Conference-approved by S.L.A.A., this book provides insight into the problem of sex and love addiction, information on working the 12 steps of S.L.A.A., the history of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, personal stories of addiction and recovery from members of the program and much more. Table of Chapter 1: Discovery of the Illness of Sex and Love A Personal History (Rich's Story); Chapter 2: The Beginning of Recovery and of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous; Chapter 3: Living with a Sex and Love Addict (Kate's Story); Chapter 4: The Twelve Step Program; a Path to Sexual and Emotional Sobriety; Chapter 5: The Withdrawal Experience; Chapter 6: Finding and Starting to Work with Other Sex and Love Addicts; Chapter 7: Starting an S.L.A.A. Group; Chapter 8: Building Personal Stories of Addiction and Recovery.
During my college years in the early 1970s, one of my close friends seemed to be struggling both academically and socially. He felt he hadn't been well prepared by his high school for the academic challenges at the university. He'd come from a predominantly black suburb to a university which was mostly white. He started smoking and pledged a black fraternity. After college, he got married. My wife and I attended the wedding. He also became a minister.
Then he fell out of sight. I tried to locate him for many years. When I tried finding him through the ministry, I was told they couldn't share any information about him.
About two years ago, I got an unexpected LinkedIn notice about him. I sent a message. I was thrilled that he responded and we started speaking regularly, catching up on our lives.
He told me some of his story. He said that his married life and career had been devastated by sex and love addiction.
I told him I that I didn't know anything about that, but wanted to understand what he had been going through. I asked him to recommend a book. This was the book.
Reading the book and learning about how some people with sex and love addiction go through a 12-step process akin to the one used by Alcoholics Anonymous has given me some insights into what my friend has lived with. I have many questions about his own experience. I don't know if I will ask them or, if I do, whether my friend will be willing to answer them.
It isn't possible for me to feel with the writers of the book feel and probably that will be true when I listen to my friend. But I can try to better understand him and be as supportive as possible.
La dependance affective est une maladie tellement normalisée et banalisée, presque tout le monde en souffre à différents degrés sans même en être au courant... Ce texte pave le chemin vers la guérison et la sobriété. Comment faire la différence entre l'amour et la passion?
Yeah, rather traumatizing and difficult to know what to extrapolate, but helpful to hear their stories and have some sort of idea of what the 12 steps might look like moving forward