«¿Está mi bebé en el cielo?». Esa es la pregunta másimportante que un padre o madre que sufre puede hacerse. Y aunque el pequeñosea el hijo de otra persona, la pregunta ¿Qué les sucede a losniños, a los no nacidos, los mortinatos o los infantes, cuando mueren? ¿Podemosesperar volver a verlos? ¿Podemos soltar el temor y la culpabilidad? ¿Puede elamor de Dios suavizar una herida tan desgarradora? Con autoridad bíblica y lacalidez del corazón de un pastor, el autor de éxitos de librería John MacArthurexamina el alcance de toda la Biblia y revela en este convincente libro elcuidado que tiene el Padre celestial de cada vida. «He estado sentada junto a la tumba de nuestra hija y nuestro hijo,y me he preguntado en voz alta si mi fe en que Hope y Gabriel están en el cielotiene algún apoyo bíblico sólido. John MacArthur ofrece verdad de la Palabra deDios que resuelve las dudas de cualquier padre o madre que sufre esta pérdida. Seguro en los brazos de Dios revela quela confianza del cielo para el hijo al que amas está basada en mucho más quemero sentimentalismo; está revelada en la Palabra de Dios, y refleja el propiocorazón de Dios». ―Nancy Guthrie, autora de Aferrándose a la esperanza
John F. MacArthur, Jr. was a United States Calvinistic evangelical writer and minister, noted for his radio program entitled Grace to You and as the editor of the Gold Medallion Book Award-winning MacArthur Study Bible. MacArthur was a fifth-generation pastor, a popular author and conference speaker, and served as pastor-teacher of Grace Community Church in Sun Valley, California beginning in 1969, as well as President of The Master’s College (and the related Master’s Seminary) in Santa Clarita, California.
I'm probably going to have to read this book a few more times before I can give a full review of it but in short, my boyfriend lent it to me because he thought it might be helpful regarding a miscarriage I had that resulted from rape.
I still don't know if I'm able to write completely openly about this book but one thing I can say for sure is that it changed my entire world and entire view on a "thing called it" that was a "rape baby" God was gracious enough to spare from having to live in this world and showed me that "it" was actually a child, a daughter of God just like me, just as beloved and just as valuable and her name was Grace. And it was okay to call "it" a "her" and a "mine" and a "baby" and a "Gracie" and most of all, it's okay to hate what happened, feel relief for the odd grace of a miscarriage in my situation, but still feel validated in feeling a sense of loss, grief, sadness and pain in the full acknowledgment that, despite not wanting to be pregnant, not wanting to have a baby, not feeling sad at the time of the loss, GOD created her and HE still loves her and no matter what anyone says about how things came or went, I AM a mother, I HAVE a child and I have absolutely every right on earth and heaven above to call myself a mother and love my child even if I'm still grateful for the way things worked out. And even though being grateful for the way things happened, I'm still allowed to feel sadness that I *don't* have a little girl running around my house. They are incredibly contradicting feelings I've struggled with for years but I felt like this book really allowed me to feel vindicated and justified for all my feelings and more than anything else, it emphasized to me that Love is Love no matter what context surrounds. God loved Lucifer more than anything else and he became evil. Did it not break God's heart and fill him with contradictory feelings too?
This is an incredibly difficult and sensitive subject for me to talk about, let alone write about and I didn't realize how much I'd bottled up, compartmentalized, denied and intentionally overlooked until I read this book. It sat me down face to face with the truth. A year after reading this, I'm still trying to recover from what it uncovered. I think that's what makes it such a good book. Every page was fill with pain and tears and anger and shame and sadness and guilt and more anger and more tears and sometimes, a bit of humiliation. But each page was also drenched in God's love. And the immense love of an author who desperately wants others to understand how much God loves them and their babies, no mater what the story is.
This book brings such comfort and hope. ♥️ MacArthur’s pastoral care for suffering believers is displayed as he seeks to comfort believers not by empty, unfounded sentimentalism but through the hope of God’s promises as seen in His inerrant Word. It gives greater awe for the compassionate, kind God that we serve! I would greatly encourage a believer to read this book, even if you have not personally suffered the loss of a child, so you can be prepared to comfort yourself and others with the truth from His Word.
