ... doggy-style!' She laughs and hits me again." Don't be afraid to get verbal about doggy-style.
"Where you look is where your life goes. Head toward the light and only the light."
Men need direction: "The simple truth is that men need direction in life. They need to be pointing towards something constantly. Women sit down to pee ... Men need something to aim at."
Finally, "This is the secret to living and loving; everything must be experienced on all levels, everything must be explored, every invitation accepted, every experience fully immersed." OK, got it. Still no threesomes with other dudes though.
And no idea what happened with the story about seducing the woman on the train. Regardless, this is the most bizarrely entertaining book I've read but it probably won't help get you laid.
December 13, 2025
Rating: 3.5/5
A polarizing mix of genuine love + life advice and narcissistic indulgence. While the book offers moments of profound beauty that force you to stop and think, they are often buried under the author's ego.
The text is significantly bloated, it could be half the length and still convey the same message. You have to sift through a lot of self-aggrandizement to find the gems. Great insights are frequently interrupted by performative passages like this:
A polarizing mix of genuine love + life advice and narcissistic indulgence. While the book offers moments of profound beauty that force you to stop and think, they are often buried under the author's ego.
The text is significantly bloated, it could be half the length and still convey the same message. You have to sift through a lot of self-aggrandizement to find the gems. Great insights are frequently interrupted by performative passages like this:
A man who loves women delights in his desires... If a woman asks him something like, “So… what made you decide to visit this city?” he smiles to her and says, “Why? Because I love women, that’s why. What’s your name again?"
May 12, 2021
The rare times I will give 5 stars.
Sometimes you get a book on your lap which you do not expect and once you start reading you realise you have a gem. This book is a must for men. Women will also find it useful although they know most of the content already.
This book is an ode to feminity and a wake up call to masculinity. He talks about how the purpose of men is to appreciate the beauty of women,their vibrant energy and how to use masculinity in this dance.
Current media or modern society portrays an erroneous version of what is a man's role. You don't have role models anymore only extreme versions of men and portrayals of the worst in men. It's either too aggressive or too nice. The result is men who are confused and who seek guidance from pick up artists and the so called seduction community. These guys may be well intentioned but they encourage manipulation and show women as a trophy to be won rather than a person to build a relationship with. The feminist movement wanted equality but brought in sameness. The art of séduction is lost.
This book is written as a poem and truly there was no better way to write it. Firmly recommend. Be a lover of women and their feminine energy. Enjoy every moment in life with full senses
Sometimes you get a book on your lap which you do not expect and once you start reading you realise you have a gem. This book is a must for men. Women will also find it useful although they know most of the content already.
This book is an ode to feminity and a wake up call to masculinity. He talks about how the purpose of men is to appreciate the beauty of women,their vibrant energy and how to use masculinity in this dance.
Current media or modern society portrays an erroneous version of what is a man's role. You don't have role models anymore only extreme versions of men and portrayals of the worst in men. It's either too aggressive or too nice. The result is men who are confused and who seek guidance from pick up artists and the so called seduction community. These guys may be well intentioned but they encourage manipulation and show women as a trophy to be won rather than a person to build a relationship with. The feminist movement wanted equality but brought in sameness. The art of séduction is lost.
This book is written as a poem and truly there was no better way to write it. Firmly recommend. Be a lover of women and their feminine energy. Enjoy every moment in life with full senses
March 14, 2015
4/5 (I'm honest, I just don't agree with everything).
I really enjoyed reading this book and I will re-read some passages for a lot of times again. First of all I just fell in love with the amazing beauty of the writing style, but also about how Zan sees the world, his life and his view on relations and especially women.
He goes to a really deep level which you can't really understand if you're not that experienced yet. You will only understand a lot of those situations by time, when you're on your own journey. For myself, who is already enjoying the company of beautiful women for a long time, It still gave me a lot of new inspiration and I can't imagine living without some of his wisdom anymore. I wished somebody told me those things too, when I started my journey.
It's like a bright light shining from another angle in this black box. It is a very respectful way towards women and the female spirit and shows, that being a "real" nice guy offers you every opportunity.
