Sex začíná v kuchyni

by Kevin Leman

Now back with a fresh cover, new subtitle, and new introduction, Sex Begins in the Kitchen shows couples everywhere how to bring more passion into their marriages. Best-selling author Dr. Kevin Leman explains how sexual intimacy is an expression of the care a couple shows each other in all areas of life--in communicating, sharing thoughts and feelings, and even in helping out around the house. With insightful--and often hilarious--examples, Dr. Leman shows couples how to create new joy and excitement in their relationships and make their marriages more satisfying both emotionally and physically.

Genres: Marriage, Relationships, Nonfiction, Christian, Sexuality, Christian Non Fiction, Psychology

208 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1981

About the author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including The View with Barbara Walters, The Today Show, Oprah, CBS's The Early Show, Live with Regis Philbin, CNN's American Morning, and LIFE Today with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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Reviews

[Ann Jones · Rating 5 out of 5]

Entertaining and informative 😊😉

[Don Alesi · Rating 5 out of 5]

I had no intention of reading "Sex Begins in the Kitchen" until a friend convinced me to give it a go. A book about fooling around in a place with sharp knives and rolling pins has no appealing qualities to me or my wife. However, the book is about making your marriage so much better by doing the little things, like doing the dishes and making time for each other. My wife and I read the book together discussing it as we went along.
I thought that I would be labeled a terrible husband but as I read the book, I found that according to my wife I'm actually above average in most of the departments. We both realized that we just need some fine tuning to make our 33 years of marriage even better.
Every married couple would benefit from this book. Thank you my friend for convincing me to read this book

[Mai · Rating 5 out of 5]

well ,the title of the book is tricky becoz it's not about sex per se but it's about how to have satisfying sex as well .it's about the affectionate life style that will eventually lead to more fulfilling sexual experience .if u fulfill ur partner's needs emotionally ,he or she would be more responsive sexually so Dr Leman emphasized this point by urging husbands to really initiate sex at the kitchen by doing simple house chores like doing the dishes for your wife and taking the garbage out ,that would count as "foreplay" for most women :D
it's about meeting each others needs and putting ur spouse's needs ahead of yours.it's interesting book and full of good advices and tons of info .I'm not married yet but i find that this a must-know info that i would like to apply soon ISA

[Becky Ames]

the best book on marriage! I read it before I got married! iT is wonderful!

[Sandy Schleich · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book was not as good as I thought it would be. I listened to the book on Audible. Kevin Leman narrated the book. He opened with what sounded like a live comity routine, then he started reading the book. I feel that he didn’t read the book so much as skimming it and elaborating on what it said. I think that some of the things that he said on the recording were not exactly what were in the book. After chapter eight, another person said that chapter nine was not read because Kevin Leman covered the subject of that chapter in previous parts of the book. Therefore, I don’t think that it was being read as it was written. I also did not realize that the book had a lot of religious undertones. In some places Leman did refer to the bible.

[Sierra · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must-read for newlyweds! This books helps to explain a lot of the differences between men and women and what can make marriages struggle or help them flourish. I especially enjoyed Dr. Leman's accounts of his own clients. It helped my husband and I (who read it together, which I highly recommend) to recognize some of our flaws and will hopefully help us to be more mindful of each other in the future. Highly recommend.
PS: Despite the tantilous title, this has very little to do with sex and in fact, the author is quite religious and tasteful.

[Christine · Rating 2 out of 5]

Perhaps I am being harsh with my rating of two stars, but I am rating this in comparison to other, far better, Biblically-based books on marriage I have read and learned and changed so much more from. The final chapter of the book was 5-star worthy, and I am so glad I stuck it through until the end because of it, but the bulk of the rest of the book was lacking, in my opinion. I wholeheartedly agree with the premise of the book and many insights the author shares, but to take the time to read a book on marriage... well, there are far better ones I would recommend reading first.

[Max · Rating 1 out of 5]

the author’s theories of personality are about as helpful as the average newspaper horoscope and marital advice includes stuff like “argue nude in the bathtub together” and “never ask your partner why”. Generally perplexing advice. Poor values. At one point he encourages a woman, whose husband seems to be literally assaulting her, to come onto him first. This is regarded as a success because once she did that, he became impotent. What? What? What?????? He’s kinda funny though. I️ liked the joke about warming up the worms first

[Rachel Oldaker · Rating 5 out of 5]

don't let the title turn you off- this is another excellent marriage book by Kevin Leman!

"your spouse is a valuable treasure; a gift to you from the Almighty. how do you treat that treasure? with devotion and honor. devotion is a passionate thing, but honor is a more practical thing. you can honor your spouse even when you don't feel like it. even if you're in a bad mood, your mate is still a treasure given to you by God."

I listened to this as an audio read by Keven Leman himself and highly recommend it to ALL of my married or engaged friends.

[Jodi · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was like a marriage book, sex book and birth order book all in one. It was a very interesting book filled with a ton of information. I had seen this book many times, but never picked it up. The birth order portion was interesting and after reading the book I agree sex begins in the kitchen. It is an all day thing. Both partners helping each other and doing things that they know will help the other partner.

[Chandler · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book on building strong and healthy marriage relationships. I learned a lot about myself and how to love my fiancee better. It was a very uplifting and delightful read. That having been said, I didn't appreciate his characterizations of youngest children as being lousy spouse material or of males in general as luddites. Overall a great book, but I'd like to see a somewhat more up-to-date edition.

