Living Beyond Offense: Doing the Hard Work of Forgiveness God's Way

by Yana Jenay Conner

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:31-32In a broken world with fallen people, we have all experienced the pain of offense. Though we have been forgiven through Christ, extending that same mercy to those who have wronged us can still feel difficult. How do we move through the pains of abandonment, betrayal, and abuse to obey Jesus’ command to forgive?Living Beyond Offense explores Jesus’ teachings about forgiveness—what it is, how to do it, and what you gain when you put it into practice. Bringing together theology, Scripture, and pieces of her own life story, Yana Conner helps you
 honestly acknowledge and grieve the pain and loss that often comes with offensereplace faulty cultural ideas about forgiveness with a biblical perspective centered on Jesus’ teachingsresolve conflicts by applying best practices for communicating your hurt to othersthoughtfully engage in the work of forgiveness and, when possible, pursue reconciliation 
Forgiveness is hard work, but with God’s help, it’s possible and worth it. Despite the pain you have experienced, you can live beyond offense and learn to trust again. 

Genres: Christian Living, Christian Non Fiction, Nonfiction

240 pages, Paperback

Published November 4, 2025

Reviews

[Victoria Roberts · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautifully written from beginning to end! I recommend this book to every Christian no matter where you are in your faith journey. READ THIS BOOK. You won’t be disappointed! 💜

[Zorina Shepard · Rating 4 out of 5]

You can't go through life without encountering the need to forgive, but when you are deeply hurt by someone, it makes you start wondering what forgiveness even looks like— especially while you are in the midst of blinding pain. How do you forgive and move through the pain of abandonment, betrayal or even abuse and obey Jesus' command to forgive?

I really appreciated Yana's book on forgiveness. It is full of vulnerability and humility. She not only tells the reader how to live beyond offense, but she shares some of her own heart, story and struggles. She encourages and helps the reader to grieve the pain and loss that comes with offense.

I appreciated her reflections on Psalm 37 as she walks you through several chapters with it as a central focus. Yana addresses abuse and living beyond both abuse and anger with such compassion.

She ends with talking about trust and how important it is to be in community to help heal. Whether you have been hurt by a friend or experienced church hurt or even abuse or abandonment, this book touches on all kinds of offenses. It helps clear the mud on forgiveness and what that looks like when the pain hurts so bad.

While I don't agree with everything that the author presented in the book, I appreciated her humility as a fellow pilgrim learning how to forgive and live beyond offense. I found this book to be helpful and encouraging!

My favorite quote

"Beloved, I know you're angry. You have a right to be. What someone did was wrong, sinful, and unjust. God is angry alongside you. Embrace this invitation to trade your restless fretting for delighting in the character and presence of God. Let the truths that He is holy, soverign, and just, fortify your confidence in His ability to execute justice on your behalf. Let the reality of His never-ending love for you and commitment to justice extinguish and put your anger to rest."

*I received a complimentary copy for my honest review.

[Kathleen Krynski · Rating 5 out of 5]

Well-written and accessible, and rooted in both biblical teaching and clinical evidence. Definitely the book on forgiveness that I'll be recommending to people from now on.

[Mel C · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really fantastic theological resource to have as a foundation for/under therapy practices.

[Brynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I can already tell this is a book I will return to year after year. So rich.

[Joyce · Rating 5 out of 5]

Everyone who struggles with forgiveness and what forgiveness really means or looks like should read this book. I will be rereading it often.