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Call Me Gray

A child shares feelings about their identity with their dad in this powerful journey of self-discovery.

While creating their annual ice rink together one winter, a child starts a conversation with their father about something important. “Do you ever feel mixed up about who you are?” But the father misunderstands. So, the child tries again later. “Do you ever feel different than the way you look?” The father still doesn’t get it but, this time, asks to hear more. “I look like a boy, but sometimes I feel more like a girl.” At last, it’s been said. And, at last, the child, who asks to be called Gray, begins to feel like themselves.

Young readers may see their own uncertainties reflected in this sensitive portrayal of a child sharing their identity and finding acceptance.

32 pages, Hardcover

Published October 7, 2025

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Andrew Larsen

36 books38 followers
Andrew Larsen is a father, homemaker and author. When he was a child, he would spend a part of every summer with his grandparents at their cottage on a hill, by a lake. Andrew now lives in a downtown Toronto neighborhood. He has published three picture books with Kids Can Press and one with Fitzhenry & Whiteside. He is married with two children.

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Profile Image for Jasmine from How Useful It Is.
1,809 reviews392 followers
August 24, 2026
Read this story for my kid at bedtime. This story followed a boy and his dad. Every winter, their tradition is to build an ice rink together and skate their first skate on the ice rink. Every year they do the same activity but this year the boy felt there's one change. He tried to talk to his dad while they worked on the ice rink. He expressed his disappointment that he was not invited to a girls sleepover by his best friend Zena. He felt he should've been invited because he confessed to his dad that he felt more like a girl inside even though his body on the outside say he's a boy. He wanted his dad to call him Gray to mark the changes he felt.

Thank you Kids Can Press for the opportunity to read and review.
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413 reviews10 followers
July 30, 2025
What a precious balm of love in an often too cruel world. These are the stories I love, people finding love and acceptance and discovering who they are.

My favorite moment was how after asking their dad to call them Gray, they speak up when he says “buddy” instead of their chosen name. The dad apologizes and says, “thank you for reminding me.” It’s such a gentle lesson for children navigating their gender identity, and for the adults who love them.

It’s a sweet story of acceptance of oneself and of our loved ones. I adore this. Thank you, Andrew Larsen, Bella Larsen, Kids Can Press, and NetGalley for this gentle story, it was exactly what I needed.
Profile Image for Shannon.
9,580 reviews461 followers
July 24, 2025
An absolutely beautiful book about a young child questioning their identity while building a backyard skating rink with their father. This book is accessible, has cozy illustrations and a wonderfully accepting parent who listens to their child and respects their choice to change their name.

I LOVED it so much and will be recommending it always especially for those looking for stories featuring nonbinary children! A great winter read with important trans/nonbinary rep. Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an early digital copy in exchange for my honest review!
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132 reviews1 follower
March 22, 2026
Trans children exist! Not only is this an important book but a really accessible way to understand gender dysphoria. I also love a good example of a loving parent showing up, even imperfectly.
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12k reviews102 followers
June 9, 2026
Sweet, gentle, and atmospheric story of a child who speaks honestly to their parent, and great modeling of a parent who listens, supportively and nonjudgmentally.
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1,237 reviews141 followers
November 5, 2025
Richie’s Picks: CALL ME GRAY by Andrew Larsen and Tallulah Fontaine, Kids Can Press, October 2025, 32p., ISBN: 978-1-5253-1135-2

“There will come a time when everybody who is lonely will be free to sing and dance and love!
There will come a time when every evil that we know will be an evil that we can rise above!
Who cares if hair is long or short or sprayed or partly grayed?
We know that hair ain't where it's at.
There will come a time when you won't even be ashamed if you are fat (Wah, wah, wah, wah!)”
– Frank Zappa, “Take Your Clothes Off When You Dance” (1968)

“Since 2022, anti-LGBTQ book bans have proliferated in schools and communities throughout the United States. Moms for Liberty (M4L), an anti-LGBTQ extremist group that bills itself as a so-called ‘parental rights’ organization, is a driving force behind this alarming trend targeting books about LGBTQ people, people of color, and race and racism.
GLAAD is tracking M4L’s anti-LGBTQ record and ties to national anti-LGBTQ groups. The group self-reports more than 130,000 members in county-specific chapters across 48 states.
In states like Florida, Texas, Tennessee, Pennsylvania, Kentucky, and California, local M4L chapters have campaigned to nix inclusive titles from public school curricula and libraries under the false pretense of ‘protecting’ children. Their tactics include infiltrating local school boards, which can implement library and curriculum policies, and ‘flooding’ district leaders with incessant requests to ban certain books.”
– glaad.org