[Debbie · Rating 4 out of 5]

It has been years since I first read this book, but it made a lasting impression on me about the importance of REAL intimacy....not just sex. The premise is that life is a dance of intimacy and so many people make the mistake of not dancing the dance. They fall into bed at the end of the day and don't know why their sexual life is not amazing.

Working together on fun, playful projects (i.e. cooking) help to start the sizzle.


This book would probably warrant a re-visit after so many years.

[Sonya Zoller · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book that touches on about everything that is needed for a successful relationship. I thought about buying a copy for everyone I know. I even got my husband to read it. I can honestly say it made an impression on him. He is so much better about pitching in, cleaning up his mess and making me breakfast in bed. It has been a blessing.

[Phillip Talbot · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is an excellent guide to help men understand what a woman's view of love is. It also throws back the curtains on the "fantasy love" that is pervasive in movies, revealing what true love is and does. I would highly suggest this book to any married couple or engaged couple (though a few parts near the end might be good to read right before marriage day).

[Carrie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some parts of this book are cheezy and some parts are funny, but there is definitely information to be gleaned from it.

[Judy · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good read. Besides giving great advice about husband/wife relationships, it's has good strategies for all family and friend relationships. I enjoy reading anything by Kevin Leeman.

[Lorna · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you are looking to spice up your marriage, this book can definitely help. As a future marriage and family therapist, I have read many such books but this is one of the good ones. Enjoy!

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful and enlightening. I learned a lot from this book and am still continuing to learn. I would recommend this book for all married and engaged couples.

[Christine Perras · Rating 4 out of 5]

read this book 20 plus years ago.. still one of my favorites!

[Carol Abernathie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book for married Christian couples mixed with good clean humor.

[Rachel Johns · Rating 4 out of 5]

Best relationship book I’ve read in a long time! Dr. Lehman shares helpful insights and anecdotes from his study of psychology and years of counseling practice. He writes in an endearingly straightforward and often humorous manner.

To my pleasant surprise, the title does not mean what I thought it meant! Leman is not pushing an archaic agenda that women must be perfect housewives, but that sex begins over a cup of coffee and conversation in the kitchen— that focusing on giving rather than taking throughout the day (and night...) will lead to more fulfilling sexual intimacy.

I take off a star because much is outdated, as it was written in 1981. For example, his statements about temperament, or saying he will help you never see your names in the newspaper divorce column. As a millennial, I can’t remember the last time I read a newspaper, much less a divorce column.

I was irked by his statements about depression. He claims (p. 96) that most people who come to him with “depression” are really exhibiting purposeful behavior. Or that often (p. 108) depression is due to repressed anger, and (later) that many physical ailments may be due to not expressing feelings. This is an overly simplistic assessment.*

The “Children Are the Enemy” portion of chapter 8 is chuckle worthy. If you only read one chapter, read chapter 9, Ying-Yangs, Weenies, Tallywackers and “The Thing”. Made me laugh out loud!

This is not the book to read if you are looking for the most fresh theories in psychology and modern day examples. And yet, if you, like myself, are mining for timeless wisdom, you have struck gold.

[Emma Maher · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think this is a very clever title and I think It has a lot of truth to It. I love Leman's humour and the title's of his chapters are delightful. He is a lovely person. I have heard him many times featured on Focus on the Family. I don't understand everything about the positions of birth in families but I do find his writing practical, easy to follow and also he makes It fun and entertaining and doesn't make you feel like Its just another marriage book. I think most certainly communication is important. I appreciate how Kevin Leman is so forthright and honest in his writing and this like many other marriage and relationship books are very thought-provoking and important to put into practice.

[Amy Wollenweber · Rating 3 out of 5]

Christian book recommended by our Pastors. I wouldn't recommend the audio version; it doesn't flow right. Starts off with a comedic type routine with lots of one liners - totally not my style - and then the audio goes in and out, like the reader (author) isn't close enough to the mic. I feel like the whole book could be summed up in a podcast or something - Emotional intimacy needs to come first and that starts WAY before the bedroom. It seemed like various principals from other books (like communication styles) summed up in each chapter, but with no real meat or ways to suggest application. But all in all, I would not say this book is about sex at all; I think the title is meant to be an attention grabber, but the message is well meaning.

[Kelli · Rating 3 out of 5]

Hmm, okay. A salacious title for a book that is actually pretty basic. The content is good, though about half of it isn’t original to the author. He touches on the transactional love bank, the 5 love languages, his needs vs her needs, and other concepts originated by other authors. So if you’re looking for a good jumping off point, or a foundation with references to other books, it is worth your time.

[PunkRockLibrarian · Rating 5 out of 5]

The audiobook was read by the author and was fantastic. However, there is so much more in the printed book than there is in the audio version so I definitely recommend pairing the audiobook with the printed version in order to refer to the resources and extra materials provided in the print version.

[Fariz Abdussalam · Rating 3 out of 5]

a good starting book for a new married couple or soneone who wants to get married.

It gives you guidance how you can make your marriage full of love and intimacy.

[Melissa Palmer · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read for married couples! How to understand each others needs.

[Annie Wieler · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5

[Heather · Rating 3 out of 5]

3 stars from reading an older version. Good overview of how to love your spouse well.

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