If you want to love women or already do, and want to become better with them, don't miss this book. It doesn't give you direct advice, but if you can read between the lines you will fully understand and it will give you everything you need.
[Small Spoiler]
There are just couple of things I don't agree with totally, but I understand that it was way harder to get information in those times. One example is, that Zan tells, he never had a Mentor or somebody who could teach him, beside of women. This probably just takes you way more time and effort to learn everything by trial& error. There is nothing bad about taking advice and help of people (or books) you believe are good in it. For that a even bigger thank you, for sharing your experience with the world Zan.
I really enjoyed reading this book and I will re-read some passages for a lot of times again. First of all I just fell in love with the amazing beauty of the writing style, but also about how Zan sees the world, his life and his view on relations and especially women.
He goes to a really deep level which you can't really understand if you're not that experienced yet. You will only understand a lot of those situations by time, when you're on your own journey. For myself, who is already enjoying the company of beautiful women for a long time, It still gave me a lot of new inspiration and I can't imagine living without some of his wisdom anymore. I wished somebody told me those things too, when I started my journey.
It's like a bright light shining from another angle in this black box. It is a very respectful way towards women and the female spirit and shows, that being a "real" nice guy offers you every opportunity.
If you want to love women or already do, and want to become better with them, don't miss this book. It doesn't give you direct advice, but if you can read between the lines you will fully understand and it will give you everything you need.
[Small Spoiler]
There are just couple of things I don't agree with totally, but I understand that it was way harder to get information in those times. One example is, that Zan tells, he never had a Mentor or somebody who could teach him, beside of women. This probably just takes you way more time and effort to learn everything by trial& error. There is nothing bad about taking advice and help of people (or books) you believe are good in it. For that a even bigger thank you, for sharing your experience with the world Zan.
August 15, 2018
Admiring beauty and being thankful for what woman offer men.
At first, this book had conflicts with my views on red pill group or what a "white knight" is. And yet, the feminine quality a woman has, to go with a masculine man without an agenda, is what beauty is all about. Freedom. To enjoy what is given to you. What the world has to offer.
It feels good to understand and appreciate the moments we have with women. And that is what these beautiful moments are, happy memories.
A French proverb - "In every relationship, there is the one who kisses and the one who offers the cheek." (on a side note, I love French women, their presence is inviting ;)
It takes a deeper appreciation to stay in communication with a girl who loves you. Don't become a "Nice Guy". Don't reveal your 'everything' to women. Don't expect anything out of your offer... your invitation.
Become curious about women. A student of women. A lover of women. In abundance, love, and freedom.
At first, this book had conflicts with my views on red pill group or what a "white knight" is. And yet, the feminine quality a woman has, to go with a masculine man without an agenda, is what beauty is all about. Freedom. To enjoy what is given to you. What the world has to offer.
It feels good to understand and appreciate the moments we have with women. And that is what these beautiful moments are, happy memories.
A French proverb - "In every relationship, there is the one who kisses and the one who offers the cheek." (on a side note, I love French women, their presence is inviting ;)
It takes a deeper appreciation to stay in communication with a girl who loves you. Don't become a "Nice Guy". Don't reveal your 'everything' to women. Don't expect anything out of your offer... your invitation.
Become curious about women. A student of women. A lover of women. In abundance, love, and freedom.
January 26, 2025
This guy seems entirely full of himself—a legend in his own mind. I can’t imagine what kind of woman would be drawn to, let alone desire, someone like him.
Frankly, I smell bullshit.
Then again, maybe there’s an audience for a man wielding a thesaurus, drowning his literary love potion in syrupy obsequiousness toward women while simultaneously downplaying his supposed brilliance and charm—all in a single run-on sentence.
I’m disappointed he missed the chance to recount how he saved a busload of nuns and blind orphans from certain death, by steering a six-ton vehicle with failed brakes down a 25-mile mountain riddled with hairpin turns.
I had expected something insightful, perhaps an exploration of the feminine mystique. Instead, I got a kitschy cash grab from an over-adjective-slinging, alliteration-obsessed, self-identified Lothario.
