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I Didn't Choose to Be Born: How to Recover from Being Raised by Emotionally Distant, Neglectful, Unsupportive or Narcissistic Parents and Reclaim Your Sense of Self-Worth and Inner Peace
Did you grow up feeling unseen, unheard, or unimportant in your own home?
Maybe your parents were emotionally distant, overly critical, or made you feel like your needs were a burden. Perhaps you learned early on to hide your feelings, take on adult responsibilities as a child, or strive for perfection just to feel loved and accepted. These experiences don’t stay in the past—they often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves and relate to others. But here’s the good your past doesn’t have to define your future.
In I Didn’t Choose to Be Born, certified early childhood trauma specialist Lineo Ratia offers a compassionate and practical guide for anyone struggling to heal from the lasting effects of a painful upbringing. This book helps you connect the dots between your past and present, explaining the psychological reasons why you may find yourself mirroring or attracting people who are emotionally distant, neglectful, or narcissistic—just like your caregivers were.
With actionable strategies and expert insights, I Didn’t Choose to Be Born empowers you to overcome your childhood trauma, reclaim your self-worth, and build the emotionally fulfilling life you deserve.
Does This Resonate With You?
• Do you struggle with feelings of sadness, anger, or shame you can’t quite explain?
• Do you find it hard to trust others or maintain healthy relationships?
• Do you feel like you’re always bracing for criticism or rejection, even in safe environments?
• Do you feel the deep, lingering effects of a complicated relationship with your mother or father?
If so, this book was written for you.
What You’ll Discover
• Understanding the Mother and Father Explore how unmet needs, emotional neglect, or conditional love from a parent can create deep wounds that profoundly shape your sense of self, relationships, and emotional health into adulthood.
• The Roots of Gain clarity on dysfunctional parenting styles—whether emotionally distant, neglectful, unsupportive, or narcissistic—and how these experiences shape your mental health, relationships, and self-esteem.
• Breaking Free from Childhood Learn how survival strategies, like people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or striving for perfection, continue to affect your life as an adult.
• Practical Steps for Discover tools to heal from narcissistic abuse and emotionally immature parents, process your emotions, nurture your inner child, and build healthy boundaries to protect your peace.
• Stories That Validate and Connect with real-life accounts from others who’ve faced similar challenges, offering comfort, validation, and hope.
• Breaking the Empower yourself with practical tools to stop repeating harmful patterns in your relationships and pave the way for a brighter future—for yourself, your children, and future generations.
Why This Book?
Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave invisible scars, but it doesn’t have to define the rest of your life. With a combination of professional expertise and personal insight, Lineo Ratia shares practical strategies and compassionate guidance to help you heal and grow.
You’re not broken—you’re healing.
Maybe your parents were emotionally distant, overly critical, or made you feel like your needs were a burden. Perhaps you learned early on to hide your feelings, take on adult responsibilities as a child, or strive for perfection just to feel loved and accepted. These experiences don’t stay in the past—they often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves and relate to others. But here’s the good your past doesn’t have to define your future.
In I Didn’t Choose to Be Born, certified early childhood trauma specialist Lineo Ratia offers a compassionate and practical guide for anyone struggling to heal from the lasting effects of a painful upbringing. This book helps you connect the dots between your past and present, explaining the psychological reasons why you may find yourself mirroring or attracting people who are emotionally distant, neglectful, or narcissistic—just like your caregivers were.
With actionable strategies and expert insights, I Didn’t Choose to Be Born empowers you to overcome your childhood trauma, reclaim your self-worth, and build the emotionally fulfilling life you deserve.
Does This Resonate With You?
• Do you struggle with feelings of sadness, anger, or shame you can’t quite explain?
• Do you find it hard to trust others or maintain healthy relationships?
• Do you feel like you’re always bracing for criticism or rejection, even in safe environments?
• Do you feel the deep, lingering effects of a complicated relationship with your mother or father?
If so, this book was written for you.
What You’ll Discover
• Understanding the Mother and Father Explore how unmet needs, emotional neglect, or conditional love from a parent can create deep wounds that profoundly shape your sense of self, relationships, and emotional health into adulthood.
• The Roots of Gain clarity on dysfunctional parenting styles—whether emotionally distant, neglectful, unsupportive, or narcissistic—and how these experiences shape your mental health, relationships, and self-esteem.
• Breaking Free from Childhood Learn how survival strategies, like people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or striving for perfection, continue to affect your life as an adult.
• Practical Steps for Discover tools to heal from narcissistic abuse and emotionally immature parents, process your emotions, nurture your inner child, and build healthy boundaries to protect your peace.
• Stories That Validate and Connect with real-life accounts from others who’ve faced similar challenges, offering comfort, validation, and hope.
• Breaking the Empower yourself with practical tools to stop repeating harmful patterns in your relationships and pave the way for a brighter future—for yourself, your children, and future generations.
Why This Book?
Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave invisible scars, but it doesn’t have to define the rest of your life. With a combination of professional expertise and personal insight, Lineo Ratia shares practical strategies and compassionate guidance to help you heal and grow.
You’re not broken—you’re healing.
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461 pages, Kindle Edition
Published January 2, 2025
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January 5, 2025
A Life-Changing Guide to Healing Childhood Wounds
“I Didn’t Choose to Be Born” is more than just a self-help guide—it’s a lifeline for anyone navigating the aftermath of childhood trauma. The author masterfully blends compassion, wisdom, and practical advice, offering readers a roadmap to reclaim their authenticity and heal their inner child.
This book doesn’t shy away from the tough conversations. It validates the pain of growing up with unsupportive, neglectful, or narcissistic parents while empowering readers to move beyond victimhood. With its deeply personal tone and actionable strategies, it feels like a conversation with a trusted friend who truly understands.
One of the standout features is how the author tailors healing practices to specific types of trauma, making the advice both relatable and actionable. From setting healthy boundaries to overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, every chapter feels like a step toward emotional freedom and self-worth.
The writing is heartfelt, clear, and deeply resonant, addressing not just the psychological impact of childhood trauma but also offering hope and guidance for recovery. The section on inner child work is particularly transformative, blending theory with exercises that encourage profound self-reflection and growth.
If you’re ready to break free from the chains of your past and step into a life of self-acceptance and peace, this book is a must-read. It’s not just a guide—it’s a gift of healing.
Highly recommended for anyone seeking emotional liberation and a more fulfilling life. Five stars!
“I Didn’t Choose to Be Born” is more than just a self-help guide—it’s a lifeline for anyone navigating the aftermath of childhood trauma. The author masterfully blends compassion, wisdom, and practical advice, offering readers a roadmap to reclaim their authenticity and heal their inner child.
This book doesn’t shy away from the tough conversations. It validates the pain of growing up with unsupportive, neglectful, or narcissistic parents while empowering readers to move beyond victimhood. With its deeply personal tone and actionable strategies, it feels like a conversation with a trusted friend who truly understands.
One of the standout features is how the author tailors healing practices to specific types of trauma, making the advice both relatable and actionable. From setting healthy boundaries to overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, every chapter feels like a step toward emotional freedom and self-worth.
The writing is heartfelt, clear, and deeply resonant, addressing not just the psychological impact of childhood trauma but also offering hope and guidance for recovery. The section on inner child work is particularly transformative, blending theory with exercises that encourage profound self-reflection and growth.
If you’re ready to break free from the chains of your past and step into a life of self-acceptance and peace, this book is a must-read. It’s not just a guide—it’s a gift of healing.
Highly recommended for anyone seeking emotional liberation and a more fulfilling life. Five stars!
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