4.75 stars. Almost a 5. Despite some small reservations, everything I wanted from this biography was checked off.
When Dallin H. Oaks wrote Life's Lessons Learned back in 2011, I assumed that satisfied the life history requirement for a General Authority. Happy to be proven wrong.
This feels timely, pertinent, and should help Saints understand his unique background and perspective he brings to his role. I don't look to prophets and apostles for meme-able quotes and warm fuzzies; I seek direct guidance, and am 100% satisfied with how Dallin H. Oaks fills that function.
Seven highlights that will stick with me:
• The theme of changing perspectives based on additional knowledge and experience pokes its head up frequently, and is wonderful to observe. I love the mention of when Henry B. Eyring and Dallin H. Oaks disagree on an undisclosed topic. After the meeting, Oaks thanks Eyring for helping change his perspective. A good life lesson here.
• I love the Oaks children recollecting their parents occasional disagreement or having differing points of view. +10 points to Dallin and June for explaining to their children that "conflict will occur between husband and wife. The important thing is learning to work things out." Many biographies unfortunately suggests this never happens in the lives of religious leaders, which I worry establishes a false expectation.
• I appreciate feeling like Dallin H. Oaks is the General Authority successor to Leonard Arrington's vision for opening up the historical archives of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and am grateful for his role in supporting the Joseph Smith Papers Project, the Saints four-volume history, and new publications regarding Mountain Meadows.
• President George H.W. Bush in the early 1990s saying, upon meeting with the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve, that "he had never met a group of men with more comprehensive knowledge of what was going on in all parts of the world." It's easy to assume the brethren are unaware of societal trends and world events, and I appreciate a US President recognizing how informed Church leadership is.
• Learning that he has celiac disease. I shared this with my son 9-year old who has Eosinophilic Esophagitis (EOE) and avoids wheat, as well as many other foods. It meant a lot to him to know that he shares a food intolerance with a member of the First Presidency.
• In 1988, three years after being called to the apostleship, he once spent a lot of time telling stories from the pulpit, after which as he "sat down, the Spirit whispered to him, 'Never do that again.'" This appears to be a key in understanding why Dallin H. Oaks presents his doctrinal messages in such a solemn and serious tone.
• His lack of concern with people who become upset at his messages. Elder David A. Bednar is quoted: "He is fearless, absolutely fearless... He draws a lot of fire..., but he couldn't care less. All he wants to do is please Him whom he serves."
Five areas which left me wanting more, and keep me from a full 5-stars:
• Despite the clear value in a law school education, let's agree that a legal career does not sound exciting when written down (unless you're Atticus Finch). It is what it is, not the fault of the author. This will be known as the "2nd Nephi Isaiah Chapters" section of this biography.
• His experience leading Brigham Young University in the 1970s is nothing more than a blip and feels like a missed opportunity. Henry B. Eyring's biography provides fascinating details about his role at Rick's College during this same time period, and the difficult decisions he was required to make. No mention of possible problems in the transition from Wilkinson's 20-year presidency to President Oaks' 9-year stint, and no significant personal interactions with students or faculty are mentioned. I left this section feeling the author highlighted his accomplishments to avoid stating that President Oaks didn't really enjoy the experience professionally.
• Everybody close to him comments on his sense of humor, but actual examples of this humor in action are few and far between. Assuming one of the purposes of this life story is to counter the somber impression people get from him at the pulpit, such humorous anecdotes would help. Not even a favorite lawyer joke?
• Similar to other church biographies, the detailed life history is 5-stars... until he is called as an apostle, after which it goes to 3.5 stars. The chronological narrative turns into general, themed chapters (except for the chapter on the Philippines). They're written remarkably well, especially the chapters on religious freedom and his letter writing. But still... the change of pace is too apparent to disregard.
• The man's a workhorse, and can rival Theodore Roosevelt in the "use time productively" race. In his adult life, apart from limited time with children, what were his personal hobbies? The author mentions an occasional quiet evening, an 11:00pm tennis match, the occasional garden. No other personal interests to flesh him out? Does Dallin H. Oaks truly have no need to let off steam and unwind in any manner? He quoted Fiddler on the Roof once in General Conference... that's suggests some type of personal association with the arts that's not included here at all.
Despite those small hiccups, a life history commensurate with the man.