YES, YOU’RE THE PROBLEM: BPD: The Hard Truths of Borderline Personality Disorder, with Mutually Beneficial and Effective Strategies Anyone Can Use to Improve Relationships with Afflicted Loved Ones

by C.K. Saige

BPD will take a toll on any relationship it touches… but you can find peace and stability again and pave the way for a more harmonious future.Around one in every 25 people has borderline personality disorder (BPD)... and as you probably already know, this comes with a lot of emotional highs and lows.

If you have a relationship with someone with BPD, be it your partner, a family member, or a friend, you may frequently find yourself caught up in an emotional whirlwind, at a loss as to how to connect with them and bring your relationship back into harmony.

The good news is you can make a significant difference.

There are some things you can control, and when you craft your responses wisely and know the best strategies for communicating with your loved one, you’ll feel more peace and stability in your relationship with them.

You can’t change their diagnosis, but it does give you something to work with, and when you approach your relationship armed with the right information, you can build the connection you’d truly like to have with them, bringing both of you a sense of calm and emotional stability.

This much-needed guide to navigating personal relationships affected by BPD will show you everything you can do to transform your relationship. Inside, you’ll

Exactly what BPD is, its potential causes, and how it affects personal relationshipsA deeper understanding of emotional dysregulation… and how to recognize the triggersHow BPD affects relationships at work, with family members and friends, and in romantic partnershipsThe “FP phenomenon” —and how you’ll know if you’re carrying its burden (with tips for improving your relationship)Your complete guide to communicating effectively with someone with BPD—along with the triggering phrases you definitely want to avoidWhat healthy boundaries look like and how to set them (even when you’re met with resistance)Preventative strategies for keeping a peaceful environment that nurtures emotional stabilityThe de-escalation techniques you’ll wish you’d known about sooner—and exactly how to apply themClear guidance for improving your relationship and recovering from the effects of BPD together—as a united frontWhat you can do to empower your loved one to build their emotional balance and work toward a more peaceful and fulfilling lifeHow to weigh up the decision to stay or leave if there ever comes a time that you’re in two mindsJournaling prompts with every chapter to help your reflections and personal growthAnd much more.

If you thought BPD was something you couldn’t solve, you were right… but there are things you can do to help both your loved one and your relationship with them.

With the right communication strategies up your sleeve and a deeper understanding of how to build peace and stability into your relationship, you can work towards a more fulfilling and tranquil experience for everyone.

Ready to transform your relationship and discover your power over BPD? Then scroll up, and click “Add to Cart” right now!

Genres: Psychology

160 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 17, 2025

Reviews

[Nina L · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading this book. As someone who has been diagnosed with BPD, and still doesn’t understand everything about it and myself involving BPD, this book really helped me to understand a little bit more about myself.

Some of the things that were addressed in the book really hit home for me and also made me think about the people around me and their perspectives.

This book gave me some insight on things that I need help with that I didn’t know I needed. Im going to be talking to my therapist about some of these.

I highly recommend reading this book and sharing it if you or anyone you know has BPD. It’s very insightful and I definitely think by sharing this with the people in my life, it will help us create a better future moving forward in our relationships!

[Nina · Rating 2 out of 5]

is this book for you?

I’m finally free from an abusive/toxic relationship with someone who had BPD, and I’m seeking out resources to heal myself and also understand what they might have been dealing with. If I read this prior to my relationship, or even in the beginning before it became all about coercion/control, I may have been a better partner, or atleast I could’ve had some tools to exit with strength and not come back over and over again. Reading this after the fact though, it’s almost sickening to read each step of what to do, how to present body language, and how to speak without triggering them. This might be better for parents, friends, and partners of BPD who are not being abused. It takes alot of love, care, and patience to integrate these things into your life for someone, when in reality the person with bpd needs to take accountability for their behaviors. It might not be their fault, they may not mean what they said or did, or how they treat people, but they do have the power to try to do better. Whether that’s being more mindful, seeking treatments and therapy, etc, it can be done.

[Crystal Eubanks · Rating 3 out of 5]

As someone with BPD myself, parts of this book were informative, and I enjoyed reading it. Other parts of the book I considered grossly inaccurate. For the work put into this book and it's intent I rate this book 3 stars.

[Monique · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thought provoking as someone with BPD. Made me think about how I’m affecting others around me, and their perspective. A lot of what was said hit home for me and helped me understand myself better