In CALL ME GRAY, a father and his prepubescent child are busy creating their annual makeshift backyard ice skating rink:

“‘Do you ever feel mixed up about who you are?’ I ask.
‘I feel mixed up about a lot of things,’ he says. ‘I think most people do.’
But did you always know who you wanted to be?’ I ask.
‘When I was your age, I wanted to be an astronaut,’ he says. ‘I still think about it sometimes.’
That’s not what I meant.
In the afternoon, we pack down the snow so it’s smooth as ice.
I try again,
‘Do you ever feel different than the way you look?
‘I look older than I feel,’ says my dad. ‘Is that what you mean?’
‘Not really,’ I say. It’s hard to explain.’
‘Try,’ he says.
‘I look like a boy but sometimes I feel more like a girl.’
There. I said it.
Dad doesn’t say anything for what feels like a long time.
‘I didn’t know you felt that way,’ he says. He takes my hands in his. ‘I’m glad you told me.’
‘Me, too,’ I say.
We go inside to get warm.”

I steadfastly remain a believer in the notion that books can change lives and the world for the better.

“All you need is love.”
– Lennon/McCartney (1967)

CALL ME GRAY is a picture book that could brighten or even save a young life. Unfortunately, too many intolerant locales, where this book could be of great service, value, and importance, are the very places where it will be least likely to be purchased. Or, if purchased, it will inevitably face pressure for removal.

In the current atmosphere, there are too many places where kids cannot be themselves and, at the same time, feel normal and cared about. Places where young people, who could really use the support of this book and the sentiments contained therein, instead feel compelled to pretend to be who they’re not. Places where far too many young people are both subtly and bluntly taught and encouraged to avoid children and adults who are different, whether it be different colors, different sexual orientations, or different religions.

Accompanied by bold gouache illustrations, CALL ME GRAY is a beautiful picture book that I encourage you to purchase and share in order to help fight intolerance. Some kids will most assuredly enjoy a better life as a result of them and their peers being enlightened by CALL ME GRAY.

And blessed be those parents, like the dad here, who are truly accepting, loving, and supportive of their children or their neighbors’ children.

Richie Partington, MLIS
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Profile Image for Bree ✨.
149 reviews5 followers
September 24, 2026
Call Me Gray is about a child-father duo that sets out to build an outdoor ice rink, an annual winter tradition that "never changes". This year, the child notices that something feels different, but it isn't the snow or the cold. After asking their dad if he ever felt mixed up about who he was, or if he always knew who he wanted to be, the child shares that despite looking like a boy, they feel more like a girl. They also request to be called "Gray".

Heartwarmingly, the father expresses that he is glad that Gray confided in him. They go on to enjoy the ice rink that they have created together. Afterward, the father asks "Are you ready for some hot chocolate, Gray?" to which the child replies "I am totally ready!". I loved this small but meaningful act of affirmation.

I wish all stories were like this - a child describes how they wish to be seen and addressed and those around them respond in a positive and loving manner. Geared toward children aged 4 to 8, this is a great book that very gently illustrates the development of gender identity and how parents can be supportive. There are a few specific pages that can be included in points of discussion, such as the one where Gray is looking at a noticeably blurry mirror (and is unsure of how they see themselves).

I read this book because it was recently challenged in the system in which I work. It will be kept on the shelves.
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2,884 reviews42 followers
December 13, 2025
This quiet book packs a punch. A child looks in the mirror and feels that their reflection is different. They try several times to tell their father something important, but it’s hard to say. And then, when Dad prompts them to try to explain, the child says, “I look like a boy but sometimes I feel more like a girl.” The loving father takes the child’s hands and tells them he’s glad they told him.