Think you're saved by grace alone? What about those made in His image in the womb, newborns and young children?
Read this immediately if: You or someone you know is dealing with the death of a young one. You want to be ready to help those whom may face the death of a young one. Or if you want to graduate to a deeper wisdom of God's word concerning His graces to us.
Every pastor should read this book and settle the matter firmly in his mind.
I had pastored for only a year when I had to console a couple for the death of their baby. The truths in this book, which I had read in seminary, helped me to boldly tell them that I believed Scripture clearly and unequivocally taught that their baby was with the Lord.
This book has dozens of verses and examples in the Bible that defend this belief. I found them as persuasive today (as I re-read the book) as when I first read it.
Additionally, the book is deeply pastoral. I don’t cry easily. But I cried reading some parts. You might like or dislike MacArthur, but I think you will appreciate his tone.
this book primarily addresses the question, "do all babies go to heaven?", to which it answers an emphatic "yes". because there is no verse in the bible that explicitly answers this question directly, macarthur draws from various passages and implications to assert his case. the argument that was most interesting to me was that when scripture describes hell, it always does so as a direct response to willful, conscious acts of sin against God. this led to a back-and-forth discussion between timmy, auggie and i as we talked about the intricacies of original sin, and the reasoning behind why God could, should, and would save infants. this spiraled down into almost absurd statements being thrown out such as "so the adult unbeliever just going on a walk is sinning", "the fetus in the womb is sinning, by, idk, taking too many nutrients from his mom", and "did Jesus as a fetus, idk, kick his mother's womb for the glory of God?" though admittedly ridiculous, it was fun and helped test the stability of the arguments we were forming, which ultimately led me to be sold on macarthur's argument. babies, even fetuses, are born/conceived in original sin, and are guilty of Adam's sin, corrupt in their nature, and guilty of committing real, hell-deserving sins. however, unlike adults, babies and all those who have not reached the "age of accountability" do not possess the natural ability to choose God. in other words, they have not perceived the glory of God in nature and thus cannot suppress the truth of God in their hearts (rom 1). it is true that both adults and babies cannot choose God on their own because of a moral inability, and their hearts' bondage to sin. the difference however, is that adults have the intellectual capability to perceive something of God's glory, reject Him as God, and they have a real, natural choice to choose God; it is just that they never will due to their corrupt desires. babies do not have this choice to choose God, and therefore, God does not condemn them, but, in His grace, saves them. some other aspects of the book that i really liked was macarthur's emphasis on the personhood of the unborn, and what we can do to comfort those who have experienced the death of a child. his encouragement to be proactive in comforting and supporting was challenging, as he states that "silence does little to heal." i also loved how macarthur's wealth of pastoral experience really shines through. this book is filled with testimonies of bereaved parents from grace church, and macarthur seems really conscious of who his readers might be. his tone is compassionate, and yet strong in his biblical assertions so to provide comfort and peace for the grieving. it is something i seek to emulate. dis book pretty nice. 4.25/5
Highly recommend. MacArthur comforted me by providing a tremendous amount biblical support so I can rest assured my sweet baby girl is in heaven. The testimonies of other family’s who have experienced a similar loss were very encouraging.
After just losing & giving birth to my stillborn baby son at 36 wks, I really took comfort in what this book had to say. I appreciated MacArthur's scriptural look at what happens at an infant's death. I had no doubts, but wow, my thoughts of heaven have been expanded.
After seeing this while scrolling on social media, I was curious as to John MacArthur's take on this important and emotional issue. I have not closely examined this issue and have not had to wrestle as closely with the implications of this doctrine as many others have; my convictions on the truths of scripture led me to a conclusion that differed from MacArthur's. Having read this, I now believe that the evidence is much less clear.
It begins somewhat slowly. Written primarily to either counsel grieving families or to counselors, church leaders, and anyone else who might be in the position to offer encouragement to families going through the tragedy of miscarriage. The preamble to the strongest portion of the text lays out MacArthur's stance on this issue: children, infants, and others who are mentally incapable of understanding the doctrines of grace and faith in Christ alone are extended mercy by God's power through the blood of Jesus Christ.
