Break Up with Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free ― The 4-Step Plan for Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

by Alina Kastner

Reclaim your life from the relentless cycle of narcissistic abuse with this clear, actionable four-step plan.

There is no winning with a narcissistic partner—and no one should have to play their game to survive. In Break Up with Narcissism, Dr. Alina Kastner, clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships, delivers the ultimate guide to freeing yourself from narcissistic abuse.

For anyone who feels trapped, hopeless, or broken in their relationship, this book offers a lifeline. With empathy and expert insight, Dr. Kastner exposes the damaging myths that promise change if you “just try harder” and replaces them with an accessible four-step

Recognize the abuse dynamicProtect your emotional healthBreak freeHeal
Blending professional guidance with the compassionate tone of a nurturing friend, Break Up with Narcissism is the empowering roadmap to rediscovering your strength, your worth, and the joy of being fully yourself again. This is your beginning—and your breakthrough.

240 pages, Hardcover

Published December 30, 2025

Reviews

[Briane · Rating 5 out of 5]

While this book is mainly focused on identifying and removing yourself from romantic narcissistic abuse, I was able to see things about other relationships in my life. It gave me additionaly understanding to why it is so difficult for some to break free from someone even their friends or family can see is harmful. The book also provides good exercises to remind the reader to not feel guilty for getting entangled by the narcissist's web, improve the reader's self-esteem, and reinforce to the reader that they are worthy of love without the conditionals narcissist's place upon any relationship.

[Tom Taylor · Rating 4 out of 5]

I received an Advanced Readers Copy of this book to evaluate it for my public library's collection. I ordered it. It is a good resource for people looking to understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder and for those seeking to break free from a toxic relationship.

I found the first part of the book to be very helpful in identifying toxic traits of NPD and how NPD is diagnosed.

I am not in a relationship with a narcissist so I cannot give an assessment of the plan to action. I will say that it looks good. I would encourage anyone stuck with a narcissist to give this a read.

[Ginny Priem · Rating 5 out of 5]

For anyone that's endured narcissistic abuse, this is the book they wish they had and would want for anyone else navigating the difficult dynamics. Dr. Kastner beautifully and compassionately applies her expertise and knowledge with steps that are easy to understand. A must read!

[Candy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Everything you need to identify a narcissist and get rid of them! Quick, someone send this to Melania...