The conversation takes place over several cold winter evenings while they prepare their backyard ice rink, working together in the cold for the shared joy of skating. The quiet, loving relationship between father and child makes the important revelation feel like a safe thing to do. And when the child asks their father to call them “Gray,” readers know that an important decision has been made. I love how respectful the father is to his child’s announcement and request. And Gray helps the reader understand how their old name feels, “…like an itchy sweater…” Their parent/child activity of skating and drinking cocoa is their tradition, “that never changes,” but that year, “something has changed.” The plain-spoken descriptive language and the cozy gouache artwork make this book a sensitive, important and accepting portrayal of a child’s gender revelation.
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9 reviews1 follower
September 30, 2025
Thank you to NetGalley for the ARC of 'Call Me Gray' by Andrew Larsen, Bells Larsen and illustrator Tallulah Fontaine who gave this wonderful, cozy and heartwarming story illustrations to match.

The story follows a young child who finds themselves struggling with their gender identity and how they navigate that with their father with whom they are doing their annual winter tradition of creating an ice rink in their garden.

It's simplistic but packs a heavy punch. As someone who works with children, I feel this story excellently executes the point that big feelings are valid and don't need to be made more complicated than that. You can feel something and not need to be questioned, that you can simply just be. When Gray says, "I look like a boy but sometimes I feel more like a girl." their father simply accepts them at their word, there's no demanding they tell him why they feel this way, or shutting them down because they're too young or don't know what they're talking about. Children know a lot more about themselves than adults give them credit for. Having the dad simply say, "I didn't know you felt that way. I'm glad you told me." is more than enough validation without making a big deal out of it.

Their dad helping them create their identity, solidifying that it is okay for them to be feeling this way, whilst creating an area for them to use like they do every year, is so wonderfully symbolic in such a subtle way that makes the story what it is.
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624 reviews3 followers
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November 24, 2025
"Every winter, as soon as it's cold enough, a child and their father build an ice rink. It's a tradition--something they do together that never changes. But this year, something is different. Something feels different. "Do you ever feel mixed up about who you are?" the child asks their father while they shovel snow. Their dad says he wanted to be an astronaut, once...but that's not quite what they meant. As the day goes on, the child tries again, asking more questions. Eventually, they tell their dad, "I look like a boy, but sometimes I feel more like a girl." The child shares that their name feels like an itchy sweater, and they want to change it to "Gray." It's a big change, but one they can grow into together. And when Gray's dad finally uses their chosen name, it feels warm and right, just like hot chocolate after the first skate of the season. Even though Gray's understanding of themself and their identity is changing, the traditions they share with their father--and the love they have for each other--stay the same."--
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1,150 reviews8 followers
February 26, 2026
This is a wonderfully written story about a kid and their dad who build an ice skating rink every year in their backyard. It is tradition, the kid says. But what isn’t tradition is what the child thinks that morning when they wake up. They aren’t comfortable in their own skin anymore. Maybe they never were. They talk to Dad about this as the two make the ice rink.

They talk to Dad about missing out on a birthday party because it is an “all girls party.” Dad listens, and he does not judge. He is caring and he tries his best. His child tells him that they want to be referred to by a new name. The old one feels “scratchy.” Dad obliges, however, even he makes a mistake a time or two. All is good in the end though, because father and child are skating side by side, enjoying a wintry day together.

“Call Me Gray” is great in its simplicity of a relationship between a parent and a child and a tradition they share together. It is acceptance. It is love.

Mia’s 2nd Year of Books: Day 353

#FirstToCheckOut #LGBTQIA
Profile Image for Jeremy Matheny.
15 reviews
October 7, 2026
Date- 2025
Award- 2026 Stonewall Children's Literature Honor
Genre- Realistic Fiction / Picture Book
Reflection- This book follows a child named Gray who is spending time with their dad building an ice rink and slowly opens up about feeling different and wanting to be called Gray instead of his birth name. I think this would be an important book to have in my class so kids can realize they can be who they want to be and that there are people out there who will listen and support you. The illustrations really paired with Gray's emotions because it was a sad, difficult time for him to do that. The gift I got was acceptance, knowing there are children's books out there that show this sort of new age of thinking.

397 reviews5 followers
October 5, 2025
Thank you to Netgalley for the free arc!

What a beautiful, affirming and heartwarming book. A child who is born male tells their father that they feel like a girl and wants to change their name. The dad is very supportive. Set during winter activities that are traditions between the child and father, the reveal is the thing that is different this year. The child feels comfortable telling their dad their new name Gray and both child and father accept this name by the end of the book. Great illustrations too!