It is after this portion of the text that MacArthur lays out his scriptural support for this position (chapters 3-5 primarily). He cites Jesus' treatment and teachings around and about children, David's response to the death of both his infant son and Absalom, and other examples of children being described as "innocents" and "unable to know right from left". Like any position, some arguments are strong while others are weaker. In all, he makes a strong, intellectually compelling, and well-reasoned argument from the Scriptures to support his position.
The remaining chapters focus on God's sovereign plan for these children and their families and offers many avenues of encouragement to those who have experienced miscarriage and/or the death of an infant. These sections are meant to help the church in coming alongside families and pointing them toward the sovereign grace and loving-kindness of God for those whom he calls his own. God is just.
In all, it was a strong read that gives me much to think about on this important topic. It was as much as I expected from an author and pastor as well-respected as MacArthur. Would recommend for anyone who is wrestling with these issues.
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I hesitate to say, “I wish that I had read this book 16 years ago,” because I know that I wasn’t in a place then to have fully embraced the truths in this book. That said, I really wish I had read this 16 years ago! Not everything in this book was necessarily new to me, but the way John MacArthur answers common questions we might have about our child in Heaven, from a Biblical perspective, is so helpful and so healing. He also doesn’t beat around the bush regarding the obligations we have as Believers to not wallow in our pain and grief forever (or for 16 years). I’ve avoided reading this book for many, many years and the Lord finally put me in a situation last week to where I needed help and decided to seek it. I am so thankful that a friend gifted this to me all those years ago. And although the circumstance that lead to me reading this was not pleasant at the time, I can see the Lord’s love and grace in nudging me toward healing. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has lost a child!
MacArthur presents a solid case for God's saving mercy on infants and disabled. This is a needed balance to the speculative position of some in the Reformed camp who offer little or no hope for a perishing infant because they claim the child never responded in faith to Christ or was not part of the elect. This brief treatment of this important issue gives pastors and church leaders solid biblical ground to offer hope to grieving or uncertain parents.
MacArthur does not merely give the reader information. He also offers various testimonies of actual parents who had to work through tragedies and respond to unfortunate advice offered by others. This reveals MacArthur's pastoral heart in dealing with this issue as he candidly explores the Scriptures and is held by their authority rather than merely positing his own wishes. He struggles with the issue, but he maintains integrity with the text and feels compassion on the flock. This is a good book for every pastor because they will inevitably face these kinds of situations and must be prepared to handle them with truth and loving care.
I needed this! As a pastor who, sadly, has had to help my daughter and son-in-law bury their first child (my first grandchild) this book, while confirming my long held theological beliefs about the truth found therein, also brought those truths to life by transferring them from theological concepts into heart bolstering comfort. The testimonies have different details, but the same tragedy, loss, faith, hope, and love of the Sovereign God. MacArther does not rob you of your grief with trite and compassionless dictation, but meets you there and points you to the Savior who alone can make you whole. If you’re grieving the loss of a child or know someone who is, I believe you will be greatly strengthened by reading this book!
I recently had a conversation with a friend about whether babies and those who have never had the capacity or chance to understand the gospel go to heaven or not. I always figured they did, because of God’s merciful character; but I lacked support from Scripture to articulate exactly why. I came across this book and it was very helpful in understanding why God chooses to save infants, whether they die in a mother’s womb or in their early childhood. In addition to building a good case for this, MacArthur also reminds us repeatedly of God’s sovereignty, the purpose in our suffering, and the wonders we have to look forward to in heaven. It’s an encouraging read for parents who have lost a little one, but also for those looking to comfort and support grieving parents.
This book is such a comfort to those who have lost a child. I learned so much about what the scriptures say about children who die prematurely. It is worth the read even if you haven't lost a child so you can know what to say to those who are going through a loss. Even if you are not a Christian this book may also bring comfort.
What a precious encouragement this book is. As someone who has experienced 3 losses and is currently expecting our 4th child, this book pointed me directly to Christ. When we trust in the Lord, we can give everything to Him. Our sorrows & even the fates of our little ones. I am thankful to have found such an encouraging resource that I can share with others who experience similar trials.