This one goes straight to the pile of books that feel like a sad waste of money.
This book deserves zero stars.
Frankly, I smell bullshit.
Then again, maybe there’s an audience for a man wielding a thesaurus, drowning his literary love potion in syrupy obsequiousness toward women while simultaneously downplaying his supposed brilliance and charm—all in a single run-on sentence.
I’m disappointed he missed the chance to recount how he saved a busload of nuns and blind orphans from certain death, by steering a six-ton vehicle with failed brakes down a 25-mile mountain riddled with hairpin turns.
I had expected something insightful, perhaps an exploration of the feminine mystique. Instead, I got a kitschy cash grab from an over-adjective-slinging, alliteration-obsessed, self-identified Lothario.
This one goes straight to the pile of books that feel like a sad waste of money.
This book deserves zero stars.
September 20, 2019
Enigmatic, charming, different, definitely offers an interesting perspective on intergender dynamics, seduction and aesthetics. I personally found Zan Perrion's style of writing quite beautiful, when others my find it try-hard or cheesy, it's all a matter of how it makes you feel and how you react to that type of sentimental expression. The book opened my eyes to a deeper side of connecting with other people, not only women. It showed me the importance of being empathetic, relaxed, observing, but most importantly, genuinely infatuated with the other person. It's not a masterpiece, it might even confuse you, but I wholeheartedly recommend it.
September 1, 2015
This book takes you on a journey, evokes intrigue and connect you with the modern dating world and a glimpse into the mindset of a seducer. When I was reading this book, I had a pen to underline the parts that stand out to me and I found it so compelling that I wanted to absorb all that I could. What I ended up with was endless chapters of underlined literature on every single page. This book is a breath of fresh air and will be the best companion for those who are willing to learn more about men, women and romance.
January 8, 2015
This book is like no other book about women out there, there is no sense of giving advice or other self help nonsense.
Instead the author shares his point of view, the beauty he has seen and is even willing to share with us his most beautiful encounters with women.
The Alabaster Girl is full of golden nuggets and provides the perfect inspiration to open up to more beauty in your own life.
This book is for women and men alike, and I'm sure both will appreciate it.
Instead the author shares his point of view, the beauty he has seen and is even willing to share with us his most beautiful encounters with women.
The Alabaster Girl is full of golden nuggets and provides the perfect inspiration to open up to more beauty in your own life.
This book is for women and men alike, and I'm sure both will appreciate it.
January 24, 2025
I was quite excited to read this book, and the first few pages were promising. However, it felt fickle. I would have finished it if there had been more depth to his points. For me, it came off as cliché and narcissistic. He touches on a lot of topics, presenting them as "the way," and that doesn’t sit comfortably with me, especially if people are using this book as their go-to guide to date or whatever.
Sorry! I couldnot take this book seriously. It felt like reading watered down rom-com.
Sorry! I couldnot take this book seriously. It felt like reading watered down rom-com.
October 4, 2015
As a young woman i can say he understand women's mind,emotion, desires, fears and body language perfectly. though i do not agree with everything, most of what he says is valid and can be deemed as good life principle. overall it's a very good book
November 29, 2017
High level advice and very emotional. Very good if you're looking for a very natural approach to game.
Main ideas:
Be a lover of the feminine spirit! Surround yourself with women, do not only game the pretty ones! Charisma is not sth you turn on and off, it's something you are!
Main ideas:
Be a lover of the feminine spirit! Surround yourself with women, do not only game the pretty ones! Charisma is not sth you turn on and off, it's something you are!
February 3, 2015
A book about beauty, how to celebrate it and keep it for always in our lives.
Thank you Zann for bringing these insights in our lives.
Thank you Zann for bringing these insights in our lives.
April 25, 2020
Game over book. Renounce everything
December 19, 2018
A delightful engaging book.
This isn't a book on tips or tricks to get women in bed. It's a book on celebrating women and life. It's an absolute pleasure to read.
This isn't a book on tips or tricks to get women in bed. It's a book on celebrating women and life. It's an absolute pleasure to read.
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