A gentle read that will definitely open up the door for conversations.
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15 reviews
February 25, 2026
Have you ever felt uncomfortable in your own body? Call Me Gray is a beautifully told tale of a young child and his father working together to create an ice rink and in the process the boy shares important feelings with his father, feelings that some parents may struggle to accept.
I love how the author focuses on the relationship with his father, building both a rink and a better understanding of his son.
I highly recommend this book for its sensitive approach to gender.

Recommended for ages 6-9 by the SEPA Book Reviewers
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707 reviews3 followers
October 9, 2025
Some subjects are hard to discuss with children. Sometimes children need to be encouraged to express their feelings. I think this book could help with that problem. The main character is upset his best friend couldn’t invite him to her sleepover. He slowly opens up to his dad about his feelings while he is helping his dad set up their ice skating rink. I wish every dad would react to their child’s confused feelings this way.
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783 reviews6 followers
February 9, 2026
Call Me Gray by Andrew Larsen & Bells Larsen & Tallulah Fontaine


Reading history:
Normally I keep this in my private notes section, but I'm moving it. Yay!

Reading history was not added on Goodreads, but was instead kept on a piece of paper note with the book.


Started February 2nd, 2026.
Finished February 2nd, 2026.


February 2nd, 2026: read entire book in physical copy.
Profile Image for Lisa.
2,829 reviews20 followers
February 22, 2026
A child is helping their dad make an ice rink in their yard. It's something they do every year, but this year is different. The child feels differently, mixed up about themself. They sometimes feel more like a girl than a boy.

I love that the father listened and took time to think before responding. I love that he was supportive and did not question the child. I also liked the illustrations - I want to help with and skate on that ice rink. The characters are white.
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6,186 reviews33 followers
March 11, 2026
This is a book that is sorely needed in our society. A little boy and his dad are building their ice rink. But our boy has been feeling off, not themselves. Luckily this child has a fantastic dad and says sometimes I don’t feel like a boy and I’d really like you to call me Gray. The message in this book is one of love and acceptance and that is thoroughly needed in our society. And as much as I wish it wasn’t so, I see this book being banned in the future.
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2,019 reviews13 followers
February 5, 2026
2026 Stonewall Children’s Honor book
Beautiful illustrations by Tullulah provide the perfect quiet background for a father and child building their annual ice rink as the child tries several ways and finally is able to communicate that he often feels more like a girl and a boy and would like to be called Gray. Gentle, supportive, loving approach to talking about change in a new world.
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928 reviews22 followers
March 10, 2026
What a wonderful little book about a kid questioning their gender and name. This could be a very important starting point for lots of little kids who are nervous about exploring their identity. Gender exploration is an important part of growing up, even if you find that your assigned identity fits!
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2,640 reviews9 followers
March 21, 2026
I loved the dad in this quiet book about a child who confides to their dad that they feel different. Gray's dad is so accepting and loving. I wish every transchild experienced the same from their families, schools, and communities. This book won a 2026 Stonewall Honor Award. I enjoyed watching some videos of Bells and Andrew Larsen.
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118 reviews2 followers
July 25, 2025
I am always looking for books which discuss LGBQT in simple terms. This book is lovely. It follows a young boy struggling to deal with his feeling of being a different gender. I will definately be adding this book to my collection

#NetGalley
1,077 reviews2 followers
August 1, 2025
The story was well told and I liked the illustrations. I'm just wondering why this topic is so popular when it's less than 5% of the population? I guess the overall message of a parent's unconditional love is what it boils down to.
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1,475 reviews2 followers
November 6, 2025
Shows a young kid telling their dad that they feel like a girl, and not a boy and want to be called Gray. The story is sweet and shows a positive outcome of this conversation. I think it's good one for kids who have brought up feeling not quite comfortable in their skin and asking about gender.
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386 reviews2 followers
February 4, 2026
A heartwarming picture book about a trans child coming out to her dad and trying out a new name. Does a good job at highlighting gender dysphoria in an accessible way for a younger audience. Best suited for ages 5+
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1,381 reviews
February 22, 2026
A gentle hug of a story, deceptively simple but containing the big experiences of trying to figure out and articulate one's identity; of listening to each other with love and a willingness to try to understand; and of feeling accepted, loved, and seen as oneself.
20 reviews
April 16, 2026
This book has a beautiful way of showing a child make a difficult decision of telling their parents who they really are on the inside. It shows just how confident a child should be when they express and talk about who they are
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