Don't Take It Personal: A Memoir

by Sarah Shaffer

I write about the lifestyle of a Black female, which experience foster care, single-hood, marriage and divorce, all which are relatable to a wide diverse female population beyond my race. I am a first-time author hoping my life story may intrigue, inspire and enlighten readers on trials and tribulations of a black girl growing up on the Southside of Chicago in an unconventional family and marrying into a more conventional family with an extraordinary background of black “assumed” wealth. I believe Amazon can market my book to people of all races to possibly identify with the black culture, and to educating people of other cultures on the vast intricate fabric of a black family. The book is formatted in chronological order from birth to middle age and it describes several life events from tragic deaths to young adult journey and first marriage. I detail how I attempt to survive loss, develop relationships, keep secrets, protect my most vulnerable attachments and understand denial and rejection, specifically my life lessons. There are poems interjected throughout which reflect my emotions during an event. Some local and national historical events are also mention. The overall expectation for the reader is to acknowledge life events and how an individual may overcome and know not everything is personal. Below is the listed
TABLE OF CONTENTS


I. Your Deal………..pg. 3-8

II. Evolving & Revolving pg. 9-16

III. A Single Hand pg. 17-29

IV. Secrecy…Rules pg. 30-42

V. Status…. Keeping Up with The Jones pg. 43-56

VI. Life Developments pg. 57-66

VII. What is this? Love pg. 67-85

VIII. Mistrust & Marriage goes hand-in-hand pg. 86-97

IX. The Confession & Separation pg. 98-107

X. Death & Divorce pg. 108-114

XI. Crash & Burn pg. 115-124

XII. Sanity & Reality 125-129


I strongly feel my life is unique enough to acknowledge and publish on an open forum, and specifically bring attention to an extraordinary black life. I respectfully hope, you may see the uniqueness in not only my writing but in my life, where you will also feel this story is worthy to publish.

128 pages, Paperback

Published December 31, 2024

Reviews

[Vivian · Rating 5 out of 5]

This memoir is an inspiring and heartfelt read that will appeal to those who appreciate honest, introspective storytelling. Her ability to share innate and personal experiences from her childhood through her first marriage will resonate with many. Some of her experiences will surely tug at your emotions and heart. The author's journey serves as a reminder that personal growth is a lifelong process and that resilience often comes from embracing life's imperfections. The author's story leaves a lasting impression and is worth adding to your reading list.