Nos enseña muchas verdades que aveces dejamos de lado aun el querer brindar un consejo para una familia que atraviesa una pérdida y muchas veces solo debemos callar y orar por ellos y aceptar que la voluntad de Dios es buena y agradable. También ver que la eternidad se hace más sublime saber que estaremos con nuestros señor y salvador y que conoceremos a esa personita que se fue antes que nosotros
it is not often that you can read a book that can change your perspective so much that your world view is modified. this was that kind of book for me. While there isn't a verse that says word for word that babies go to heaven, he builds a pretty solid case based on scripture and logic.
You or someone you know will have an unborn or young child who beats you to Heaven. This book is immensely helpful in grounding your hope for those children.
A comprehensive Biblical study on the questions surrounding the death of a child—outstanding! Very sensitively and compassionately written. The chapter “Why Did My Child Have to Die?” contains eight purposes for trials and tragedies—excellent. This book is the best on this painful subject--but also addresses questions about losses in general.
"I have sat by the grave of our daughter and son and wondered out loud if my belief that Hope and Gabriel are in heaven has any solid scriptural support. John MacArthur offers truth from God's Word that puts the doubts of any grieving parent to rest. Safe in the Arms of God reveals that confidence of heaven for the child you love is based on much more than mere sentimentality; it is revealed in the Word of God and reflective of the very heart of God." Nancy Guthrie, author of Holding On to Hope
Eye-opening and encouraging. MacArthur uses a plethora of Scripture, including books of the Bible I would never have thought to reference, to support his God-given belief of infants and young children going to Heaven, as well as giving grieving parents a heavenly perspective that releases them from the burden of despair. As a recently bereaved mother, I appreciate this resource, as it has allowed me to view my son as living and actively enjoying life with God, rather than inanimately ceasing to partake in earthly life. For parents who have lost children, this book gives you biblical truth and grace to know that those children are happier and safer than ever in their true home. What a good thing to look forward to!
Looking Forward to Meeting My Niece and My Sibling
My wife read this book some years ago, and I've been wanting to read it myself. I've recently become a men's advocate at a local crisis pregnancy center and have thought deeply about the unborn children of those who choose abortion. Especially since the birth father has no legal right in the abortion decision, can I give him any encouragement if he stands strong against the abortion decision but the birth mother still chooses abortion.
I have one niece who died at birth, Therese Marie, that I look forward to seeing in heaven, as well as three siblings that either were miscarried or stillborn between my two older sisters.
I appreciated MacArthur's exploration of Scripture as he provided concrete, Biblical answers to important and relevant questions about death and children. I entered the book with my own questions and have left it not only with answers, but also with the knowledge that these come from the Word of God. Apart from this, the book was beautifully written, compassionate yet grounded in the Word. MacArthur weaves the stories of several believers who have experienced the death of their own child throughout the text in a powerful and intentional way. He designed the book not merely as a theological answer-book, but as a Scriptural comfort and encouragement for grieving parents and ones who have lost beloved children, and that certainly shone through. Wonderful, encouraging, truth-filled read.
This clearly and Biblically answered so many questions that have plagued me for years. I wept in gratitude to our gracious God as I read this. It has truly caused a paradigm shift in me. So many things are now made clear.
My little classmate from second grade who died in an accident in a sand and gravel yard? He is with God. The children of the Holocaust? With God. The children sacrificed throughout history in pagan rituals? With God. The babies murdered in the womb? With God. Little ones miscarried and stillborn? With God.
The little ones are always His. He saves them by His grace just as He saves those of us whose faith and trust is in Him by His grace. I am so grateful to have read this. My faith has been strengthened.
This book was given to me after my miscarriage. It was very encouraging to see from the Bible that my baby is in heaven with Jesus. It was also very encouraging to be reminded why God allows trials in our lives and how to respond to them. I have friends who have walked through much deeper trials than I have so this was helpful to read to know how to be more supportive and encouraging to other families who experience deep loss.
I was very disappointed in this book. I lost my daughter September 2, 2013. I heard all the typical "Well, she's in Heaven now" and "God just needed another angel". While I am a true believer in Jesus, I needed something more tangible, more... earthbound. While this book is a fantastic read for parents experiencing loss, it was not a book for me.